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Writes in Reforming Others Women Want
to Change EverybodyIt's Born in Them
Often a Bar to Friendship Men
Seldom Suffer from It.
By DOROTHY DIX
The other day a culture! woman, of
rather sentimental tendencies, asked mo
what I thought was the greatest art lu
"The art of letting other people alone,"
I answered, and
then I said, "and
It's the least un
derstood." She stared and
then smiled, as If
she thought I In
tended to be funny,
but I was never
more earnest In my
life. I have suf
fered", you have
suffered, the whole,
world has groaned
under a martydrom
at, the hands of
those who would
not let us alone, but
who Insisted on
according to their
own notions, and without the. slightest
regard for any prejudices we might have
In thq opposite direction.
I am loath to confess it. but these
well-meaning persecutors are generally
women. Men are so busy trying to make
both ends meet In their own business
they have scant leisure to meddlerln the
affairs of their neighbors.
A shoe; merchant may do builness for
twenty years next door to an Insurance
agent without attempting to show him
how to. .write, out a policy or to. conduct
his office. A woman, on the other hand
can never Beo anybody to anything. dlf j
. ferently from the way she does It with- I
out burning with a frantic desire to cor- j
rect them and set- them right.
If Mrs. A'ri children wear flannel,, she
can do no more help worrying over the "
B children having on cotton than' she car,
help breathing. Every woman in hr heart
believes that she is the only human be
ing who possesses the real secret of
economy, the true religion. and, on in:
fallible gift for managing, and. being scr
perfectly convinced of the correctness of
h" polrit-ot View, "it seems to fie .actuaJJ)
crjmlnal to let, you.-alooe and permit you
ty'do your own way Instead of hers.
a matter of fact, the passion for re?
foj-mlng things s Inherent In the sex
We can't help It We were born that way
In Its violent and Insane form It imakei
dear, sweet, refined and angelic glrlr
throw themselves away on disgusting,
drunken .brutes, whom they marry, ex.
pectlng to reform them and lift them, out
of the gutter Into respectability.
No woman escapes the fascination of
the Idea entirely, and the very first thing
a girl thinks of after she gets engaged
Is what a perfectly delightful time she Is
going to, have reforming her husband Just
as soon as' she gets him. Sometimes it's
his politics and religion that she means
to have him change, sometimes it's merely
the Bhape of his collar, or the cut of his
hair, but she's always bent on reforming
something. If there could be a perfect
man he would have to live and die a
bachelor. There lBn't a woman living
whom he would Interest because there
would be 'nothing to change1 about him.
Men seldom suffer from this peculiar
mania. When a man first falls In love
"with. Ooiglrl .ha thinks, that. everything
about' her Is absolutely perfect, and by
thctlme he gets over It and gets a second
view of her, he Is too wise to undertake
thoJob of Improving her. He has found
out-that there 'Is nothing mutual In a
woman's Idea of reform, and that she
most emphatically objects to the process
being tried on her, and he lets her atone.
Women seldom learn that, and so we
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are continually treated to the spectacle
of wives who have an unsuccessful war
against their husband's smoking for
twenty years and who are still hammer
Ing away at the same reform. Instead of
letting him smoke in peace. It Is doubt
ful If tobacco Is harmful. Certainly It
can't be as bad morally, physically or
mentally as a perpetual argument on the
subject. Only fancy what we should
think of a man who was forever harp
ing on the injurious effects of chocolate
creams, or nibbling between meals, or
Ice cream soda. Our own especial vices
are the only ones that never need re
There Isn't much doubt that the great
domestic problem Is going to be solved
when women make up their minds to lot
their husbands alone, a little more to
take them as. they are, faults and virtues
Included and lndlssolubly mixed.
The virtue of letting aloiio is equally
applicable to children. What modern
children suffer from Is altogether too
much attention. We aro bo afraid that
they will hurt themselves that wo keep
them padded up In cotton wool as long
as wo, cah, and thus deprive them of the
great lessons experience teaches, and,
finally, when they will bear codding and
leading Btrlngs no longer, and trioy do
make a break for liberty. wo Bit down
and bemoan their lack ot filial rever
ence and gratitude,.
