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HOW many of you girls know anything about
housekeeping! How many of you can
cook! And what can you make when you
do cook! In my young days, the answer
given by nine out of ten girls would have been in
one word, "Cake!" That was the one thing wo
learned how to do before we attempted anything
else in the culinary line. Axe you girls of to-day
Aa a matter of course, a great many of you take
it for granted that you will do work outside of your
home. You are studying to be in somo profession
or business that will keep you away for the whole
day. You do not expect to marry, you will tell me.
(I wonder if you are quite honest with yourself or
with me when you say that!) So why should you
learn anything of housekeeping 1
Well, there are a number of reasong in f aror of it.
In the first place, you never can tell but what you
may marry, in spite of all your expectations to the
WU A T AM V PI D T rDIrV[ r^ C AQ \£ department of questions and answers conducted
±1 £\ A IVI 1 UlftL-rniLnUu A O N • by mrs. Christine terhune herrick
WIIJ.. you tell me through the pages of your paper
how long I ought to wear my hair In a braid? I
am I.'. years old, and I think I am old enough to
do my hair up on top of my head- But my mother doesn't
think so, and so I nave to wear It in a braid down my
hack. When will I be old enough to wear it some ether
■way? Very truly yours, EMILY J.
You are pretty old to wear your hair in a
braid down your back, unless you are small in stat
ure. Would not your mother be willing to have
you turn your braid up at t&e back and tie it with
a bow of ribbon ? That is a pretty, girlish way to
dress the hair. I should not advise you to dress it
on top of your head for a couple of years yet. You
will have plenty of time to be grown up. Be a young
girl as long as you can.
* » •
f AM A YOUNG girl of 20. and lam leaving my home In
* the South to go to Philadelphia to study art. What
would you advise me to do to eke out a too-slender
income? I have a scholarship at one of the big schools,
and so will only have the expense of my board and ma
terials: but not having quite enough even for these, I
thought perhnps yea would advise me on the subject. I
hope to be able to do something that will not Interfere
with my classes at the art school. Believe me, I should
be very grateful for your advice. Sincerely,
One of the things you can do is to address
envelopes. For this work a dollar a thousend
is paid, and there are regular establishments where
you can secure the work. You can take it home
with you, and all the materials are provided. An
other good plan would be to go to the Y. W. C. A.
and ask them to advise you about work. What can
you do ? Can you read aloud well, or are you fitted
to act as a secretary in the evenings or during your
leisure hours, or can you use the typewriter well
enough to do a little copying? If you could.learn
manicuring or shampooing—and neither is very
difficult—you could get clients whom you could at
tend at their homes.
• • •
IREAD your very interesting sisterly talk In the Sun
day paper. To say that I enjoyed it does not express
the pleasure that 1 took in perusing the paper.
I have ofttimes felt that the paper would b* of much
grrater interest to mo did it contain a department ex
prassly for girlc The want Is supplied now. and th»
editor—well, the very Tact that she is dear Marion Har
land's daughter makes us love her. I belong to a club
here in our town that considers every woman as a sister,
some one to be respected, admired and helped. We are
taught to have compassion on ail sorts and conditions of
••omen, to guard against all race and sect prejudices not
by word or deed to offend another, always to lend a help-
Now, I think (of course, I am young and lnexterl
snred). that if we each one of us who belong to this im
mense universal Sisterhood (every girl and woman be
longs) would have these few virtuous prin cities as watch
words to lead us up to ideal womanhood, thax if we are
faithful and persevering, we will sooner auSiln that
I realize that a great deal of good teaching and sisterly
advice reaches girls through the columns of a "eirls^ie
partment' that would never roach them any other w*»-
For Instance A girl leading a purposeless life reads thi
newspaper, and ofttimes she sees her fault; her languid"
contrary. I have known many girls who made
endless resolutions about this, and they were
all knocked endwise when the right man came
along, as I hope they will be in your case.
