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THE TOPEKA DAILY STATE JOURNAL SATURDAY EVENING, JUNE 21, 1913.
COMMON SENS! m the HOME t, LDITED WMAWON IlARLAND THE CASE OF THE MINISTER'S WIFE. FROM on of my constituency comti to me a letter containing a, request which I cannot Ignore. The writer la the wife of a qfcrgyraan and her communication to me was called forth by our talk on the page a few weeks aero concerning unnecessary demands on our time. She writes: " Mentally I am shaking: hands with you alnce reading your remark about inconsid erate callers. Such experiences as I have bad! " I am a minister's wife that feminine nfortunate whom all women feel free to criticise and to torture. First, I lived in a parsonage and any Tom. Dick, or Harry in the town would knock at the rear door or ring at the front entrance at any hour on personal errands with which - I had no concern. " Callers finding a door unlocked would calmly walk In and through the house until they found my husband or me and before that time they used keys to unlock my house doors until I requested that they be turned over to us. The telephone and door bell rang day and night, especially if a church social was on hand, and those who promised refreshments left cakes. Ice creams, freezers, etc., at my home to be de livered at the proper place and time. " Sunday afternoon, the one day when a minister needs rest, we were swamped with callers. When Lucy lost her handkerchief or Harry his pocketbook I was asked to go to the church and hunt for them. " Now, in another locality, my husband has strict office hours and I do" not see any one outside of regular calling hours, sel dom go to meeting, except to the lightly attended ones, and do no church work whatever. My husband has requested that the telephone be used only for necessary business and never outside of office hours unless In case of sickness or death or a similar emergency. My home is quiet and restful for my family as a result and the head of the house does far more and bet ter church work and ' is quite a success, where beore he was a wornout, nervous man and I a breathless, weary housewife. "' I wish you would write something for the Corner as to what Is and what is not courtesy toward a minister's wife. The average woman seems sadly lacking In knowledge on the subject and any minis ter's wife to whom I have talked has had even worse experiences than mine. If this letter will save another woman the torture I have endured I shall count it a rich reward. A Parson's Wife." Picture Not Overdrawn. When I read such a letter as that and recollect my own experiences as the wife of a minister I feel I must have been an exceptionally fortunate woman. Occa sional trifling annoyances there were, but they were merely pin pricks and could cer tainly not be dignified by the name of " tor ture." No such trials as the writer's ever came my way. Nevertheless I hava seen and heard enough of the afflictions of other ministers' IMPORTANT NOTICE "nECAUSE of the enormous number of Utters sent to the department 1 must ash, contrlbalart to limit their communications to 100 words; except in eases of formulas or recipes which require greater space, t want all mu correspondents to hats a showing in the Corner, and if my request In this respect is complied with it will he possible to print many snore letters. , Attention is catted to the fact that Marion Harlan J cannot receite money for patterns, as shs has no connection with any department that sells them. '- Marion Harland. .rp1 tHIS Is a fine bread recipe, tested for years by the writer: Put a half cake of yeast into a half cup of warm water with three table spoons of sugar. Do this in the morning. Boll three or four potatoes, mash them, and let them cool In the water In which they were boiled. When cool, add yeast and sugar and water, and put this to raise. I set my yeast toraise in the tire less cooker, and it keeps warm until bed time, and I use a hot brick or flat iron In the cooker to help In cool weather. By evening It is In fine condition. Two and a half quarts of the liquid will make about four loaves. I put together a small half cup of shortening and two tablespoons of salt and add this to the liquid, and then stir in enough flour to make a good dough. Let it raise over night and you will have bread fit for a king. R. M. T. I give this recipe because the writer claims so much for It; but she makes no mention of kneading or working It, and for that reason I do not think as highly of it as I do of the following, which came to me by the same mail: - " I have a fine bread recipe, which I think many would find useful: Dissolve one cake yeast In two cups lukewarm water and put with It enough flour to make a thin batter. Set in a moderately warm place over night. In the morning put with the mixture a quart and a half of flour, two cups scalded