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IN SOME HOUSES * * • THE GIRLS LEND A HAND IN THE PREPARATION OF THE THANKSGUING FEAST
Each Girl's Personal Share in Thanksgiving —Mrs. Herrick Tells What She
Can Do to be Happy and Make Others Happy as Well
DO YOU girls ever think of what your own
personal and particular share in Thanks
I don't mean in the way of returning
personal thanks alone, although there is a big lot in
that. In fact, if I were to begin telling you all you
have to be thankful for I would take up the whole
j;;i£re and crowd out all the letters :nd the pictures.
So perhaps I would best leave a good deal of it to
your own thoughts.
One thing, though, I would like to say to you.
If you will stop to think you will very often find
that the things for which you ought to return most
'"humble and hearty thanks" are the things you
didn't get. Did you ever ponder on that?
Thcyowgest of you can recollect the wishes
pho had a little while ago that she may have pTayed
smd longed to have come true, and which Bh©
would not have now for the world. Lif- seems
sometimes just a succession of silliness outgrown,
ri.d it is a cause for thankfulness wh^n we can 6ee
that we have left some of them behind.
Things We Want Not^vays Best
When we look at matters in this way it should
make us feel that some of the things we want now
may not be so all-important as we fancy, and that
some of the trials we resent are not the worst ex
periences in the world, perhaps. Often wo kick
against things that are really doing us lots of good,
and by this time next year we may bo giving thank*
for t!ie bothers and worries of to-day.
Stop now and think if there is not some causa
for gratitude in what was only reason for annoy
ance last year at this time.
It is very interesting to note the different
tuiuga for which people give thanks. Some .ire
thankful for immaterial blessings, others for_th§
chance to work, others still for the chance to rest.
This one is grateful for relief from crushing sor
row, another may be giving thanks for relief from
suffering of somo one she loves. I fancy the high
est sort of thankfulness is that which is offered for
others, instead of being confined to one's self.
I wish you girls would each of you sit down and
•write me a letter, telling mo what especial cause for
thankfulness you have this year. Then we will pub
lish them, and we can talk them over and compere
notes. I tliink all of us get some new ideas by the
process, as well as a good deal of entertainment.
►Suppose we try it. Remember that I have asked
Little Helps From
HERE is a word to the girl who wishes to
earn money in order to help herself over
a tight place or to supplement her in
come. I have received a suggestion which
I will send to any girl in need of it, and which sup
plies a simple way of making money without having
to go thrcMgh a course of training in advance. If
you will s nd me a stamped and self-addressed
envelope, I . hall be happy to pass the suggestion on.
I am a yo ing girl and am just having my room re
papered. The iapcr has a light ground, with tiny rosebuds
on It. I want to get new curtains and thought of soft silk
ones, with pink flowers In them. Would that kind be suit
able for a bedroom? I would like your advice In this. •
The soft silk curtains would be very pretty for
the bedroom; although I must say that personally
I incline rather more to a plain curtain in sheer
white net or Swiss muslin, plain or with a dot. It
is rather a mistake to have anything in a bedroom
that cannot be taken down and laundered frequent
ly, and silk is always a little of a problem when it
Domes to washing it. It can be done, of course, but
it requires care, or the silk will turn yellow or be
come stiff. The wash curtains can go into the tub
as loug as they last and come out looking better
each time, so long as they are not roughly handled.
Another objection to the figured curtains is that
you already have a figure on the paper, and % multi
plying of designs makes a confusion that 's any
thing but restfuj.
A few girls nave organized a literary club. Wo Intend
to study ami read up the standard authors, but are unable
to decide upon a suitable name. Would you kindly mcke
a few Eugewstions? .
Also, tell me. If you will, of some good, interesting but
Inexpensive way in which 1 could entertain the club ac my
home. 1 want something oat of the -•omraon, but am in
need of some timely suggestions, ai** sj 1 . will greatly
appreciate anything you do for me.
YOUR INTERESTED READER.
"Why not call your club the Round Robins, or sim
ply "The Readers" ? High-sounding names are
usually a little absurd, don't you think?., Or is there
not some local name, like "The Highland Square
Reading Club," or some other name chosen from
the quarter in which most of you live? v?
You might have a 'party—which would be
"bookish" and can.be worked out in several way 3.
Each member could come as a book —not necessar
ily dressing for the part, but suggesting it in some
you to write on only one side of the paper and to
inclose your name and address, ;*nd that if you wish
a personal reply you must send a stamped and self
But to come back to the question at the head of
this article: How i~any of you feel that you have
FOR A CENTRE PIECE TO HOLD
FRUIT A BIG »UMPKIN CAN BE
Mrs. Herrick to Her Girl Friends a
way, or as some well-known character from books
you alt know, or feel you ought to know.
