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very much in love with a young girl, but I cannot make up my mind to ask her to marry me, as I think she is a flirt. She is a very beautiful girl, bright and vivac ious, and she has much attention in fact, she is so popular with so many young men that I won der if she is doing right by en couraging them. I think it makes her look rather common. "I have been in the habit of calling on her every Friday night and mueh to my surprise when I called last week I was told that she had gone to a show with an other man. I had neglected to tell her definitely that I was com ing just as usual, but don t you think she should have .stayed at home anyway? "I took her to a party a while ago and I do not think I will in vite her again. She refused to let me put my name down on her program for all the waltzes, but I explained to her that we could sit out some of them. Don't you think that a girl should give more dances to the man that takes her to the party than to all the rest put together? "After we are married I do not intend that any man but myself or her near male relatives shall dance with my wife. I think that married women cannot be too particular in receiving the slight est attention from other men, don't you? "I would never let my wife wear a decollete gown or any ntnpr fn ell irm a Kip drAcc Vio would attract attention to her. I The girl I have been speaking of j has the most beautiful neck and arms I ever saw and I love to take her to parties because she is sure to be the prettiest girl there, but it makes me crazy to have the other fellows monopolize her. "She is just the kind of a girl I would like to marry if I could be sure that I could have her all to myself after we were married. What do you think I had better do?" I am afraid this young man will not follow my advice. It is this: Try to get over your dog-in-the-manger selfishness. If you can't waltz and the girl likes to waltz, do not feel abused when she prefers to dance rather than to hear you lecture on things a girl should or should not do ! You say yourself that you are not en gaged, that you have not even asked her to marry you. I cannot conceive why you should feel hurt because she at tended a theater with another man. Get over the idea that she is just waiting for you to come around and be nice to her. I am very much of the opinion of George Bernard Shaw that it is not the man who does the "choos ing," but the girl, and after read ing your letter I am quite sure that the young lady you think you are in love with has not made her choice yet. At any rate she is not waiting on the stem to be plucked by a man with a jealous disposition. Since the Balkan war there is less room than ever in the world for a man who believes m im muring his wife in a harem.