milk, a tablespoon and a half of butter and the same of lard, two tablespoons sugar and one of salt Knead thoroughly and set In a warm place until double its first size, then make into loaves and place in pans to raise again. This makes four loaves and a pan of light rolls. "Mrs. T. S." A while ago some one wrote asking for a recipe for breadmaking, and said she wanted something fitted to guide a fool! I knew Just what she meant, for to the in axperienced breadmaker the process is full f pitfalls and possibilities of mistakes. wives to be able to believe that her pic ture Is not overdrawn. These memories Join with her appeal to talk today about the attitude of the members of a congre gation toward the wife of their pastor. I know by my own past and by observa tions I have made that in every household of faith there are dear friends and helpers for the wife of the clergyman. I know also that in the hearts of many members of the parish there is a conviction, acknowl edged or Ignored, but firm In either case, that the entire congregation has a sort of proprietary right in the minister and his wife, is free to advise and to criticise and to take liberties that any one of the advisers and critics would hotly resent If bestowed upon herself. r I know also that In many churches there seems to exist an Impression that when the clergyman was engaged his wife was considered as part of the bargain; that her pastoral duties, so far as church work, calls, money raising efforts, missionary and charitable societies go, are not second to his, and that she Is expected to attend service every time the bell rings. In this connection I recall clearly a re mark I heard made by a clergyman who was delivering the charge to the people at the Installation of a minister. " Remem ber," he said, "that your pastor Is a man as well as a minister! " I would alter his remark to read in this case: "Remember that your pastor's wife is a woman :.s Well as a parsoness! Sometimes I wonder Just where began the Impression of the congregation that It had a share in the clergyman's wife. In Mrs. Stowe's tales of old New England we read of the reverence and respect in which tha minister was held, and these feelings ex tended to his wife. In those days there was no talk of her being the servant of the people. Tet my memory, which goes back many years, recalls no period when It was not felt in the majority of churches and by the majority of parishioners that the minister's wife had a distinct duty toward her husband's charge, and she was severely blamed if she failed to fulfill this. Even today it exists In some churches. She Attended the Funerals. " I'm worn to a wrecR attending tha funerals of the flock," a minister's wife lamented to me not long ago. " There hava been eight or ten deaths In the parish with in the last six weeks, and It has told upon me terribly." " But, my dear child, why do you goT I cried. " O, It wouldn't do If I didn't! I always call at the house of mourning at least ones before the funeral, and then go to that, too. It's very wearing! " After hearing that I was not astonished to learn a week later that the victim had broken down with nervous prostration and had been sent to a sanitarium! Although it happened years ago, there still remains in my mind a call I received one cruelly rainy day from the wife of a MARION The second recipe I have given with its exact measurements, and its instruction to let the bread raise to twice its original bulk can be followed even by the green hand at breadmaking with a likelihood of good re sults. I wish all who send in recipes would not take for granted too much knowledge on the part of the reader, but would make every detail clear, for the sake of the pos sible Ignoramuses. Way to Hang Lace Curtains. . " Will you please tell me the correct way to hang lace curtains? I am an Eng lishwoman and a young housekeeper, and I come to you for help. I notice most people have the curtains only the length of the windows. I have some fine Irish point and other expensive curtains, and it seems such a pity to cut these curtains, as they are three and a half yards long. " Mrs. E. F. S." Indeed it would be a pity, and more than a pity, to cut such curtains as those. A few years ago when in Dublin I bought Irish lace curtains for myself, and no mat ter what the passing fashion nothing would lrduce me to cut those draperies. I know It Is the fashion to have curtains the length of the window, but it is also good style to have them fall to the floor, and you need not feel yourself out of the mode if you follow the latter method; or you may make your curtains approximately window length by your way of hanging them. Throw them over the pole Instead of pin ning them and suspending them from rings, and drape the superfluous amount as a sort of flounce or valance at the top of the curtain. I have done this