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Tho Hohomlnn Newnpapor Man Cannot
Afford a Wife-How lie Would lovo a
Woman Who Gould Do HI Type
Writing Tho Ideal Naval Officer's
Wlfo Pays Her Own MesH Bill How
Tho Wlfo of nlitoutonant In tho Army
Kept Her Family on Sixty Dollars a
Month A llrlclcRroom-Elcct GIvcr a
ron IMcturo of His Bride.
As long ago as tho days of our fust father,
Adam, tho need of a helpmeot was fully
realized. Such being tho state of the' case,
and men forever seeking those "better halves
without which their lives are incomplete;
dull, and savorless, the following repre
sentative views of some of the leading pro
fessions among Washington beaux in reference
to the question will prove- of widespread in
terest aud doubtless be of practical value to
the matrimonially aspiring class of young
After getting together a budget of opinions
from the female standpoint it was suggested
to mo by a prominent young bachelor of our
city that "turn about was fair play," and
that tho men should bo allowed an opportunity
to air their sentiments upon the all-Important
question. v
One of my first interviews was with a
promising young Journalist'' whose devotion
to his chosen profession leaves little time on
his hands for the sweet allurements of Cupid.
Yet, all the same, tho sly god hus not neg
lected an opportunity of waving his soft
pinions across his path and beguiled him into
chance visions oithe' fair "might be." Mr.
L 1 whoso full name we withhold for
prudential motives, replies toxmy query: "I
find jt safor to reasiU uhWiy than, sacrlfl.ee oo
much ofJfayindeVridricoand ratfier Bo
hemian existence. A single man may enjoy
hid club, whorp a game or so of billiards or
pool may bo indulged in withoutglvJng cause
for .objection, while a married man
must bo homewlth the twilight, ready
to' " share s his "wife's' Interests' and in
dividual , society, regardless of opposing
tastes and the demands of alluring boon com
panions. Their, too no man should bo will
ing to drag" a woman down to tho hard straggle
for existence that every j'otfng journalist must
wage before he inay hope to attain a 'compe
tency. In truth, I think it best not to jump
out of the frying-pan into tho fire. Should I
choose a wife, however, I would say, give me
one who can use a typewriter in order that I
m&y, dicato'to her, and thereby secure a true
helpmeet in my. work, and ono who can truly
sympathize with me in my- professional
aspirations. For return I will give her my
love and the devotion that her unselfishness
so well deserves. In a word, my wife must bo
to me a 'good comrade' and willing to cheer
fully share tho uncertainties of my lot."
Tho following is a concise but comprehen
sive view of tho situation from tho standpoint
of a naval officer, whoso broad experience of
life and personal attractions of mind and
heart entitle his opinions to be read with con
sideration and carefully digested by those to
whom they are supposed to be addressed. I
copy verbatim his note In reply to my query,
that will give u pretty general Idea of the sen
timents of all brother officers:
"Miss Ghundy, Jn.: I received your note
asking for my views on tho subject of an
ideal wife, and, more particularly, ono for a
naval man.
"I have never given tho subject of matri
mony much consideration, aud therefore my
views would not bo of much Interest to any
one. I do not believe that a naval officer
should get married at all, but if ho is deter
mined to do so, as a great many of them are,
I do not seo why his ideal should bo auy dif
ferent from that of a man In any other pro
fession. A good wife is a good wife tho world
over. Tho only ideal I have ever heard naval
officers describe was ono that could pay her
own mess-bill.
"Ideal men and women exist ouly in tho
fertile imagination of romancers. If we were
to go around tho world In pursuit of our ideals
we would lutfe a harder task than Diogenes
had in finding an honest man.
"I believe iu making your own Ideal after
finding the right person. You meet one that
is attractive and interesting, and whom you
are apt at first to admire and then love. You
oeo only what is good and beautiful in them,
and thus they become your ideal.
'I am afraid that getting married Is like
raising tho ante iu a jack-pot with only a Email
pair. If you have good luck you may Improve
and win tho pot, aud if not you may lose all
you have.
