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Vhy fVvmen Dorit Marry
By M.itME CORELLI
.1 , tbi various reason.. hy less women marry tli.n in th
days .f our grainliuo'.ho may be sunmcd up. more or' less
;n one- phrase: "Tlie fleet,, of the art of falling in love."
T.-. 1:...- :.. l. ... 1 :L i i t .1 . .t
1 .i nn; in urn- is a i-ic ai it and 11 neiongs, 1 inniK.
&l to an a'c K"".'!itcr simplicity of manners and of less
J I sopliistiralir.n than t lie present. It may be describeil as a
heart, mind, fancy, towards, ovc, as tliere is the like general
determination of a plant rewards light. Young people do
not Like the fever now a.' thev used, that is all. There is
particular reason why they slvld do so at least, so the cynics
To fall in .love is neither merit nor a demerit; it involves the
splendid imprudences, kvh all sorts of compensating prudences
ollow in short, it is atate of contradictions. You risk evcry-
b;, and, feeling that -oil have risked it, you become the most wary
circumspect an'' .-elf-denying person in the world. Character
,s as you lork at it under such compulsion. Lads become men,
women, n night and a day.
That was the old slate of things. Men and women did not reckon
closely upon what they had, beyond the experience of each other's
ts. All that they knew as to the rest was that they meant to
! everything needful. The youth began to be careful of his small
ft; the girl revised her attitude of scorn towards the domestic
and saw a sort of halo of service in the darning of stockings. It
an art with young people then, though they knew it not an art
the formation of character, the guidance of impulse, and for all
tended to the growth of the mind.
Now it is quite impossible to have any success in an art of that
if you are missing in its first requisite simplicity and unity in
lutlook on life. You must, so to speak, as in a still greater matter,
s a little child. If you are able to laugh at yourself as you are
ng in love, to reckon very much with yourself as to wealth, posi-
r.omfoit. and nil the rest of it. von arc dour for. Y011 are not
hat art, though you may shine in favorable circumstances in
others. You may still, if you have a proper endowment, be a
kvit, a good dancing-girl, be a wonderful hand at private theat-
and an indispensable ornament to the dinner-table but you
bt a faller in love. Give it up, and leave to others that tiny plot
: garden of life.
f you have it, marriage will become possible, with a good many
things besides that belong to that tremendous institution. Self-
always within the reasonable limits that are to be understood
liscussion of this sort, becomes only a new form of pleasure.
ce, forbearance are positively ro'licking relaxations; tenderness,
olicitude, first thought for others, are, as it were, the Saturday
lidays of the mind. Good fortune comes with a double savor
wn, which is quite the smallest part of the matter, and that
instinct of sweetness which belongs to the thought that it is
rtune for those we love.
wever, what am I talking about in all this? I am trying to
: the indescribable. There is only one thing worth adding,
jy any chance you possess this art, all the other things that are
idrances to marriage will become easy; and if you have it not,
1 dozen times give up all thought, of marriage whatsoever.
Is no doubt a certain reward in being a smart woman or a
fellow, and why shou.d not that be enough?
The Love of Mother
By DR. JOHN T. M. JOHNSTON
Pastor Dclninr Baptist Church, St. Louis
fclTO does not believe that the sweetest, purest, strongest and
m -st unselfish relationship in life is that of the mother?
God intended that this should be, and to this end is the
little infant laid so helpless the most helpless of all the
"animal kingdom into the arms of a mother, who has
gone down into the depths to rescue it, that she may pro-
its prosperity and happiness. Mother's love, what language can
fress it? What tongue can tell it?
When human thought compares God's love to a mother's love it
Igo no farther, it can say no more, its richest emblem is exhausted.
What tears, what night watching, what solicitude, what self-
1, what pure affection is included in that word mother?
LTo the high-bred boy the old home where mother lived is 1-
'Old Point Comfort."
)h, the wonderful love of mother. The Bible is full of it and
ad her love seeking expression in various ways. Sometimes it is
tsed in ambition, as in the case of the mother of James and John,
lame to Jesus with these words : "Grant me, Lord, that these
lo sons may sit the one on the right hand the other on the
jung man, I plead for individual attachment to mother, an
lent that will lead you to make her happy and comfortable and
isary provide her a home an attachment that will prevent you
ting a base thing for mother s sake. But all the homes in
leland and Portland places cannot satisfy the longing of the
lor her boy. If the son it not clean, pure and asDinnc if he
1 . .
be m spirit and worthy in character he can not make mother
lig man, if you are honest, truthful, industrious and prayer-
life is sure to honor mother and mother s God. You will
Bionorable distinction in the struggle for achievement.
ten of Fashion Losing Tone
By JULIA WARD HOWE
The world grows better and not worse, but it
does not grow better everywhere all the time.
Women of fashion seem to me to have lost in
dignity of character and in' general tone and culture.