In the second place, because, putting the
thoughts of matrimony aside, a woman can
never tell when she may have housekeeping
cares thrust upon her. She may have to keep
house for her father or brother. Some rela
tive with little children may die, and it may
Beern her clear duty to go and take care of
tliem and keep house for them.
An Old Maid's Paradise
Even if none of these things happens I can
hardly believe that you look forward with
equanimity to an old age in a hotel or a
boarding house. Have not all of you dreams
of one day possessing a little horns of your
t! There may not be a man in it It may
n old maid's paradise, shared by a brother,
iter, a friend, or it may be only a solitary
blishment. But you anticipate having
1 a nest one of these days after the first
ss of life is past. The older you grow and
more weary you become the more you will
: forward to it. Do you recollect th«
Tiling little poem of KiLgsley's:
"When all the world is young, lad.
And all the trees are green;
And every goose a swan, lad,
And every lass a queen;
Then hey for boot and horse, lad,
And round the world away;
Young blood must hare its course, lad.
Ana every dog his day.
Wlien all the world is old, lad,
And all the trees are brown;
And all the sport is stale, lad.
And ail the wheels run down.
Creep home and take your place there.
The spent and maimed among;
God grant you find one face there,
You loved when all was young."
This is the way a man feels, but how much more
must it mean to a woman to have a place of her
own! For women were made for home life, and
•while they may go out into the world and do good
mind realize* that she la not filling the place In the great
army that was intended for her. She awakens,-shakes off
her lasy habits, and In a short time Is a new girl. Had
It not been for some kind slater's advice or story of the
busy life *h« herself leads, this girl would •till be a poor,
depraved creature groping in darkness to find her real self.
I am certain that with your excellent supervision the
department will he a success, and a great help to the girls.
we all need advice, and do greatly delight In reading the
experience of others. We must all remember that our ilf»
is largely what we make it. We can't heap troubles and
trials corn to us, but we can keep a light heart, and
a orient, happy countenance,
. This •is a simple letter from a plain. tittle country
school teacher. I am certain that there will he many
letters which will be far more interesting. If I can b«
of any help to any of the sisters I will be delighted to
have the honor of assisting them in any tray within my
limited power. ■• • O. B. .
This is a good helpful letter, Mid I thank yon for
writing to me, my dear little teacher. . If more
girls felt the earnestness of life as you do and the
sisterhood of "women the world would be ft
better and a brighter place to lire in. Pass on the
good word to those who need it» and help when
ever you get a chance.
• • ♦
A FRIEND and I had a dispute about politeness.- "Will
*» you please tell me who Is to say "How do" or "Hello"
first, a boy or a girl, after knowing each other for a long
while? Also,' If first introduced? MAT O.
• In this country it is the part of the woman to
recognize the man first. That Is, he waits until she
bows 'before he -lifts his hat. I think, however, thai
between old friends, it is rather absurd to stand
upon ceremony in a matter of this kind.
| AM 1« years old and have been receiving the attentions
* _of a young man of 23. lie Is very affectionate end
kisses me a great deal. I don't know whether lam wrong
to let him do it or not. Sometimes I like it and sometimes
I hate myself for letting him do it. Please tell me truly.
X am yours In great confusion. - '" K. M.
You are pretty youthful to think of receiving at
tentions from a young man. Yon should not allow
him to be affectionate with you unless you are en
paged to him and; expect to marry . him. . If you
give him the right to caress you, what are you keep
ing for the man whom you may one day hope to
marry I In any case, be chary of demonstrations.
