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THE EVENING STAR Washington, D. C. WKPNIgDAT. AP&IL lg, 1983 Mrs. Nixon To Receive At Guild Tea Mrs. Nixon, wife of the Vice President, will be among those receiving at a tea tomorrow to be given by the Woman’s Guild of Sibley Hospital following its annual donation of linens to the hospital. The presentation program will get under way at 2 p.m. in Rust Hall where approximately 5,000 pieces of linen will be on dis play. Dr. John M. Orem, president of the hospital, and Mrs. Elsie Cassasa, superintendent of nurses, will accept the articles from Mrs. Harry A. Jager, guild president. Honor guests, in addition to Mrs. Nixon, will Include Mrs. G. Bromley Oxnam, wife of Bishop Gxnam; Mrs. Hurst Anderson, wife of the president of the American University; Mrs. John C. Millian and Mrs. Philip C. Edwards, wives of district super intendents of the Methodist Church, and Mrs. Wilbur E. Hammaker, wife of Bishop Ham maker. They will receive with Mrs Jager and Dr. Orem. The articles to be presented the hospital were cut and stitched by women of the Methodist churches of Washington from more than 3,000 yards of ma terial. Mrs. W. George Wilding is chairman of sewing for the guild and Mrs. John F. Isaac, j co-chairman. In addition, women of Metho dist churches in the nearby rural areas have supplied many hun dreds of washcloths and cakes of soap for Sibley Hospital use. Tomorrow’s program also will feature a musicale under the direction of Mrs. Orson N. Eaton. Those in charge of hospitality will include Mrs. Charles S. Cole, Miss Harriet M. Howey and Mrs. Virginia Baumberger. Dr. Wil liam R. Wright will head the list of ushers. A flower booth will be under the chairmanship of Mrs. S. C. Slaven and cakes may be pur chased from Mrs. John B. Wilkie and her committee. Mrs. Bernice F. Carlton and Mrs. John E. Thompson will be In charge of donations and hos tesses will include Mrs. Samuel A. Mooers, Mrs. Fred E. Blood, Mrs. Ernst C. Bachschmid, Mrs M. E. Ferrell. Mrs. George V. Gadde and Mrs. Walter L. Fow ler. Diplomat's Wife Onens Ant'oue Show Mrs. Abba Eban, wife of the Ambassador of Israel, cut the ribbon yesterday which opened the two-day antique and hobby show being sponsored by the Sisterhood of the Adas Israel Congregation in the Kay audi torium of the synagogue. Among the other guests attending was Mrs. Herbert Lehman, wife of the Senator from New York. Brandeis Committee Thq Washington Chapter, Na tional Women's Committee of Brandeis University was to spon sor a membership dessert lunch eon today at the home of Mrs. Leo Solet, 2928 Second street. North Arlington. The group maintains and sup ports the Brandeis University li brary. Tomorrow at 12:30 SAKS SALE of wmsmmmmmmmm mmsmm mm. wmmmMmmm Regularly $35 and $39.95 f ' ":i|| WBm We matched a special purchase with \ HI b li IVA /*sr reductions from our regular stock to * bring you these savings! All are Saks ffel/ |JI lIIVH quality toppers in the season’s important | nubby fabrics - Colors—white, red. Open Thursday, 12:30 ta 9 PM. Next Year, Approved Camps List Camp Directory Available, Parents Tips on Selection By Betty Miles With summer near, the Cap ital Camping Association and United Community Services are working to make it a happy one \ for campers. The camping association will j take the next-to-last step this i year in its four-year plan, | launched in 1950, for establish ! ing a system of approval of camps which will be a guide for parents. And the Community Chest agency again is making lists of camps available. These lists may be obtained after May 1. singly or together free of charge, by writing to the Information and Referral Department of United Commu nity Services, 1101 M street N.W One is a list of private camps which are located all over the country, but have local repre sentatives; one is a list of local day camps; the third is a list of resident camps run in this area by organizations. The lo cation, sex and ages of campers who may attend, and the per son to contact will be included for each camp. No attempt has been made at evaluation. But as a result jof investigations the American Camping Association will con i duct this summer, next year parents will be able to look for the association's seal of approv al when selecting a camp. This will be the first time a reliable guide to the quality of the camp to which they send their children will be available to them. Camps are not licensed I —as, for example, is the bar -1 ber shop where young Johnny gets his hair cut. Most of the 12,600 camps in the country, which last year served 4,000,000 children, follow the code of ethics long propounded by the association. But there is noth ing to prevent the most inex perienced, and sometimes un scrupulous, person from setting up a camp—and this has hap pened. Why Grow Old? Experts Can Help a Family By Josephine Lowman I remember vividly the charm ing and witty mother of one of my friends, when I was a very young girl. I have always re called hearing her say, when one of her friends was trying to pick an unpleasant argu ment. “I never fight except with my family.” This seems to be the accepted attitude of those who are de termined to have some pleasant relationships. In away, it is a good thing. Yet there are great fallacies in it. Maybe it would be better to take it out on others and to keep the relationships closest to you the happiest. Un consciously we tend to impose on those upon whose affection we can depend. For this reason, many people have no idea at all how the members of their family appear to others. We expect the members of our family to be able to “take it” because of the way they love us. They do take it much longer than anyone else