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Bj DOUOTHY DIX.
A man asks this question: i one's tooth brush, and It's hard to
Dii vnn thlnlr that n litmhnml nml wlfft ' ltimcHnn thi. Innk fir flnllnnev nnil tnstf
have a right to open each other's let-1
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tcrs without being asked to do so''
I certainly do not, A man has no more
right to open his
wife's letters than
"ho has the letters
of any other woman
'nor has n wlfo any
more rl.jht to
' tamper with her
than alio would with
that of tho most
Wo mvo a right to
BQmo decency and
privacy of life,
'fo have a husband
r a w'lfd who
would open your
letters, and read
them before you had a chance at them
jourself, would bo disgusting nnd re
volting to any person or refinement. A
.letter Is as purely a personal thing a?
for all by Calumet.
For daily use irr millions cf kitchens has
proved that Calumet is highest not only in
quality but in leavening powers well un
failing in results pure to the extreme and
wonderfully economical in use. Ask your
grocer. And try Calumet next bake day.
RECEIVED HIGHEST AWARDS
that would lead a hunhand or a wife to
. .. J .. I .. . 1 I a
PCI UJI lb JUIIll UIU1II1 IU C1W1CI vnc.
Of courso there are circumstanced In
which a husband or wife .may. properly
object to their eprouse's correspondence-
A nrah may not, for Instance, approve of
his wlfo receiving letters from other men
A wlfo may bo Insanely jealous of the
vIolet-Rcented pink missives that hor hus
band gets from other women, but even
then the remedy Is not tho high-handed
and tyrannical one of opening tho other'?
Tho affinity, however, does not figure
In tho ordinary family circle, and the
average husband and wife receive no
letters from a more exciting source than
Sister Susan or grandma, pr Cousri
Jane, or some old friend. Why any human
being except the one to whom they ar
addressed, want to read the unexciting
chronicles set down In this epistles,
Novertheless, "It Is the Ill-bred habit
of. many husbands and wives to open
each other's" letter and read tho con
fidences that wero never meant for their
eyes. It Is sort of listening at, the keyhole-that
does not endear the, Paul -I'ry
or tho Polly Pry to his or her wife oi
It Is" not that the wife or "husband hns
any guilty secret that Is hidden In the
Jotter, butno'woman or man ofreiiM-e-'flnefhent
fe'lis' all o'f lilsor'her family
and "friends' affairs' oven to his' wife or
Husband. John, Snlth, fine and honor1
able, and devoted to his" wlfo, shrinks
from laying before her eyes the sorrowful
story his sister has written hhn about a
wayward boy who has been caught rob
bing a cash drawer. Alary Smith, as loyal
a wlfo as ever lived, cannot bear that
her husband should read her mothei's
letter . In which she sobs out the pitiful
tale of how Mary's father has spent tho
rent money on liquor, and how they nro
to pay the grocery man, she doesn't
Generally speaking most husbands and
most wives are jealous of each other's
families, and prone to criticism of them.
The, family letters furnish material for
criminations,, and lead to recriminations
and to domestic spats. For that reason
alone, if for no other, husbandB and wives
have no business meddling with each
Over and beyond the letter Itself,
though, the objection each other's letters
Is the deadly affront It offers to one's
Individuality. The mere act of tho tear
ing open of the envelope rlvnts on one
the fetters of a slave. ' It Is the out
ward and visible sign of subjection, and
any man or any woman would have to
have the soul of a mouse not to feel tho
hot blood of rebellion and righteous anger
surge up In her or him against It.
The opening of your letter brings home
to you as nothing else can the fact that
you have not left one lota of freedom,
not one vestlgo of personal liberty, not
one scintilla of privacy. Homebody else
has asserted the right to see .ords writ
ten for you alone; to hear confidences
Intended for only your own breast! to
keep you under espionage as If you were
a child, and you would be more than
human if you did not resent It, anl hate
the domestic tyrant on your hearthstone.
The thing that makes matrimony a
failure oftener than anything else Is just
this lack of decencies and reserves of
life between husbands and wives. It
is because married people so seldom are
generous enough to extend to each other
any liberty of action that marriage be
comes a bondage that we are ready to
break at any price.
