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Xliclf Views on the Subject
of Matrimony.
Interesting Efforts to Solve an
Interesting Problem.
Earnest Thoughts Earnestly Ex
pressed by illalds and
Can a Young Couple Exist on a Mod-
erate Income ?
Not, Why Not 7—Why Are Marriages
on the Decline ?
The Subject Still Open lor Further
To tht t'dUor of Tht Chuano 7V»t»rm<
Chicago, Aug. 27.—T1i0 six bachelors who
are interested in this correspondence haro road
with intorcßt jour article, •• Young Mon and
Young Women," iulanl Sunday’s Ibbuo, and take
advantage of jour oITor by Bonding you this
Wo range iu ago from 23 to 40 years, are all
men of education and rotlncmont, of practical
business as well as social experience, and repre
sent by birth partly the American and partly tbo
Ocrmau nationality. Though tome of us havo
an independent station in commercial life, wbilo
tbo rest aro still subject to tbo dictates of a
boss, nono of us havo been able to lay up any
groat amount of earthly treasures.
Tho income of tbo most successful of us docs
not exceed $2,000 per annum, wbilo that of somo
of tbo others falls considerably short of tbat
sum. When the year is around the balances arc
about tbo same; tbat Is, none of ua lias saved
but a few dollars. Wo cannot call ourselves ex
travagant. Our positions demand that wo live
in a way becoming gentlemen ; to dress poll,
without being extravagant; to go to theatres
and concerts occasionally, as wo havo a natural
taste for such amusements and can appreciate
them. A small proportion of our earnings goes
to tbo support of cigar stores. As staled
beforo, wo are not extravagant, yet our
savings-bank account increases very slowly.
Wo havo often asked ourselves, Why is it that
other young men with about tbo same income,
who havo always lived m a timilar stylo to us,
can afford to got married after using all they
earned for their own support? What have they
got left for tno support of their wives and a
subsequent increase of' family? Close
observation has taught us tbat there
are two ways to mako things
convenient. Either tbo man Is of such a self
sacrificing nolu:„ that bo gives up his occasional
resort to theatres and concerts, bis cigars, etc.,
in ord«r to bo able tucomply with all tbo wishes,
demands, and necessities of bis wife, or bo lives
in tbo old stylo, end inns himself in debt to bis
accommodating friends, of whom ouo is perhaps
a dry-goods man, ibo other a furniture man, tbo
third a butcher, or perhaps a holol-Koopor, with
whom bo boaida.
If ho takes the latter conrso, ho will please the
wilo exceedingly until things become do longer
a secret to her. Then tho trouble begins. Kho
pursues tho lirst-raontloucd coarse, ho soon Hods
out that the sacrifices ho has made so willingly at
first ho can’t cmluro very long without fooling
that his condition is much worse thau before, —
that ho shouldered a burden which is too heavy
lor him. 'lbis living from hand to mouth, this
struggle for a more existence, is hard enough on
a biugle man, and must bo doubly hard
on a man who has a wlfo and family
depondiug on him. Ho inav loso
his situation, and, iu spito of his abilities, may
not find another remunerative 000 fur some
time. Cauital, holms none, to make himself in*
dependent by establishing his own business,
and, should ho possess a few hundred dollars,
with sufficient pluck to begin, tho chancos are
as much against as for him. Those men who
pursue tho uiddlo way, meaning thereby those
fow that got along without miming iuto debt or
without feeling discontented, aio an exceptional
class, with Jittlo forethought for the future, and
very limited aspirations. They aye satisfied to
live, without saving anything for tho future.
Now, our opinion is mado up iu his matter.
If any of us, in our present circumstances,
should meet with a young Udy of refinement,—
ip short, a youflg lady ho could love, and no
tice that lovo reciprocated, ho would marry
hor only in caso her parents would bo willing
to give her or him an amount of money
which would euablo him to establish
himself In business. Should tho parents
of tho young lady bo as poor as tho
prospective son-in-law, then ho will havo self
possession tosubdiiohialovo, (or the reason that
poor people have do business to got married.
This money matter is seldom talked of to noli
men who have marriageable daughters, and un
til tho subject is popular enough so it can be
openly approached without fear of being ridi
culed, so long will wo soo numberless young
men of tho best class, ami calculated to make
good husbands, in their bloused state of booh
olordom. •* Tub Lonely Six."
To the BdUor of The Chicago Tribune
Janesville, Vila. Aug. 25.—“ This marriage is
a famous thing for those who love to tattle; but
quite another thing to (hoso who are actually in
the battle,"
tor instance, a young man receiving €6OO a
year manic* ami proposes to livo, in the stylo ho
did when single. Although the lav makes (hem
one, be soon ilnds that there are two to bo
supported. If they are a very economical
couple, housekeeping will bo their bobby, (sup
posing that bo bad €soo,—that sum will (oruiqh
a cottage comfortably, and in a good neighbor'
hood the rent of a cottage will be €3OO a year.
