TOPEKA STATE JOUKJSAL, SATURDAY EVENING, OCTOBER 7, 1905.
KATE CLYDE
Discusses the Woman Who Finds It Easy to Make Friends, but Diffi
cult to Retain Them Incidentally She Explains Why She Fails Some
Timely Hints For the Woman Who Likes to Be "In the Fashion"
mW NEVER seem to have any luck
with my friends," remarked Mrs.
So-and-so plaintively.
Then, as no one made any
eomment, she went on.
"It isn't as if I didn't make friends
easily, because I do, but I never seem
to be able to keep them. I dare say it's
because I have
no money to
entertain them
as some folks
do. When you
are poor you
can't be popu
lar!" After she had
taken her de
parture old Mrs.
Gossip gave a
cautious glance
around and then
began :
"Hum! Did
you hear Elea
nor So-and-so
wondering why
she doesn't keep
Through every room and j,er
friends ?
every closet.
And she thinks
it's lack of money, does she? Well, I
should say not! It's just lack of deli
cacy!" "Lack of delicacy!" we all cried.
"Yes, a plain case of too much fa
miliarity the kind that breeds con
tempt, you know. As she remarked
very Justly, she makes friends easily,
for she has a charming manner, but
after she has reached the point where
she calls the new acquaintance by her
first name, then the trouble begins.
She take3 all kinds of liberties comes
to stay three or four weeks at a time
in her friend's house, borrows her
things and lets her pay all the car fare.
In a word, she thinks friendship is an
excuse for taking liberties.
A Glaring Instance.
"You know how intimate she was last
fall with Mrs. Swellton? Well, you
notice that she has stopped gushing
about her dear Clara, end that you
don't meet her at the Swellton musicals
any more? Let me tell you how that
happened:
"She called at the Swellton apartment
to get something she had left there.
The maid couldn't find It, and what do
you suppose that woman did? After
Women Members
Dr. Almah
IT one of its annual meetings the
ML National Conference of Chari
Jfc" ties and Corrections adopted
resolutions recommending that
women be appointed members of man
aging and advisory boards of charitable
and penal institutions, hospitals, state
reform schools and other special
schools and of all public establish
ments where the housing, feeding,
clothing and nursing of numbers of
persons were demanded. In the con
ference suggestions it was mentioned
that wherever the co-operation of wo
men had been tried in the management
of such institutions the results had
been highly satisfactory. This state
ment was made:
"Numerous public institutions, justly
regarded as models, Including orphan
asylums, general hospitals and hospi
tals for the insane have their internal
and financial affairs managed wholly
by women."
The conference further recorded its
Judgment that the failure of the states
to avail themselves in the management
f public institutions of woman's su
perior knowledge of domestic economy
entails a pecuniary loss as well as an
Imperfect administration of affairs.
The conference then clinched its rec
ommendations by the following two
statements:
"To deprive women suffering either
from mental or bodily disease in public
institutions of the benefits accruing
from having their sex represented in
the board of management is an arro
gant assumption of power often re
sulting in unintentional cruelty.
"To deprive children of counsel based
on a mother's experience and of that
faithful interest which comes from
the motherly instinct by placing them
In institutions under the sole manage
ment of men Is not only unnatural,
but is a wrong from which sooner or
later society must directly or indirect
ly suffer."
The recommendations of the national
conference of charities and corrections
drew general attention to the so to
speak one legged management of pub
lic and state institutions, even those
In which women and girls are forcibly
detained. There soon began to be a
sprinkling of the feminine sex on state
boards of charities and corrections as
well as on the managing committees of
hospitals and special schools. Some of
the chief officers inside such institu
tions are now women of broad and high
culture.
A notable appointment recently made
la that of Dr. Almah J. Frisby of Mil
waukee to be a member of the Wis
consin state board of control. This
admirable appointment was made by
the governor after the state legislature
had gallantly ordered the board of con
trol to be reorganized so that Dr. Fris
by might be made a member of it.
Dr. Frisby has been an active medical
practitioner in Milwaukee for a num
ber of years. Early in her career she
became warmly Interested in hygienic
and sanitary science and studied till
he became an authority on these sub-
she had ascertained that the family
was out she went through every room
and every closet, even where Mr.
Swellton kept his clothes, and she
poked into the farthest corners.
