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THE TOPEKA DAILY STATE JOURNAL SATURDAY EVENING, JANUARY 4, 1913.
WB3f" Common SEiKeHOMl LETTED WMAEION A WORD ABOUT NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS. Evry day is a fresh beginning, Every day Is the world made new. afOOU.fclT.hUJ.L.Y true, but It comes to ub with especial force vhcu Mew Y ear's day draws near. Of course, it is f oollsh to lay stress on anniversaries. Each day is an anniversary If you come to that and you begin a new year with every dawn. But in spite of it tbe special date and its associa tions must mean more to us than any chance period and with the exception of your birth day there is no other time that seems more like an end of old t rungs add a start on fresh ones than Jan. 1- .Preeminent it stands as the day for turning over a new leaf and ror making resolution. Does it sound as though. I were upsetting Id landmarks when 1 advise you to decide that your nrst resolve shall be to make few resolutions or none? It may seem rather revolutionary, but If you ponder upon it a little 1 believe you will come around to my way of thinking that New Tear resolutions have a distinctly bad . moral ell ecu Don't Judge Self Too Harshly. In the nrst place they imply that you have been following some course of which you disapprove since you Ond it necessary to make a change, it you have really thought that sometnmg has been seriously ' out of the way with your conscience and I would n.ther condemn your point of view than you. in other words, I feel that the recurrence of the anniversary has led you to look with more severity on your own actions than they really deserve and that you are Judging' yourself too harshly m your desire to make a new start with the new year.- We are all of us more or less the slaves cf other people's theories. 1 may have told you before of the friends who one day called on a member of that body whom X have heard described as "nasty-particular " housekeepers. The visitor had to listen for an hour to the methods her hostess followed in her home, how she took down very picture every week and wiped it off before replasUng it, bow all the woodrwork was scoured every other day, how the rugs and curtains were never allowed to go a week without a shaking and sunning. When she finally escaped after the re cital of these details she was In a state of such deep depression at her own sloven liness in contrast with this pattern of per fection that she felt she must attempt some reform or lose her self-respect permanent ly, she sought her house over for some thing which shrieked for cleaning and found IMP OR TANT NO TICE nECAUSE of ths enormous numlcr of letters sent to the department I must ash. contributors to limit their communications to 100 words, except in cases of formulas or recipes which require greater space. I want all my correspondents to hats a showing in the Corner, and if my tctuesl in this respect is complied uith it will he possible to print many more letters. Attention is called to the fact that Marion Holland cannot receive money for patterns, as she has no connection with any department that sells them. t. Marion Harland. OR a long time I have scanned your columns in search of help I in my particular case, and al- though I have found many good things, the one thing I especially want at this time has not come to light. As it is absolutely necessary for me to do something to ' help out,' I get up luncheons for the) teachers in a nearby school, but I find It hard to arrange a pleasing and satis factory menu with profit to them and to me. Twenty cents is the price paid for each luncheon, and the girls are always hungry, so they require a substantial meal. I need help especially in the matter of in expensive desserts, soups, and salads. Please bear In mind that the food must be cheap, yet as good as possible. Can you make any helpful suggestions? " Mrs. V. M." In this day of high prices you set your self a rather difficult task when you try to provide a good and substantial luncheon for the price you name. I take lb for granted that you have certain luncheons planned for certain days, as in that way you can prepare a quantity of material at one time, thus saving more money than if you were to supply a number of individual dishes. Soups are always economical and, if well made, nourishing. If you keep on hand a good pot of stock you may vary the soup with each passing dayv adding vegetables, tomatoes, beans, etc., to suit your taste. For instance if you have a strong, cleared stock on hand, you may put into It on Mon day soup greens, cut Into dice of uniform size, boiling these until tender, and serv ing some of the vegetables with each bowl of soup. Tbe following day you may strain out any bits of vegetables that remain, adding to the stock canned tomatoes, and seasoning and boiling up once. Then rub soup and tomatoes through the colander, return to the fire, add some boiled rice, and. If you wish a thick soup, thicken with browned