would, but they are human and cannot help re acting sooner or later like a; human being. Out of sheer self protectiveness they sometimes have to do so. The idea of not airing family problems, of acting as a unit to work them out privately is certainly a strong one. Families 1 ! In order for camps to qualify . | next year for the association j j symbol of approval—which will , be the acorn camp directors ; must fill out a comprehensive questionnaire this year and re i ceive a team of inspectors. Those , whose score is sufficiently high will be approved. Others will be ’ given suggestions as to how they might strengthen their setup to , meet the necessary requirements. S. John Crawley, chairman of . the standards and ethics commit tee of the Capital Camping As sociation, the local section of the ! American Camping Association, ( urges parents, “Visit a camp be ' | fore you send your child there.” This will be important even after the approval system goes into operation next year, for a camp must not only be good but right for your child.’ If the camp is too far away for a visit, find some one who has been there, he said. Mr. Crawley suggests parents keep these points in mind when evaluating a camp: There should be a definite un derstanding at the time the ap plication is made regarding the payment of camp fees; when and to whom they are paid; whether refunds are allowed when a child does not remain the full time, [ and if there is any change in the camping rates if the child re mains for an additional period. “Parents should discuss with their child the type of camp he wants to go to,” Mr. Crawley said, "keeping in mind that the happiness of a child at camp de pends a great deal on his per sonality and the attitude of the parents at home. Association be tween the parents and the camp should be started before the camp begins and continue throughout the season. The parents should visit the camp under considera tion with the child and be satis fied with the location, facilities and equipment.” During this visit, they should should be like that. However, there are so many unnecessary divorces and so many malad justed children because the par ticipants in the battle tried to do this without expert help. When resentments and clashes in personality are of long stand ing or deep enough, they become so camouflaged that they show themselves in silly ways. It takes an expert to find the root of the real trouble. The partici pants are unable to see either themselves or their mates ob jectively. I receive a great many letters from persons in such situations and while I am always glad to help when I feel that I am equipped to do so, many of these people need trained psychologi cal help. If your marriage is not what it should be although the neigh bors think it is perfect, or if you are a young married couple be wildered because everything seems wrong and you do not know why, seek help. See a con ! suiting psychologist or take ad vantage of the trained help you will receive from an organization such as The Family Services of 1 America. Do something differ ent if you cannot work it out yourselves. Don’t mull along through the years in a haze of i friction and fatigue. Expert Gives ! ask questions about the natural camping advantages, look Into the routine, investigate whether the camp stresses the primitive or the formally organized pro gram, and see whether it stresses any particular sport, craft or ' other activity. More Points for Parents Ask to see last year’s menus, and satisfy yourself that they are balanced and nutritious, he added. And check on laundry facilities. “Learn the age and sex of the children who will attend the camp,” Mr. Crawley advised. “Find out the capacity, of the camp and the number of chil dren to a counselor.” In a res ident camp, one adult staff member to eight campers of 10 to 16 years of age is an accept able standard. For younger children the ratio is one to every six campers. “Get satisfactory answers to these questions,” he said. “Are medical and hospital services available? Is there a nurse liv ing on the campsite? Are Amer ican Red Cross or YMCA in structors responsible for the water front? Is the swimming and drinking water tested fre quently by city or State health authorities? What are the types of sleeping quarters and how far apart are the beds? Four feet between ends and 6 feet between side rails is the U. S. Public Health Service Standard.” Parents should note, too, the pre-camp health requirements for both campers and counselors. A thorough health examination is protection for your child and others. Parents should learn whether or not they are required to take their children to a point of de parture, and to meet the chil dren when they return. They should have definite, information regarding the time they may visit, or know why such visits are discouraged. They should know how often thd child is encour aged to write home and if the mail is censored. Censorship is not desirable but parents* should understand children’s written in terpretation of experiences, and remember, too, that they may get a little homesick. They should learn whether they are allowed to send food packages and money, what sys tem the camp has for the safe keeping and control of money, for what purpose money is need ed, and how much. They should ask about the insurance cover age the camp carries for the pro tection of the campers and whether a special camper acci | dent and sickness policy is avail | able Ask for the names of former campers and their parents and talk with them about their ex periences and their child’s atti -1 tude toward the camp, Mr. Craw ley advised. The camp needs certain infor ! mation, too, he reminds, in order | to