Our theory of doing the best we can
for our children Is always to be doing
something. We never think that the
very highest best if onu may use the
phrase Is to let them alone, and let
them find out for themselves what they
f aro and what they want to be. It Is a
piece of monstrous vanity, anyway, to
want one's children to be Just like, one's
The art of letting alone never seems so
admirable and so unattainable ns when
we deplore Its abencc In our associates.
Nothing else Is so fatal a barrier to
friendship. It Is not possible to be on
terms of any sort of Intimacy with one
woman In a hundred without her' trying
to more or less supervise your entire af
fairs. It Isn't enough for a woman tobe
satisfied with her own superlative dress.
maker and Infallible doctor, She Is
miserable until she' foists them on every
ono of her friends, and then, when .she
falls out with those paragons, she ex
pects' you to change with her. All sorts
of reasons have been given for the
scarcity of friendship between womon.
The real explanation (s right hero In
It sounds like a Joke, but It's the sober
(ruth that & woman has to reach the
very highest pinnacle of unselfishness
and generosity beforo.she Is willing to
let others do their own way, and be
happy after their own taste, instead of
hers, but how charming and delightful,
how perfect and Incomparable sho Is In
every- relation of life when she does
master the art of letting others alone!
The Real Truth
By FRANCES L. UARSIDE
The real truth, children dear, is that
Sleeping Beauty slept with her mouth
open, and' snored.
You are always hearing women talk of
the "nameless longing'-' in their hearts,
aa It Jt were something beyond the com
prehension of mere man. If she Is single
this nameless longing Is for a lover, and
If she Is married, It Is for money.
In the books a woman returns a letter
from a discarded lover unread, but In real
life curiosity would arouse her from a
deathbed, If need: be, to break the seal,
In the stories she gives a gulping sob
as she leaves the room after a quarrel,
and he lo gone out ot her life forever. In
real . life she has to go to the shop where
he works next day to buy sausage,-and
he waits on her.
The suffragists In speech and pamphlet
tell how wives have,to account to their
husbands for every penny they spend. If
the men had to. listen to the account of
how. their wives spend every penny there
wouldn't be Insane asylums to hold them,
! In the books a ' girl's neck looks like
white ' marble, .and those who see It are
driven to writing poetry. In real life a
girl's neck causes every housekeeper
present to make a mental note to buy
spareribs for dinner next day.
In the books a young woman never
mentions "the dear old home" without
mojst eyes, and In real life she never
lives In one home longer than five years.
In the stories there ts always a trusted
servant, who has been with the family
forty years; In reality no servant Is kept
as long as forty weeks. In fiction a poem
or song about "baby's shoe" will cause
a woman to dissolve In tears. In real
life. If the stork whispers to a woman
that he Is going to give her an occasion
for buying a baby's shoe she Is mad
enough to bite nails In -twd.
The books say a great deal about the
"children's hour," a period at twilight
when the children climb on mother's or
father's knee and listen to fairy storlef.
In real life If father Is a farmer, he Is
engaged at this noetic period in feeding
the hogs And mother. Is doing the milking.
Or. If they' lite In .town, he Is hanging, to
a car strap and she Is running to the
In the books the children gather at
mother's knee for their good night pray
ers. In the days when every mother be
lieved In having her children pray, there
were so many children In the family that
they couldn't have gathered around her
knee unless her limbs were built like
those of an extension table.
mBb D rW A'rAn ff I td
... Miss MnrRticrlto Clurko.
These beautiful pictures are tfio latest taken of this charming actress
who in tho accompanying intorviqw, tellB how) she finds it easy to rotain
the freshness ot youth tnrougn sinipio
By LIIiWAN IjAUFEJITY I
From "Happylahd" tq Baby Mine"-
then on to "Little Snow White;" and now
to the part of Raffles-made Amy Herrick
In "Are You a Crook?" has dainty Mar
guerite Clarke wended her triumphal way
In six years of growth In power and. am
bition. And yet her face retains a sweet,
Childlike, untroubled quality that Is, .very
alluring. ' .... ,
"Where does she find the energy?"-!
thought .as ahe went eagerly through the
rehearsal of tho third act twice, and thenMuly charming. Now, if you nro painted
with unflagging real started' off .on actj and-white, nnd haye shadows
II-and "Where do ycu find yoor unfall-
Ing enthusiasm?" I Inquired when she
came over for a chat In tho .tar corner of
the stago of the beautiful new Iongacre
thenter, whero I was playing audience.