flour wet with cold water. An other day you may add onions, and when these are stewed until soft strain them out and thicken the soup with flour wet with cold milk, adding enough milk to make the soup light in color. Or if a brown onion soup is preferred, thicken with browned flour, mince the onions and return to tbe soup. A cheap and good broth may be made of small beans such as are used for baking. Soak these over niht, boQ to a soft mass, season well, add a lltitle kitchen bouquet, and if the pure is too thin, thicken as desired. I have mentioned only a few of the many nourishing broths you may serve. nothing until as she stood at the back' window gazing out disconsolately she saw on the whitewashed rence tne marks of dusty paws a cat had left In her leap across the barrier. Tbe housekeeper flew for a cloth and hur ried to the yard, wiped oft the offending footprints and returned to tbe house com forted by the thought that she had don something to raise her own domestic stand ing toward the pinnacle held by her friend. Seems to Be Penance Time. This Is a sample ot the way in which we are all of us led Into making New-Year's resolutions. Other persons have done It from" time Immemorial, it is the accepted penance for this season and so we search our minds for flaws which we can resolve to correct. I don't mean to say that you are perfect and tnat there is no place for improvement. 1 do afhVm that unless you are a derent sort of woman from what I hold you to be you do your best all the year through and that it is a big mistake to sit down and try to rake up peccadilloes that you feel ought to be reformed. A great disadvantage in making what might be celled periodical resolves is that you are pretty sure to break them and that shakes your confidence In yourself and dis courages you In the attempt to change con ditions you feel to be undesirable. .Yet, since the new beginnings are the life of perseverance I would advocate a few efforts at remedy, partly as tribute to the time honored New Year custom and partly because there is a certain impetus given by the date and you might as well get the benefit of it. If you are the representative, careful wife and mother and housekeeper, always thinking of yourself last, always spending yourself for others, the first reform I sug gest is that you should plan to be a little more lenient in your direction of your own life and conduct. Too Much Self-Denial. You see, I know you pretty well. I have known you for a great many years. I understand how your desire to uo the best for John and the children has be come the passion of your life, so that you have almost no personality of your own left. You have lost your Bense of propor tion and you do not appreciate the fact that when you deny yourself overmuch you spoil the man and the children for whose good you try to' live. MARION Salads are rather expensive on account of the oil that is as a rule used in the dressing. But, oddly enough, my mail today contains a recipe for a cheap salad dressing sent to me by a correspondent. I have not had time to test it, but I pass it on in the hope that you may And it of use. It certainly Is inexpensive. The reader who sends it writes: " This salad dressing wild keep for months in a cool place. The ingredients are one tablespoonful of sugar, one tablespoonfulof flour, one tablespoonful of mustard, a pinch of paprika, one teaspoonf ul of salt, one egg, one coffee cupful of vinegar, one table spoonful of butter. Mix the dry ingredients, add the egg, well beaten, and a cup of vinegar. Cook until thicker than cream. Add the butter when cooked and while still very hot. If too thick, thin It when ready to use with sweet or sour milk or cream. I keep mine In a pint fruit Jar, which need not be airtight." We are grateful for the directions and for their opportune arrival. There Is such a va riety of salads from which to choose that time and space would fall me were I to attempt to enumerate a tenth of them. Of course potato salad, well seasoned and very cold, is always popular, and when served with Swiss cheese sandwiches forms a nourishing meal. Cold boiled vegetables that have been left over such as beets, green peas, string beansv etc. may be mixed together, moistened with a French dressing, and served on lettuce leaves. As cheese is very nourishing, and digesti ble if not eaten after a hearty meal, it may, be served with all kinds of salads. Strips of cheese, or mounds of it grated, can be put on crackers, which are then set in the : oven until the cheese is melted. Serve these very hot. Cups of steaming hot cocoa, made, if you wish, with a really good brand of con densed milk, are a grateful and whole some addition to the salads, or, in fact, to any luncheon that you may serve. Desserts are often . expensive, if good. And yet there are some sweets that do not cost so much as to be ruled out of your menu. Prunes, well soaked and properly stewed, are nice served with sweet crack ers or with eggless cookies, recipes for which