On the other hand, outside this charmed circle of
fashion I find the tone of taste and culture much
higher than I remember it to kave been in my
youth. I find women leading nobler and better
lives, filling larger and higher places, enjoying the
upper air of thought where they used to rest upon
the very soil of domestic care and detail.
omraunity gains, although one class loses but that,
i tlait that mswbci to rWc standards to the rest
Du ku( ,
Reasons for Unhappy Marriages
By MRS. RUSSELL SAGE.
1 have hpfii ,i . licit iikmh1 ii.n.t fri niKU'r
J;-A&&'V4:':t':ii i-'Ai modern society, the causes of unhappy mar
riages, the so-called extravagance of oar
Aiiitiican wuiiiui, their w f..kues.- fur hns-
' '' .? K" -ft 1.....1. ...:.t. .:. . 1 . , .,
. . .. uaiiiib vvui 111 is. aim i :i v u.e f in v fit a
rCi'.; A i.i . .
'? . wuniiui u.waru net misOaiM an. I
3'?'vl family, as wi ll a Knrioix-
Very often, especially, have 1 been a:-ktd
: ?5:-v wnat, in my opinion, is liie most ireiment
cause of unlmipy marriages.
3 ucr yfais ot observation amoni: dif
ferent sorts and conditions of people. I have
come to the conclusion that the nn-uer is:
The absence of individual incomes.
A wife should have an allowance not only a carte blanche order
on her grocer and her milliner for whatever she wants, and send hc.
bill in at the end of the month but a regular cash allowance to do
with as she chooses. A man can hardly realize the galling position
in which thousands of wives are placed in begging their husbands for
money. A man does not realize that a woman needs a certain amount
of independence for her happiness, and so he goes on patting him
self on the back as a model husband, whose wife can have most every
thing she wants by going to this or that store and ordering it on
As for women women of society spending more than their
husbands can afford; it is certainly true that many women have been
raised with extravagant ideas, none of which is of the value of money.
Women should learn the value of money from the time they are girls,
i.nd it should be taught them by their parents. The parent who fails
to do this is doing a girl not only a grave injustice, but is commit
ing a social crime.
Most of the ruinous extravagance of women is practiced by
those who arc not strictly in society, but are trying to buy their way
there. That is always a costly undertaking, and a foolish one, be
cause a well-bred womanly woman never dreams of such a thing. She
makes her own place in her own sphere.
No young man should marry until his position in life is assured;
and in New York and other great centers, before a man is married
he ought to be able to provide handsomely for his wife if he desires
to be happy. Marriage in New York is a problem very different to
marriage in a country village. In the country simplicity is the rule.
Here in the congested centers congested in point of wealth evi
dences of extravagance are all around us. Young wives see nothing
but wealth and its display. Gorgeous dresses, expensive equipages,
lives of luxury and of ease held up as daily examples, gradually arouse
in the average woman the spirit of discontent. She is a wonderful
woman who can live on a pittance and have constantly held up before
her gorgeousness of attire and case of life, and still he able to conquer
the desire to be likewise, and her disappointment if she cannot be.
This display on the part of the rich before the eyes of the poor is the
cause of more unhappiness and more divorces and separations than
one can think of. And wh i I say the poor, I mean those who are
poor by comparison with what some of the newspapers humorously
allude to as "the smart set." Perhaps the hardest lot in city life is
the lot of the great middle class, if I may use the term middle class
in point of wealth. It behooves young men to give this matter seri
ous thought. Love on little is quite romantic, to be sure, but human
nature is alike the world over, and women will ever be envious of
their more fortunate sisters. A man should be rich, quite rich, before
he is married if he would live happily in a large city like Chicago or
The Pleasures of Poverty
By SYLVANUS URBAN,
Editor The Gentleman's Magazine.
ILL men prefer riches to novertv. thmicrli rftti axs
Sk I tlie edge of enjoyment. Not infrequently we hear a man
" I pvnrpseinor tiiinclf i.ili r L . ait t i i
.......Jwl mm jjtunuus icivui ; ii i nau more
money, what an amount of good I could do 1" Unquestion
ably, and the desire is laudable ; but the pleasure to be de
rived from it would be somewhat illusory it' would not
be nearly so keen as the imagination promised. Such a
man would not have half the satisfaction in writing a
check for $500 to convert some painted savage, that he
tormeriy had, when his income was narrow, in giving a
penny to a pitiful creatur e at a street corner. Want of money creates
the value of it, and the pleasure of giving is in proportion.
"But this is selfish," says some generous reader. Doubtless, but
it is human nature also. Most charity is selfish. Men enjoy the
pleasure of giving, and the smaller the means the more exquisite the
sensation, and, shameless though it be, many men enjoy the publicity
of giving. At a public charity dinner more $100 checks will be seen
:han $100 notes. But, after all, the hard-earned penny honestly given
has more real virtue than the golden coih wrung from the purse of
affluence because publicity demands it. A loaf of broad will always
be bettter than a careless check.
A Combine of Churches
By DR. NEWELL DWIGHT HILLIS.