A party given on the first mentioned plan was
amusing. One girl carried a tiny hoe; everybody
was puzzled and puzzled until she disclosed her
identity by saying, "I've an hoe" (Ivanhoe). A girl
in a red dress said she was "Under the Red Robe";
another girl, whose hair was fearfully and wonder
fully got up with the Russian and Japanese flags
for decorations, said she was ''Under Two Flags."
But the hardest to guess was a girl who carried
several sable-tails very conspicuously. She was
representing (she was a very small girl) "A Little
Book of Profitable Tales." But the play in titles is
endless, and always amusing.
The other way, for each member to come as a
character, is very jolly, too, but is more trouble, as
the characters should be very well made up.
But have the book-idea in some way.
You might even have a little play, asking the
members to help you.
If you need prized for anything, get the next
book that is to be discussed in your club, o one of
the attractive little new editions (they're inexpen
sive) of Shakespeare and the standard writers. If
you know any one who recites, get her to recite
from something you've been studying, or perhaps
there's some one who «. uld sing. If your club is a
Shakespeare club, there are plenty of lovely songs
from the plays, while almost every one of the poets
has some poem set to music.
For refreshments, ices and cakes and coffee are
simple; or sandwiches and coffee, or any simple
combination. A "literary salad" is old but always
jolly, and should be served with the bona fide re
freshments. A bowl is passed, filled with lettuce
leaves made out of green tissue paper, with familiar
quotations written on attached slips. Make each
person read his leaf out, and have everybody gues*
the author; or have passed numbered cards and
have a prise for the one who guesses most.
Or if you will send me a self-addressed envelope,
with stamp, I will give you the name of a couple of
little books that contain suggestions for just suck
entertainments as you wish.
Dear Mrs! Herrick:
■_; •-: Tour letter to "the girl who must work for a living**
get ire thinking hard until I've finally summoned enough
coursjre to write yon my problem.- •. ■ - :
I have [Just: passed •my twentieth birthday, and, quite
THE ST. PAUL GLOBE. SUNDAY. NOVEMBER 20, 1904
a personal sharo in Thanksgiving! And cow lam
speaking of the family Thanksgiving.
In some households it is taken for granted that
the girls shall lend a hand in the preparations for
the Thanksgiving feast. If they don't do it in one
■way they do in another. They may not stone rais
ins and make pastry, but they assume the orna
mental part of the dinner. They see to the table
decorations and look after the little "frills" that es
cape the attention of the busy mother.
This ought a!way3 to be so, girls. The moth
ers get tired, and they have been getting tired for
to long that it has taken the edge off their enthu
siasm. They have not the same zest in trifles that
they once had. By the time they have done all the
necessary things they have little energy left for
adornments. That should be your province.
Try to Make Everybody Happy
So go to work and think what you can do to
make Thanksgiving better at home. It will Jo yon
good. Anything that we do to make others happy
reacts on ourselves, not only in giving us present
enjoyment, but in making us foer that we are a part
of things. You are none of you little independent
colonies, although you may think so. You are all
a part of one big whole, and the sooner yon appre
ciate it the better and the happier you will be. If
you can begin to feel it, and practice it right now,
you will ha*e a new something to be thankful for.
Let me tell you of a few ways in which yon
girla may help at Thanksgiving.
In the first place, plan the table decorations
and get them. For a feast like this there should h*
native things so far as possible. Exotics may be
very well for some occasions—if you can afford
them —but they are not in place at a national festi
val, such as Thanksgiving.
For this yon should have bittersweet and scar
let fire bosh berries, and hardy native ferns, such
as you can find in the woods as late as Thanksgiv
ing and even later. Partridge berries, with their
bright green and red, and wintergreen berries are
appropriate, too. If you can put them into recep
tacles of birch bark, so much the better. If not, ax
range them in low dishes about the table.
For a centre piece to hold fruit a big pumpkin
is attractive. Hollow it out, cutting the edge into
points, line it with soft paper and heap up in it
apples, pears and grapes. Or, if you wish the fruit
to be brought in later, and prefer flowers for the
middle of the table, you can devise an unusual and
suddenly, find that I'll have to begin to support mr««lf.
Why is too long a story to burden you with.
My relatives are .veil oft. but hate poverty wit* the
sort of hatred that refuses to associate with It. They
resent my working, yet the only help they offer is tor me
to go down Into the country and live on a forlorn old .ana
with two old people. 11 y life has always been In the city;
I love It; and. besides,.! hate to be packed away oat of
sight as though my being poor were a disgrace. It «n't.'
Yet I don't know how In the world to make a living
there seems to be nothing I can do. I cant sew well, nor
teach music, nor do any one thing .so . that It would
"count." My only gift is a very useless thing—they tell me
I have tact. I'd rather be able" to write or sew. I'd .sake
something with that kind of gift. .