myself with great success at a window where I did not wish to have the curtains fall the full length. Do not tie back your curtains, but let them hang straight. Directions for Washing Comforts. " Some one asked for directions for wash ing comforts, and I was so successful with some last spring I am glad to send this: " First, lay the comfort out flat and draw into shape, making all smooth. Note whether any of the ties are loosened or not, and If so retle, and tie more in the center of each square, as no cotton will remain In place properly unless the tufts are well and securely fastened. " Then place the comfort In a tub of lukewarm water In which has been dis solved a small handful of borax. Press down and keep under water for one hou.. In the meantime scrape and dissolve thor oughly one-half cake good white soap in a gallon of hot water and add to the tub. pressing down the comfort so that the soap Is well mixed in the water. Let it soak another hour. Work with the hands by pressing down for a few minutes, then take a small scrubbing brush, using mora minister. It was before the days of street cars, and she had walked through the downpour to ask me if my husband knew anything of the whereabouts of a certain colored laundress who attended her hus band's church and who had been reported as in want. My caller's husband was in bed with a cold and it was incumbent upon her to look up the needy parishioner. The haggard, worn face, the utter weari ness of her whole drooping body touched me to the heart. When I learned a few weeks later of her complete breakdown, persistent insomnia, and then of her HARLAND'S HELPING HAND. soap, and scrub the soiled places, but do not rub on the washboard. " Rinse by using plenty of water, at leitst twice, and hang on line from one end, em ploying a good number of pins. As soon as It begins to dry at top change and hanij from the other end, or if you have clean grass to spread it upon place it with tho wrong side to the sun and shake lightly occasionally until it has partly dried, when It can be hung on a line. FAMILY SUNDAY. BREAKFAST. Bananas and cream puffed rice feat them together). Bacon. Popovers. Toast. Coffee. LUNCHEON. Beef loaf. Yorkshire tea cakes. Hashed potatoes, browned Endive salad. Crackers. Jam. Iced tea. DINNER. Cram of lettuce soup Roast shoulder of veal. Baked fresh tomatoes. Potatoes browned In pan Strawberry Ice cream. Cake. MO.XDAT. BREAKFAST. Oranges Cereal and cream. Dried beef with egg. Rolls. Toast. Coffw. Ll'XCHEC. Mince from beef loaf heated, with remainders of baked tomatoes. Lyoanaise potatoes (a leftover). Cake. Iced tea. DINNER. Cream of carrot soup, luutton chops en casserole, with green peas and Parisian potatoes. Baked macaroni and cheese. Fresh raspberries and cream. ' Coffee. TUESDAY, BREAKFAST. Stewed rhubarb. Maple flake ajid cream Bacon. death, I felt she had been made a mar tyr to her husband's charge. I never heard that they were moved by remorse to mother the six little children she left behind! One plucky parson whom I knew an nounced boldly when he accepted a call he wished it to be clearly -understood tha "Eycryont zrfpee to epiticire the. JTmirltT'sr wife: congregation was engaging him and not his wife. She was in sympathy with his aims and was a devoted church worker, but he insisted she take only the part which any earnest Christian woman would feel she could perform without neglecting her duties to her home, her children, or " Let me add that the Corner appeals to me because there are so many genuine helps and there is such a neighborly spirit throughout the whole. J. M. S." Thank you for the directions, which differ somewhat from those already sup plied by other housekeepers, and thus go to confirm what I have always declared, that there Is more than one right way cf doing a thing well. I am happy to know, too, you have found the Corner of help MEALS FOR Poached eggs. Toast. Quick biscuit. Coffee. "LUNCHEON. Sary stew from remainder of mutton chops Baked potatoes. Toasted biscuit left over from breakfast Cream cheese. Strawberry Jam. Ginger snaps Tea. DINNER. Clear tomato soup. Veal curry (a leftover). Iced bananas. Boiled rice. String beans. Strawberry shortcake Coffee. WEDNESDAY. BREAKFAST. Oranges. Cereal and cream. Creamed eggs. Corn muffins. Coffee. LUNCHEON. Cold veal, sliced (a leftover from Sunday) Fresh tomatoes sliced. Rice muffins (a leftover) Stewed prunes. Cake. DINNER. Brown potato soup . Broiled steak. French fried potatoes. Young beets. Queen of puddings. Coffee. THURSDAY. BREAKFAST. Oranges Hominy and cream. Bacon omelet. Whole wheat biscuit Toatt. Coffee. LUNCHEON. Hash of bee-f and potatoes fa leftover). Toasted biscuit (a leftover). herself. She was not to be president of the missionary society or of tha benevo lent organization or of the church guild or to run the infant class. This Is an excellent