"Now, whether she relied on the new
French maid's ignorance of English
and Mrs. Swellton's imperfect French
to keep the incident a secret, I don't
know, but she certainly was too con
fident. The maid, partly by signs and
partly by giggles, related to her mis
tress how the strange madame had
pushed the clothes so and peered in
so even looking into the box couch,
where madame's evening clothes were
kept!
"As Mrs. Swellton listened in amaze
ment her face grew as red as the rose
in her nat, and she compressed her
lips into a firm line, which meant
either murder or social ostracism.
"And that was the last time she ever
received Mrs. So-and-so in her house."
As to Dingle Dangles.
"Why do women wear so many din
gle dangle things?" asked a bachelor
friend of mine.
And I'd like to know why myself.
The well dressed woman doesn't, of
course, but the well dressed woman is
the exception; the others are the rule.
I have often longed to line up a crowd
of women, tie their hands over their
heads, and then, furnished with a large
pail, I should go among them picking
otf the super
fluous chains,
bangles, stick
pins and bows
of ribbon with
which they are
decorated. Aft
er this I should
donate the pail
ful to the poor
and set the wo
men free with
the assurance
that they now
"looked like
something."
And it is the
same way with
colors. A wo
man ma.v be
Partly by signs and part- rearing a brown
ly by gtggles. taHor made re
lieved with gold colored touches. Why
on earth does she not remain satisfied
with that instead of adding to it a hat
of State Boards
-a
J. Frisby
HQ
jects, so far as anybody can be au
thority on that which is constantly
changing. From 1889 till 1895, aban
doning temporarily her medical work,
Dr. Frisby was professor of hygiene,
and sanitation in the University of
Wisconsin, then she returned to her
profession. She is still, however, a
member of the Wisconsin state board
of regents in the university.
Before her appointment to the board
of control Dr. Frisby was frequently
employed by Governor La Follette to
investigate the sanitary and other con
ditions in state institutions, so that
the duties of her new post include
nothing novel to her in the way of
work. She has convictions of her own,
and one of these is that the special
knowledge and experience of women
qualify them to take charge of the de
tails of household economy which have
to be looked after among the state's
dependents. Moreover, she declares
the judgment of women is necessary to
SMART WINTER GOWNS.
The two gowns seen in the picture are opposite examples of smart winter
modes. The model boasting a long coat effect is carried out In a mixed gray
tweed. The dainty bolero frock is of green broadcloth elaborately trimmed
with braid.
GIRL'S PANAMA FROCK.
The girl's frock illustrated is of wine red panama cloth. Panels set In the
skirt at the gores give a pretty flare at the bottom. The Eton jacket, which
has a double breasted effect, is strapped with cloth and trimmed with enameled
buttons.
trimmed with some totally different
color; say. turquoise blue!
A brown eyed woman with brown
hair asked me the other day what she
ought to wear for a fall suit!
As if there could be any doubt at all
about the suit's being brown, with her
coloring.
Figure a brown haired, brown eyed
woman clad in a rich reddish brown
cloth suit, relieved with a velvet col
lar or velvet bands. Imagine with this
determine healthful conditions, .occu
pations, proper care and education of
women and girls in state institutions.
Economic use of materials is one of
the most important matters in public
institutions, and this the doctor thinks
should be under the especial super
vision of woman, the natural econo
mist. Dr. Frisby, while instructor In the
department of domestic science in the
University of Wisconsin, took particu
lar interest in promoting courses of
study adapted to the training of per
sons who are to have charge of the
food, housing and sanitary conditions
of hospitals and state institutions.
She has had wide training and ex
perience. After being graduated from
Wisconsin university she went to the
Boston University Medical school,
where she obtained the degree of M. D.
After that she practiced her profession
awhile in Milwaukee, but left in 1886
to become resident physician in a
Philadelphia women's hospital. Dur
ing the summer of 1888 she was phy
sician at a large hotel in the Catskill
mountains. Then she went back to
Milwaukee and resumed medical prac
tice there. But she was soon called to
a professorship in the State university,
in 1895 resigning that also, for the
third time to open an office as medical
practitioner in Milwaukee. Dr. Frisby
belongs to the homeopathic school of
a big brown muff and a brown fur
stole. Also the hat would be of brown
felt, with a velvet band and a couple
of brown wings placed among a lot of
russet brown roses. Does not the pic
ture appeal to you? And can you
imagine any woman of that type look
ing unattractive in such a combination?
Artistry Above Money.
