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Most Admire in Women 'By Julia iMagmder P fi I Cleopatra Was Not Beautiful. But Charming ? Beauty Com? mon In Comparison with Charm ?The Trustful and Dependent Woman Most Attracts the Man ?The ??Ever Womanly" Wo? man Has No Charm for Others ol Her Sex?The Element of Mystery a Large Part of the At? traction Between Sexes. (Copyright, bj Jotoph p. Bowlrt.) One often hears the expression: ?'Oh. she's n man's woman!" or "She's a woman's woman!" and certainly ttic differentiation la Just. Occasionally it happens that the two are com? bined In one person, and then we may. with the exactness of science, pronounce Hint the secret of this woman's attraction lies in the possession of that most subtle, most difficult of all attributes to define, which we know as charm. Hut charm Is very rare. If we meet with I? half a dozen times In n lite we may think ourselves fortunate We are sure that Cleopatra possessed It. all the more so since modern re? seat eh goes to prove that she was not beautiful, und we are equally sure that, had she boon the most beautiful of her rrx and that alone, we should never have beard of her. Great beauty Is rate, but as all things are relative In this life, it would seem that, com? pared to that preeminent power which we call charm, beauty Is but a com? mon and every-day affair. Beauty without charm will attract, but not retain, while charm without beauty will both draw and hold the ad? miration. Sometimes the two exist to? gether, as in the cape of Mine. Beca mler. But ran we doubt which of these qualities It Is that has made her livn? If her attraction had been mere beauty, would she have been sought In marriage at the age of 80 by one of the greatest men of his time? True sho Is known to have retained her beauty to an extraordinary degree, but that alone and of itself would not be a rutnclont explanation of this fact in Ucr history. ? ? * ? * But what of the women who belong t ? the so much larger class, who, with? out that rare quality of charm can both attract aud retain the admiration and affection?whether of women or of n-en? Evidently, If wo reflect we find that to be what known cither as "a man's woman" or "a woman's woman," there must be some powerfully attracting quality. Now. ?hat la this quality? The sub? ject seems to fall ijjto two divisions. Observation and reflection point to the conclusion that an admired and be? lt, ved woman cxerclsea wholly different qualities to win the different sexes What is It in women which most ' pleases men and what is It which most pleases women? The man's woman. It would seem, Is vary sure to possess, In some form, the quality known as feminine. She need not of necessity be weak and helpless ?Indeed, that form of tho femluine may attract, but it will not hold?but she must have some of the qualities which sppclally differentiate her from uiBC. She must give him. In their whole relation, what ho could not get from any man friend, as social or relative?the quality which Goethe calls "tho eternal femlnlno." An experienced woman who knew men pretty well onco said to the writer that there was one appeal to which she had never known any man fall to icspond?and that was a certain sort of cowardice In woman. Let any woman, she said, no rnattor how commonplace or ugly, become ter iif:rd by a tramp or a burglar, or even describe herself as having been so, and adds: "You men have no concep? tion of what that feeling is In a poor, defenseless woman/! and the man will respond to It as a cat to stroking! ? ? ? ? ' ? And why Is this? What quality In ? man does this course in woman op pea! to so strongly? Is It his selfish nods, because ho likes the implica? tion of his superior mental and physi? cal strength? Or Is it his unselfishness, because he is touched by the helpless? ness of another? Whichever it may be, tho fact remains that, although a man may cxprc<-a approval of plucky conduct In a woman. It appeals to him on tho masculine lines, and he pays It the same sort of tribute that he w.uilri pay a man, which' is an abstract com? mendation that has nothing to do with love or tenderness or any strong ;ier soniil emotion. And as a man likes the woman who depends on htm and reaches out for his support, in like degree, on tnc orhor hand, he despises a man for those qualities. All ol which goes to prove that, just so surely as a man demands of n,Pn to '", manly, he de ananas of women to be womanly. Trustfulness and dependence being in h'rent parts