Tho one thing that militates more
against domestic happiness than anything
elBe Is the knowledge that a woman has
that she hu( got to give any account of
everything she does, of every cent that
she spends, and of every place that she
goes to her husband, and that ahe has got
to submit to his critical approval her
dress, her opinions, her friends, her poli
tics, and her religion. That's what makes
her envious of the bachelor woman, and
dream of careers.
Nor would there be many sidestepping
husbands If a woman had enough sense
to Bay to the man he married; "See,
here, John, I didn't apply for the Job of
Jailer when I became your wife.
"X don't want to Interfere with all the
things you enjoy doing. Nor am I going
to hold a stop watch on you and see that
you get home on the minute. Nobody
can be happy who Isn't free, and I pre-
sent you your liberty on a silver salver,
sure that you won't make a bad use of
That's the secret of how to be happy
i though married. It's to respect each oth-
er's right, and not to enforce one's own
rights, and chief among the rights' that
( matrimony doesn't give Is to open a
iiuiband's or wife's letteis That's n
iplfcr uf Impertinent and vuh,a, luuowt,
to -which no one should n ibn,it.
TIIK BEE: OMAHA, WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER. 20, 1912.
MARY, THe STOCKING SUG3
'CrlRL WS .BEING DflWi-CD OUT
BY THe FLOORWALKER
"what do you MEflryHecPiEi?
Y &ELHMG THAT MIDOCT
BOCKS TWO FBtTT J-ONG-.MARY
THREW HIM fl HnUGHTY LOOK,
GflZeD m HI6 "BALD HEAD
AND TITTER E.D,
"SAY, IP fl RICH OLD LBDy
PfllNTEX. WOULD. HEI "HffR
AW-TAKE A LOT !
LEYS SEE, THERE ARE
AND SHOE TREES IN
SHOE STORES, AND
WtJincE TREES IN
OllirJcV Aim i4AM
TREES IH HAMBURQ-
II ' N
"Only Brainless Women Are Flirts".
The Winsome Woman Necjd Not a Be Silly Coquette
MILS. RKSNA CAKV SHKPKIIiLD.
lly MA IKJAFUCT JIUUHAHD AVER.
The gentle art of flirting has been con
demned In no uncertain terms In tho lat
est book by I.c Daron II, Ilriggs, president
of Radcllffe college.
"Ho d?es not call It flirting; being the
dean of a college and a literary man,
besides ho uses more words to describe It.
According to Mr. Ilriggs, flirting is "the
deliberate, systematic and indiscriminate
use of personal fascination, the use of
power for the pleasure of exercising It
and for no good end." Furthermore, says
this writer, 'the power to fascinate men,
consciously used to glvo zest to life, be
comes almost despicable; at the very
least, It tends to make a girl useless and
leads her to making men useless; at tho
worst. It breaks homes and happiness,"
This wvere arraignment of tho flirt
was to put before Mrs. Itena Cary Bhef
field, artist and author, whom I found
Et her studio at No. ISO Madison avenue,
'In the midst of a charming exhibit of
1 (hlldien h poitrslts.
i Whlk we diseased III.- rtluc of flirt
I.... tin- ll..Mrt unit li.isl lluliioi-eiit-.
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The Judge Grabs a Hay pile in a Strange Hotel
Copyright. 1913. National News Ass'n.
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COURT CHRHOCD Wir STOflllN'
HCCLfUMED HE Wfl6CWt.yA0ii.o'vrtrf
His occupation N7Wwv oe Homii.
HffCAID Hff WAS A BfLL RtjfryCR
AN' WAS ONLY firTCflUN' A
OAK. TREES M OAKLWW
I artlsilo perfection, gazed down at us
nom tnc walls, ami I was glad that Mrs.
Hheffleld condemned flirting almost as se
erely us the worthy dean. Nothing less
would have been possible under those
"We read a great deal about flirting
nowadays." said Mrs. Sheffield, "but, as
a master of fact, It Is only the very young
or the very brainless woman who flirts,
and neither Is typical of the modern
woman as we know ahe exists."
Mrs. Sheffield lives In the Suffrage
building, right over the Kuffrage asso
elation, und while she Is young and at
tractive looking and full of vivacity, tho
foundation of her edifice, the great suf
frage cause, and her own work give her
a different and higher outlook upon life.