"Oh, I get It outdoors," said tho Jittle
star whose- name Just suggests her own
sweet daintiness. "I don't need butdoor
exercise, because I get plenty of oxerclso
on the stage, but I do need the wonderfOI,
bracing, soothing, stimulating effects of
fresh air. So I walk and walk whenever
1 can to. and from theater, around
the block Just so I am out In the air.
Sun, rain or wind, I believe In fresh air.
' "I take osteopathy, too whenever I am
too tired to exercise myself for that is
a wonderful, lazy way of taking ypur ex-
erclse so luxurious!" -Miss Clarke
laughed In pleased reminiscence.
"You see, you" can't' work and give all
the energy and force It deserves to your
work unless you. keep your energy up;
So I go outdoors and get a new-supply ot
force. And I get 'on for the longest whiles
without vacations. I went twenty whole
months once without a bit of vacation
Just getting made over 'new each day by
the wonderful outdoor .world."
"Perhaps you give too much credit to
fresh air msyb.'H IsJust your own
private supply of energy and ambition
that works on unceasingly," I suggested.
"I think not Ambition docs keep you
keyed up and full of the desire to ad
vance. Then you havo the Incentive, and
then you must take evei -possible means
to make yourself capable of carrying out
Every spring I prescribe a wonderful
tonic tor myself dear, little, new carrots.
I Ice them till they are cold and delicious
yes, really delicious and then I Just add
salt for a flavoring and eat away. Quito
raw. ydu" know. Jurt- try; them and nee
how 'good they tssto, and they are good
for more than taste, too, They sre a
wonderful blood tonic and purifier. They
do make your skin nice," dded Miss
They dp all of tht-for A smoother,
more absolutely gulltlesj.of-the-falntest
trace-of-powder skin, than Miss Morguer.
lte Clarke's you never w'.
"Don't you believe In cosmetics pow -
der, even?" I asked
Beauty Secrets of
Dainty Marguerite Clarke Tells
"Well. I 'have to bo made up on the
tSt "U tho time, you know-so between
whlle I like to give my skin time to
breathe. Absolutely Just that-itlnle to
breathe. And besides the skin, I do so
dislike seeing powder uncompromisingly
betrayed by tho glaring sunlight. It does
look sit flaky and faky,,
"I have one tittle notion about nd
tresses. and I suppose It applies to our
whole sex." mused Miss Clarke. "Wo
must be veiled In a little mystery to be
,Qne uuer our "J"' "u l"
Pbernalla-jof trylng-to-bj-attmctlve, how
can you be elusive er mysterious or
ct arming,, when there am all the secrets
of 'how' laid barb tor the least discerning
cj e In e?
"In keeping with my Idea of 'mystery
I do not go to tho restaurants much. And
fiat works out very well, for It keeps
me from fating lobster salad at 1 a. pi-.,
nnd saves health and digestion, and hur
ries me along to bed at reasonable hours.
"And actresses, of all women, cannot
afford to dissipate, you know. Rut then
no woman who wants to look her best
f.nd to win success In the world can af
ford to dissipate, which means waste her
energies In any way. You Can't use
yourself up In food or excitement or
late hours and have any self left for
The Manicure Lady
Wy WILLIAM' F. KIRK
"Gee, but-1 hate mixed crowds!" said
the Manicure Lady. "I always was that
way since the days when we used to go
to the kid parties, where they played
postofflca and spin the platter."