have appeared In the corner from time to time. Eggless gingerbread is sat isfying, and is especially nice if accom panied by the cup of cocoa already sug gested. Jellies made of gelatin are not ex pensive, and may be flavored with coffee, lemon, or fruit Juice. A jelly flavored wltm prune juice is good While this is cooling stir into it the stewed and chopped prunes. A wholesome dessert is apple sauoe; an other Is baked apples. Oatmeal and graham wafers and cookies are digestible and nourishing. Will you not let us know at some future time how the luncheon business progresses? Perhaps some of our readers may send some helpful suggestions which 1 can pub lish in the Corner and which I hope you may see. For Whitening Clothes. " Will you kindly insert in the House mothers Exchange a recipe for a washing fluid that will whiten my clones? F. H." To make the washing fluid, dissolve a can of potash In two gallons of boiling water. If you cannot get the potash, use some lye that you have tried and found good. Add For example, there were holiday invita tions sent to all of you. You would have liked to accept one or two of them, but your " party drees ' was shabby, end even if the old one had done for yourself, Mary would have bad to go without a fresh frock " Acknowledge It Is a New Departure in First of January Resolutions to Make Them in Favor of Yielding to Temptations Instead of Resistance." tor the New Year's dance. So you gave up the outing and stayed quietly at home. " You can't trouble me by letting me have a quiet evening to myself," you said cheer fully as you saw the merry party off. HARLAND'S HELPING HAND. to the mixture a half cup of household ammonia and a half cup of pulverized borax. Stir t'iie mixture, take from the fire, cover closely, and, when lukewarm, pour Into bottles, closing; these with rubber corks. When ready to use this mixture for whitening your clothes, put the boiler of water on the stove, shave into it a half cake of a good laundry soap, and bring to the boll. Stir In a teacupful of tbe washing fluid. I take it for granted' that the clothes will have been soaked over night and soaped in the soiled spots. Put them now into the boiler and boil hard for twenty minutes, then turn them into the tub's. When washed clean, rinse well In two waters. "Slopping" When Scrubbing. " I have an expensive linoleum on my kitchen floor. The edees where the strips are Joined are not true," therefore some crevices have formed that are large enough to allow the water to run underneath, which will soon ruin the linoleum. What can I do aboutitihe matter? Margaret." The linoleum snould be lifted and relald so that the edges will come close together. I am sorry that you will be put' to this FAMILY SYJICDAY. BREAKFAST. Grape fruit. Cereal and cream Deviled' kidneys. Graham popovers. Toast. Tea end coffee. LUNCHEON. Bouillon in cups. . Beef stew. Potatoes a la Parlslenne. Whole wheat bread. Lettuce salad with Freneh dressing. Crackers and cheese. Chocolate blanc manse. Sponge cake. Tea, DINNER. Cream of celery soup. Breaded and braised breast of veal. Stewed tomatoes. Canned green, peas. Plum pudding- and bard 'sauce. Black coffee. , MONDAY. BREAKFAST. Baked apples. Cereal and cream. Bacon. Baked cream toast of graham bread. French rolls. Tea and coffee. LUNCHEON. Stew of beef and macaroni partly a left-over. Baked potatoes. Sandwiches of egg and anchovy paste. Crackers and cheese heated together. Cookiea and cocoa. DiKNSR. Combination soup " of canned peas and steweg tomatoes left over from yesterday and flavored by 10 cent can of soup. Veal scallop a left -over . Canned lima beans. Fried salsify. Brown betty. , Black coffee. TUESDAY, BREAKFAST. - Oranges. OereaA and cream. Kippered, aerrings. Perhaps not, but did you think how good it would have been for Mary to have a little lesson in thought for others, in self-denial for the sake of her overworked mother? We mothers have to train our children sometimes at the price of our own appar- cnt selfishness, but the training is good for them, all the same. Another instance of a place for reform is in your treatm.at of that eldest boy of yours. He Is a good lad. but like all other trouble, but I know of no other remedy for the error. May I also suggest obat in cleaning your kitchen floor you can get it quite as clean if you do not use enough water " to run underneath " the floor cov ering? Wipe up with a cloth wrung out in warm water, changing the water often, or. if the floor be so dirty as to need scrubbing, do not " souse " the liquid on the floor, but dip the brush into the pail, shaking off the superfluous liquid, and apply It vigorously. A little water applied frequently will get your floor as clean as would a quarter pailful " slopped " on and over the linoleum and running into the crevices of floor cov ering and floor. j The Case of "Emily F." " How can a man get acquainted with ' Emily F.' ? John T." Forgive me If I say that he cannot, through the Corner. I regret to be obliged to