"Ab these are my private views, I trust that
you will throw this iuto the waste-basket and
never.let them seo the: light ofday. Yours
faithfully, II,' R. Sullivan,"
,. , TION,
Here goeB another from a distinguished
member of tho same branch of tho service,
A. Political
e ? vn -j-wv t.tr.
whose bachelor existence wjU erelong be
solved iuto the universal fate towaM'Wh'iclLjbe
flowing stream of love forever tends, and as a
happy Benedict ho will no longer bo entitled
to a space within the present article. "My
wife," replied Lieut. , who prefers pot
to have his name appear .just now In print,
"must be possessed ofjsome practical Idea of
cooking, so-thai at least she , may bo capablp
of superintending that Important branch of
domestic economy, with; the most-to-be-de-slred
result of digestible , dishes 6erved tempt
ingly. In addition she must possess sufficient
musical talent to enable Her to while away the
quiet twilight hours,of. homo life with light
ballads or soothing airs upon tho piano. But
deliver mo from the classic scholar In whose
scientific soul there Is no room for anything
beneath tho classics. I would have my wlfo
well Informed in literature, in order that she
might share with me the pleasures of the
standard works and be able to discuss with
Intelligence the current gossip of tho day,
though devoid of pedantry and frco from that
Belf-appreclatlon that well-read women occa
sionally Indulge In tp tho feeling of superiority
over their less-informed husbands. My wife
must not bo so cultured that she fails to look up
to her husband with tho feeling of respect that
groves tho key-note to domestic peace, though
e, perchance, may not be In all things the
ideaf hero .of her love. Above all things, she
must possess refinement of nature, a true gen
tlewomau, loving, tender, and true. I do not
object to her dancing, In fact, consider the ac
complishment an advantage to both women
and men, but she should be willing to be
guided by her husband in the choice of part
ners, sufficiently a woman of tho world to
hold her own In tho very best society at homo
or abroad. In this respect American girls al
ways prove tho best of wives for naval of
ficers, whoso profession constantly throws
them among the very first society among
European capitals, and when accompanied by
their wives while resident for a whlio In for
eign ports seldom fall to reap the superior ad
vantages of our more advanced system Of
female education, and our women are univer
sally popular. Naval officers who wed Eng
lish girls often too late find out their mistake.
I know of ono such Instance, for examplo,
where a young fellow of my acquaintance
spends the larger portion of his leave every
three yeare or so In crossing and recrossincr
the ocean to visit hla wlfo at her English
home, and thereby loses much of tho domes
tic joy so dear to a sailor's heart, and finds
small opportunity for Indulgence In the so
ciety of his better half."
"These are a few of my views in regard to
true wedded happiness among the profession,
but owing to existing circumstances, which I
am sure you will appreciate," blushingly con
tinued my informant, "I do not care To have
my name appear at present in connection with
bo important a question."
I quote a reply ju6t received from a distin
guished member of tho Geological Survey,
well known as one of our Boclety beaux and
leader of many germane.
"In reply to my friend, Miss Grundy, Jr.'8,
query as to my Ideal of a wife, I have sought
the opinions of my many colaborers on this
all-important question, and have taken their
views collectively In the following:
"In regard to looks, she mu6t be at least at
Infant TVliicli Is Likely to "Be Killed With Kindness.
tractive in general appearance, amiable, and
unaffected e-'must he" filling to share,
without complaining, the husband's Bohe
mian existence! which his occupation re
quires, and able to sew, cook, waBh, and
lrm, so as to be capable of taking tho cook's
place in camp when in some far-off uninhabit
able mountainous country ho unexpectedly and
threateningly says he 'will not cook another
victual unless this here surveying party pays
more money,' or something to that effect.
She must know how to make up cots and
clean tents, and must not fool with the barom
eters or the other instruments in camp, not
bo too Inquisitive in regard to their use,
mu6t be willing to board in a log hut,probably
a mile or so from her husband, and not com
plain If she only has corn bread and bacon to
eat, and also willing to ride on moving day
twenty or thirty miles In a buckboard and
carry a barometer; must be perfectly fearless of
snakes and other disagreeable varmluts, and
never offer suggestions ns to a better way of
runnlug a camp, nor give the cook recipes of
her mother's for new dishes. She must be
able to harness a horse and to saddle and un
saddle an animal when desirous of using one
of the Government nags. She must have no
musical inclinations and be free from gossip
ing. So I am afraid ono will think the United
States Geological Survey man seeks, as did
the 'primeval lords of creation,' for tho
unobtainable, 'the ideal woman.' " ,
An inspiring lawyer writes:
"It would bo suicidal for a young man nowa
days to marry unless ho had tho income of an
Astor. Tho gilded ago iu which we live,
tho demands for social supremacy among the
womon,ls bo great that a man is forced to seek
his club and live in apartment-houses, which
aro dotted all over tho city, for single gentle
men. Women In tho olden tlmoused to lovo,
honor, and obey their husbands, notwithstand
ing tho peculiar law that the wife's personal
property became bar husband's absolutely in
stantly on marriage, and her checks, bonds,
and rents were his also, when he realized upon
them. Should she complain or become un
ruly, she would bo brought into submission
with a Btick no bigger than his thumb. Then,
again, a man had the right to forbid a con
templated visit from his mother-in-law. One
old writer explained this by saying, 'She (tho
Wlfo) may be very amiable, but her connec
tions may not be so.' With the changes of
the lawmaking, womau Is freer In thought
in action. She lost all that strong, deep af
fection for her lord and master, man. The
nineteenth-century idea of submission le char
acterized In a paragraph recently publlbhcd In
a weekly journal. The wife, after a flirtation
with a former lover, was questioned by her
hUBband as to her forgetting her marriage
vows she gave at the altar. She replied 'on
that occasion sho was so nervous she did not
know what she was raying,'
"Man, In'hU generosity to mako woman
more of a helpmate and companion, over
stepped his mark, and now the laws are very
6trong on the womau's side. Sho now keepa
her property, and tho husband, pn marriage,
takes all the debts. Yet a man will marry In
spite of all, and, for a lawyer, he wishes a
woman who cannot argue, whose opinion is
not aa strong as 'tho twelfth obstinate juror,'
and one who does not want the last word,
wljo is skilled in stenography und typewriting,
and who thinks twice uefoie Ehe speaks, for
without these qualifications, 'the joinder of
husband and wife to the suit, the error Is
fatal.' John Doe, Attorney-at-Lnw."