of "the ever Woman"y," these arc essential qualities in the mini's woman. There may bo many ?ihors that attract; but unless these b< thcra also the others will fail ol V their duo effort, and while a woman A may be complimented und approved by ffimen without possessing these q'uall ,. i lea, she will not bs loved or chosen? ? printed th? quality of true manliness In the men. ? ? ? ? ? Ami now as to what makes "a wom? an's woman." Certainly hero tho case is different. Would it ever delight a woman and win from her a warm emotion to hear another woman proclaim that she had shivered with fright at the approach or a tramp? She might sympathize with the reeling and for tho very rea? son of Its comprchenslbtllty to her it would fall to arouse in her any espc i ial Interest. As a matter of fact, observation seems to prove that the woman's woman is pretty apt to have certain qualities of the manly In her. Those, of course, must never bo of the gtosscr sort; indeed, they must be dis? guised, as it were, and appear only in their ultimate effect. Hut observe closely the women whom other women seek in compan? ionship, and extol to others, and see If there is not something which satis? fies this same feminine desire to lean, to be led, to be supported, which is of a piece with man's attractiveness to women. Let a woman?granting her some personal attractions, of course-? show herself capable to lead In thought, in opinion, In public or pri? vate action, and sec If she will not have, at once, a host of admirers in her own sex. If she hns real powers, she will have them In the other sex, also, but see if the quality he not dif? ferent. With men, it will be an attrac? tion, a tribute to what she does, rath? er than to hcrselt, while with women It will be a more personal matter. They go to hear her speak, rather tbnn to hear her speech, and when they come awa> they say: "Isn't she interesting? Isn't she wonderful?" while the male portion of the audience will speak only of her subject and the manner of its treat mont. Tho truth is "the ever womanly" has little charm tor women, perhaps because familiarity breeds contempt. By the same token. It delights men, be? cause nothing Is so fascinating as mys? tery?a quality which seems even more worthily rendered by the French word mjBtero. In this connection It may be inter? esting to consider what may bo the offect of the present tendency toward equalizing the attributes of tho two sexes. It has been claimed that If, in becoming voters and bread-winners, women must needs lose some of their femininity, men, on the other hand, would be gainers, from the fact that the association of the two sexes at tho polla and in places of business would tend to impart to them Home of tho gentleness and modesty which aro sup? posed to be the attributes of woman. This being so, the two sexes would become more alike and, what, In ef? fect, would be the loss and gain from this'.' No doubt, In the sense of practical utility, the gain would be great, for the matter of sex, and the considera? tion which is at present demanded for women. Is often a nuisance In the rough and tumble of business life, and any new condition which placed the sexes more on a level would make mat? ters simpler for working purposes. But, on tho other hand, how grc.U wruld bo tho loss to the other side of men's and women's natures! The disappear? ance of that element of mystery which constitutes so large a part of the pow ?r of attraction bntween the sexes would make lifo a somewhat tame af? fair for each of them. Unquestion? ably, If the mental, the psychic and the spiritual are to be considered, this equalizing of the sexes is to be i'.e rioied. . ? ? ? ? ? These crude observations would seem to suggest that behind this clu slvo. indefinable, wemlngly capricious subject of attraction there refts a cer? tain law, albeit It ma7 seem to con? tradict other postulates which aro ac? cepted as laws. We havo the axiomat? ic ('.eductions that birds of a feather (lock together and that like seeks like. These, no doubt, are good working principles, and may be applied In a general way, but when we come to anything so 6Ubtle and so psychic as this secret attraction between human beings it would seem that it is regu? lated by the law of opposltes. The man's woman, therefore, Is she who has some essential qualities of woman? liness in her, and the woman's woman must possess some essential qualities of manliness, while the most attractive and retaining of nil is tho woman whose