Light and fuel will cost at least €IOO. Board
for the two, 9300 more: and then that necessary
evil, a servant girl, the poorest specimen of
which will cost €912 a year,—her
wages €2 a week, board €9 a
week, and even if ahe was educated
in a Presbyterian ••convent," she will waste and
break one dollar's worth a week. Thou U tbov
attend church and have any company, it will
cost another 0100. The clothing for the
“ twain" €IOO more, lletnember, 1 make no
allowance for drives, no cigars or ‘’smashes,"
operas or ice-cream, no balls or parties. Now.
let us sum up the outlsy for the year on that
€9OO salary j
llouae rent....
Fuel and llflbt
Hoard of self and wife.
Servant girl,...
Church and Society.
After relinquishing ail and ovory lux
ury, ho would bud himself in debt
€713. No wonder that youug men
Biauil appalled. Nothing but a “ne'er-do
well" or * fool would outer luto such tu under
taking. But the expenditure does not end here.
Noxt vear tbo probabilities are that it will coat
€9OO or €4OO more for doctors and nurses; for
these “little strangers" are expensive luxuries
(or a man on a salary that does not expand as
his responsibilities increase. Tbsv aiartod out
with the comforts of life. As their family in
creases they have not only to deny themselves
every comfort, but the necessaries of Ulo, and
you biioour €6OO clerk and his pretty bride, ten
years hence, living in mean quarters, aunound
od by five or six squalid children; the wife
broken in health and spirits, the husband per
fectly desperate. Tbl# u the bright aide of tbe
consequences of such a rash marriage. For, tan
to one, ho will tone all hope, and alio ail aolf
respect, am) no entirety to lbs bad. whits ho to
comeu a common drunkard. .So ends tho elory,
and (her pane'out from among respectable peo
ple forovor.
Look at that picture, and thou at this t Our
marriageable young man who refrains from roar*
riago because ins means are insufficient, but
goes ou laying up something for a " rainy day,”
—what a delightful time bo can have. If ho is
talented or accomplished ho will bo welcome in
tho best society so long as bn makes himself
agreeable and keeps sober. Being surrounded
by refinement, lie bis a constant stimulant to
exertion in order to procure a competence before
hn potties in life. With patient working and
waiting you llnd him a partner in some loading
business. L'is course is onward and upward.
Ho goes on rising, and about the hme our first
young man sinks into moral oblivion, tbe latter
is ready to marry some sensible Indy who pro*
ferred to wail until their circumstances would
warrant such an important step.
Those nbo gather tho blossoms cannot have
any fruit. Hwekt Bjier.
To tht Kditur of The Chuano J'nbune-
CnicAOo, Aug. 20.—" Nothing succeeds like
success," 1 never wrote an article for tbo press,
but 1 think I have successfully for myself, at
least, solved tbo question of matrimony among
tho middle classes—whero tbo most of tho bent
people are found. I came from New England
wbon I wan 21 years old, to seek my fortune.
I had a very moderate education, but bad Indus*
trious habit*. I also bad tbo habit of smoking,
chewing, and of occasionally taking a glass of
I obtained a flltaation as dork at fls per week.
Afterward I deceived S2O aud $22 per week. At
the end of six years 1 bad saved just SSO. I
was lonely. I epent my evenings with the
“ boys," and occasionally flirted wilh the girls at
clmrcb festivals, etc., but could not thick of
matrimony—at least in fashionable circle.)—for
my whole salary would not moro than buy one
fluo dress and pay one week's board.
1 fortunately mot a sewing-girl, as pretty and
swoot as a pcacb. (Aud horo,.ooys, let me tell
you that among this class of girls who support
themselves you will find truer ladies in heart
and practice, and all that goes to make a truo
woman, who will stand by a man in adieisity as
well as Id prosperity, than anywhere else.)
Well, to make a long story short, after looking
at the subject on all sides, as well as 1 could,
and asking the advice of my friends, some of
whom comforted me by saying I was a fool to
think of hucli a marriage, I gave up the Idea
about twenty times, and dually 1 ventured.
I have now boon married throe yoais. 1 never
know until 1 was married what teal happiness
was. We are keeping house m four nice rooms.
Mary does her work except tbo aanlnug.
Wo have no servants to pay, to board, nod to
smash tilings generally; neither do wo support
any family of “ tholfcousius; ” neither are our
family affairs discussed in half the kitchens in
town. Wo entertain our friends and those wo
invito, but wo do not keep a (roe-lunch bouse
for everybody who ever hoard of as when they
wish to como*to the city to do shopping, ana
wish to savo'reßtaurant and hotel bills. Mary
and I bare a better table, supplied from £3 per
week, than 1 over had eta first-class boarding
house, Understand mo, wo have what we want.
