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Not Sympathy, for the Fortunate Girl Whose Fickle Lover Elopes With Her False Friend, Says Clara Morris. V eteran Actres and Social Philosopher Mr. Donald Shields Andrews, Who fyJnrri~d His Fiancee's Friend. ONALD SHIELDS ANDREWS, twen ty-two years old and senior of Yale, after a week's acquaintance, c:arried a friend of his fiancee So hasty was th^ wooing of this son of a inillion arie operator in coal and steel, that be neglected the ceremony advised by a mentor of human affairs, "Be off with the old love he-fore you on with the new." Rendered forgetful by the manifold charms of the divorced Mrs. George Os borne Hayne, who was, originally, she fays, the Princess Yetsera or Austria, the Yale senior forgot the usual courtesy granted even in grim business circles. He did not remember to permit his fian cee. Mis3 Elizabeth Strong, of Cleveland, to "resign" her nuptial contract with him. On September 2*?. 1014, there appeared in a society newspaper published in Cleve land this item under the notes headed "Engagements": "Mr. and Mrs. Harry Brizhtman Strong announce the engagement of their daugh ter, Elizabeth, to Mr. Donald Shields An drews, son of Mr. and Mrs. Matthew An drews." On April 27, 1915, appeared in the New York newspapers announcement of the marriage of Donald Shields Andrews to Mrs. Alma V. Ilavne. of Pleasantville, N. Y.. and Manhattan, "who says she is a daughter of the late Crown Prince of Austria and the Baroness Vetsera." The present Mrs. Andrews and she. wno might have borne that titio were once friends. They had even resided under the same roof. Their friendship began in Camden, S. C., when both were guests at that Winter resort. Miss Strong, who i? of assured social position in the Ohio city, was chaperoned by a friend, who was one of the cottagers. They met the Mrs. Donald Shields Andrews, formerly Mrs. Hayne, formerly Princess Alma Vetsera, Who Wedded Her Friend's Fiance After a Week's Acquaint ance. The Boy Is Her Six-year-old Son. former princess and admirer] her eh arm and vivacity. Miss Strong wrote her fiance asking him to call upon hf>r fascinating frioml when he visited New York, lie called at lior studio on Central Park South. They dined together at the Plaza, next door. In a week they were married. Hasty weddings of impulsive youths, sons of rich fathers, to enchantresses who are their seniors are not infrequent, nor especially interesting. The interesting li^tiro is the voting Cleveland girl robbed of her fiaiwo by ber friend. What Miss Clara Morris, tbe greatest, emotional aftress America has ever pro duced, and a keen analyst, of emotions, thinks about little Miss Strone, sobbing out ber grief and ber humiliation in the retirement of ber home, and her plight. Miss Morris has written for this news paper. By Clara lyiorris, the Famous Actress ELL, once more 3 father, mother, friends and detectives it has ? " been amply proven that "lie is a fool who thinks by force or skill to turn the current of a woman's will.'' Particu larly when she is in full pursuit of a gilded quarry. "One more unfortunate, rashly impor tunate" youth has gone to the doom of marriage with a woman older than him self, and, persona non grata to parents and friends. Worst of all, once more we have seen older woman, strong in experience, win ning the younger woman's ideal. Dear, dear! We ca.i only hope no com plications may follow. Our perfect neu trality must be maintained, and yet, a hath robe marriage for the daughter ot au imperial princo is certainly rash, and may throw the stately Austrian court into wild turmoil. But here, it must bo admitted, no one worries much. "Well, they ara worthy of each other, is the general summing up of the public, that would take hut scant interest in the s'.ory were it not for its party of the third part, the victim* of a double treachery, and formerly the fiancee of Mr. Andrews. For her, sympathy is at flood tide. Nearly every one feels that every spark of chivalry is so dead in him that its very ash is cold, for otherwise a little courtesy, a very little manly con sideration for the welfare of the sirl he had meant to make his wife would have left her the attitude of a partner in a broken engagement. But no, she was abandoned with a bold brutality that can only be expressed iu the sordid word, jilted. "Oh, the pity of it?sueli a hitter ex perience right at the threshold of life?" "Poor little girl, 1 never have pitied any one in my life as I pity that child," are fair samples of tho