A pretty costume for a black haired
woman is of black cloth, very tailored
medicine. She is known as one wisely
helpful to her own sx and to the poor
and dependent classes.
While Dr. Frisby is the only woman
on a Wisconsin board of control, in
some other states the feminine sex is
more numerously represented on such
commissions. State boards of chari
ties and correction generally consist of
from seven to nine members. Nine
states have women members, usually
two in number, on these boards. Mas
sachusetts has two women on her
prison commission. New York, with
its 7,500,000 population, has a state
commission of charities consisting of
twelve members, only one of whom is
a woman.
For twelve years New York's woman
member of the board of charities was
Mrs. Josephine Shaw Lowell, philan
thropist and sociologist. This noble
and public spirited woman is the au
thor of several books, one of them be
ing a comparison between public and
private charity, another discussing in
dustrial arbitration and conciliation.
In her public life Mrs. Lowell has
manifested the courtesy, kindliness and
sympathy which ever mark the true
woman. She has never been of those
who make the fatal mistake of trying
to imitate man by assuming in business
a brusque, "professional" manner, which
is at once rude and repellant. The ever
flowing womanly sympathy must be
combined with professional knowledge
and knowledge of business or woman in
so called masculine places will be a
failure. LILLIAN GRAY.
VARIOUS PHYSICAL EXERCISES.
Gardening is excellent for the upper
and lower limbs provided, of course,
that the work includes the honest use
of the spade. The term "gardening" is,
however, rather vague. Cutting flow
ers and similar flirtations with nature
may enable one to take pure air, but
they are not to be regarded as forms of
exercise.
Downright hard gardening needs al
ways a corrective. It tends to make
one stoop. It is not the sort of thing
one would recommend for developing
the figure. Military drilling or the use
of the dumbbells will correct the stoop
ing tendency.
Rowing is unexcelled for the arms
and upper part of the trunk. It is one
of the best exercises known when it is
carried out with regularity and energy
of stroke.
Let exercises be mixed. Tennis,
hockey, golf, rowing, walking, spade
using, etc., will build up a far better
physique than any one singly. One ex
ercise tends to correct the faults of
carriage brought about by another.
Brisk walking helps the entire body.
CHOOSING A WIFE.
A curious annual custom is celebrated
at Klui, -near Moscow.
There, at Epiphany, the marriageable
girls of the town line up the principal
streets, all decked out In their simple
finery, and many of them having with
them the stock of personal and house
hold linen which is to form part of
their dowry.
The young men who desire to marry
walk down the serrieid ranks of maidens
as they go toward the church, and each
selects a partner for himself. A formal
visit to the parents is made as soon as
the young people have come to an ar
rangement, and a date is fixed at once
for the wedding.
and tight fitting. The furs are black
lynx, and on the black hair there Is a
softly molded felt hat of old rose,
trimmed with black velvet and crushed
roses to match the felt.
I can tell you it is not the money
spent In a costume which counts. It
is the artistic color scheme which
pleases the eye.
Have you noticed the vogue of sil
ver ribbon on the new evening hats?
I saw a recent importation made of
pale pink tulle. The edge of the brim
was trimmed with a wide band of sil
ver ribbon. A pale pink aigret stood
up at one side, and at its base there
nestled a silver rose with a center
made of gold.
I can't begin to tell you how very
smart Uiis was.
I notice in the shop windows a lot of
pompadour silks. These are charming
for elderly women, but I never could
like them on young matrons. The pret
tiest uses which can be made of pompa-
Pieking off superfluous chains.
dour silk is to turn it into a Louis XV.
jacket, to be worn with a much ruffled
lace skirt. It also makes beautiful
evening coats, but only for the favored
few who have their own carriages of
course.
Much velvet will be seen this winter,
and, in fact, I should describe the sea
son as one of rich materials and spruce,
almost exaggerated, outlines.
Before I close I want to say a word
about back combs. They are worn
plain at present, and if you have one
ornamented with any sort of filigree
keep it for evening wear or put it away.
The most modish comb now sold Is of
heavy shell, or imitation. It has three
heavy knobs, rather oval in shape,
which slip down over the hair.
New York.
THE NARROWING HOME LIFE.