make this statement, but as letters from other men have come to me with the request that they be prlntc 1 In my column, I have good and sufficient reason for declining to give the desired address to other masculine correspondents. We do .not run a matrimonial agenoy, and when we published Emdlyi F.'s letter we did not MEALS FOR A Corn bread. Toast. Tea and coffee. LUNCHEON. Creamed eggs. Toasted corn bread from breakfast. Stuffed potatoes. Thin bread and butter. Gingerbread and American cheese. Tea and Albert biscuits. DINNER. Clear gravy soup. Roast leg of lamb with mint sauce. Spinach. Canned string beans. Date-end-raisin pie. Black coffee. WEDNESDAY. - BREAKFAST. Shredded Pineapple. Cereal and cream. Plain omelette. Muffins. Toast. Tea and coffee. LUNCHEON. Baked pork and beans. Breakfast muffles. String bean and romaine salad. Crackers and cheese. Eagle cake see recipe) and tea. - DINNER. . Yesterday's soup with addition of spaghetti pass grated cheese with it J. Cold roast lamb with mint sauce. Canned pea pancakes. Mashed potato. Waffles and honey. Black codes. THURSDAY. BREAKFAST. Oranges. Cereal and cream. Bacon and fried bominy. Rolls. Toast Tea and coffee. LUNCHEON. Mince of lamb on toast. Rolls. Hot Biscuits. Cracker and cheese. Eagle cake and cocoa. young people and some old ones he likes his own Indulgence. Is there any real rea son why he should be allowed to lie abed until 10 o'clock all through the holidays Just because there is so school, and that the chores he ought to do should fall upon you? Why should you have to stop your other work in the middle of the morning and get a breakfast for a well, strong boy who has slept over the regular family meal time? mean to imply that she was seeking a husband. I am glad to add that kind hearted women have been interested in her case and have written sympathetically of It. One, a woman whose experience has been some what" like Emily F.'s own, writes the fol lowing letter, which x gladly publish: ' I have Just read the communication from Emily F." I have sometimes thought I would reply to other queries that have appeared in your Corner, but have not done so, as my time is very full. However, now I am writing at once, chiefly because of my sympathy for Emily F.' As I read her letter there came to me the mem ory of my own suffering along these lines, suffering that was like hers in almost every detail It is as fresh in my mind as If it had happened only yesterday, but it was fourteen years ago. It appears from the letter in question that matters have not changed one iota for the conscientious and refined-girl, who, from . necessity, must accept a position in domestice service I am a church member and two of the fam ilies I lived with were those of ministers of the denomination to which I belong, and two others were members of this same church. These families lived in different places New York. Albany, Tivoli-on-the- WEEK. DINNER. Tomato bisque. Hamburger steak, baked in a mold and garnished with fried bananas. Sweet potatoes. Creamed onions. Rice pudding. Black coffee. FRIDAY. ' BREAKFAST. Oranges. Cereal and cream. Pan fish. Tea cake. Toast. Coffee and tea. LUNCHEON. Salt mackerel with cream gravy. Southern batter bread made of sou therm cornmea.1. Stewed potatoes. Crackers and cheese. Cookies and tea. DINNER. Black bean soup. Oyster pie. Scallops of tomatoes and rice. Fried potatoes. Ambrosia sliced oranges and grated cocoa nut, and cake. Black coffee. SATURDAY. BREAKFAST. Sliced bananas and cream, with shredded wheat biscuits. Bacon. Sally Luna. Tea and coffee. LUNCHEON. ' For a stormy day, timeout of hamburger steak, onions and diced potatoes a left-over. Griddle cakes - eaten with the ragout, and for dessert with sirup and boner. Bread and butter. Tea. DINNER. Yesterday's soup with the addition of tomats puree. Calves hearts, stuffed and breaded. Masbed turnips. Macaroni baked with cheese. Apple pie. Black coffee. ' "He works so hard lh school time?" Probably he does, but he has the strength for it, and while extra sleep may be good for him, you may notice that if there is a skating frolic or any other festivity on hand he can arise early and make no plea for his need of more sleep. Of course, he likes to lie abed. You would like It. too, if you had the chance, and you need the rest and slum ber far more than the boy does. Let one of your resolutions be to give your son and daughter the chance to learn the beauty of unselfishness for tbe sake of tbeir moth er's comfort and happiness. ' Resolve to Do Pleasant Things. It Is along the same line when you de termine to spare yourself more in a num ber of ways during the coming' year than you have in the one that is lust closing. Have you ever noticed that the prevailing tendency of New Year's resolutions is to ward something hard or unpleasant to do? You make up your mind to be more par ticular about keeping your house swept and scrubbed, to deny yourself luxuries to which your heart clings for the sake of some good object, to get up