The fact that you are repelled by them at times, or,
, as you say, hate yourself for" permitting ■ them, is
pretty good evidence that you do not love him as
a woman should love the man whose wife she hopes'
to be. "•": ~ "v
• • • .-.-■
AVINQ read of the new department recently added to
II the Sunday; paper. I hereby submit a few questions'
which I desire answered in next Sunday's issue. How can
I arrange my hair low on the neck? Explain process of ar
i ranging.-., Is It . proper, , after an acquaintance •of > eve*
months, for a young lady to allow;a gentleman caller to
kiss her good-night"? Sincerely yours, , BLUE BELL. "
■•'. For a girl of your age it is best to braid the hair
in one braid, tie it and then I turn it up, the ends ■
THE ST. TALL GLOBE. SUNDAY, NOVEMBER ]3, 1904
MH**«93rS9vSr*Bßi*^Mvßßßßß' BBBBk ■
work there, there is always in their hearts a long
ing for home.. Sooner or later the woman usually
cornea to it, in one form or another. When she
does come to it, she should be fitted to take care
More than this, it is well for her to know some
thing of housekeeping while she is on the way to a
settled home. I have had more than one letter from
you girb in which you have spoken of doing light
housekeeping in your own rooms. How many of
you know how to do it to the best advantage • How
.many of you have any idea of what food to eat that
will best nourish you and keep up your strength
and fit . you for' continuing in your work without
losing ground physically ?
A woman cannot expect to toil all day and keep
her health if she lives on bread and tea, a piece of
pie or a chocolate eclair, with an occasional sausage
or slice of bacon. She needs wholesome food of the
right sort, and she needs to know how to prepare it
—and how to buy it before it is prepared. '
If this applies to you girls who have to go out to
daily work, it is even more
important to you others
who expect to btay at home
for a while, at least, or who
are still at school. You
younger ones are in great
luck - if you have tho sense
to profit by the mistakes
and misfor- tunes of the
other girls. . But how many
of you do it? Which of : you
knows how to buy even plain
food intclli- gently?
Once I went to : give ft
chafing dish lecture in the
house of ft young woman
who prided herself upon
knowing about housekeeping.
(I afterward learned that
the way she kept house
was by letting-., the cook plaa
the meals and then take the list made out in
the kitchen and leave it with the butcher or the
grocer.) In writing the list of articles that would
be required in the lessons, J had put down among
them lobster meat and sardines. One dish was to bo
lobster a la Newburg and another grilled sardines.
I had stated that a pint of lobster meat would be
needed and that the sardines should be taken from
the box, drained and skinned.
When we entered the dining room, where every-
"underneath, and tie it on the neck, close to the
head, with a* broad ribbon. In answer to your seo
ond question I refer you to my reply to "K. M."
•«• ■ .
IT IS with the greatest pleasure that we girts learn that
* we are to hare a department all to ourselves, and that
you will be In charge of It. We are all In love with you
•Iryady, ana know that the girls' page -will be the moit
aaaghtful one la the paper. - Welcome, dear Mrs. Herrlek.
and may you be with us for many years to comet
I have just one little question to as*. Do you think I
could wear a black thibet ruff with a peacock blue coat
with gray Persian Jamb collar arid lapels? I have tried It
and am afraid it would not look well. What flo you think
. Thank you for your welcome—-thank* to all of
you .girls. Come to me as often as you will. I shall
always bo mere than glad to hear from you. /
I am afraid the ruff will not look very well with
the combination you mention. - If it wore gray, or if
the gown were black, it would bo all - right, but
under the circumstances, I think you would better
not wear the ruff with that especial gown.
• • • •-".*'
1 8 IT WROXO for a airl to smoke cigarette* If her
* brother taught her. end the girls she -goes with all
.- do It? Also. If a married man makes love to a girl, Is It
really a sia, or do men Just hare women tanght that it la
for their own protection? Married men go wrong all the
' time, and yet they are the dictators, and every one over
looks weak morals In a man. If a girl has the same In
■ heritance as her brother, why should he be forgiven for
doing wrong, while I have to write to you to find out how
much of the things girls are taught are true. I have a
mother, but ehe's too good to ask such questions of.
- . ALICE.
There is no question of moral wrong or right in
cigarette smoking;. It is not wrong, but it is gener
- ally , inexpedient. - Personally, I would advise you
against it. The girl who smokes produces an ; im
pression of being fast, even if she is not.
Your second query.is much more important. The
moral law is not the say-so of any one man, but the
result of the" sense 'of righteousness iof genera
of men and women. The fact that men, married or
, unmarried, go wrong, does not alter the case. Mar
ried men are not the dictators; but the laws of;
decency, as .well as of expediency, demand; purity.
