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The San Francisco call. (San Francisco [Calif.]) 1895-1913, September 13, 1903, Image 9

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apartments the bachelor does not always
ear* to reveal her nooks and crannies.
But she gets around this as she gets
around many other things. A few min
utes in the mornins count more than
half an hour in the afternoon when one
Is in a hurry, so she prepares her little
feast, draws a* screen partly about It and
feels secure In the knowledge that It la
ready and waiting.
There Is such an air of sociability, such
an air of good fellowship and so much
simplicity connected with an Informal
coffee that the bachelor has adopted It
as one of her favorite methods of en
tertaining. And then, too. she does not
dispense her hospitality unaided. A chap
can manage cups quite as well as she
can— that is. if he Is trained— and no girl,
no matter what her name may be. ever
gets over the love of cracking: the whip
and watching others do their little dance.
It is pre-eminently feminine.
This girl has taken tip a trick that hag
always seemed mannish and that is shak
ing hands with her friends when ther
come and when they go. She does not
trouble herself about a fellow's overcoat,
nor look to see whether he has forgotten
his stick; these things he must look to
himself and It would be worse than poor
venttonallsms . and .cares less what folks
think of her as long as they do not pass
the "erratic" mark, for her life has wld-
ened and she no longer treads the beaten
path, but has little side tracks paved with
Individuality.
Yet to .be the popular girl, the attrac
tive girl, there are pemnal qualities that
must be hers. She must know how to
receive guests and how to speed them on
their way. She must know how to en
gage them in light If sometimes frivo
lous conversation, and above all she must
have tact, presence of mind and the abil
ity to say the tight thing at the right
time. With these tucked under bet arm,
she could brave the world and be sure of
coming out on top of any shuffle.
But there are a few things that this
wondrous maid must- positively not; have.
Her little reception -room must be ' fitted
up In . good taste and to represent noth
ing, else under the shining sun but a re
ception room. There must be no wash
stands but half way. concealed,, a coucb
that has bed written all over It with
capital letters instead of pillows, or an
array of suggestive cookery articles
These things positively must not be.
: The , bachelor .„ who makes her apart
ments a study appreciates the cozy ef
fects. Her belongings may not be worth
more than a handful of pennies, a pot of
palms, a candlestick, a trinket here and
there and some glmcracks that take the
place of "bric-a-brac, yet they arc so ar
ranged, that they, give the appearance of
a homey home.
In one corner she finds that the chafing,
dish with ite bubbling mysteries gives
her excellent opportunities for harmless
frolics;, in another she establishes a coxy
corner filled with souvenirs of this, that
and the other thing that i never fall i to
be interesting, ..and. the rest .of her
"sphere" Is rounded off In coxy sections
with individuality.
If this maid bachelor can reach her
home a little before S In the afternoon
she may entertain In the easiest but one
of the most effective ways In the world.
Over her tea standard may bubble and
boll a .kettle, or If she prefers the 4
o'clock coffee, which so many do these
days, she has a small spirit lamp that
sends forth Its appetizing fumes almost
In the' twinkling of an eye.
No girl, no matter whether she Is a
bachelor, an old maid or a sweet bud,
can prepare coffee In a second. The ta
ble must be daintily set. thin bread, sand
wich fashion, must be buttered and sweet
cakes must be set forth, and In small
taate for her to assist to gmtaertar Ms
belongings; but she does extend her band
in a frank, cordial way and bid him wel
come when he wills.' An Invitation or*«
extended to coffee Is a permanent on* and
there Is no need to repeat It unle*s ua«
certainty Is decidedly noticeable.
. There are hosts of things that this ad
vanced young woman has added to her
rights. In forsaking the cheerless board-*
ing house she took the biggest leap of all.
but she landed high and dry and found
herself not only happier and more con
tented but a creature whoso whims and
fancies are pampered more than tb«y had
ever been before. She Instantly changed
from the drab to the rosy, from the ordi
nary to the fascinating and all because
she willed to be a happier woman than
¦he could have been under any other cir
cumstances. :
Society has broadened and the woman
who has alvocatlon need never be afraid
of being lonely, neither need she b«
afraid of gossip and unkind chattw, for
just as long as she adheres to certain
rules of etiquette the bachelor gtrl wtn
bean immense favorite, living happOji
and radiating contentment and oh*erfa|«
ness about her.
But the gods be praised we have I a
brand spanking new kind of an "old maid."
And she isn't an old maid at all. Best
of all ho one even ever thinks of her
summers, and winters axe positively sever
She was an "old maid" and If ever
znortai looked the part she did after a
summer or two. Instead of Keeping her
self fresh, and young looking to please
her friends she went about with that
don't-care expression eternally and for
ever on her face, and of a truth she
tfldu't care., for the simple reason that
BOpone entered her life that was worth
troubling about. Each hum-drum week
was the same as the one that bad gone
before It.
At twenty-five she was drab and slow.
Thirty found her too faded to be attract
ive and at thirty-five she ranked with
her own grandmother and all the maiden
avunts in the country.
THE bachelor maid and her new life
In a great city is the most attrac
tive and fascinating of all lives.
