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IS IT EVER RIGHT FOR A GIRL TO ENCOURAGE
A SUITOR SHE DOESN'T LOVE?
BY IDA M'GLONE GIBSON
Is all fair in love?
Is it all right for a girl who loves
a man hopelessly to solace her woe
at the expense of another man for
whom she cares nothing?
Women have done so ever since
Cupid first hit the wrong mark and
they have not worried over much
about the ethics of the matter. How
ever, there's a new note of honesty
in modern love and it is to he de
tected in the following letter where
in the above question instated with
Dear Mrs. Gibson: I am a young
lady and have been in love with a
man for three years.
I meet thfs man in business and
he seems to reciprocate my love. He
has an invalid parent whom he must
support No matter how much he
loves a girl his sense of duty will not j
permit mm 10 marry.
As it is impossible for me to find
out if he really loves me or not (for
it may be only my imagination that is
always ready to take every gesture
and look for one of love) I have made
up my mind to forget him, but I am
placed in a position where I must
come in contact with him daily and
cannot avoid being on very friendly !
terms, which, by the way, is a great
The general cure for love, of
course, is to keep busy, and the for
getting part will take care of itself.
Well, here is what I do to keep busy:
Work, take music lessons, belong to
an active debating club, make all my
own clothes and go out twice a week,
and with all this work I find plenty
of time in which to be lovesick and
to suffer painfully.
Now here is my question:
I met a young man' recently who
is rich and owns an automobile and
who wants to keep company with me.
My people are greatly in favor of the
Do you think it is right for me to
start going with this man and make
him believe that I am serious while I
still love the other man?
Would it be just for me to take up
his time and win his love, perhaps,
when all I want at the present time
is amusement and diversion?
In other words, is it just to cure
your own sickness at the expense of
another who is innocent?
Of course, I may in time forget the
other man and think seriously of this
one, but in the meantime my inten
tions are to find a means to forget
the other man.
I am very anxious to get your opin
ion, as well as the opinion of some of
your readers. Barbara.
Please note that Barbara is not
discussing marriage just at present.
Nevertheless, all the joy and all the
sorrow of her life may be contained
in the decision she makes now.
She asks for advice. Who will
Her problem is new only to herself
and other girls of her age.
Thousands of women have chosen
one course or the other, and some
have been happy and some wretched.
And plenty of men have been posted
at an angle of the triangle, or have
observed another's experience.
Some one can tell Barbara wheth
er all's fair in love.
You, perhaps, better than another.
And while your advice will help her
directly, it will also establish on a
firmer basis the rather shaky notions
:i qood many stfrls have as to whether
the ideal or the practical should dom
inate their heart affairs.
So write today. Address your let
ter to the editor of The Day Book.
The bride wears white because
white- signifies the happiest day in
her life. Gee, girls, the men wear
black, don't they.?.