expressed sympathy and pity felt for tlie young Cleveland ex fiancee. Sympathy? Why, yes, of course; but pity? Are not our hearts ruling our heads? Are not. our feelings a hit quicker than our thoughts just here? Should not this young girl he congratulated? In Germany the equivalent of "getting the mitten" is genius or giving "tho basket" (in the sense of waste, useless; undesired), and in country places a bas ket is sometimes fastened to a house as a reminder that someone within has recently been injured. If that, young Cleve land girl is a true daughter of the brave old Buckeye State she has a poker-stiff back bone, a head that won't hang nnd a will that keeps her miles away from a willow tree or willow garlands. By this time she has prob ably bent her pajama'd young knees and thanked her Heavenly Father that she has been delivered from the evil of a lover with a shuttlecock heart and from a false friend who robbed her with one hand, while turning with the other the full glare of publicity "T>on her. And in ?kat spirit may she bring forth her basket, make it bravo in the tulip slory of reds and yellows, rich with rib bons. and then put it forth to rpceivo cards of congratulations and good wishes. Had slip become a wife and leaned for needed support upon this frail reed, it would have broken and have pierced her heart. Then one would indeed offer pity; but to-day let it be congratulations. Is it not something to rejoice at when an innocent, hich hearted, clean minded fiirl. even by the unpleasant method of jilting, is saved from marriage with a man unstable as water, ready to snap at every fly cast by a female hand. If she-be a sturdy young woman?and thank Heaven most American girls are jf ti at type?she will suffer in secret but hold her young head high in public. 1 suppose that she will go straight into a desperate flirtation with some one else to show she "doesn't care." That has ever been woman's way, one of the ways which men profess are to them past finding out. She will take care of the public, appear ances. Trust a high-spirited American girl for that. All may guess but none will know, unless she wishes, how much she is hurt. And when she is alone with her heart, her pride, her ideals, all those qualities which go to the composition of a girl's sc-lf, what? She will agonize. Yes. For that is the nature of women in such crises. Hut she will tell you then and afterwards?would that I had received a "Sobbing out her grief and humiliation in the retirement of her home, when she ought to be thanking her stars for the escape." Quarter dollar, gipsy-like, for every one of such confidences I have received?"It Is not for him I mourn. I see him as he is. It is for my ideal of him that I grieve." And it will he true. No woman wants to marry a weathervane. No siri would take for a husband a man un worthy of her trust, if she realized that he was unworthy. The trouble is all with the dazzle dust that nature catsa into your eyes for her own purposes. It prevents our seeing a puny-bodipd. puny brained excuse for a man as others see ihra. Wo drape him in the ro>al purple of our ideals and adorn him with the gold of our fancy, and it is that bedecked creature we love. We love the product Frankenstein. If someone older, wiser, pain-taught, is only about to tell her this eternal truth of women! Or, if there be none such, if only the truth comes quickly enough to salve her wounds! It is a situation in which the bruised heart recoils from the heavy hand. I hope no one will obtrude advice at this time. No one but myself. Little, lucky. Jilted girl, permit mf\ an Invalid, secluded in my room of pain, to write yon from the wave-washed shore of Long Island the truth, ricture not your self as disconsolate, bereft, humiliated. Regard yourself as the luckiest girl alive. What if you had discovered, too late, that you had married not a manly man but a vacillating quantity, one of whom it can truly be said that the only cer tain quality about him is his uncertainty! You are not to be pitied. Let me tell you who is. It is the wife you might have been, the consort of a man with a roll ing eye and a heart to match, the spouse of a man who is made nervous by the rustle of any petticoat save your own. a married woman at whom half a dozen feather-brained girls would gipgle in their elbow sleeves because your hus band had made love to them at the last dance. Go farther in this true picture. De sertion will follow upon the heels of neglect. In time you would find your self alone. There is no such aloneness