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•55*** v 2WIS W A****-*"* e- if: h- tH: feJ r' I ft fc-* L. Sh««. h-1 I ft k i & THE HERALD-ADVANCE W. W. DOWNIE, Editor and Publisher #tftotal Payer ef 6mt I'mtT theClly ef •tlbaak. MILBANK, S. DAK., DEC, 1#. 1910 THE BOY PROBLEM. Paper Read by Rev. O. JM. Hyde at Methodist Ministerial Conference Held at MMbank, lec. 7 and H. "The boy problem," or how to reach And hold the boy from 10 to L'O in Kunday school work. There is but one greater problem,and that is how to teach men, solve the one, and you will in a great measure, have solved the Other. The question is a comparati re ly new one, and there are few statis tics to draw from as to the progress made in former years. Boys are not all bad nor all good—today: and there are those who maintain that the boy of today will compare favora bly with the boy of the past. I do not claim to have solved the Eroblem.school I am somewhat line the unday superintendent who •was aaked, what are you going to do "With the boy who has a million nerves to make him wiggle?" The gentleman promptly replied: "Fourteen years Ago I knew*, now don't—i have thir teen-year old boy of my own." I have a small boy of my own, and I do not know how many times I havo looked into his bright eyes and asked, '•will he ever le bad? Will he ever disgrace me or break his mother's heart? Will he ever be a worthless, drunken, gambling profligate?'' What questions: and yet every bad man •was once an innocent baby boy. Ev ery worthless character has helped to break somebody's heart, and will sooner or later bring somebody's gray Jhairs in sorrow to the grave. The boy is at once the most abused and the most misunderstood creature In the world. Nearly everyone things he understands girls, even though they may say "no" when they mean 4'yes." and "yes" when they mean •'no," but no one professes to \yider atand the boy. The school teacher Pernaps we may be able to get near er our problem, if we ask the question "Are boys worth saving?" ''Mother, What is your boy worth to you?" "O, •ays mother, "he is the dearest boy In the world I could not think of giving him up." I say to a fatherly looking man, "Is a million dollars loo much for a boy?" and he says *'no, not if he were my boy." I say the Savior, "How much is a boy %orth up yonder," and he says through the poet, "I gave my life for thee, my frecious blodd I shed, that thou aiightst ransomed he. and quickened from the dead." I turn to the reform er and ask him if boys are worth sav ing, and he points me to one exam ple: Two hundred and fifty-five years Same go, John Choate, an orphan lad. to Massachusetts Bay colony. And shortly afterwards settled on Hog Island, near Essex. He soon owned •he whole island and some territory AWt' on the maih land. This property has never left thet'hoate family, and is now owned by Rufus. a nephew of the great advocate. Eighty boats have iieen born on the island, Of these eighty ('hoates alone, there have ap peared two military captains, seven deacons, two wives of ministers, seven magistrates, two members of the governor's council, six representa tives to the general court, two state senators, one I'nited States senator, one memler of congress, one judge of the court of common pleas, and one text, "It is heldom undestands him the old maid Sabbath day.* never the old bachelor has forgotten that he ever was a boy himself, it be ing so long since: and father is of ten inclined to want to put old heads •on young shoulders: only mother un derstands him, and that after she has spoiled one or two boys in experi menting. w a The save them, although there may be many obstacles in our way. There is an age when the boy be comes the most independent of beings: then is when we need to understand him and direct him that is the time we lose him from the Sunday School. At that age you must not call him your "baby boy," or "mamma's boy," he hates everything pertaining thing to babyhood, and tries to cut all such"' things: Sunday School is one of those things. On Saturday night he can run a foot race with an} boy in town, and is ready for anything on Monday morning: but on Sunday he feels so badly: his toes are so sore, and his feet so bruised, that he can't pos sibly wear his shoes to go to Sunday School. This disposition may be illustrated b\ the :»oy who came home from Sunday Sen ol, and upon being asked to repea. *ie golden text, re plied. "It is awful to !e well on the Saboath dav. stead of the familiar il U do well on the boy has a horror of .sually the result of the part of the par sers. or false friends, idea that it is Frequently, t/ being too got .w, false teaching ents, pas'.ors, tea Many boys have