Can't you help me find something to dot For, indeed. 1
must, or go wild. . ■ - .-■■■■-.
Hoping that you will answer soon. I am « '■ ■ -'-j
(A girl friend, 'hough you never knew me before.*
■ MART C
I understand just how you feel, my dear. Por
erty is no disgrace, and if. I were in your place I
would hate to be tucked off as though I had done
something to be ashamed of. More than that, I am
a sort of a cockney myself, and love the city, and
would not care to have the country for a steady
diet the year around. So you have my sympathy.
As to the way to make money, that is another
affair. I don't make as light as you do of the gift
of tact. I think it is a great thing, and ought to
help you to do comething to earn your living. Have
you ever thought of trying to conduct children's
parties? If you have tact there is a way open for
you. Can you tell good stories! Can you read aloud
There is a place for such a girl as you are —one
who is well connected socially— at afternoon teas
and other functions of the sort. Think of taking
a position as a parish visitor or is connection with
one of the bit; boards, like the associated charities.
These positions do not pay very much money, but
they mean self-support, at any rate.
A good suggestion has been gent me for girls who
wish to make money, and if you will send me a
stamped and self-addressed envelope I will write to
you about it.
The following letter is from a girl who has
thought up several ways of earning a little some
Dear Mrs. Herrlclc:a3^BH9pßQ£oSß£^f£r
r" 1 have been reading your letters to stria and hay* be
come so interested that 1 feel I must writ*,to you. I read
your advice to that other girl. and. aa 1 am interested In
her •welfare, I take the liberty 'or i offering some sacs** '-
tlons. uMiiiii'f'i iHihiniiHHi'i r i i
yet pleasing centre piece by selecting a nice-looking
cabbage* making incisions in it aero arid ;herc with
a sharp knife and sticking flowers into these cuts.
A pale green cabbage, with loaves that curl back
prettily sbout the base, may be made a thing of
beauty by placing it on a bed of moss, cit her gray
or dark <rreen, and sticking the cabbage full of
sprigs of bittersweet or other brilliant berries.
Make the candy for the Thanksgiving dinner.
Not the French bonbons, but good 6*. Mashioned .
molasses candy, maple creams, fudge, peanut taffy
and all the other staudbys. If you can nave little
birch bark dishes for these and surround each on*
■with a trail of running cedar you are pretty sure to
have a charming table.
If you have any skill with pen or brush yon
may ornament dinner cards for the family. If you
cannot make your own designs, cdt out little pic
tures from illustrated papers or catalogue's and ap
ply these skillfully to cards. Seek out an appropri
ate quotation for each one of these. If you wisli,
you can color the pictures you paste on the earth
or write the inscriptions in different ti.its, using a
very fine brush dipped in water colors.
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ANYTHING WE DO TO MAKE OTHERS HAPPY REACTS ON OURSELVES
You will have no difficulty in thinking up good
mottoes or in finding suitable pictures. A girl at a
spinning wheel, a picture of a log cabin or of a snip
in the midst of a rough sea, a knot cf trailing ar
butus, a field of corn or a stalk of it, a fat pumpkin,
a turkey—there is no end to the things you can use»
As for the inscriptions, write anything that is
suitable. There are two or three books filled with
suggestions for such inscriptions. If you wish, I
will send you the name of one. Among them are
such as "When the frost is on the punk in," "Let
good digestion wait on appetite," "Strive mightily,
but eat and drink as friends," '•'Eat, drink and be.
merry" and a host of others, some more appropri
ate than the above to this C3pccial day.
Some of Their Questions Answered
AHhoogb I have yet a very good home to shelter me I
have discovered a few ways of mailing money. They are:
Burnt wood making, making raffia hats, painting, and
making and selling fudge and candy. If she has m taste
for any of these she can make quite a little extra mvn /
os them. She can get work clerKing and work at mesa
other Hues after hours. On* can demand a big price for
' I now wish to ask some Questions: 1 expect to give a
party, and, as 1 do not know of very many games to play,
1. am'going-to. appeal to you. 1 lease tell me of some
amusing and interesting ones -In next Sunday's ' paper.
Which would be nice, an evening or. afternoon party, and
what would be some inexpensive souvenirs to give? Would
It be nice to have both buys and girls, and what would be
nice and simple for lunch? Please tell the kind of Invita
tions to send out. -Hoping my advice will help that other
girl, I remain, one of your girls. . S. B- g
Did you ever try a string party? They are verjr
amusing. The tint requisite is a lot of small favor*,
and the next, several balls of twine. Each favor
has a string attached to it, and is then put some
where about the house in an inconspicuous place.