When wo want it wo pay (or that and nothing
else. Wo dress well, and have furnished our
rooms nicely, and besides havo bought mo a
CO-foot lot—paid S3OO Jor it—and havo now
tjs2(Hl iu bank, waiting an investment.
By the nay, after 1 roairicd my neat, pretty
wife, and the contrast between us was so great,
1 did not relish my tobacco and lager any more,
so I save from that eouico, aud am now
a cleanly man, respecting tuvsmf.
Uy the way, if any of my bachelor friends will
call on us we wilt show them as tin e a hoy as
there is In the city.
When people make np their minds to live in
an koiu'Sf and rational way, a troop of bugbears
vanish. My motto is never ape stylo or position
that you aro not able to maintain ; bo independ
ent and true to yourselves ; remembering that
life is a stern reality, aud bo Killing to do your
part honorably and fearlessly.
To the friend of ‘True and J," in Wednes
day’s Tuibume. I wish to say that she is not tUo
first one who has lost a good husband by a false
hood. Had sho told (if it wero a (act, as it
probably was) him that her now dross was two
old ones put together aud made by herself, and
that her wardrobe coat tier loss than $l5O per
year, her soul might havo been whiter at least.
Tbo fearful habit of deceiving on both sides
before marriage is the root of a great deal of
evil in married life.
Boys, don't bo afraid to marry a sensible and
honest girl. Treat her well and you'll have a
good wife and bo happy—not a looolr, friend
less and foresakon old bach, with mmo to lovo
and uono to caress. Jons Ballaud.
To (As Editor of The Chicago Tnbum :
Chicago, Aug. 25.— Before the subject of
“why young people do not marry " is dropped
or grown so wearisome as to bo excluded from
your columns, 1 want to bo allowed to say some
words in behalf of tbo girl*—and they are de
cidedly to the “bore.” Now, 1* am a girl,
and in tbo matrimonial market, and when tbo
right one presents himself shall say yea with
out the slightest regard to the state of his
finances. There is too much blame thrown
upon ns, by writers in genera], aud by boys
especially—for not marrying. The main diffi
culty being the expense, and extravagant notions
of the girls nowadays, they say. Now I can
prove that girls are not 000-half so
extravagant as boys. There are few young men,
even those at work for small salaries, who do
not smoke or use tobacco in some form, who do
not drink occasionally, or play billiards, or play
games where money, more or less, is required;
atlomi places of amusement, and Indulge in
numberless pleasures and extravagant fancies
that like “Hip's "—they “don't count.”
And in ail those indulgences the girls
have no pleasure,—their very exclusion a part
of the pleasure, —and 1 will add that wo do
not wish to share or countenance such extrava
gance. A poor cleric will spend 25 coots for
cigars, aay a dozen tints in three mouths, and
that Is a low estimate, and the $3 involved m
that pleasure are thrown away, forgotten. A
poor girl will spend $3 for materials for a hat,
make it herself so it will be stylish and becom
ing, too, and so make the money of some ma
terial benefit.
Ask a young man what lie wonts in a wife, and
bo will go through a whole catalogue of virtues
and acoouipliehmeuta | and does he atop to con
aidor whether he can give in returu aamuchaa
ho requires ? Let boye aek for their equals and
nothing more, and they will And a wile in a sur
priaiugly abort time.
„ A parting word is to young men at work on
meagre ealaiiea : (live up selfish, unnecessary
habits, eapacially those whore money is required.
Cultivate good society.—young ladioe who thiuk
more of higher and better thmga, whoso heads
are more oultirated than their feet, and whoso
standard of meaeuremeot la true aud lasting
worth of mind and character, aud let them so
live that they cannot fear to require a good
woman, and a true marriage, and a happy home
will surely follow. If young uieu will
seek wives among a silly, aballow, fashionable
sot of young ladies, whose only thoughts are of
dress, aud to marry some gay fellow, they will
always Uud that money is the sole requirement—
emphatically aud invariably the solo considers'
tton. I believe, and kuow, that glrla are purer,
truer, more willing to make personal sacrifices
than men, and are absolutely more economical;
aud moreover are more worthy to bo
wives than nine-Unlha of tht
If (hero are suggestions or blame
to be given, begin where they aro rooet needed,
and don't denounce the girls ao indiscriminately
—as eatravsgsot. JUby.
To tht Editor of Tht Chicago Trtbum.