ThJs girl, by the way. is an en
tirely new type, for until the last
half dozen years she was an unknown
quantity, although on the ragged edge of
making herself heard and felt in a tiny
world of her own. All can without diffi
culty remember the fairy stories that
brightened chi!d:sh days in which the
fairy god-motlier invariably bestowed
coruentmtnt upon her chosen few rather
than -'great riches." It is more than un
fortunate that there are not a few fames
scattered about in this advanced age, for
there are great bands of discontented
people thoroughly dissatisfied with them
selves and their surroundings, entirely
out of gear with their environments and
absolutely uncomfortable, but thanks be,
help ha* poured in from ar. unexpected
quarter In the shape of the bachelor girl.
In the times of yore if a girl suddenly
found herself with poverty staring her
in the face, it is true she -made a brave
front of it and hustled from one place
to another until she had secured some
kind Dff employment. ;
She had been cut off by a sex line from
all the gt»od things of this earth and her
fate had, been determined from the day
of her birth, so she thought in her con
•ervatisrn. and without try:ng to alter
her condition in any respect she settled
herself down tc follow out a life narrow
and intense.
But, of course. ev->-ybody knows and
understands full wjihat the bachelor
girl, is .quite unlike "\iy other and they
grant her almost unlimited leeway They
know that she thinks but little of the con-
She receives her guests, both masculine
and feminine,' with as perfect freedom as
though a chaperon ; was :' standing t at, her
back and watching "every movement with
her eagle eye. She Is ever courteous and
she demands respect and courtesy by her
simplicity and ea^y, manner.
If she entertainsTier friends with a wee
small dinner, the evening is the time they
are Invited, and ehe cooks and serves It
herself, because, forsooth, there le no one
to do it for her, but in doing It. she makes
such rollicking fun out of It- that each
and every guest feels it a distinct honor
to be there • and enters into . the frolic
right royally. There. Is. no stiffness about
her or her home, but always that name
less charm called "manner."
So she dons her sweetest frock, tucks
a bow or a flower in her hair in a cou
quettish. fashion' and "prepares for war
generally. If it is war to the death she
takes the trouble to discover Individual
tastes and to find out what pleases' each
one the most, and then - with a slyness
and a deftness all her. own,, manages to
see that the right thing is forthcoming
at the ' right time, i
The evening of a bachelor girl Is her
day time and 'she is forced to use it as
such unless she is contented to Vork,
work, work and live otherwise in a state
of vegetation. It is true she may be
weary body and soul, but society demands
just so much of her time, "and whether
she will or.no it must be given or else
Borne bright day she will wake up and
discover herself a complete, nonentity.
Friends are queer beings. If you are ever
before them they remember you, but per
mit a few months to keep you apart and
lo and behold, you are as though you had
never been. •
self and spend her days In a dreary, lone
some fashion. So in selecting her flat
she keeps a weather eye out for conven
iences | and arranges her numerous be
longings so that she can do her own
work with little r or no trouble and then
skip away to her duties. It might be all
well and good to keep a maid, and no one
will deny that they are mighty useful
about dinner time, but comparatively
speaking they are too much of a luxury.
Space i3 limited, money is limited and
time «s limited."
• Her home, be It large or small, Is by
courtesy dubbed an apartment, for she
rarely can afford a flat proper and be
sides a perfect network of small fami
lies so far away and yet so near have
their compensations Although -she is
alone it is quite another thing to be
lonely.
And family! She has none. That Is ex
actly the reason which makes her a bach
elor maid and that makes her position in
life peculiar She stands alone without
a prop or a support she asks no odds of
an> one and she even denies herself the
privilege of having things made easier
for her just because fate decreed that she
must be a woman She stands shoulder
to shoulder to man and when she de
manded his lights she accepted his bur
dens quite at a matter of course.
And thle home of hers Of course, the
bachelor maid Is always a professional
woman, for what other excuse could she
offer' for cutting herself free from soci
ety and people in general to live by her-
This home, as it chances, is what rives
this business woman her new name, and
Incidentally it Is the halo which throws
the glamour of a subtle charm about her
Her rooms and her life are her very own
to do with as she deems best and It is
this very freedom that is her unquestion
able right which makes her the. center of
many wondering eyee.
And really that isn't the way of it at
all. What is her first move after finding
employment? Why. the hunting and fit
ting up of a home, no matter how small
ar.d cramped it may be, for after -a busy
day's work It affords her the rest, the
quiet and the peace that every home lover
finds in a pet corner.
mentioned. No matter what tier age may
be she is always a young maid. Into the
forties and into the fifties she Is attract
ive, and. in fact, justas long as she re
mains a bachelor maid there is a cer
tain fascination about her that makes
her simply charming and worth cultivat
ing.
And how this woman Is abused! It
has always been the mark of femininity
to do housework, to understand the art
of boiling potatoes and grubbing gen
erally, but when she added letter? to her
name, passed from college Into the world
with a profession at her fingers" ends.
It was a positive fact that she was mas
culine, that she was forward and apt to
be a decided crank.
THE ETIQUETTE
OF THE
BACHELOR GIRL
Sunday Call
Women and Children's Section

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