In an ideal state of society we should demand the
: same . standard ;of r purity - in a 1 man . that we do in
a woman, and there are men who recognize this
and hold this standard for themselves. : Put aside:
for the moment the accepted laws in the matter and
try to grasp the truth that there lis something .in
r you that would revolt against a lowering of such
standards. ■: More than that, recollect that \if i you
did depart from r this law -of self-respect you are
bound to suffer, not only in your own estimation,
but also in the esteem of the - men who * find 1 you ':
attractive now just because do hold yourself in
reserve, but who would look upon you in quite an-
thing was supposed to be in readiness, the
first object that met my eyes was a large live
lobster, sprawling and squirming on a tray.
Beside him stood a box of sardines, un
"But the lobster is not boiled!*' I exclaimed.
"Oh, dear, how careless of the fishmanP
cried the hoste&s. "I told him especially that
I would need the pint of lobster meat. And
he hasn't opened the sardines, either, after I
said that I must hare them all skinned!"
Take a Course in Housekeeping
She had not known that she could hardlj
have the lobster boiled and the meat taken
out unless she made a stipulation to that ef
fect, and it had not occurred to her that it
was not the business of the fishman to open
the sardines and prepare the fish for cooking.
There are many other blunders like thi*
made by ignorant young housekeepers, and
the comio papers are full of poor jokes made
at their expense. Even if you may not make
gross errors, you yet increase your cares and
the cost of living by not knowing how thingi
are to be done. If you are to have servants to
direct, you put yourself at a disadvantage by
having no knowledge of how the different de
partments of the household are to bo conducted and
by your ignorance of what is wrong if a dish fails
or the clothes are not done up properly.
So I advise all you girls to take a course in house*
keeping. Learn the simple things that every one is
supposed to know how to do, and that just for this
reason are seldom done well. Learn how to make
good tea and good coffee—the latter not in a patent
coffee pot, but the good old boiled coffee, that may
be made in a tin pail if your French drip or other
patent coffee pot is not at hand. Practice making
biscuit, even if you don't undertake bread, and
learn how to make quick muffins and griddle cakes,
to bake potatoes and to stew them, to broil a steak
or a chop, to boil or poach an egg. Gain a little
knowledge of soup making and of roasting or stew
ing. Many a girl can make delicious cake and jelly
and other sweets who would he filled with consterna
tion if she were asked to roast a piece of beef. The
cake is very well in its place, but the substantial
stand you better in the long run.
Housekeeping isn't all cooking, though. The abil
ity to sweep a room is a good thing, and unless you
other way if you took the same light view of purity
which you assert they hold.
You are in a rather dangerous position, you poor
child! I wish I could say something that would be
of real help to you. Lot me beg you, for the sake of
your own comfort and peace of mind, to have noth
ing more to do with married men of the stamp you
describe in the part of your letter which I have not
made public Nothing but suffering can come from
it. You may think your mother ''too good" to ask
about Buch matters, but, depend upon it, she has
right on her side. It's a way mothers havel Some
day you will come around to her point of view. In
the meanwhile, hold fast to your self-respect.
• • •
I AM an old girl (30). but as unused to the world aa a
girl of 16. So, may I not have your help? I came to
this small Western town from a small Eastern town two
years ago. Am a stenographer, and ezpeet to leave here
within a week to take a better paying place In a lurge city.
To explain how a woman could have reached my age «nd
yet be so provincial, will say I come from a fine old family,
but have lived an almost isolated life in my home town,
owing to famlrv circumstances. I ask yoa these questions
below so that I may not appear at such a disadvantage
I hare never stopped at a first-clans hotel. Will you
•tart at the first step aud tell me Just what to do? I do
not know bow to order frum menu card. Will you tell me?
I am so sensitive to ridicule. Please write me fully. I am
a bright, fresh-looking woman, and no one suspects my
dense Ignorance, nor could I acknowledge it to any but
you, Mrs. Herrlek. I will deeply appreciate any help you
may give me, and feel sure your page will be a great help
and pleasure to girls. £. R.