position to take but not easy to retain unless the church people are In sympathy with It. When they are not backward to say the minister's wife should be " a true helpmate " and to point out how much more efficient are the wives of other clergymen who undertake to man age all the beneficent sgencles of the par ish it Is only natural for a wife who has her husband's Interests at heart and Is and that you feel the neighborly spirit as much as the rest of us do. Let us hear from you again. A Danish Cook Book- " I would like to Inquire If there is any way In which I could obtain a Danish cook book, or If I could get some good recipes for sweet soup, ablesklver, and kliner. I would like a book if I could get A WEEK Beet sa'.ad with lettuce (a leftover). Hot gingerbread. Iced tea. DINNER. Vegetable soup. SiUfTed calves' hearts. New peas. New potatoes Asparagus. Strawbsrry Ice. Coffes. FRIDAY. BREAKFAST. Orange. Cereal and cream. Creamed codfish. Rolls. Toast. Coffes. LUNCHEON. Warmed over Brunswick stew. Popovers. Btrawbery float. Tea. DINNER. Lamb soup (foundation from Brunswick stew). Salmon steaks. Bleed potatoes. Asparagus. Bread and raisin pudding Coffee. SATURDAY. BREAKFAST. Oranges Cereal and cream. Shirred ggs. Quick Sally Lunn. Coffee. LUNCHEON. Creamed salmon In nappies leftover. Cheese toast, baked. Asparagus salad (a leftover). Cookies. Tea. DINNER. Barley broth. Veal cutlet with tomato sauce. Potato puff (a leftover). Lima beana. Syllabub. Caka. Coffee. eager for him to make tne best of his charge to throw herself into the work and , attempt d'utles she has no business to as sume. I met such an one In a little country town last spring. The rector was underpaid and overworked. There was a cluster of small children in the rectory live under 12 years of age and the salary did not war rant keeping a servant. Yet the rector's wife drilled the choir and sang In it, pre sided over the different church societies, at tended all the services, made pastoral calls In the parish, and1 In every way served as one and would gladly buy it If I knew the price and where to get It. Mrs. A. L. 3." Unfortunately I cannot give you the In formation you wish, but there Is no doubt that some of. the Danish housekeepers who read the Corner will be able to help you out or that some one will know where you can get the book you wish. The names of the dishes you ask for I have printed Just as you send them, and I take no au thority for their correctness. Your name and address will go on file, and I hope before long there will be a call for th-m from some one who can supply either the recipes or the book. Need Room Furnishings. " Can any of you who have more house hold goods than you need do something to help a family who have recently moved here from Scotland? The husband has suffered terribly from rheumatism through the winter and is unable to work. They have a room they could let If It were fur- soap and water If you follow the directions nished. and this would help to lighten their I have given. terrible burden. They need a rug, dresser. Should any of my readers have trust mattress for a three-quarter bed, pillows, worthy Instructions for washing a chamois bedclothes, and towels. I would not ask vest I would be giad to receive and print this for myself, but I know the need of them. this household. The initials of the man whose family are in want of these things are R. C, and his home Is in Chicago." The last time I moved I regretted bltter- !y that I knew of no one to whom some of my surplus household good could have been of service. In my new home there was no place for a number of excellent pieces, a little worn, but still well worth keeping, although they would have brought no !)- lng If I had tried to sell them. It may be that among the readers of the Corner the-e are some who are in a like position or who are the possessors of attics and lum- ber rooms they would like to clear of superfluous objects. In this hope I print the above letter, thinking that thus some, at least, of the wants of this destitute Scotch family may be supplied. I hold their full address and will give it on appli cation. Difficult to Clean. " Will you please Inform me how to clean a chamois under vest? I know It cannot be boiled or washed like other clothes. Also Will you please tell me how to clean white the readers of the Corner can tell me where ribbon? I have a beautiful one, but It Is I can get a recitation called Caleb's Court soiled now and when I have washed other ship ? It begins something like this: X white ribbons it has made them turn yellow had no time for courtin' when I was young and flimsy. C. W." and spry- I saw It once In a magazine and A chamois vest Is rather difficult to clean, nT reader will furnish me with a copy because of the risk of Its being spoiled In I will gladly pay postage on it. D. D. C." the drying. Make a suds