as that which remembers companionship. True that is. Also is it true: "We remember the gradual patience That fell on that mound like snow. You recall the poet's plaint, something like this: "A sorrow's crown of sorrow is remembering happier things" Flake by flake healing and hiding The scar of a buried woe." Dear little girl who was Jilted, get down on your knees and thank the good God that you were flouted. For it is better to be jilted by a less than man than to be wedded by him. The jilt ing is the end of your misery. The wedding would he the beginning. No man who is capable of Jilting a good girl is worthy a thought of hers. The only worthy tiling he deserves is that she chant, a Te Deuni over her deliver ance from him. Instead of blocking the path of happi ness for you he has cleared the way. He has shown you. involuntarily and selfishly though it be, the way to happiness. He hag, rid you ot a burden of rubbish, him self. lie has given way to a better man There's a great deal of trash written and printed and spoken about the art of keeping a man. A man. who is a man, will keep himself. The girl who is neat, cheerful, wholesome, can keep her hus band as she retains her friends, for life, if he is worth keeping. If not. pray let him go?the sooner the better. The lucky girls are those who make the prenuptlal discovery of the worthlessness of the al leged man to whom they are pledged. The time will come. and comparatively soon, if you are a airl of American spirit, when you will cease to grieve, when you will cease even to be ashamed, because you have been jilted. Rather will you find it a cause of the most intense Belf congratulatlon nil your life. Hut let us suppose for a moment uiat this litrle ex-fiancee is not of the master ful type, but is rather < f the broken lily order. Perhaps she loved her hoy sweet heart very deeply, with a tender loyalty that suffers under treuchery, but only dies by inches. Let her he comforted by the knowledge that time is merciful to young sorrow, that the touch of his wrinkled fingers leaves healing, and then, too, we' are never so unhappy as we think we are. But she will not believe that Youth is always so tragic. Slill it is congratulation for hers. Young, freo. without blame, and all God's sunlit world before her. Let her not, because a false god came to her for a time, close and bar her heart against the coming of the true god. Surely she will not question the wisdom of her own Bible, which says: "Let us crown ourselves with 'osebuds before they wither." So let her throw the "mitten" Into "the basket" and hang them both on the willow tree, but keep her harp and her rosebud crown for the honoring of the strong, true love, whose coming will bring forth sympathetic and hearty congratulations then, just as her happy escape is the cause of congratulations now. Why Man Can Live Anywhere kVO studies recently made Ky Fhiro pean scientists illi^trate the^ range in nutritive conditions to which the human being can adapat him In one case an Eskimo on the Island of Disco in Western Greenland consumed in one day nearly four pounds of boiled meat corresponding? to So prams of nitrogen and 218 grams of fat. This is said to bo far below the record figure among these people who eat. very large meals at ir regular and somewhat infrequent inter vals. Indigestion and other nutritive disor ders. however, are rare among them and their physical endurance and resistance to cold is very high. The way the above extraordinary meal was utilized by this Eskimo was found to be very satisfactory. The other study was of a man in Co penhagen "who was able to maintain himself in excellent nutritive equilibrium self. and muscular cfflcipncy through lone periods of months, not merely days, on n diet essentially composed of potatoes and tuargarin." Four pounds of potatoes were eaten daily, yielding 3.t>2 grams of digestible nitrogen which with the mar garin amounted to n.000 calories. When hard work had to be performed this man ate eight pounds of potatoes with liberal additions of fat so that the entire enorgv content was brought un ti 5.000 calories with in grams of digestible nitrogen. No dilatation of the stomach was found to result from these monster meals. Such curiosities of the literature of nu trition simply show the great adaptabil ity of the human organism which has enabled man to live in every region of the earth. It is needless to say that neither the maximum nor the minimum of any nutritive element Is desirable. The normal individual lives in the safo medium.