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THE CONFESSIONS OF A WIFE
RECEIPT FOR CAGING HUSBANDS
Chapter CI I.
I was invited to tea yesterday after
noon at the rooms, of Mrs. Stratt'on
in the hotel, where i'met a number of
women that I liked very much.
Some of the women had been mar
ried a number of years, had one or
two children and were keeping house.
Others were boarding in the hotel
and every one of them was doing
something of some account.
One -of the women was in charge
of the cooking department of one of
the daily papers. She told me she had
tested every receipt she put out in
the little apartment which she kept
almost on purpose to do her cooking
Another woman, who lives at the
hotel, was writing stories; and still
another had formed a French con
"And Tvhat did these women talk
about?" you ask, little book.
You will be surprised, I know, when
I tell you they talked almost exclu
sively of husbands arid children.
These are the most vital things in
the world to wives and if we may not
talk about those we love best in the
world and discuss with each other
ways to further their happiness we
are getting away from the vital part
The modern woman is at heart
more domestic than she seems and
the subject of her husband is perhaps
more fascinating than the study of
Henry James' novels or Rostand's
poetry. At 0.cial Affairs, she would
rather tell ajgood jpke on her hus
band thanabout, someone' trip to
Oberammefgau and the other women
like better-to hear it.
It is only jthe.Se foolishly hypercrit
ical women-who think they.must not
talk about what should interest them
In our rush for what we may call
a "wider horizon" aroader,-mental
outlooka new field of ttiought and ,
everything which spells culture and
means distraction we are simply sell
ing our birthright for a mess of pot
tage. Most women of today'are so eager
for worldly knowledge and so covet
ous for unusual popularity that they
forget the fact: What shall it profit
a woman if she gain the whole world
and lose her family?
It was "husband" that was under
fire at the tea table. "His place in the
scheme of creation"; "What a wife
owed to him and what he owed to
wifie." And most of all: "How shall
one retain his love until loving be
comes a habit so fixed that it is im
possible to break it."
One woman told her real receipt
for keeping her husband always her
lover and I could see by the sad faces
of some of them that they had been
unable to do this even with all the
advice with which the magazines
and newspapers are filled.
The subject was pretty well thrash
ed out, however, and I considered it
was pretty well settled by the woman
who painted portraits.
"The way for a woman to retain
her husband's respect, admiration
and love is to retain her own, respect,
admiration and love," she said.
"Every woman should make her
self absolutely independent of her
husband in so far as that she may
spend hours, days, weeks and months
if necessary without him and not be
. "Many a woman has made a man
perfectly miserable by loving him too
much. A man will chafe under the
binding cords of a. loving woman pro
vided she can see nothing in the
world but him and her love for him.
"Become interested in some life
work as he has and then you will not
have time.nor inclination to magnify
his little negligences and thoughtless
acts into cruelties.
"A man gets tired of talking of love