"Wer nie sein Brod mit Thranen ass"
("He who never ate his bread with
tears knows not the heavenly powers")
says Goethe. And there is the dan
ger that she who never felt the iron in
her soul will do little to ease the pain
of any fellow soul. The private life is
an excellent and a beautiful thing when
it is founded on affection and tender
ness. But to lead a private life, and
only a private life, is for most women
not beneficial. It narrows the mind
and restricts the sympathies. It makes
a woman think that because she never
ate her bread with tears bread comes
easily to all, ana there are no injustices
which she need trouble herself to rec
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MRS. CLARE BEECHER KUMMER, MUSICAL COMPOSER.
Wherever is a trace of the Beecher blood, in male or female, there seems
to be genius of one kind or another. The latest member of the famous family
to attract attention by intellectual gifts is a young woman, Mrs. Clare Beecher
Rummer, living in Bloomfield, N. J. Mrs. Kummer is a composer so versatile
that she writes both the music and words of her works. A leading theatrical
manager is soon to produce an entire musical comedy by her. It is called
"Noah's Ark." The manager contracted for the work before it was half done,
so pleased was he with It.
WHAT THE LONELY,
DULL LIFE MEANS.
NOT long ago a young wife com
mitted suicide because she had
to live away from her "folks. '
Her husband adored her and worked
nights and overtime to get money to
make his bride happy. One night he
went home and found her dead. There
is no pathos at all in this story, only
crazy foolishness. The young wife
made no attempt to brace up and meet
the situation like a grown woman who
owed something to a good husband for
whom she had left her parents' roof of
her own free choice. She might have
occupied her mind, if she had had any
mind, with a course of instructive
! reading, with study, with investigating
i the places of historic and artistic in
' terest in the great and beautiful city
: to which she had gone with her hus
' band. But no! This silly creature on
tify. In words she may admit that
women workers are to be pitied, but in
deeds she will be most effective if she
has at some time of her life worked,
felt and suffered with them. And the
time is at hand when women of the in
dustrial class who do not find that all
doors are kept comfortably open for
them will ask matrons and maids for
something more than philosophic com
miseration and the gratifying assur
ance that "there is no place like home."
DRESS TO BE PRETTY.
To youth and health the girl who
wants to be attractive must add the
grace of neatness and suitable dress.
She should study herself, her good
points, that she may heighten; her bad
points, that she may lessen their ef
fect. A girl with red hair, for instance,
may so dress herself that she will be
delightful to look at. She must learn
to choose the right shade and color.
She must avoid purples, crude pinks
and violent contrasts, but the bronze
browns, creams, faint blues and delicate
greens may suit her and bring out the
loveliness of her complexion and the
rich lights in her hair.
A stout girl must not wear plaids,
nor load her dress with trimmings and
flounces. A slender girl, on the other
hand, should avoid stripes that add to
her inches.
Attention to shoes and gloves, to nice
ty in the matter of neckwear, to cuffs
and collars, and the trifles that give
pretty finishing touches will make a
girl seem beautiful, when perhaps she
has little claim to that distinction.
This is not a question of a good dress
maker and a long purse. Any girl with
a pattern, a pair of scissors and deft
fingers of her own may dress beauti
fully. Materials are cheap or expen
sive according to their lasting quali
ties, and a girl will often look prettier
in a simple muslin dress than an
elaborate one of rich material.
THE GIRL WHO SUCCEEDS.
The girl who succeeds is the girl who
works on the theory that what is worth
doing at all is worth doing well.
She puts as much earnest endeavor
into the small tasks as the large ones.
She does not spend her time looking
forward to the end of the day when
work will be finished, nor does she drop
eveiything the instant the clock strikes
the hour of freedom.
You do not find the successful girl
rushing to her place the last minute;
she gets there in time to settle down a
bit before the day's work begins.
Punctuality is the keynote to success,
and she knows it.
She realizes the value of dress and
dresses as well as her income will al
low. Health is necessary to success, and,
realizing this, she takes as much ex
ercise as possible, keeps reasonable
hours and sleeps with her window open
the year round.
She is not easily disheartened and
does not feel if things go wrong for a
day or two that her career is a failure.
Lastly she is pleasant in her manner
to outsiders. And there you have in a
nutshell the secret of the successful
girl.
ly slumped down and whined like a
baby for "my folks!"
The trouble with this woman was
that she had no brains or mental re
sources within herself.
Then there is Mrs. Mortial. "Oh,
dear! Oh, dear! How can I ever put in
the time?" plains Mrs. Mortial. "I've
got nothing to do all day long, and I
just die of dullness."