the manly to le a little tough: they are like the little girl, who when asked if I she was a good girl, replied, "Not jvellygood or not velly bad, just a [comfortable little girl." In other words, like some of their elders who ought to know better, the boy thinks if he keeps out of jail, he is good enough: and, of course, 'anybody who keeps out of jail, is too good to go to hell. So the boy not only has a dread of being too good, but sees no necessity for it. Then, workers among boys give up too easily:i they are not persevering enough in the right way, at the right time. The boy who wanted really to be good, had the right idea when he prayed, "Lord, make me good, and if you don't succeed at first, try, try again." Now, who is responsible for the majority of bad boys and wicked men today? I answer: reless parents and voters are responsible fcup nine tenths of them, either directly, or in directly. You ask a hardened sinner AT LENDERS Clothing Store You will find some exceptional bargains in Fur Trimmed and Plush Linep Over coats for Men and Boys from $4.50 to $45.00. A chance to save money—now. Mens and Boys suits are being sold at very Low Prices—To' is the time to act. Men's Fancy W shirts-the rage everywhere. Fi up to $2.50. And sweaters, L. and Boys, $1 up. Mens and Womena *«*lt shoes and SLIP PERS at very Low Pr es. Extra stock of Mitte .a. Hats and Caps for Men and Boys. LENDER* Clothier MILBANK, S. D. brought Everv Boston, ihe president of the old Col- houses ami money compared ony Railway, and brother of the am bassador to England, tells me that the original John hoate was a "bad egg" and the old court records at Salem confirm the suspicion. In 151, lie was arrested for stealing Mr. Hub bard's apples: in 1."7 he war arrested and tried ior lying. "Yes" he says, "I think they are worth it, because we havn't any other kind of material out of which to make men," and I reply. "That's so, 1 never thought of that before." If we do not save the boys. what will we do for men after a while? If boys are not worth saving. God pity our girls, and futuregenerations. I Hut. the boys are worth saving: and I wisely, loving, it is i.H \our duty and mine to help obedience from him to his present state. community people want it to be. "Oh," see for may seem I and he will reply: Sabbath desecra-' He has one boy about thirteen years tion. the saloon, gambling, the public I old. who has been carefully reared, dance, the theater, or something, i but last summer the boy got to smok Some one of these rppealed to himjing. His father says, "Now John first, then followed other, and often you must not smoke any more:" and worse things. John promised to stop. The next someone "vou are wrong there: no I the promise. The third time he whip one wants "to men go to ruin.''jped perhaps not. but they want something last, in despair he said to his wife, "1 else worse: and usually that some-j don't know what to do with John. 1 thing else'the almighty dollar. They have tried every plan 1 can think of. think if sin is licensed, the taxes make a ti^ht for' fumes secretary of state. The aggregate future?of ('hoates iMirnim llotf Island. righteousness and de. in.-y. sometody breath, sajs, looking Inn. in the eye, is seventv y.-ars. Charles ('hoate of might burn them out. What ate with character, manhood, purity, heavens' Tin* late Bishop Joyce ol the M. h. church tells of a man who refused to take a stand righteousness and for God in his community in any waj. who afterwards paid fifty thousand dollars to keep his son from the gal lows. i- »he cute for i to say. "I won do it, or for tut small boy to use profane language but the fruits in after years will be anything but cute. The parent who vet firmly, exacts the child, will have little to fear in after years, and in my estimation, hothing at all. if his neighbors' children have the same training. The seeds of not fail to bring a harvest of right eousness, even in this day and age of the world. It is a common failing of parents to or reprove their children for which they punis his theory. Here is another boy. whose father has a plug of tobacco ip his pocket or a cigar in his mouth, and he says, "Now, Charles, mother says you are using tobacco. 