A gallant veteran whose Tvido experience cif
garrison life entitles his opinions to serious'
consideration contributes the following advice
to swell my budget: "Let no young gii I fiesh
from the restraints of school, and as yet un
tried In the practical lessons of life, think to find
freedom through a blind rush into the solemn
responsibilities of a soldier's wife, as so many
fair maidens of wealth and romantic imagina
tion are yearly assuming through the "bond of
matrimony, all unconscious of the trials that
await them and totally unprepared for the
stern realities of tho position. Tho most im
portant consideration is, first of all, for a
woman to truly lovo her husband with that
pure, unselfish devotion that will cnablo her
to.sacriflco every mere personal consideration
In tho desire to accommodate herself to cir
cumstances, and submit with good graco to
small quarters, plain fare, early hours, and a
monotony of routine that, after the first nov
elty of romance wears off, will surely follow
andincvltably prove tho source of disappointed
hopes and bring weary hours of loneliness,
that In the usualdearth of femalo companion
ship must surely result, and unless a woman
bo possessed of something boyond mcro com
monplace attractions, some originality of char
acter and strength of mind, sho will finally
lose heart, und with It all desire to please and
retain the affection of her chosen hero, thus
sowing the seeds of 'that incompatibility which
at length sapB all conjugal happiness and ren
ders domestic life a hopeless tangle, only sev
ered by death.
"Take the word of an old soldier," my men
tor continued, "that tho truo wife for every
Army officer Is ono who Is ready aud willing
to travel in a baggage wagon, seated In tho
midst of her household goods, without rcgaid
to the roughness of the road, or to journey for
miles on tho uncertain seat on tho baclrtof an
Army mule, ono of those much-enduring aud
greatly-abused auimals, whoso fondness for
kicking backwards is proverbially unpleasant
and practically risky. Sho must learn the dif
ficult art of keeping her own counsel and,
above all, avoid the temptation to gossip,
which to a greater or less extent prevails in
every small-sized community and is especially
difficult to escape in the contracted interests
of garrison life. I once dwelt at a quiet post
in the far West whero everything was pleasant
and peaceful, until one day there appeared in
our midst a newly-appointed paymaster and
his gossipy wife, whoso advent waa soon fol
lowed by a most woeful chancre that affected
the erstwhile happy community liko a sudden i
whirlwind amid the smooth Bonds of the dea- I
crt, ana It was not long before tho indiscreet
meddling of the new woman Bet every one by
the ears aud each household at enmity with
the other, while the spirit of good-fellowship
and love in which all had so long dwelt had
fled forever, A soldier's wife must understood
something of practical cooking and, how to
tidy a room and make ifr attractive on little or
nothing, in order that an atmosphere of com
fort may pervade her quarters and thereby
tempt her husband to linger in happy indulg
ence of the temporary dwelling she has ren
dered so homelike, Bet in the midst of the wild
prairies or more secure walls of a fortreus.
Concluded on the Eleventh Page.
Tho DiHlcultlcB in the Way of Securing
tho Avenue Slto Nearly All Cleared
Away What Now Remain to Bo
It Is learned by Inquiry mado of tho District
Attornoy that the Indications aro favorable
for the complete acquisition by the Govern
ment at an early date of titlo to tho site se
lected by Congress for tho now city post office
Tho awards mado by Messrs. Thompson,.