"Why don't you mend your clothes
and keep them in order?" said a tidy
friend, whose eyes slowly roved over
Mrs. Mortial's rumpled, ripped and not
too clean home negligee.
"I'm not going to darn and mend,"
said Mrs. Mortial. "What's the use?
When things begin to wear out I just
throw them away and then get new
ones."
"Then why don't you study some
thing music, French or German or go
to lectures or go in for physical culture.
See how fat your are getting!"
Mrs. Mortial yawned. "I'm not go
ing to punish myself. It won't bring
me any money or get me any finer
BEGIN WHERE YOU ARE.
If you want to be happy,
Begin where you are.
Don't wait for some rapture
That's future and far.
Begin to be Joyous,
Begin to be glad.
And soon you'll forget
That you ever were sad.
If you want to be happy,
Begin where you axe.
Your window to sunlight
And sweetness unbar.
If dark seems the day.
Light a candle of cheer
Till its steady flame brightens
Each heart that comes near.
If you want to be happy,
Begin where you are.
Tune up daily discords
Till out of their Jar
New harmony rises.
Rejoicing and sweet
And onward, in music.
Go over your feet.
LONG COAT FOR A GIRL.
Black coats for girls are agafei to be
smart. The long coat illustrated is of
black velvet lined with pale blue satin.
The sash belt, which is such a stun
ning feature of the model, is of black
satin. To be worn with it Is an attractive
black velvet picture hat trimmed with
pale blue ostrich feathers. Such a
costume on a fair haired child would
be extremely effective.
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS.
Who is wise? He who can learn from
everybody.
Who is strong? He who can control
his passions.
Who is rich? He who is satisfied with
his lot.
Who is honorable? He who honors
others.
clothes. How stupid life is! I wish
something would happen."
"But gracious me!" said her friend,
"you've got to do something yourself
if you want to get any happiness out
of life. Why don't you try to do some
thing for other people?"
Mrs. Mortial yawned even more
widely. "I ain't a-goin' to wear my
self out doing for other people," she
replied. Other people don't do any
thing for me."
Mrs. Mortial was too lazy to learn
to speak correct English. She slept or
dozed in the morning till 10 o'clock,
then had a heavy breakfast and
dawdled through the hours till lunch
eon. In the afternoon she went to
drive over the same roads she had
traversed a thousand times, then came
home, had a heavy dinner and gen
erally went to bed after it. The trou
ble with Mrs. Mortial is that the
brains were left out, or she probably
had a small portion, but was too in
dolent to use them. The worst of it is
there are thousands of Mrs. Mortials
in this country.
Loneliness and emptiness of life
come from stupidity or lack of men
tal development. One type of woman
finds her life lonely and empty unless
she is galloping incessantly "hither and
yon." Sometimes she gallops to gather
gossip, again it is her restless, self
tormenting vanity that hustles her
around to hear herself praised and
"made over." She calls it "being ap
preciated." "There I'm somebody; there I'm un
derstood," she says after having been
to some place where a particularly
strong dose of flattery has been ad
ministered.'
The woman of brains has always re
sources within herself. It. is the abso
lute test of intellectual power to be
able to be happy alone a considerable
portion of the time. She who cannot
do this is like a child whose brains are
not yet grown. JANE MOSES.
SHE WOULDN'T BE THERE.
A young lady whose beauty is equal
to her bluntness in conversation was
visiting at a house where other guests
were assembled, among them the eld
est son of a rich manufacturer. The
talk turned on matrimonial squabbles.
Said the eligible parti: 'I hold that the
correct thing for the husband is to be
gin as he intends to go on. Say that
the question Is one of smoking. Al
most Immediately I would show my
intentions by lighting a cigar and set
tling the question forever." "And I
would knock the thing out of your
mouth!" cried the imperious beauty.
"Do you know," rejoined the young
man, "I don't think you would be
there!"
THE VALUE OF SUNLIGHT.
Photographic comparisons prove that
the light on a bright day is 18,000 times
stronger at the seashore and 5,000 times
as strong on the sunny side of a street
as in the ordinary shaded and curtained
rooms of a town house. Sunlight is as
essential to human beings as it is to
plants. Both grow pale and weakly for
want of it. The green coloring matter
of grass and leaves and the coloring
matter of the blood are increased by ex
posure to the sun's rays. Sunlight is
actively germicidal. According to Ro
senau, objects infected with consump
tion germs are rendered free from them
by direct sunshine in three or four
hours.
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