of warm water To you I make the same response I did to and a good soap, putting a little ammonia the writer of the preceding letter. Your with it; rub the chamois vest clean in this, application may meet the eye of some one as you would a chamois glove, and rinse in who can grant your wish, and in the hop water of the same temperature. Unless you of this I have your address on die. the clergyman's stated assistant or parisli worker would hava done If h had re ceived a salary for her efforts. And the women of the congregation calmly per mitted her to do It! Never did It seem to occur to them that they should throw them selves into the breach and lift some of the burden from her overweighted shoulders. She was the rector's wife and this wr.s part of her Job ! Sure to Be Criticised. Even when fewer duties lr t.. lir.e ot church work are laid upon the minister's wife, even when she is not found fault with and Judged harshly when she does not call regularly upon all the members of the flock, even when she is not accused of hav ing her own favorites among the church people and showing mora attention to them than she does to others, criticism awaits ker m other lines. Shall I be making too sweeping a state ment If I say that nearly every woman in the congregation feels she has the right to pick flaws in the housekeeping of the minister's wife, to demur at the manner In which she trains her children and man ages her servants to say nothing of the way she treats her husband? Think, of It carefully; be honest with yourself. Don't you hold the notion that you hava a liberty in the parsonage or the rectory or the manse which you would not claim In the house of any one else whom you know no more Intimately than you do your minister's wife? Don't you consider that you understand her duties and should suggest to her changes In her manner or her conduct as you never would to the or dinary friend or acquaintance? Don't you say sometimes that someone ought to speak to the pastor's wife about her neglect to call on this one or that, or upon the fact that her front steps are not so clean as they should be or that her children whisper to gether in church or are late at Sunday school? If you are guiltless of any of these Incli nations the minister's wife In your church Is lucky to have you as a member of her husband's congregation I am glad to think that more and more the parishes that can afford It are supply ing their clergymen with helpers author- lzea aias in tnis worn. v e noi oniy nave the assistant minister or the curate; we have also the parish visitors, both men an women; the home missionaries, the deaosnesses, and others of the same type. The time has either gone by or Is going when all the labor the parson could not dis charge was allotted his wife as a matter of counra Tet even now she has not won rer full right to her own individuality, to the pri vacy of her home, to the same status as the ordinary lay woman. Lei me echo my correspondent and say that If this talk will result in sparing another woman what some ministers' wives have endured I shall count It a rich reward. have a frame to dry it on, as you would a sweater In like circumstances, you mu-t watch it carefully and pull It into shape as it dries. If you don't take great pains you will get It out of shape hopelessly. For this reason I think you would be wiser to put It Into the hands of the professional cleanser. The white ribbon Is another matter. Wash that, also. In suds made of warm water and a good white soap, rinse It In water of the same heat, to which you have added a trifle of bluing, hang It to dry, and while It still Is damp press It between two thick smooth cloths. If you do the work properly there Is no reason why It should not come out looking all right. If you prefer, wash It in gasoline, keeping this away from the fire or a light. Dip up and down In the gasoline, rubbing soiled spots between j our Angers and pouring the gasoline oft and exchanging It for fresh when the first Is soiled. But I think you can do as well with Dog for Protection. "My husband Is away from home much of the time, I have five small children, and we live In the suburbs and I am constantly afraid of the house being broken into by some lawless men in the town. Do you suppose that any of your readers could help me In securing a collie or a IS'ewfound- land dog? I will be so glad to get one for the protection of my children and myself. I am not able to pay either express or freight, but I would be grateful to receive one " Mrs. U. m." The home of the correspondent Is In Mis sissippi, so that any one who could give the dog probably would have to pay a good sized sum for Its transportation unless It was sent from nearby. I hold the address and will be glad to send It to any one who wishes to supply her request "Caleb'j Courtship." Will you kindly inform me If any one of