quality delies all definition, who draws all the world to hor. men, wom? en and children alike, because of her Inherent possession of thnt rarest and least to be analyzed of all qualities for which we find no better word than thai potent little monosyllable, charm. Modern French Ideals. The old notion that military homes held first, place In the esteem of the French peoplo mim?, be dismissed from the mind. If tho French ever wor? shiped the soldier they havo beon cured, and tho proof seems to rest in tho result of tho plebiscite taken by the Potlt Parlslon on tho pre-emi? nence of the grent Frenchmen of tho nineteenth century. As thero were 15.000,000 answers to the paper's ques? tions, a very fair expression of the opinion of the nation was secured. If the great soldier wa3 still tho Idol of Franca Napoleon should have receiv? ed by far tho most votes, yet ho was only fourth In tho contest. Pasteur, Victor Hugo and Oam'oetla each led the great genius of war?Pasteur with 1,338,425 votes, Hugo with 1,227,103 and Gambetta with 1,156,672. Napol? eon was closely pressed by Thiers. - U. OF U.VA.GELEBRATE8 89TH ANNIVERSARY Observed One Hundred end Sixty fifth Birthday of Thomas Jef? ferson at Same lime. AMBASSADOR BWCE THE SPEAKER President Alderman Very Happy in His Remarks Introducing the Dis? tinguished English Statesman and Scholar?Lending Events of the Year at the Institution. (By Associated Press.) CHARLOTTES VI LLB, VA., April 13 ?The 166th anniversary of the birth? day of Thomas- Jofforson ami the syih anniversary of. the foundation of tho L'nlvorsity of Virginia was celebrated today, the chief address being deliver? ed by the British ambassador, Hun. James Brycc. The attendance was porhaps the largest since the. Inauguration of Pre? sident Alderman April 13 lauf.. The formal exercises began at noon. After an Invocation by Itov. U. Rich? ard Davis Smart D. ?., of the Metho? dist Episcopal church, Mr. Bryco wan introduced by President Alderman, who incidentally referred to tho fncl that Carleton'8 soldiers chnsed the general assembly of Virginia from the town of Chnrlotteb-vlllc and caused Mr. Jefferson himself to leavo Montlcello somewhat hastily. "Wo. aro very fortunate today," said Dr. Alderman, "In having as our guest a representative of our great mother empire and of his majesty, King Eidward. Twenty live million people have come to this doun?ry since (he. revolution from nil quarters of the world, and very few of them have been Englishmen, It 1? perhaps fairly accurate to say that rural Eng? land and the Southern states are tho most English parts of the world. Still this republic Is an English land. Every well regulated American college man known his .lames Uryce. certainly that portion of his amazing activities n>m bbllzod by the historian of tho Holy Roman empire and the sympathetic analysis! and Interpreter of the Am? erican commonwealth. Not a few of them, too, held him in mind na ro glus professor of civil law at Oxford, that great university whose years of history so captivate our imagination. In the language of proper restraint, I might present our guest to you us ad? ministrator, law makci, traveller, diplomat, but I havo a fancy today to segregate the academic side of him and claim him as- our own, so I pre? sent the great, scholnr and teacher." 782 Students nt University. President Alderman followed Mr. Rryc.e with an interesting stntemen' concerning the life of the university for tho present year. Tho total enrollment to date, he said, Is 783. exactly equalling the en? rollment at the same date lust ses? sion, 414 students coming from Vir? ginia and 368 from forty three states and territories and five foreign coun? tries. Thirty per cent, of the students studying law, 21 per cent, medicine and 7 per cent, engineering, hold de? grees from oilier American colleges. The sons of fnrmers constitute eigh? teen per cent of the students body. The second place Ik held by the sons of merchants, und the sons of lawyers are third. Knch eollege year like each year In Hie life of an individual has Its distinctive meaning. 1908-09 in the history of the university will be marked by these notable events: The] building of the college dining hall; the opening of the second wing of the hospital: tho establishment of "College House;" the inauguration of the Barbour-Pagc lecture foundation, and the provision by the state legis? lature for a geological survey, with headquarters at the university. 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