understand the child better. This material is confidential. The parent should be accurate re garding the child’s age, interests and any physical, personality and mental limitations. Some camps are now making available to the parents a report on the child’s reactions to camp life, Mr. Crawley explained. “The vacation in itself will ' mean a great deal to a child,” he | said, “but it can mean much more if the parents receive the i observation of the counselors on ! how their child adjusted himself , to group living, his achievements, ! his skills and his habits.” • Problems Today Retreat Advised in 'Dog In the Manger' Situation By Muriel Nissen DEAR MISS NISSEN: I am dating a wonderful young man, and we have been very happy to gether. I am 20, he is 26. We en joy doing the same things and I’m happy just being with him. We met through my roommate, who had known him for some time. They both claim their only interest in each other was an occasional date. At the time Chet and I began going together. Marcia was going with another boy. However, now that it is ap parent that Chet and I are be coming serious, she suddenly takes the attitude that he is do ing her an injustice. She has stopped seeing the other young man. We share an apartment, which was originally hers. It’s convenient for me so I would hate to move. Do you think she could be convinced of her folly in trying to upset me, or do you think I should move? SHEILA K. ANSWER: Marcia is a little lady of small mind and soul who cannot bear to see any one else happy while she is miserable. She and Chet couldn’t get along, so she was willing enough to hand him over to you when she had another beau. Apparently, matters didn’t go too well there, either, so now she is left without a man, and is quite determined to have you join her in that state. Should her efforts fail to get Chet back, she hopes at least to spoil your chances with him, /j seersucker BRUNCH COAT Gold or Sil- \\\\ COME, WRITE OR PHONE ver Slippers, / NA. 8-7850 SML. 3.95. I j xdd 2% DC. Sales Tax kJ plus 25c Shipping Charge • WOMEN'S SIZES I M l /* to 22Vz * A /k Stripe Spiced RAYON SHEER rayon \\ underline the \ graceful softness V \ this rayon \ sheer costume The cap J dress sheltered by I / own bolero ngly long sleeves stripes ... the col- ' r lar is part of the a HB smart cuffed pocket and buttoned pleat trim. Black with j | aqua or navy with - / |l pink. I FASHION COLONY I I \ THIRD FLOOR j \ I ■ mm ■ • too. And there, in plain lan guage, is the situation you’re out to buck. While it would be too bad for you to give up your convenient home, the sacrifice would be preferable to having your ro mance spoiled. One solution would be for Chet to find a young man to interest Marcia for awhile. Any male compan ionship that would tide her over until your wedding day would surely be helpful. If no obliging young man can be found, the best thing for you to do is pack up and move, before Marcia gets her claws into Chet. Some frustrated females are most dangerous opponents. Since I doubt that you have the experi ence to cope with one, retreat is the indicated course to follow. If you do continue to remain with Marcia, there’s no doubt but that she’ll make things quite uncomfortable for you. DEAR MISS NISSEN: I am very fond of a boy in my school. For a while he liked me, but my brother says he likes another girl, and my friends say I’m the one he likes. Should I believe my brother or my friends? GERRY. ANSWER: Neither. Make your decision from the way the boy acts toward you. ’ And don’t rush him into a declaration of undy ing affection. Accept his friend ship, and let him take care of the progression. Gamma Phi Beta Officers Installed Officers of the Washington Alumnae Chapter of Gamma Phi Beta Sorority were installed last night at a “pot luck” din ner held at the home of Mrs.; Merlin H. Staring. The new officers Include Mrs. : J. M. Curtis, president; Mrs. G. j E. Simpson, vice president; Mrs. Terry Clark, recording secre-1 tary; Miss Cecilia Buckner, cor- ! respondiing secretary; Mrs. Charles G. Cooper, treasurer; Mrs. Fred Vultee, membership chairman, and Mrs. J. D. Stud ley, alumna advisor to Beta Beta active chapter. ATAC Spring Dance The second annual benefit spring dance of the Aides to All Charities, Inc., will be given from 9 p.m. to midnight Sunday at the'Shoreham Hotel. Mrs. Abe Golden, president, hfcs announced it is open to the public. Proceeds from the event will be used for the organization’s charitable projects throughout j the year. TOPPER J», I^7 Beautiful 100% pure BPy /" wool toppers in dressy \T^r and casual styles in • W checks, solids, fleeces, y m suedes or nubby finishes. M- Every color, every fab ric you could want to # choose from! 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Sales Tax, plus 25c Shipping Charge Zeta Tau Alpha To Review Work Mrs. Lena Hitchcock, occupa tional therapist, will be the guest speaker at a meeting of the Washington Alumnae of Zeta Tau Alpha Sorority, to be held 1 at 8 o’clock tonight at the home iof Mrs. George Seevers, 9338 j Harvey road, Silver Spring, i The annual meeting is de | voted to a review of the philan- I thropic work done by the Wash ington Zeta Alumnae during the last year. Mrs. Hitchcock will discuss her work in the Occupational Therapy Clinic of the District of Columbia Society for Crippled Children. The sorority group publishes an equipment brochure for the National Society for Crippled Children and Adults, Inc. Hood College Club The Washington area Hood College Club will meet at 8 o’clock tonight at the home of Mrs. Brooke White, club president of Fairlington, Va. An election of officers will be | held and plans for a May benefit project will be discussed.