earlier in the morning, or to do heavy reading. Rarely, if ever, does any one resolve to stop doing difficult things and do something agree able. Our Puritan conscience always in clines us to think that unless a course is rather unpleasant there Is no genuine virtue in It. Try to break aWay for a moment from this point of view and consider the duty to your self and' others of resolving on a little self indulgence. Decide that one of your New Year reforms will be that of lying down for ten or fifteen minutes every day. Convince yourself that you are walking-in the path of righteousness when you treat yourself to an occasional outing-, when you bestow more attention upon your clothes and your own pleasure, when you lay aside for a while the ultra-consciousness with which you have scourged yourself to effort when your worn out body and mind were crying for rest and relaxation. I acknowledge it is a new departure In first of January resolutions to make them in favor of yielding to temptation Instead of resistance. But be honest and tell me if it Is not a harder struggle for you to take the repose and the recreation you need when you must do It at the expense of some one else than it would be for you to re nounce personal ease for the sake of your family. ; We are all of us too prone to seek our own development at the cost of those we love most dearly. You exclaim at this. Hudson, and Los Angeles. Yet In every place I had the same trouble and loneli ness to contend with that ' Emily F.' men tions. I would go to clubs and socials, , but as soon as the other young people discovered what my work was I would be shunned by them all. Nobody knows how much I suffered, and you will hardly believe me when I tell you that the most pain was caused by the actual church, mem bers, who would be friendly enough with me until I was obliged to say where I lived and what my work was. From that time on I would scarcely be noticed. Yes, the memory of it all is still bitter to me, and the only way out of It, so far as I could see then, was to change my occu pation or to marry. I did the latter, rather against my true inclination, for reasons which I need not state here. In some cases in many cases the choice would have proved disastrous. It almost did In my own case during the first years after my marriage. But now as each year opens with a little more brightness in it than the previous one held, I do not regret the step I took. " The only course I can suggest to " Emily F.' is to get away from the cities and take a position Jn the country or in some small : town where she will find herself treated as one fit the family in many respects, and I where she will meet other young people, . and where i. know for a certainty that . she will spend many pleasant hours. I am acquainted with just such young peo ple in a rich and growing district from which we moved six months ago. Such ' persons are to be found all over the coun try away from the large cities. At ail events, the country districts offer chances for the attainment of something better In life than ' Emily F.' appears to find, sit uated as she now is. I wish I could help her. Mart H." : A straightforward, womanly letter. I wish that the writer had given me her full name that I might send It to Emily F. This letter Is a terrible arraignment of those who claim to be the followers and to bear the name of Him who said: " I am among you as one that serveth," and who reminded his followers that He Himself came " not to be ministered unto, but to minister." As I read the letter which I have given here at length one scripture verse ran con stantly through my mind " Wounded in the house of his friends!" This Is not a sermon, but It would be well for each of us to "think on these things," . Preserving Vegetable Marrows. " I have just seen in your Corner a re quest for a recipe for preserving English vegetable marrows. A friend of mine used to prepare them in this way, but I have not the exact .directions. I wish I had. Mrs. K." I am glad to be able to gratify your wish, as a correspondent has sent me in two rec ipes copied from an old English cook book, one of which she hopes is that desired by another housewife who asked for the direc tions for making the sweetmeat. TO PRESERVE VEGETABLE MAR ROWS. Ingredients: Equal quantities of marrow and sugar, lemon and ginger. Method: Feel soma good marrows and take out the seeds. Cut the vegetable Into pieces of the sise of a large walnut, boll them with their weight tn sugar until tbe pieces, which should be shapely, are trans parent. Use no water. Flavor with lemon or ginger, or both, as preferred. perhaps, but think it over a little. Have you never seen families rendered hopeless ly selfish by the unselfish member of the household? I know of cases of the sort where the self-sacrificing wife has under mined the husband's character by her readiness for denunciation, where the ron of the family has been irretrievably spoiled because his adoring sisters gave up every thing to