Caicauo, Aug. 25.—. is regards the question,
•‘Why do not young people marry?" arguod hi
your paper, 1 notice the letters are generally
from tho sterner sex, and one that 1 noticed
especially from a youth who signs himself
“MopbUtophoies." who. I think, is rather in
error as regards some points, lie seems to have
os Infer from his arguments that girls aro merely
quasi-parties to the ceremony, are patiently
waiting to be "popped" to, and they then ac
cept the popping asa gift from the gods, audare
soon neglected, uncared-for wives, thankful
that they can fulfill their mlasion.
Aciopos of the last remark. 1 accidentally
overboard a gentleman remark a day or two ago,
''Thank God, I're now a little boy, and won't lo
bothered with ray wife wanting to follow mo
everywhere.'* And they are a •• loving couple. '*
—she loves him now: ho Jovod her ouco,—and
No, my dear Mophiitophcles. I can say there
am girls too sensible to miito themselves to a
man uf tho present age. and have too
much respect for themselves to have no
higher, nobler aim than that of a married
woman. It may rut be our mission, hut it need
not bo our late. 1 ’ .Mephistophelos’ pocket is
afraid when it thinks of ‘•oraiißo-blonsoms and
honeymoon".” Boos it slop to think that one*
half of tbo amount nightly "pout by tho young men
would almost support, and sometimes more than
comfortably support, a family?—and yet young
ladies are •• so extravagant. ‘We cannot unlto
ourselves to a man of tbo preHcnt day If wo
wtahforany happiness; and why? Because
ihtro aro none that ate honest and truo, cither
married or single. 1 defy Mcpliistopliclcs or any
quo else to show mo a man that can show a pure
record of a life such as they demand of us : and
yet, forsooth, wo must marry such as soon as
possible, and bo tbo “other half” of ono ho
impure If wo wore such wo would bo cast
from society fdtever. You may claim there aro
Homo good men. If I should ever accidentally
meet such a genus bomo, I won’t wait for him to
“ pop.” but will neo my prerogative as a woman,
and ask him to marry mo 1 Maboubiutr.
To the Kctlur of Tht Chteaun Tribunt
Grand Dcroi'n, 111., Aug. 25.—Noticing for a
few days peat several articles from correspond
onto cm the marriage question, 1 have been
much interested, and concluded to throw in a
few views of a bachelor io the country, especially
ou the question why more young men do not
1 am a yonng man of moderate moans and fair
income for the country, --SBOO to SI,OOO per
Tear,—but from what 1 could observe that would
not do, I am afraid, to venture on marriage with
the young ladies of my acquaintance, and they
bare no great expectations either; hut aro con
sidered accomplished and bright members of so
ciety, which means they can dance well, play tbo
piano, and make themselves agreeable. Hut as
I think something else very necessary, I rcpiain
single. 1 know by experience I can save every
year half my Income aud live comfotUbly. dress
respectably, go in society tfa much as I want to,
ana otherwise take recreation.
Tam very food of company, and especially
lively and intelligent young ladies, and in min
gling moro or less with them. I have noticed one
thing in particular : Young ladies who have pa
rents in easy circumstances, or at least well
enough off to givo thoirchildrcu a fair education,
and often many accomplishments, in muo cases
out of ton if asked to go into the kitchen aud get
up a rocol and putit on the table in shape, would
havo to call in the neighborhood to tell them
how to do it.
What la thought of a young man who loafs
around doing nothing ? I’ll tell you ; business
men don't want them for help at any price, for
the reason that they don't know how to do any
thing. -And that ia why young men who
havo their own way to make in the world, and
know4ho way to do it is to save something every
yoar (and not put it all on their back fur some
body's else admiration), don't marry girls who
don't know how to do anything only crimp their
hair and play pretty.
Tho wonder is how so many get along that do
marry. 1 suspect a goodly number of husbands
don’t pay their honest debts. Go into any
thrifty town of 2,600 to 6,000 inhabitants, and
tho young ladies of what ia called “ tbo best
society" you will find associate with clerks,
young professional men. and the sons of well
to-do citizens—which is all light. Still they
would be ashamed to bo scon by these same
young men doing anything at homo.
Whit is wanted Is a claps of young ladies who
havo intelligence, common bouho. aud aro good
housekeepers. Young ladies often wondor what
there was about Miss A. to attract tho attention
of Mr. U.. and I suppose they will keep wonder
ing unlil perhaps some day she may call on what
used to he Miss A. and discover in tho looks of
the house: and if sho be so fortunate as to stay
to toa sho can see without spectacles, perhaps,
some things that caught tho attention of Mr. U.
Next. Yours truly, Economy.