"Innocent flirting Is Instinctive In the
young. One would hardly have It other
wise. Even the most carefully brought
up young girl has to discover her own
power of attraction and find out what It
Is all about, and It Is the privilege of the
very youiig. To flirt l Inherent In the
jo .th of all race'.
1 lead In Uie paper Ibis uiprnlng that
-NCV?5f LftUOH nt fl OOV WITH A PXJO H09E
vou DonV Know wmit r-y TlRrt UP"
THBY WffC CLOSING- UPTHK-
poRrA9 rpp THe la&t
EDITION. fLL Wfl& HUSTLE
MO coNroaioH. THe makc-. i
op man rourr a littlc smcc
DOWN IN THE CORNER NffAR
THff PIHK;P1LL9 AD A NO HC
WANTex? 60METHIN0 TO PILL
IT UJ. TYro TIM ORAO0SD ,
HIS &TICK, WENT OVER TO THE
CA6J? P.HOIN A FCVV MINUTE'S
BCTUffNED WITH THI9,
"IF THE BASEBALL. WRfTCR,
vyRoTE THe oov of the
ARTICLE ABOUTTWO BULL
CrPlMEb WOULD THE
THEES tt4 I
a professor In Philadelphia said that the
morals of tho girl who spends her In
come on finery wcra hotter than those
of the one who was content with cheaper
things In order that sho might save.
"Probably the professor was misquoted
In some wuys, as undoubtedly the state
ment Is extromo. Hut womun dress for
men, und they use the possibilities of
dross as a mean of personal fascina
tion. I don't nee that there Is anything
wrong In that, because If woman In to
,havo a lasting Influonce shn must nmko
an Impression, generally first an Impres
sion on tlio eye, and If she wants to
hold that Influenco she will have to con
tinue to make' the same attractlvo Im
pression. H Is every woman's duty to look as
well as sho can, for the prusunt day
woman can't afford to look anything but
hnr best. A 130 hat Is an Inspiration If
you can glvo thirty people a dollar's
worth of pleasure In .looking at It.
"People confuse flirtations, or, as Pres
ident HrlggH says, 'the systomatla hii'I
Indiscriminate use of personH.1 fascina
tion,' with charm. The one Is shallow,
and charm is deep; just as love Is purpose,
tul, und flirting Is purpoeleK8, Flirting
alms for the moment and not for the
"I.lttle fault can be found In the art
less coquetry of very young girls, who are
awakening to a power which they do not
rightly understand. It Is the older women
who make the trouble.
"Many mature women go around think
ing themselves the orchids' and gardenias
of the world's flower gurden, while they
the only stupid cabbage rospx, using evury
power of physical attraction In their pos
session, but the very lack of subtlety In
their methods condemns them.
"The women who really hold one, who
rharm und fascinate, are tho women who
feel deeply and give forth son. essence
of the Inner spirit.
"One should not confuse the flirta
tious Instincts of the girl awakening to
womanhood and what Pean Brlggs very
rightly describes as the power to fas
cinate men. consciously used to give ztst
to life, which constitutes the pastime of
illrtatlon as It Is known to the experi
"To her, as Maarten Maartens de
scribes It, "flirting Is almost an exart
a solence as mathematics,' nnd she can
foresee the outcome of her work.
"Hut women who flirt have become
more brazen, and It is this very quality
that la proving tln armor which makesj
them bulletproof for real love.
"Despite the hue and cry to the con
trary, there Is just as much real. Old
fashioned love as there ever was, and
the one thing that Is completely new
about flirting I the attitude of tho mod
ern womun to those of hor own sex who
transgress In this way when they are old
enough to know better.
"A, woman who goes Intp the dungercus
game of flirting, wide-eyed and seeing,
loses her honors at tho court-martial of
her fellow-women, for women who flirt
are like colors that fade and. run, and
have not tho lasting qualities that liioldt
the beauty of the real Iratirr which the
modern women arc eaUug Into the p.-.t
jtcrn of IIP
The Futurist Society
liy HIjIjA AVUKIO
There Is a new movement on foot called
the Futurist society. Its followers nro
They resolve to Irt the dead pnt bury
Its dead; to give no thought to whnt hai
been, hut to devote
nil their energies,
Uv the present tlmo
In order to create
such a future nn
never existed In
people carry their
Idea a little too far:
at leust, to milt the
Individual of loin
permcnt and the
lovor of art. For
It has been said (I
do not know how
truly) that they will
haVo nothing to do
with old net, literature or sculpture
believing toq much time, thought, money
and enthusiasm are spent upon tho deiul
creators nnd not enough given to tho aid
and encouragement of new geniuses,
To glvo up nil tho study of history
would he to Home of us tho keenest do.
privation, and It would roll travel of ttr
most subtle pleasure. And to give up
contemplation of old works of art would
be almost1 crucifixion.