1 don't want you to do that, it isn's good for boys, le sides it is a dirty, expensive habit. If you know when you are well off you will let it alone." Later on there is another interview, and father prom ises to administer the birch, if, and if, and if. Of course, the birch is used at a later date, perhaps six months, when it is too late, and the boy makes a lot more promises, which he never intends to keep if he told you what he thought, he would say very emphati cally, "You old hypocrite, you, if you want me to quit, why don't you quit yourself?" A friend of mine, who is a doctor in southern his own experience along this line, is just what the time his father prayed with him, and says' John promised again, only to break ,lis Lack of dicmline on the part oi uie, ui uu i|inur u to his eves, and he savs, les. I wi'l, father The result has l»een parents is today one of the alarming conditions in the "J that two have quit smoking instead of It tl obedience will themselves, indulge in. The mother says, "Now, Johnny, a lie is a very bad thing: you must always tell the truth, no matter what the cost may be," yel. this same, mamma promises Johnny a dozen whippings a week which he never re ceives. The father says. "Now William vou must not go down town after sup per, but father goes down, perhaps for the mail, and does not come back for four honrs. What is he doing.' Oh. don't ask me, he is a man. and not accountable to anybody: but this soon gets old. and William goes out the back door about five minutes after father goes out the frontldoor. bather, or elder brother, (the elder brother usually sets the pace for the rest of the boys) says, "The pool-room is a bad place for young boys:" but the boy wants to learn by experience too, just the way you are learning it. and he knows that either your preaching, or your practice, closely resembles a lie, so he goes in when hecan to prove more than thirty thousand who were Christians, and said, "We attended Sunday School before we were twelve years of age." Iowa, gave me some of i him, with the same result. At will I only to fail." His wife, smelling the of cigars on her husband's "There is one thing you havn't tried jet you havn't tried quitting the habit, yourself." The doctor's coun tenance fell, and he says, "That's so, 1 never thought of that before. I'll quit if you think it will have any ef fect on John." So the next day after dinner, the father says. "John. I've quit smoking for your sake: will you quit for my sake?" John looked at 'ather a moment, the tears coming one, and the father looked cleaner and more handsome this summer, than 1 ever saw him look before, I do not think that I need to ask the (question, "Does religious work among bovs, pa*?" yet 1 want to refer you to a few facts and figures Itefore we go further. I But does the work pay? We, I Americans, want to know if it does, we will lie interested. W. A. Hillis, Superintendent of the American Sun day School I'nion, of Cleveland, I Ohio. says. "Nine thousand children on the Pacific coast were taken from the slums: heredity was all against them: they were trained up to seven years of age, and only one of them was ever arrested, and the charge was proven to be false." The Secretary of State for Michigan, said in his seport. "There are nine hundred and four boys and men in the Michigan penitentiary: ten of them on being received, said, "We at tended Sunday School regularly." eighty livr said, "We went irregular ly" and eight hundred and nine said. "We never went to Sunday school." Comment is unnecessary. The Chief of Police for New York reported, "Among one thousand two hundred prisoners in the penitentiary, not one had ever received Christian training up to seven years of| age." Mr. Hms also says, "In my worK of thirteen years in eighteen ditlerent states, I have found but twenty per sons who were Christians, and had not attended Sunday School before they were twelve years of age. In the same congregations, I have found Whin we consider the fact that boys lost to the Sunday School are lost to the church, and often lost to every thing else that is really good and up lifting, we ought to awaken to the faet that we. of the present, owe some thing to futuregenerations. It is well to bear in mind that the solution of the boy problem does not begin or end In the Sunday School. Those who are interested in public schools have something to think about, also, for they have come near er failing in holding the boy, than the Sunday Schools. Less than one third of the graduating class from our public schools in the United States last year were boys. And it is claim ed that only about five per cent of the entire day schooi enrollment ever [graduate, but this only deepens our perplexity, and makes the problem harder. Someone has summed up the causes for the boy dropping out of school, and especially the Sunday School, as follows: First, primary causes with out the Sunday School. 1. An insatiate desire for money on behalf of parents and boys. 2. juoose morals in city and public life. Detbronment of the family altar and private devotions. 4. Laxity regarding the sanctity of the Sabbath. 