Whon you go to a hotel, you will be met at the
door by a porter, and you can either £0 to the offico
with him or ask him ft* engage a room for you
from the clerk. The former is the better plan, al
though if you wiah it the clerk can brine the regis
ter to you to be signed. But it is altogether custo
mary for a woman to go to the office to engage her
room, and you need not feel that you are doing any
thing conspicuous. State what sort of a room you
wish, and learn the price. The clerk will pivc the
key of your room to a bellboy or a porter, who will
show you to your room. When you are there, do as
you please. If you want the chambermaid, ring for
her and tell her what you need. After that, behave
as you would in any private house where you felt
at home. Leave the key at the office when you are
going out. Bear in mind that for the time being the
hotel is your home and that you have a right to
order anything in it that you are prepared to pay
for. Don't be afraid of any one.
Keep the same thing in mind when you order
meals. Take your time over the menu card. Select
what you want as you would if the waiter were not
there. If you look grave and dignified the attend
ants will think you are a haughty, reserved person
who knows it all, and will defer to you. Keep us
had studied the matter, you would not believe how
few women know how to dust thoroughly and prop
erly or how to clean nickel and brasses and -liver,
or to polish mirrors and window glass, or to keep
lamps in order, or to do many other of the taken
for-granted things that every one is supposed to
know. How many of you girls can do these things?
Who of you would feel that she was able to keep
house if the cares of a homo were thrust upon her I
Believe me, my dear girls, it is as noble and ane
a business to keep house well as to run a shop or a
profession, or a school, or anything elae that sounds
more important than a home. Don't put off learn
ing how until too late, when you may have to be
out of the house at work that girts no leisure for
housework. If you are at school, take a turn at
these things on Saturdays and holidays. Get ready
for the work that may be coming to you. •
this Impression. Tip the waiter a quarter for any
order of from $1 to $2, and beyond that on a scale
of 10 per cent. The bellboy who takes up your bag
will expect a dime tip. The chambermaid will look
for a quarter if she has done anything especial foi
you- If not, don't tip her.
Don't be afraid of anything or any one. In all
probability they are all as much in awe of you ai
you are of them. Do write to me again, and tell ma
how you get on. I am interested in you.
• • •
WHAT »s yoar opinion of a young girl who has to tafcs
the place of mother, as this letter defines.
Do you think keeping house on $5 a week for three
grown-up folks possible?
Would like to see such a menu for one week published
»om» time in your paper. MADQB.
I don't liko to seem critical, my dear child, but
have you any idea of how self-absorbed you are!
That is a grr»at fault with young girls—and with
some old girb, too. As you go on in life it will
become worse unless you take it in hand now. Try
to think of others more and study their happiness
rather than your own.
In answer to your first question, I think you have
a pretty hard task, that requires great unselfishness
and gentleness. This is a work that God has given
to your hand. Try to discharge it in the right way,
for the happiness of others.
Xo, I do not think you can feed three persons on
five dollars a week unless your supplies are helped
out in some other way than by purchase. If you
have a garden or keep poultry or a cow, you can
make it out without difficulty, but it would be hard
to give three persons three substantial meals a
day for such a sum. I suspect that it would be al
most impossible, unless you lived very plainly.
An answer to your Bccond question in a way re
plies to your third. I cannot give you a stated
menu, but I will say in general terms that you
would have to study manners of cooking vegetables
nnd cheap cuts of meat, and you would have to
give little meat to your household. Have substan
tial vfgetable soups often, learn to make good vege
table stews with just enough meat to flavor them;
do without any sweets except the plainest, and
waste nothing. I wish you would write again and
tell me how you feed your household—what are
your meals for a day or two. It would be helpful
and interesting to other girls who have to plan for
Don't think that I am unsympathetic, dear. I
know things are hard for you, but believe me when
I say you will be much more contented and useful
when you have learned to put self into the back
exound and to live for others.
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