him, where one daughter has been deferred to by parents, brothers, and sis ters until she became Insufferable. Mother Cives Too Much. Almost always such conditions ars In a measure the fault of the mother's passion for giving up everything to those sne loves. The path of self-denial is laid down for all of us, but the trouble with the mother U that she desires to walk It not only for her self but for all those she loves. To change the figure a little she smooths the rough places for them to such an extent that they have no chance to develop ths muscles that comes only from exercise. When their hard time comes as come it must, sooner or later it finds them unprepared to en counter strain and stress because all their lives they have been spared tbe efforts which would have fitted them for the strug gle, and work that was surely awaiting them. So 1 am not counseling you to mere easy self-indulgence by my advice concern ing New Year resolutions. Try to look at yourself, your family, your surround ings with fresh, unprejudiced eyes, and see If they do not need the change I have indicated. Then tabulate the few resolves you feeel Justified In making and cast be hind you the idea of reform merely for re form's sake. Do you recollect the story of the littles girl who had been sent by her mother to pray for forgiveness for soma childish naughtiness? When the -culprit returned from her enforced devotions she wore a look of uplift and superiority that pro voked the mother's curiosity. " O, yes, fl asked God to forgive me," said the child in reply to the Inquiry. " I asked him and he answered me. He said: Don't worry a bit, Mary Ellen. I've got lots of little girls up here worse than you are!'" Lay the like flattering unction to your soul. There are lots worse than you ars and the energy you expend on resolutions for conquering inconsiderable fallings is better disbursed on care for your comfort and growth. VEGETABLE MARROW PRESERVED WITH GINGER. Ingredients: Same as above. Cut the marrow into strips, remove the pulp and seeds; to each pound of mar row allow one pound of lump sugar; lay the marrow and sugar In a pan all night; to every five pounds of marrow add two ounces of ginger cut Into pieces and three lemons, with the thin peel cut Into small strips and the juice strained. Put Into a preserving pan and boll gently for four houra Take care not to let it boll fast or it will crystallize. H. L. R. Becoming a Member of Comer. How may you become a member of ths Corner, or, as I like to call It, ths Helping Hand Circle? Some of the charter mem bers will have it, " The Helping Hand club." To all it Is a big- family bound to gether by a common desire to make the world better and therefore happier because we have lived in it because we are now living in it! The manner of IniUa&on Is tbe simplest one can Imagine. Just watch your opportunity to help somebody by writing to me, in care of the paper in which you read that somebody wants something you can give, and forthwith see to it that the said somebody gets It. It may be a missing line of a poem or the poem entire, the name of a town or of a chemical agent, or of a lost relative. Or a shut-in is re ported as needing books or games or an other means of employing the leaden footed hours. Or a poor seamstress could make an honest living if she had a sew in machine or materials for ruga and rag carpets and bed quilts. The " ors " are beyond count ing. Keep your eyes and heart open in reading tine all too little corner and make your own selection. Tou have earned your membership today by writing out that re cipe when you saw It was wanted. And what I say to you I say to all who have put the same question, One of the most spiritual minded, as he Is one of the most eloquent of living preachers, prays: " May my life be like a house with many mansions, wltih room for the enter tainment of my brethren! " The " entertainment " may be but a cup of cold water, if it be held to fevered and thirsty lips It Is a benefaction. Despise not the day of small things. We welcome you into the circle. Companion for Old Couple. " I read several days ago in your Corner of an old couple who would like some one to stay with them for company. I am a. widow with a. young child and would like such a home life as you describe with these people. I can sew a little and cook well at least, so I am told. I wish you would get me the home in question. " Mas. A. M." Several aged couples have made such an offer as you mention, and have secured such a companion as they wished. It was, moreover. Impossible for roe to give you by mall the address of the persons you re ferred to, as you did not send me the Ini tials signed to their Utter, so I had no way of knowing which couplo you had In mind. Add to this omission the fact that you sent ns stamp for a reply by mall and you will understand why I could not comolv with your request.' I will keep your name and address in case I hear from any one else wishing a working companion in return Sat- a home.