5. Want of comradeship between father and son. 6. Secret and social societies' claims upon fathers and mothers. 7. Late hours for the bov's home coming. 8. Trashy literature and yellow back novels. Non-attendance of parents at Sunday School. 10. Want of home co-operation with the school. 11. Laxity of parents regarding the adolescence period. 12. The daily papers advertise and speak well of the things the school condemns. Second, primary eauses within the Sunday School: In not seekiug a solution—sitting down hopeless:treat ing boys as children—"kids"- an ef feminate gospel by the teacher son appreciation of the manly in the boy failure to understand the boy life loose management, bad order, and poor music: want of efficient teachers not knowing the bo 'in Lhe home, on the street, and in the school: fear of seeking personal salvation: partiality towards girls, etc. Many cures have been proposed, such as Letter teachers, separate rooms, rnrre social meetings, class organization, boys' brigades, etc. No doubt these are all good in their place, but they are some like trying to teach the day school by letting the iris blow soap bubbles, and teaching the boys to fly kites and play marbles. They will not take the place of real brains, kind hearts, good hard work, and faithful prayer. •I believe it is necessary for us to know what a boy is, Mr. John Orchard says, "A boy is a two-legged animal with the propelling ower of a steam engine, and the res nee of a mule. He is the newest a -ell as the oldest discovery of perpetual motion he hears everything from the steeple to the saloon—the pure and impure( false and true, manly and unmanly— yea, more than mother and father combined. He has eves that wander to the air-holes of vice, that see into the cess-pool of sensuality, that look over the bar and gambling table, the cigar and cigarrette counter. Noth ing escapes his eagle-piercing gaze. In heart he is as brave as a Spartan, true as steel, loyal as the most de voted slave, and yet, withal, as soft as wool and as sweet as honey. His mind roves over space, seeking some thing new: when found he lets you know it by an Indian yell, or an acro batic somersault. With boys, he is as boistrous as a traction engine with girls, as meek as a lamb. A per feet paradox to his parents in that he works so bard at play, and plays so hard at work. Yes, our boy is this, aLd we are glad. Fun, frolic, mis chief, dare-devilishness are his— therefore, we must handle him as gently as Sambo handled the hind legs of his mule." Another has said: 1. He is not a male child, nor a young man, but a boy. 2. Physically, he is house building and can not be expected while thus en gaged, to be enthusiastic in the in tellectual and social pursuits which occupy those long settled in their homes. 3. Intellectually, he has Btrong imagination, fair memory, vivid fancy, and is just beginning to reason for himself. He worships force and daring, and his ideal is a strong, brave man. 4. Emotionally, to understand him, you must count his pulse and his im pulse. He is trustful, self-reliant, willing to help, absolutely loyal to his chums. As to his tastes, he may be analyzed as fifty per ceut fun, twenty per cent tight (delight to con quer), twenty percent investigation (in the world of matter and mechan ism), five per ceut work (where no compensation or suitable reward is offered), and five per cent religion. Spiritually, he has a very ten der concience. a leaning to faith, an impressible heart, and occasionally has great thoughts and deep feelings about (iod and the future. (5. Socially, he is indifferent to the other sex, and fond of the society of men. 7. He is an immortal beine, quite unconscious of how he is mapping out his own destiny in the ideals and habits he is forming." Not onlv must we know what a boy is, but we must know where he goe*, and what he ooes: not to ^py upon him, but to learn his likes and dis likes, his dangers and his needs. Thrn we must know what he hopes to he. and what his special talents arc. Here we may !e the best friend the tmy ever knows. Often pa rents. xnardians nt teachers are so tinappri»a able that jhey are the last to kuow that the boy has any high aspirations at all. and when by ac cident or otherwise they learn the secret, how many are so cruel ae tu peddle it abroad as cos sip, or speak so slightingly or thoughtlessly that the boy either becomes discouraged or stu diously avoids those who ou^rht to be in the beet position to help him. If we are really interested in the boy we will want him: and we will want him because we are interested in him. Some teat hers nave an unwritten si^n hung up in their class room, ''Only bright, «ood little blue-eyed Kirls wanted