To the KJitor of Tie Chieam 'Jnbui.e
Chicago, Aug. 27.—The Tiiuicmb having In
vited the boys and girls to discuss the marriage
question through its cohimoß, a few thoughts
ate herewith presented. It occurs to the sub
scriber that marriage among men and women of
moderate moans has become ineradicable or
hazardous, lu fad—from the financial stand
point—a young man who undertakes to increase
his happiness through that closer alliance with
his sweetheart on a capital of loea that $7,000
or SB,OOO. unless bis “ girl" is capable of
ing him to earn money, or otherwise repair tbo
waste of bis capital, will find married
life rather op-hill business, as things are
now organized. Allowance is note made for tbo
compensating feature of real love between the
fiarues— that love wnich is the fulfilling of the
aw, as it were. Hut it seems to bo a sort of ne
cessity in theae modern times for men lo work
the daylight out of themselves, and thsa dimin
ish their capacity for loving and homg loved,
and all the while deteriorate m material wealth.
There is something steadily pulling back and
exhausting tbe means of young men in the pres
ent system of things, and it is found that the
older citizens of our oouutry are, on tbe other
hand, increasing (heir capital, aud for tbe most
part they are married aud live in comparative
Now. where capital is so difficult to obtain,
aud hard to keep after obtained, because of thia
exhausting process lwhich may bo indicated as
high taxes, usury, and other lawful exactions),
tho genuine article of conjugal love—even that
—scarcely warrants tho consummation of mar
riage among young men aud women.
Times ain't aa they used to be. Fortunes are
not now so easily made. Misers aro nnt leas un
feeling, and tbo love of propert*. which is the
root of ail evil, and which has always crowded
love aside, increases with ago. This blind love
of money must run its course. It muat come to
bo perfectly ridiculous and absurd in tho estima
tion of moo and women, as they grow m
knowledge and wisdom. By and by tho
order will be reversed, aud out
of the thickest and darkest of the gloom which
now overhangs shall burst forth tho great idea
of tho love of man as contra-distinguished from
that of money (or property), and that idea will
become a power unto tho establishment of a
better and happier state of things among meu.
Marriages are on tbo decline, aud this decline
will he more marked hereafter. There is a
power at work hero which human beings cannot
control. OonxN Whitlock.
To ihi Editor of TUt Chuaao It it uni,
Cutcioo, Aug. 21.—The parties interested In
the question matrimonial are, after all, hardly
the most competent to discuss it, because their
viows'aro apt to bo one-sided { but maybe one
reason why so many young ladies do not win tho
love as well as tho admiration of their gentle*
men friends* is because they do not show tho
earnest, womanly side of their natures to thosu
eamo friends. In this they do themselves and
their sex deep injustice ; (or most women have
hidden deep down in their hearts tho truest,
best impulses of a woman’s nature, and a capaci
ty (or womtnly love and solf-eacniico that few
or none know beside themselves.
l)ut because it seems to win admiration easily
(and women lovs admiration of course), some
hide their best natures under a veil of coquetry,
aud spend their time hi unsatisfactory flirta
tions. - Hut there are women who refuse many
offers of marriage because those who make them
are morally, intellectually, or socially their infe
riors. Aro tfcey not right ? Has a woman any
right to marry beneath her? I thiuk not,—
(cam a moral aud intellectual staudpuiut.
Young people ought to try to Hod the best
part of each other's characters; and flirting, flat
tering. playing the gallant, won't accomplish this,
nor lead to that thorough appreciation and
respect which are the (oreruonera of love.
Bymptßhy is tho open sesame to every one's
best nature, aud “ teal folks " will surely flud
each other out if they will Just sot out their
best, noblest impulses, instead of concealing
them as things to bo ashamed of.
Aud though there might be more marriages,
young girls aro hardly au poverty-stricken in tho
matter of proposals as one would infer from the
remark tut! they spend their lime "looking out
of lattice" woDdarlag why young men do not
come. They do come lo moat of them, and are
sent awav, only the young men preserve a die*
erect stlooco ou ibis subject. Mro.
To the Editor of Tht Chkaoa Tribunt:
Chicago, Aug. 27. —Booing that a great many
letters are answered through your paper, I would
moat respectfully ash you to And room for this loU
lor where it will not be overlooked. About two
years ago 1 was Introduced to a young man •
since then ho ban been paying roe a great deal of
attention; in fact ho has tried everything to win
my affection, and ho h&* long ago succeeded, for
my heart was his from our lirst mooting. Hmco
then I nave had several good chances to get mar
riod, but have refused on his account, thinking
ho would come around in time ; but it is alwavs
the satuo thing over and over. Now I loro him,
and hare good reasons for thinking ho returns
my affection. Ho Is below my family in circum
stances, but that does not excuse him, for if his
Intentions are honorable ho might have put ray
heart and mind at ease, and satisfied himself
with my answer. No young man must ox*
pcct a young lady to road it from
the moon and stars if ho lores her
or not; and when ho intends to propose to her
so that she wnl refuse all other offers, and wait
till ho has found a situation which will enable
him to giro her a homo such as she is going to
leave. If ebe loves him she will willingly ex
change her luxurious homo for a more humble
one. ho that rho r.vu »hato his Joys and sorrows,
and help him go up the mountain, so that when
they bavo arrived at tbo peak they can rest and
say to each other, "beo! wo have climbed this
mountain through sorrows and Joys; now Jet us
rest, and welcome our children and grandchil
dren.” Therefore, jonng man. if you have loved
a lady above your circumstance*, go • to her and
tell her of your affection, and if she love* yon,
and refuses you because you cannot giro her
such a homo as she Is expected to leave, do not
mourn over it, for «ho is not worth it. but try
again, for they are not all alike. Now, I would
like some one of tho many readers to answer
tliis letter, and tell mo what to do in regard to
my lov« affair. 1 shall be verv much obliged,
aud at tho same time do my duty towaids any
one who is In trouble. Vour most obedient ser
vant, T.