1 "I never noticed much whether a crowd
was mixed or not," said tho Head Ran.
her. "I never went to no parties to speak
of, and the fow that I did go to seemed
kind of easy running. Ot course there
would be some people there with more
money than others, and at most ot the
parties nobody could tell who would bs
tho rich ones at the ond ot the even
ing" "I don't mean no poker parties," said
the Manicure Lady. "I was thinking Just
a minute ago when I spoke ot a party
which I was to last night. It was a kind
of birthday party for Wilfred, and)
mother let the poor boy make out halt
! tho list of guests. You know Wilfred
' always prided himself on being a good
1 mixer, and I guess he must be, Judging
I from the different H'tids of guests h
What Simple Rules Will Do
worth while things," said the llttlo lady,
"You hv made a careful study of
tnklng caro ot tho precious human body,
haven't you?" asked the Interviewer.
"Oh, thero U a lot more to It," replied
the Interviewed "I nm very earnest
about tho Importance ot cleanliness. That
hounds almost Insulting, ns If every one
else weren't, too. Rut then It people
want to preserve the looks they already
have or acquire home more, they must
think aboue being clenn, clean, clean all
the time. Clean means clean from the
prown of your head to the tips of your
fingers, and to the soles of your little
pink feet foo. And It means that every
thing you wrar must be Just as sweet
and fresh as you are. Somehow When
you are all ckun and sweet and rested
nnd out of doors, you don't get sick
very of too-
"That's being In condition, I suppose.
asked. The folks that mother and mi
Invited was oUr regular crowd,, but Wil
fred didn't use no Judgment In his seleo
tlon of friends. You never seen such a
collection, George. There was a lady
poetess among them. The things she had
wrote had coma to the attention of Wil
fred, and the poor boy got kind of smote
on her and Invited her. Borne of tht
poetry that, she showed mo was worst
than Wilfred's own.
"Her escort to the party was a young
gent with a blue tie and a red nose. He
kept saying 'Take It from me!' and cry.
Ing over In the corner because the Yan
kees wasn't winning no more games.
Then he would tell how he used to go
to school with PVank Chance, the leadei
of the Yankees, and then he would cry
some more and say 'Relieve me!' snd
'Don't- tell me!" Tht wut his speed,
George, all evenlngsVTake It from me,'
and tears. Tren there was another young
gent there that deserves to succeed In
life. He could Move his ears and bend
his thumb baclKvard till It touched his
wrist, and you' should have heard him
sing 'In the Garden of My Heart' and
What Miss Clarke Says:
Sun, rnln or wind, I bollovo
In fresh nlr.
walk and walk whonover
went twenty months
without a vacation.
Every Spring 1 take a tonic
dear, little, now carrots.
They aro a wonderful blood
tonic and purifier.
1'owdor looks flaky and Is.
I npvor go to lato supper
Why, when I was 'Snow White this
winter every one told me that I must
be sure to rub my feet carefully In al
cohol or I'd catch dreadful colds. I
didn't and 1 dldn'tl I never dreamed
what a wonderful, free feeling going
without thecs would give. I think It
must be good to go barefoot occasionally
I did feel so splendidly with my feet
free to my beloved air.
"Rut then I love free, untrammelled
motion ot tvtry kind. I don't wear cor
f!s off the stage, I don't wear them,
nnd I am quite sure they were not
thought ot In the original scheme of
things. I can't see why we must be alt
wrapped up and bound up, and kept
hlCden from the air and sunlight, No
shoes, no corsets freedom nnd supple
ness wouldn't that be ides!?
"Women art ngltatlng for w much
don't you think they might agitato for
theae health and beauty causes, too?"
The Fatal Deck of Cards.' Me acted as If
he had come there to be the Ufa of th
party, and I guess he would have been
the death of It If father hadn't put the
crusher on him by taking him Into the
library and mixing him three cocktails
of the Sort he call 'sleep-producers.' The
old gent learned how to make them from
Dob Klley, and they are guaranteed to
silence a pest quicker and with better re
sults than chloroform.
"There was any number of quaint and
curious folks among Wilfred's chosen.
but goodness knows I ain't got the mem
ory or th time to tell you about how
cunning all of them was. There was a
pool shark that kept talking about com.
blnatlon shots and mlscues, and a ex.