here. The boy feels h« is not wanted, and as there is an institution where he is wanted and needed very mnch to make business lively for future years,) he goes where he flnds a hearty welcome. If we want the boy we will let him know we want him. The proprietor of the sa loon puts himself oat to let the boy know he wants hitn. lie spends time and often money to make this known, because he eipeets to reap a dollar for every nickel he invests. When he sets the boy he lLtsrests him eo ha will come back igain If you and I would win our way against such obstacles, we must be as wise as the world. We must let the boy know he is wanted: and then at any cost or sacrifice, interest him when we get him. This in not an easy tiling to do, but love will flud a way. Love never fails. A little boy in Chicago walked by several Sunday schools near hia home, week after week in order to at tend the school where he formerly lived. Some one asked him why be did this, and he replitd after a moment's hesitation, '-Well, they love a fellow over there." We must love the boy. More depends on na than on the boy. The boy is not loved. He is loved when a baby and when he is in kilts, but when lie becomes, well—just a boy, no one iovee him. This is manifest everywhere, even in the home and day school. The teacher wonders how she is to on with the boy she teaches him and then goes t»way to talk about "that horrid boy." Often the home does not seem to he for the boy. If we go for au outing the boy is left behind: if any ono i9 to wait at the table, the hungry, growing boy must wait/' Two boys were waiting patiently for the minister and his fiinily. whojwere guests in the house, to finish dinner. Grace had been said at the beginning of the m«»al.and as they were about to leave the table, the minister suggested that they return thanks for the blessings received. Of course, this WDS new to the boys, and one of them was heard to remark. "Oh my Hill, it's all up with as now they are going to begin all over again." It costs something to wave the boy—our furni ture, our carpetp. our tune, i ur best endeavors, and our love—but love v* 1 find a way. The The mother who had seve pleudid boys, when asked what method she us in managing them, replied, "why bless yon, I i ve seven methods. It is a favorite argument i evil that religion is a dull, glaomy, kill joy flair. A dyspeptic stomach and a religion wit. love and common sense left out. is chi«-Hy sponsible for this kind of argument. BieliO Inc.ent says, "Never try to take the boy out of u oy to make liim a Christian—what he loses is orth more to him than what he receives In 1 exchange. Rather lead him into the paths of t..artic*) When ®nr Ileavenly Fat tried all other methods himself, he sent his son and whan Jesus beheld loved him—not after he but before. If yon and most love him as we fin faith in iod. Teach him the glory of hard service for Christ. Teach him to pray daily, to love the Lord as he doee does his mother, to be trtu always and ev. erywhere, to avoid ah prete »e, and to represent the power of Christian 1 'h at home, on the play ground, at school or in le street." This is much easier said than done, but love can find a wav. in ih.lworld PIMent.y ch young ruler, he become a disciple Id win the boy, we A godly man had a wa him much trouble. As i father consulted with the her wayward brother the him leave home, he is a trusted friend of the 5amily sad it might be a gaod thing to do, and perhaps bring him to hia senses. On Christmas day, as they were all gathered at the father's home, the question was brought up again with the same result. The fa ther seemed inclined to follow their ad\iceand caat the boy off: but instead of doing thia he went to the boy, put hia arms about bis neck, and with the tsars streaming from hit eyes said, ion who bad given tber was dead the daughter about hter said, "Make grace 10 08." A Robert, your sister says cast you off: your elder brother and your friend saysthe same but, Rob ert. I cannot thruat you out, and u long as your poor old father has a crust to eat and and a roof over hia head, he will never caat boy's heart waa reached at yon off." The laat he eoon left off hia eyil ways, gave his heart to God, and be came an honored minister of the gospel. "lie that goetb forth and weepeth,bearing aeed for aowicg, ahall doubtleas com* again with Joy, bringing his shearea wilh him," COUNTY COMMISSIONERS Official Proceedings Of Board Of County Commissioners Of Grant County, S. D. Milbank, S. 0., Wednesday. Not. 30, 1910. Board of County Commissioners mat on above date, pursuant to adjournment of Saturday, November 19, 1910, with all members present. The following bills were audited and allowed and warrants drawn for the same. C. E. McQowan, merchandise to county..