And many other ladies.
To the Edtfor of The Chicago Inount.
A fttOßA, 111., Aug. 27.—You kindly Invito dis
ettasiou of tbo matrimonial question. Too many
young men aro going through lifo unmarried. I
lay tho blamo wholly upon the parents of tho
girls. Even plain. sensible people raise their
daughters in such a nay that young men shrink
from an attempt to clothe and support them as
tho; have keen clothed and supported. First,
tho girls aro brought up in idleness, entirely
ignorant of housekeeping, and nufUtoa for tho
duties of lifo. Their parents, and no one else—
not even tho girls—are to filamo for this, bee*
ond, they are clothed altogether too richly and
expensively,—and their parents aro/Vrholly to
blamo for this. They know, or onght
to know, that no poor voting man, botttver
steady and industrious, can maintain these girls
as they have been maintained. Parents raise
their girls in this way who can hardly sustain
themselves. Parents who started in lifo poor—
in perhaps a house of two or throe rooms—and
have been prosperous, raise their girls Juntas
foolishly. The young man of to-day who mar
ries is expected to live in agondhouso, in a good
locality, to hire help, etc. Patents expect it
somehow. Tho girls expect it. Tho venture, I
am sad to say, ie taken by a youth now and
thou whoso heart pets the start of his
bead. lie begins in good stylo, and
docs bin best to maintain himself. Ho women
along a year or two and then nettles down upon
. the girl's parents, lie does what bo can to sup
-1 port hm family, aud they do the rent —from
necessity. This I call retributive Jmuico. It Is
a picture often seen. Every young man who
'‘commits matrimony " with “the girl of tbo
peried ” has this epitaph staring him m tho fuco:
“ Ho wasn’t self-sustaining—gone to hvo with
tho old folks." It isn't a prettv prospect. Is lb
surprising young men remain single ? Am 1 not
right in saving parents aro wholly to blamo for
lho scarcity of marriages ? You promised some
reflections of your own. Should bo pleased to
hoar them. J. 11.
To the Editor of /he Chicago Tribune.
Chicago, Aug. 21.—0 u this subject of young
moo and women, lot a young unmarried busi
ness mao etaio his views aud circumstances. 1
am SO, engaged in retail luminous with partner,
also single. We owe no debts, and the protits
allow ns to live os bachelors with some degree
of luxury.. I never performed manual labor,
aud am fund of material things. I do wear fine
clothes, have a handsomely furnished room, and
board at one of onr palace hotels. I own to tho
prevailing aud somewhat expensive habits
peculiar to young men. I enjoy life Rationally,
practically, and never dissipate. lam in ex
cellent health, and my mode of living is such as
I am accustomed to, and is ns agreeable
to mo as almost any other man’s is
to him I believe (considering what 1 hoar
from my married friends!. Now, it would
tire mo too much to marry a poor girl for love
and live a life of self-devotion for her. 1 would
fret fearfully, and, in tho effort to keep my head
up. would piobably bo a coollmcd invalid in loss
than leu yeats from overwork aud anxiety (for
my principles are excellent and high, aud 1
never neglect a duty). 1 don't at all like econo
my, and dislike the feeling of pinching or being
How can 1 marry ? My hope is that by ener
gy, strict attention to business, and good luck,
1 shall m time become so well off as to marry
whomsoever 1 choose; or that one of these days
1 shall make (bo acquaintance of a rich widow
and win her, or marry a young lady having largo
pioporty in her own right. 1 rball bo to such a
model husband (as my disposition is vory nice),
and then wo can enjoy our tastes ami live hap
pily, and tho money-ghost will nut haunt us.