Jockey that Pittsburgh Phil uqed to give
all his old neckties to, and a soubrette
that came with the fellow that would
wag his ears. All she could do was to
chew gum, and tell how shs was learn
Ing the Tango dance. And there was a
old fellow there that used snuff and
talked out of the comer of his mouth
Wilfred asked him because the poor old
soul had Just had a run-In with his wife
and was afraid to go home. Ye, George,
It was some mixed crowd and the birth
day party was some weird affair, I won
der how many more birthdays Wilfred
will have to have before he grows a few
Omniscience of Lov
ny I1EATIUCK FAIRFAX v 1
A lover sers his swoctheart In every
thing he looks at. Just ns a man bitter,
by n mud dog, sees dogs In his meat,
flogs in his drink, dogs all around him.
George Denlson Prentice.
A business man with both young mer i
and young women In 'his office recently
had this experience.
"what," he called to a young mnh. U
the address of the firm to which vnij
made that consignment this mortilhg"
The young man looked up absently k
from his work and said dreamily, "Made
line, Madeline Grey."
To n Rlrt stenographer later, the em
ployer put this questions "Have ybu fin-
isnea me nrsi nuncn or letters ' one i
lotiKen a uttio startled ns she replied, "i '
didn't know you wanted to know him. '
Ills name is Paul, and ho Is a clvlWrf '
In both Instances the employer matM
some comment nbout the world going!
mnd, and lie would be glad when this, i
falling In love hnd gone out of fashtnn. s
"Why," be complained to me later. "If T
Klve a young man a valuable blue pclni
to study, J have to watch htm like- a
nawx to Keep him from covering it wn '
. 1 4 .... - n I -l A t I. . i
Klri -working for mt who hears the Tlrst j
time she Is addressed. She is away oft '
In ome dream Wat with Oeorge or Rift .
It Is the omniscience fit love, It Is h
sweet Insanity that calls for micwd
vigilance from those who aro sane to
keep the prosaic (affair or the world
moving In thHr right grooves.
This employer grumbled, but he rtlKo-
laughed, and a' grumble with a laugh un
derncath Indicates a sympathy that 4
hut poorly concealed. He knew -what It
was from experience. I hope we ftH.pi,
To have 'seen one's sweetheart all sroirW
ono has n, most broadening effect On the
sympathies. It also makes us chartlabl.
when suffering the annoyance that this
love madness In others causes.
The girl In the kitchen fills the sugnt
bowl with snti the girl on the car going
to work ridco ten blocks beyond hef,
destination and Is late; tho girl with V'
greater duties than presiding nt pink lea
tables sees only with the outer eyes the
guests she Is addressing. From the hum,
blest walk to the highest everything ii
awry, misplaced, lost or forgotten, be
cause those who love see the object qi,
their love In all around them.
The value of concentration Is unknown
the necessity of putting one's thought "on
the nearest duty and keeping at a aatt
distance all temptation to let the rrtlhtl
wander, has no place In the consciousness'
of those wh6 nre Ih love.
A young girl writes to nsk If she Is 'Id
be blamed because she thinks so muci,oi,
her lover she can't keep her mind oh hop.
work. Bless her, no, The blame Is Mot
hers. It goes away bnck to the one
Invented loving. ,,B
On tho shoulders of that great hunwiK
Itsrisn thero rests the blame of all thV
sweet tolly that beclns with tho day w'Min.
a man nnd woman discover they are. in'
love, nnd ends when their dream boa(
bumps hard on tho shore of thst barteli
i-.i.i.. i i a .. . . . ...
luumiiH iiiuim uniii'u rnnirimony,
Tho bump will Come soon enough, It"
will also be hard enough, It will corn-i
soon enough and hsrrt enough to sult.f,
most unaympathotle nnd unromantle. ,m,
And so I say to this little girl, fa ton'
dreaming that you see your lover ia.tilf
around you. It Is your privilege and yW '
Advice to the Lovelor h
Dy BEATRICE FAIRFAX. ::Js
Thnt In Itlftlit. ,.. .
Dear Miss Fntrfax: I
with a girl about 18, and I am Just 3u,rI
seo her every night on my way home
and I would no anything to know her;'
When I see her I feel llkn tnlklnir to hv
but something keeps me back from talking
io ner. "DUD. '.a
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