The string i*~uow carried all over the house, wound
about this and that, and twisted around all sorts of
objects and obstacles. Yards and scores of yards
of it are used before you finally tie a tag on the
end of it. This may bear a nrjne or not, as you
please. A3 each guest comes to the house he is
given the end of a string, and when all are assem
bled it is the task of each to find his present. This
leads to a great deal of fun. If you choose you
may give a prize to the one who soonest disen
tangles his string, and a booby prize to the one who
comes out last. You see it is conducted on much
the same principle as an egg hunt or a nut hunt,
but it is newer and more amusing.
If you want to have boys, it would be better to
have the party in the evening. As to having girls
alone, that is another matter you must decide for
yourself. If you know nice boys, have them; if not,
confine yourself to girls.
For supper I would have a good salad, bread and
butter, sandwiches, cake and chocolate. That in all
that is necessary, although you could have ice
cream instead of the chocolate; or, in addition to it,
if you wished something more elaborate.
There are all sorts of little Japanese souvenirs
that are attractive. Tiny fang and umbrellas, hat
pins and stickpins, baskets, pin cushions and the
like come in welL
I wish to thank you very cordially for the ad
vice you give the other girls. Such suggestions as
you make should be of value to many, and yours is
One of» the most satisfactory Thanksgiving
feasts I ever saw was conducted by a clever girl
who belonged to an old New England family. She
had put all sort 3of charming touches into the ar
rangement of the table* and she added ethers, be
sides, such as I have suggested.
She had the grace before meat take the form
of the long metre doxology, "Praise God, from
whom all blessings flow," sung by the whole family,
standing behind their chairs. Just before the des
sert came on she slipped out of the room and into a
Puritan costume she had devised, and coming back
stood in her place and sang "The breaking waves
Moreover, she liad arranged toasts to be drunk
in s\rwt cider to "The Pilgrim fathars and moth
ers," "The Pilgrim sons and daughters," "To the
woman who invented pumpkin pie," "To the mem
ory of the turkey/ and a lot of others. There was
nothing brilliant about the toasts or about the
speeches made upon them, but they amused every
one and added to the enjoyment of the day. And
anything which will do that is not to be despised.
I have said you must make Thanksgivhig fo*
other*, and it should now stop with home people.
Don't you know some one who is having a hard
time to get along, who is poor or sick or lonely, or
all three, to whom you could bring a bit of Thanks*
giving? Look about yon and see. If you can find
such an one, or more than one, and send on tho
message of cheer, you nay be pretty sure that when
the last Thursday of November comes around, and
you begin going over your cam es for gratitude, you
will feel that you have an entirely new and a very
lovely reason for thankfulness.
just,_the sort of letter I wish to get. It is direct,
practical and 'helpful. Let mo hear from you again*
My Dear Mrs. Herrlck:
: I wonder If you know what It means to b« all alona,
away from family and friends—studying music— th«
temptations that come to a girl who M%k>ne? - .
Sometimes It's very*hard to go on working steadily. I
feel ■■ If every incentive had left, and that 1 might as
well be gay and careless as -the rsau They seem happy,
and I'm not. . . ,v :
"•..I iry to think of the home-people, and of what heir
disappointment in me will be If 1 don succeed; but they
are Tory far away, and pleasure Is very near. .Yet, If I
Indulge In It. I shan't be able to do good work—and there
Urn! .. . ' ..:■• ' ; ..•'■■•.- .■■ ;.;;;_ -.. -v; •---?••
■ Have'you everceen alone? And do you know he*
frightened I got facing it all? Affectionately yours.
I can feel just how it hurts to be alone like that
And you feel that you are only young, and that it is
hard not to have your good time. I am ,-:oiug to
preach to you. You know all the arguments al
ready. But I am going to appeal to your common
sense and to say that it is a mistake ever to do any
thing that will make you uncomfortable afterward.
Believe me, that will be the most lasting effect of
yielding to temptation and doing something against
The one person you can't get away from is your
self, and think what it would be to live with your
self when you had lost self-respect I Keep up your
courage and stand fast. One of these days things
will come out right. I wonder if there is not some
other girl who has gone through a like experience
who can speak a word of encouragement and tell
D«ar Mrs. Herrick:
I am just 17. and am about to take a position aa type
writer In one of the big office buildings. Are there certain
rules a girl Is expected to follow? How am I to speak to
my employer, and do I treat the other girl» as If I knew
them the way I know girls now? 1 mean, ttae ones I
meet In a social way?
Please tell me what to do—l'm Just a little frightened.
Tour friend. LOUIE H.
Be courteous ami friendly to all with whom you
■re brought into contact, but don't be tec read/
to make iutiir.ate3. Avoid anything that will look
like being exclusive or disagreeable, and show your
self ready to be friendly, but don't make close
friends until you ha'-e a chance to know *he girls
better. It is easiei to avoid intimacies than tft
break them off.