Lonman, and Hamilton, tho commissioners
nppolnted by the court to appraise tho Inter
ests of the several owners of land In tho
Bquare,have been transmitted by tho DlstrictAt
torney to the Attorney General, for the consid
eration of that officer and tho Secretary of tho
Treasury, upon whoso request the Attorney
General directed the Institution of tho pro
eeedines in condemnation. The aggregate of
the awards amounts to $051,215, which is
at the rate of about $10.00 per square foot for
the whole square.
Tho District Attornoy transmits them with
the statement that, In his opinion, althoueh
liberal, they nro not excessive, and ho recom
mends that they be acquiesced In by the
authorities. If tho Attorney General and the
Secretary consider tho recommendations favor- -nbly,
a mottou will be at once made to the
court for a confirmation of the awards.
The holders of tho largest inteiests in the
square, while not BatiBfled that tho full value
of their property has been allowed, have
nevertheless concluded to accept the awards
mado them, and It is thought their actious will
bo generally followed by tho other owners.
But ono of the partleg in interest has so far
filed exceptions to the awards. Tho hopes of
the city for a new post office building seems
therefore in a fair way of realization in the
near future.
The vexed question of the selection of the
Bite was finally settled by tho passage of the
act of CongreBS of June 25, 1890, bv which the
Secretary of the Treasury was authorized to.
acquire the title to the square between Elev
enth and Twelfth streets and Pennsylvania,
avenue and C street, numbered 323, and to
erect upon it "a commodious and substantial
building with fire-proof vaults, heating ana;
ventilating apparatus, elevators and ap
proaches, tor use as a United States poBt.
offico for said city, aud for other governmental'
Thl6 act limited the cost of the building to
8QO,000)V but tho amount was Increased to
$1,900,000 by tho act of August 20, 1S90,
-anil tho latter act furthor provided that
the building should bo fire-proof, with not less
than eight stories, aid appropriated and made
available for the purposes of construction th
sum of $250,000.
Tho act of Congress contemplates the erec
tion of a building not only for post office pur
poses, but "for other governmental nurposes,'
and tho liberal appropriation Insures a struct
ure upon its principal thoroughfare which
will bo an ornament to the cltv and In keop
Ing'wlth tho other offices of tho" Government.
Tho public will await with interest tho for
mulation of tho plans by tho now supervising
architect, Mr. Edbrooke, feeling assured from
bis high professional standing that they will
be entirely worthy of the occasion.
This bulldlnic and the largo buildlnsj to bo
erected by the YashIngton and Georgetown
Railroad Companv for a power-house between
Thirteenth and Fourteenth streets will when
completed effect a transformation in the ap
pearance of the south side of the Avenue,
much to Its advantage.
A Itcmurkablc French Criminal About
to alootlllg DoBorti.
Nancy, May 23. Meunler, the ex officer of
customs who was arrested May 14 ut Landres
charged with a number of crimes, was to-day
sentenced to death. Meunler is a widower,
with two sons. He courted Mile, Jactel, a
wealthy young lady, who rejected him because
ho wob poor. Meunler thou engaged iu a
series of robberies, and eventually murdered a
priest and tho latter's servant. By
this crime Meunler appears io havo
obtained possession of some monev, for ho re
newed his suit, hut was unable to soften tho
heart of Mile. Jactel's mother, who objected,
to Meunler's children. This so incensed'
Meunler that ho set firo to tho Jactel rcsldenco
and its occupants narrowly escaped with thelu
lives. The ex-customs officer, curious to re
cord, had not been detected lu any of these
crimes aud again renewed his bult. After
another interview with Mile. Jactel, who then
appears to have been willing to marry
him, Meunler smothered his eldest boy and
later on shot and seriously wounded the
brother of the young lady ho professed to
love. Mile. Jactel'n brother had earned
Meunler's hatred by forbidding tho proposed
marriage. Meunler, when arrested, confessed'
to all but the murder of the prit6t aud tho
latter's servant.
He Communicates With Cardinal GIB
bona About the New Orleans Affair.
Pabis, May 28. -A despatch to the Figure.
from Rome says that His Holiness, the Pope,,
has written to Cardinal Gibbons asking the
latter to furnish him with details as to the
Hew Orleans dispute, and as to Its effect upon
the ppsitlonof Italians, His Holiness, accord
ing to this despatch, has also requested Cart
dlnal Gibbons to do his utmost to obtain an
equitable solution of the questions which hay
been raised by the New Orleans lynchinge.
Take ItTwith You.
When you go to your summer home a case -of
To-Kalon Wine, for which tho To-KalOn
Wine Company will make no extra charge for
For sale at 014 Fourteenth stroet north
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