NE problem of the church in the next 20 years will be the
organization and combination of churches, like the or
ganization and combination effected in the steel business
and other industries. The economic reforms which have
operated in the past few years to bring about a unification
of interests in the industrial and commercial world will
yet be felt in church adminwtration. and that inns! r.in.
servative organization which we have in the world to-day the church
will realize the strength and economy which comes from combina
tion, and will fall inTo line with the present tendency. When this is
done an extraordinary waste of money in reduplication of church plant,
of the different denominations in the same community will be checked.
"The children of this world are in their generation wiser tha the chil
dren of light," kut the church will learn. The past fw years has feeen
marked by a tendency to obliterate denominational lines, and the next
30 years will witness still grcaUr developments in that direction There
art now 167 various mcU ia the untrv, and the differences bttvMti tht
chunk deamiiMtioM art MMMaU&. We moat Wr fMiMMi
Though the cost of
living has increased,
the cost of
is ever the same
In the same In-er-seal Package.
NATIONAL BISCUIT COMPANY
e Get That Elephant off Your Hands. 3
SI t Your troubles with 3
nff(a?- bread making will fE
El ll II UttllnivfMA cease as soon as you
E l ,WllWm0K try Huntsdale Flour.
E . If JMMmmh Huntsdale flour is S
best because it is prop
erly milled from the Z5
highest quality of
wheat. Every sack
is guaranteed. If you
are not entirely satis- r3
fted you get your 3
money back. No'ifs 3
and ands about it at ;3
all. Your grocer is 5
instructed to refund
purchase price morn-
mg, noon or night.
Buy with this under- 12
MILLING COMPANY, j2
HUNTSDALE, MO. j3
Nov. 20-3 mo.
LIGHT PLANT LOSES MONEY.
Hannibal Lost $52,662 Trying to Run It
Aldermen Would Sell to Best
The electric lisrht plaDt at Han
nibal which is owned and operated
by the city, has proved a costly
venture for the Bluff City, and the
last meeting of the city council bad
two propositions before it one to
sell the plant to the highest bidder
and the other to issue bonds in the
sum of $100,000 to enable the city
to pay off its indebtedness, make
repairs and continuing in light
and power manufacturing business,
says the Quincy Journal. The
proposition to sell was brought
before the meeting by Alderman
Delaney, who offered the follow
ing resolution, the adoption of
which he thinks, would relieve the
city of its present burden :
"Whereas, In view of the fact
that our electric light plant to date
shows an expenditure for operat
ing expenses and repairs of $52,
CG2 in excess of the receipts, and
the further fact that it has cost us
at least $60 per lamp per year for
lighting the streets, to say nothing
of any general expenses, uch as
collecting and disbursing the funds
and that for'a considerable portion
of the time the service reudered
has been quite unsatisfactory and,
whereas, to provides sinking fund
to take care of $100,000 of bonds
will necessitate the setting aside of
25 cents on the one hundred dollars
of valuation, which with the pres
ent appropriation of 10 cents for
old bouds would consume 3G cents
of the CO cents that we are allowed
for taxation, leaving only 25 cents
for all purposes, uuless the receipts
of the electric light plaut can be
increased to cover the expenses of
operating and repairs (which they
have not done in the past) but to
also provide for interest and to
retire the bouds, be it resolved :
that we first endeavor to secure a
satisfactory bid for the purchase
of the plant, which shall include a
satisfactory price for lighting our
streets, a reasonable price to be
charged for power and commercial
light, and submit such offer to the
voters for their acceptance or re
jection before submitting a propo
sition to the voters for the issuing
of bond to build ft new plant."
t POULTRY MAN
I WANTS ALL
1 CHICKENS DUCKS
I GEESE TURKEYS
we pay the
Highest Market Price in
Walnut St. Columbia, Mo.
8oNorth ill il vi SHAVES
Hot and Cold Baths
4. of Me.
produces tbe above results In 30 lyi. It tctl
powerfully ao4 quickly. Cures when sll others (sll
louog men wi Uremia their lost msubood.tndold
Den will recover tiioir youllilul vigor by usln
ULVIVO. It quickly sntlBurely restores Nerrou
Cess, Lost Vitality, Impotensr, Ntgutly Emission!
Lost Power, Falling Mutuory, Wauling Diseases, tn4
11 effects of self -abuse or eicefcsand indiscretion
which unfits on tor f udy, business or marriage. II
not only cures by statlug at the seat of disease, but
is a great nerve totile and blood buUdor, bring;
lug back tbs pink glow to utle cheeks and re
storing the Are of yontb.' It vards off Insanitf
and Consumption. Insint ea. baviug KEVIVOt D
other. It oea be carried in st pocket. Br mall
1.00 per package, er tlx tor 8S.OO, with s post
live wrlttem tare.te ear er refou4
Ue Money. Buck it no s.lvibo iree. Audrebs
BOYAL MEDICINE CO., Tcrcrao.uiuL0fc
Fob Salk by PECK DRUO CO.,
1 1 hi Kind You Haw Always BotjM
One KInute Cch Cera
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