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mother until after she -was married?
Girls have often written me vague expressions of a revolt against na ture, but never before have I received a letter on the subject so clear as the following: Dear Mrs. Gibson-I am a young lady less than 20 years of age. I have a fairly good position, with a satis factory salary. Have boy and girl friends, but at time I am very un happy. I know the reason for my unhappiness, but there seems to be no remedy for it. It Is this: In a few years I will either have to marry, or be considered what the world pities and calls an "old maid." I am not selfish; I never was selfish. I would do anything in my power to help anyone. But I like myself a little too well to marry and suffer what is some times called "going down into the valley of the shadow" motherhood. I love baWes, passionately. I love children of all ages and sizes. I am not a chronic "whiner." I am very happy when I am with friends, of my own age. And when I look about me, when we are all to gether, and think that these gather ings cannot last long, a few years at the most, it makes me sad. They (the other girls) look upon marriage as in evitable, the purpose for which they were created. I don't want to get married. I do not love anyone well enough to marry. I have a boy friend and I like him as a little girl would like a playmate, and if he is still in the "market" when all the other girls have married, I shall marry him. But I will not love him. I shall vmarry him because all the other girls will have married and gone. I shall never be happy afterwards. Perhaps I don't understand these things correctly, but I do. know that I do not want to "go down into the valley of the shadow." I would be glad if I were able to- gee this in, a, different light, but I cannot see it inf any other way. I know that I could make a success of the business I have started out in. But I have got to give up my freedom, and become dependent on a man, and endure a woman's martyrdom just because society in general and my family in particular think it my duty. If girls were not taught from their cradles that marriage was their goal, and that if they did not marry, they were failures, but taught to look upon marriage as one of many careers, which they could choose or pass by, as they wanted, then more marriages would be made for real love and not because the girl believes it necessary that she many "someone." What do you think? T. E. V. I think that "T. E. V." has opened up the most vital problem incident to woman's economical independence and also to modern educational methods. The enlightened girl today can shock her mother with plain state ments of scientific facts, but in few instances is she willing to raise a family of five as her mother did. I think that the new education is far better than the old, but that something must be added to it for the guidance and assurance of bewilder ed and sensitive young women. pKl-Yt." I RAISER BAee ASAifcSTTHE EPJTHer: HF5 eoNEMOTHE J23o '--'rWWriHuiit Artiiuir., nii'riit,; jtfsmsmmmm