To the Editor e/ The Chtcaio Tribune,
Chicago, Aug. 20.—Each word which you have
said about young men and young women is per
fectly true. In my singlo-blcssedncss 1 expend
tbe following amounts monthly:
For board and rent til
For wuOUng i
For clolLlntf 15
ForcuUcorti . 2
Total |IS
For the so-called doable-blessedness, I believe
tho following statement will bo tight:
For board %.M
Forrmt IV
For wanting d
Fur concerts 2
I don’t know anything about dresses, but 1
suppose that SUi)U a year is sufficient for a
.voting married couple. I would not marry a
Ctrl, if 1 oven should love her more than myself,
if she could not live ou 9900 a year.
1 would be glad to read tbe statement of tbe
costs of married life, wrttteu by a lady. Respect
fully, Paul.
To thi Editor of The Chicago Tn'ouiw
Chicago, Aug. 20.— 1 n odd of your “ Local Lot*
tore" the writer ssys the majority of youug men
think the ladies have no higher elm in life then to
marry rich, to make a tine display of tulia and
oraugo-bloßßomu, a tmdal trip to some fushion
able watering place, to have an opportnnlty.of
giving all their now suits at leant one airing be
fore the atylo changes. There are some, 1 will
admit, who have no higher aim than this, and
men who wish to marry “parlor oroaraente”
will marry such wives. Um there are many
good,sensible girls who have uoeuch high notions,
and, should the right fellow come and propose
to them, they would say. “ Yes, sir; thank you ;
why did you not say so before ?” And they
would he Just as happy and contented to be
married tu a calico dross as a rich silk or aatto.
They aro the girls who will make poor men good
wives, and. if need be, can help then to earn a
comfortable living, and together they could live
choai>ox and very much happier to work for each
other, It Is all nonsense for the young men to
or tbo ladles have snob extravagant (data of
matrimony. They practice more economy than
the young men. for most of them are obliged to
earn their own money, andkoow the worth of it.
T 9 the Editor t\f The Chieaao Tribune
Chicago, Aug. 26.—* Having noticed an article
m Tub of the 2Bih inst., headed •' Who
Is at Fault?” and signed “ Georgia," I thought I
would say something In the defense of the gen
tlemen. I most emphatically contradict whal
Miss o, nays. For Instance, & young gentleman
of my acquaintance was engaged to a young lady
of thin city. Last fall ebo wont East, and, after
corresponding about three weeks, ho received a
note demanding to be released from her ongago
ment—without tho eligbteat provocation. He
demanded an explanation several times, but has
never hoard from her again. Now, it behooves
Georgia to mo and say who is to blame In this
case and many othera whloh I could relate. Of
course I do not say they are to blame In every
case, but nine out of ten. Gonte. arieo and de
fend yourselves against the welling of some un
fortune! ohi tho matrimonial lino. I would Ilk*
to hear from Georgia again. Respectfully,
... ... NOT exactly clear.
To the Editor of The Chicago Tribune:
Chicago. Aug. 27—A young mao of onlnqulr
log mind bogs to add a link of Inquiry through
Tut Tmnu.SE. Why did I not attain the point
of marriage bliss under the following circum
A few years since I migrated from the Old
World to tho Now—as I have learnt to express
it—to make a homo, with tho strongest- faith la
Almlgbf*' Qod, and tbo fullest confidence in •
young ’ ft,),. ’'* l l supposed loved mo, and would
follow *•<. ,n p." r ‘ 1 prospered.
My-md to tho nlmoetof
my cxpectai.- \) -ng times, but I
tm miuus Uio eou h ‘Li/,. '•and of the
young lady sought ?/'/ tho samo
God. Wo admitted equal s«*. 'W a life. Wo,
or I, hoped in the hko destiny. ~ow. thinking
I have dooo my duty, can any lady kindly as
sure mo otherwise? X shall bo pleased to hear.
View# of an Indlntm Democrat* *
To the. Editor of The Chicago Tribune ;
Looanhi'out, Ind., Aug. 21.—The editorial In
Titr. TnmcNE this morning upon tho "Indiana
Democracy and tho Presidency," while substan
tially just in its conclusions, unintentionally, no
doubt, misconstrues the attitude of Oar. Hen
dricks upon tho financial question. Neither, do
I take it, docs tbs party in this State feel the
leant embarrassment at tbo position of the
party iu Ohio. Too much significance Is
attached to tho October results lu Ohio,
which, after all, cannot ho regarded In any other
light than a local Issue. With one single excep
tion, there is uo prominent Democrat in Indiana
who Indorses tho rag-money heresy of tbo Ohio
Democrats, and even Mr. Voorheos has taken no
part iu tho campaign, although his pet theory
is being put to ite severest tost in that
State. Tho silence of Oov. Hendricks in the
Ohio canvass is, to some extent, an
enforced one, but results from no hesi
tancy upon his part to declare himself upon tba
iluaiicial question. Whatever public declaration
ho has made has been an positive and as em
phatic for au honest currency os any of Sena
tor McDonald's, which Tub Tiucc.ve la pleased
to commend. His speech upon accepting lha
Chairmanship of the State Convention, Iu July.