Vet tho futurist lilea Is a great one Ip
tho main; 'and It must shovo the world
along and lift the race at the snmn tlmo
lo a higher plnne,
Kach individual should became a fut
urist In regard to hln own life.
lie should put hln pust 'behind him und
forget his own achievements, whether for
good or evil,
If you havo accomplished something of
which you feel proud, obliterate It front
your thoughts, nnd begin each day as if
yriu had yet to start life anew,
If you havo made mistakes, forget them,
and on tho clean whlto page of today
write your first sentanco of tho story of
a wise, good, successful future.
There are possibilities In you of which
you have never dreamed. You can ho
and do nnd have more than you have
ever lioped or Imagined.
Now You Can Have
Plenty of Cranberries
Every time you want them. any time in the
year. And they're the finest, reddest,, ripest, most
deliciously flavored cranberries you ever ate.
Simply ask your grocer for
They come n a clean, scaled package, every berry is good,
no waste hand assorted and sterilized before being evaporated.
Simply soak in water and they're ready for pie, pudding, sauce
or jelly Thanksgiving or Fourth of July. They make an
especially delicious jelly to serve with meats, fowl, bread to
use like any other jelly or pcrserve.
Makepeace Evaporated Cranberries are the finest of Cape Cod
Cranberries, picked at their ripest and best. That's why they have such a
rich, delightful flavor, far more tempting than berries sold in bulk.
Aik your grocer today for Makepeace G vsporsted Cranberries. CooVIng
receipt! Inilde the pickife juit follow direction, then if ou don't say they
arc belter than any cranberries you ever bought limply Ulto them back to
the dealer and he will cheerfully refund your money. Comparison U the real
tut. You be the judf e.
In the unlikely event of your dealer not having Makepeace Evap
orated Cranberries, tell him to get them for you from hit jobber.
A. D. Makepeace Co., Warehara (on Cape Cod), Mass.
Campbell & West, Distributors, Omaha
The Bee bv Tad
No ono of U5 (since Christ) hass even
guessed our Immense possibilities to!
It does not mutter whnt your ngo or
your physical condition. If you have
your menial powers clear enough to read
these words and comprehend them, nnd.
If you hnvn tho physlcnt 'power to tnkol
deep breaths, then thoro lies nt( lminenso
hope for you to build yourself a good.l
strong bodj' and carvo out a now future.
Hegln. every' morning nnd sny this llttloj
"Montram," silently first, and afterward,!
whisper It audibly:
"Tho God-given Almighty power Is movi
Ing within me to glvo health, success and,
happiness. I shnll bo shown tho way to!
help bring about all those conditions.
Love, light and kindness wait upon mo.
I shnll bo shown tho way."
Tou can sny thin many times beforol
you rise from your bed, nnd you will at
Riven new strength at each repetition,
You can oloso your eyeH nnd rcpeat
the words sllenly In crowded street cars,
und you can whisper them softly as you
walk tho city thoroughfares.
Ho f.urely us you do this, faithfully andi
persistently, a change will come oVrr
your life,' good will grow better and evil
will glvo plnco to good.
Your health will Improve nnd your'
fortunes will ho bettered.
Always It must be said with a rev
erent spirit, und wth no feeling of lov-i
And bo willing to wait for results.
And ho persistent nnd uso will power
to form the hnhlt of concentration suf-i
flclently strong to enublo you to bo reg
ular In this tnunlnl and spiritual prnci
Pcrhups you will sny It takes time,,
nnd you cannot spare It. Yet think how
much time you give dally to worry, de-l
hpomloncy and regret.
Bhut them nil nwny from your tnlnd,
Ho a futurist. And crento for yourself!
iv new, body, .a now, tnlnd and a ,now l.lfo.
It has 'been dono by other?.,
It can bo' doho by you.
The self-made man Is unablo to sea
where ho could havo made any Im-
fcirovomont on his work.