$ 55 Heury Samuelson, judge of election and making returns 60 S. T. B. I'otter, judge of election 8 00 W. O. Storlie, judge of election 00 C. Cooper, clerk of election 8 00 E. O. Smogard, clerk of election 1 00 Town of Kevillo, nse of polling place..... 2 00 Sherman Lull, professional service rend ered Mrs. William Grave? Rejected Tliad L. Fuller, state's attorney, salary for November, 1910 75 00 Drs. Karn, Holsta & Kara, professional services to 8choff 2 50 W. W. Downie, supplies to eoanty 24 00 George Ogle 4 Co. atlas to county treas urer ottice 15 00 George Ogle Co, atlas to sheriff office.. 15 00 George Ogle & Co. atlas to county auditor ottice 15 00 News Printing Go. election sapplies to county 104 70 W. I. Hall, posting notices of primary election 2 Chas. McWaters, stamps to county l&flt Regiua Gillan, witness fees and mileage in case of State vs Van Asch 2 SB Perkins Hros. Co. supplies to county 16 da Raymond Hublou, witness fees and mile age in case of State vs Van Asch...! 2 40 Axel Cunningham, witness fees and mile age in case of State vs Van Asch 2 80 Chas. McWaters, freight, express and water rent 5 51 National Office 8upp)y Co. supplies to coiintj 16 tvi Brown in Saenger, supplies to county 65 81 Hammond & Stephens Co., supplies to county 14 •& •1. O. Nelsou, court scrip 12 60 News Printing Co., supplies to county 13 OS W. S. Nixon, deputy register of deeds, salary for November, li'10 65 0ft Fred H. I'urdy, superintendent of achools, salary for November, 1910 101 SO Ethel McWaters, deputy county auditor's salary for November, 1910 65 00 A.J. Lindahl. deputy county treasurer's salary for November, 1910 65 00 J. O. Nelson, county treasurer's salary for November, 1910 125 60 L. L. Conright, janitor's salary for Nov ember, 1910 55 Chas. McWaters, county auditor' salary for November. 1910 125 60 J. OJNelson, court scrip 56 20 John Angerhoffer, work on county farm.. 52 50 Albert Helm, su|erintendent of county farm, salary for October and November, 1910 110 60 Fred Cross, sheriff, attendance in circuit court 12 60 Joe Kde. work on county farm 60 William Claues, work on county farm.... 9 65 Mrs. Fred B. Purdy, clerk in superintend ent's office for October and November,.. 9ta& C. E. McGowan. irercliandise to county farm 22 W American Book Co., school books to county 49 06 Thos. L. Bouck, attorney by order of court 25 00 Fred Cross, sheriff fees and mileage in case of State vs George Brown 92 92 August Berkner. shredding corn for county farm 54 00 Dr. H. G. Harris, medicine and care of Mrs. Munson $10.00 Rejected August Berkner, work on county farm 6 Adam Summers, merchandise to county farm 2 5c Farnham Printing and Stationary Co. snppliep to county 4 00 William Damerow, juror fee£ and mileage in case of State vs Wookman 1 1C R. A. Berkner, service as county commis sioner per diem and mileage 10 20 John Ericksou, service as county commis sioner per diem and mileage 5 60 Application of Minnie Anderson for a loan of the Permanent School Fund of $500.00 on the nw^ of ne|4 and neJ4 of nwl4 section 21 119-50 waa approved. Application of Charles G. Swan for a loan of 14000.00 of th« Permanent School Fund on then^of section 24 118-50 was approved. Application of'John Aasen for a loan of §450.00 of the Permanent School Fund on the vl'2 of nwJ-4 of section 21 121-50 was approved. A refund of $2.91 was granted Horace Davidson on lot 5 block 2 town of Charlestown the same being an error io assessment A refund of£$1.00 dog tax was graniMi Anna Koder, she and the assessor having filed an affidavit that she had no dog for the year 1909. A refund of 17.13 was granted Josephine L. Jennings for the year 1909 in Milbank on real estate the same being an error in extending the valuation. A refund of $7.51 was granted Mrs Pearl Crawford for the year 1909, in Milbank on real estate the same being an error tin the unto the gospel of love extending the valuation, Board adjourned sine die. Chas. McWaters, County Auditor. False Hopes. After Dave Darrlngtoo lost hi* Yoice he used to rap on the trough of his pig pen at feeding time. Then at woodpecker went to live in the pl9 pen, and the hogs went crazy.—Tha Ramrod ders. Mankind and Dogs. If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bit* jrou. This is the principal differenc* between a dog and a man.—Pudtffe head Wilson's Calendar. Average Duration of Human Life, The average duration of human life Is about thirty-three years. One-quar* ter of the people of the earth die ba fore the age of six, one-half befora the age of sixteen, and only about one person out of each 100 born livaa to an* ag« of sixty-live. ——. 7fj/f-