1871. was a liard-Money, Froc-l'iode declaration
in every souse, aud cau ho construed into
nothing else.
Tho recent change lo the policy of tho Indlao
apolta Sentinel, if it docs moan the advocacy of
tue inflation lioiosv. ought not tube construed
into a reflection of the Governor's views; and,
without nosittvoly knowing the fact, 1 am per
suaded, from all tho circumstances in oonuoc
tiou therewith, that, if tho Sentinel does Join in
tho "moto-inouoy" cry, it will not have the
indorsement of either Hendricks or tho party
at largo. No mao who desires to' boo
the success of tho party in 1878 wilt ever stand
by aua witness a betrayal of all that is right ia
rooials and honest in finances for tbo simple
purpose of pleasing the demagogical element ia
the party; and upon this question tbo next Stats
Convention of ludiaua will bo as outspoken and
positive as language cau make it. Aud ibis will
no done together with a resolution that the State
shall cast her delegate voto for Mr. Hondricka ia
the National Convention for President.
In keeping out of tho Ohio campaign, Mr.
Hendricks has shown wisdom. That State prop
erly is tho battlo-tlold of tho inflation theory.
There it originated, aud it b fitting, so far as tho
Democratic party is conoaxned, ‘that there it
should be tbruttlod and put in a state of ulti
mate extinction; and if, by keeping away, the
Indiana Democrats are hastening this process,
they are thereby advancing the best interests of
tho party. But what 1 desired to do was to sim
ply protest against Tub Triduke’s putting Oov.
Hendricks in the ranks of tho inflationists. He
la none of that, aa time will abundantly testify.
To the Editor of The Chicago Tribune;
Chicago, Aug. 25. —The dispatch from Spring
field, published in the papers a day or two since,
stating that tho “Ku-Ivlux” law enacted
by Congress is to bo called into operation
to stop tho lawless outrages of the mid
night prowlers aud assassins of William
sou - and other eontharu counties in tho
rtiato, and to bring tho guilty to merited punish
ment, was a surprise to at least one Republican,
Tho letter of that law may roach tho cose, but
the spirit of it docs not. Tho Ku-Klux act was
intended to provide courts and officers to try aud
punish those guilty of aertaiu offenses, and pro
tect tho helplosss and innocent, when, and la
such States where,the local or State authorities,.
either from want of power or disposition, foil to do
so. It is not a very desirable advertisement of the
rich, populous, and patriotic Slate of Illinois, to.
have it proclaimed from its Capital to all the
world that she. has neither the dispoaitlon Dor
power to execute her own laws, defend her
peaceable citizens, end bring before her owa
tribunals of justice, lor trial and punishment,
the violator) of. Jaw, but must call to her assist
ance the statutes, courts, officers, and forces of
the whole United Stales I This is simply ridicu
lous, aud cannot be justified by existing facts.
When the Chief Executive of the Stale finds the
power of Illinois insufficient to control a score or
so of outlaws, the time will then be lor him to
ask for Federal aid; but tbe time wUlaMoome be
fore. There are State duties as well as Stile right! |
aud, when the first are performed, the eecouu
can be demanded. Can any good reason be
given lor the Stato at least not attempting to
enforce her own laws, before the Governor tails
on another power to do so f It does not seem
politically wise fur a Republican Governor to
unußcosuenly allow the '* Opposition " to justly
tuy (hat '• Federal interference is the policy of
the Republican party.'* Can it be that, if the
State enforced its own laws, acme votes in the
next Gubernatorial election might be changed |
and was it to avoid this "disaster” that the
responsibility of breaking up the villainous
dans of the Bulliners and Bussells was placed
elsewhere ? D.
To the Editor of The Chicago Tribune.
Milwaukee, Wis., Aug. 23.—1 n the early days of
the rebellion when everything looked dark and
cloudy, Tuk Tbibdnk stood llret in loyalty. We
are glad to see it again come to the front on the
financial question, by the plan of quoting green
backs at their actual market-value, which makes
It so plain that any oven though ho be «
fool, cannot tail to see it m its true condition.
One of the great disadvantages our depre
oiated currency places a very largo class of out
people under is the high premium which ts re
quired to buy any Government bonds. It almost el
factually shuts them out from home-investment
while foreigners, with their foreign current?
(which is worth par tu gold), can buy our bomV
at par or a trillo over. The reault is, our boudf
are largely taken by foreigners, while homo-la
vestors are excluded from haying them. Is no
that why so large an amount of currency is plisi
up In our Lolty Banks, Idle and seeking Invest,
mom? Fluxuv.
A Yict'k.

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