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AS TO DINNER GIVING WHAT A HOSTESS MUST DO TO WIN REPUTATION IN THIS LINE. The English Make It a Very Elaborate Aflair China, Silverware and Ylanda Ga lore The Other Dinner Which It the Opposite of the Gorgeous Spread. Though dining ia the pleasantest form cf entertainment which the polite world offers to Its devotees, It is at the same time a trying function to the Inexperi enced hostess, who readily understands that, though a dance or tea may not be successful and her status will yet remain unimpaired, if her dinner falls fiat she will receive a black mark from all those who consider dinner giving as an art and the competent dinner giver an artist. Worldlings of longstanding are never bet ter pleased than when they sit down with a few tried friends or some congenial strangers to a good dinner, well served and presided over by an agreeable hostess. The woman who achieves a reputation as a successful giver of good dinners is the admiration and envy of her set and is as certain of popularity among the men as though she were a belle of untold beauty and many millions. To become a success ful dinner giver requires the closest study of other people's tastes, an infinite amount of tact and a world of good nature and vi vacity on the part of the hostess. It is not an enviable position to one who, fresh from the rural districts, finds herself placed either in the diplomatio circles of Washington or the more censorious and no less formal clique of society leaders of other cities. In the long ago time our grandmothers gave a midday meal that was called a din ner, but which was as different from the meal of today so named as their gowns are different from the frocks worn by the guests around the modern dinner table. At this meal of another generation the so cial set was small, and every one knew ev ery one else. There was no fear of meet ing any one regarding whose birth, par entage and education there could be any doubt. Now everything is changed. One goes to a dinner party and does not know half the time anything about the history of those who eat and drink with him, and even the hostess herself is frequently quite as much in the dark regarding her own guests. Social lions are not always blue blooded, and Mrs. Newlyrlch seldom has manners to correspond with her millions. There are two methods of giving a din ner. One is the English fashion of mak ing the meal and everything connected with it as elaborate as possible. At such a convention there is generally a large cen terpiece of flowers on the table, flanked by Innumerable dishes, and at each plate are five or six glasses, representing water, sherry, claret or whlto wine, champagne and burgundy. Knives and forks in great array are at each place likewise, and the appearance of the table when one enters the room impresses the casual dinner goer with the idea that all the china and glass ware of the establishment has been brought forth to gTace the occasion, where perhaps only a dozen guests have been invited. At a dinner of this sort there should be at least two men, or a man and a maid, to serve. The f rst course in a well regu lated dinner is always oysters when they are in season. They should be served in deep shells and placed on soup plates filled with cracked ice. Thin cut slices of brown bread delicately buttered are nice accom paniments for this course. At a dinner of such magnitude the soup should be a light one, Julienne being preferable to almost all others. With this course the sherry should be poured. With the fish, which course, by the way, many celebrated din ner givers change to terrapin, there should be servedsmall potato ballsand encumbers, if it is possible to obtain them. The entree may be whatever taste dic tates, sweetbreads or a pate of some sort being always appreciated by epicures. At this course the white wine or the claret Is served. Champagne is reserved until the roast appears, whatever it may be, mut ton, fillet of beef or any other of the heavier dishes that are acceptable at this point of the dinner. With this course one vegeta ble is all that is considered necessary. Then comes the sorbet, and after that a bird served with salad, either lettuce or celery. Sometimes celery, biscuit and cheese are served as one course, which brings the dinner down to the dessert, which, as a rule, Is some light frozen pud Oi. THi U foUowgl by bo?-f f,) thETpofnt the women leave thTfa5I7 oof-! fee and a cordial being served to them in the drawing room, while the men remain at table for coffee, liquors and cigars. The other dinner, which is the direct op posite of this formal spread, never consists of more than three or four courses and can be characterized as a family repast. In either case the experienced hostess will be careful to 6eo that her guests are seated 60 that those of opposing tastes and opinions will not clash at the very beginning of the meal. The host al ways leads the way to the dining room with the woman who is the guest of hon or. The other diners follow her, and the hostess brings up the rear with the man whom she regards as deserving of this compliment. No matter what fluctuating fancies may dictate, pure white table linen Is, after all, the perfection of good taste, and at all correct dinners the only color seen is in the centerpiece, which may be as liberally embroidered or decked out with flowers and ribbons as any other piece of fancy work not used on the table. The napkins, as a rule, are marked with an embroidered letter or a script monogram. Simplicity in floral decoration at din ners adds much to the enjoyment of the guests and the looks of the table. Heavy scented blooms should be avoided and masses of color preferred to those mixtures which are so suggestive of a rustic bouquet. Sometimes candelabra are used, but since the banquet lamp and the smaller ones of the same order have been introduced these are generally employed, the silken 6hades matching in color the flowers you wish to decorate with. Favors of all kinds are eschewed by the social elect. Flowers are sometimes laid by each plate, but this cus tom is not generally followed. In the mat ter of china the hostess may exercise her own fancy, but whatever sort of china or glassware is used it must be above re proach in the matter of cleanliness, and the silver should shine as though It had just left the jeweler's case. It is not a wise plan to try to be unique In the matter of dinner giving, save so far as the decorations go, for there are certain conventional lines which must bo followed In order to bring such a function to a suc cessful termination. With a congenial party, a good cook and these rules which have been given above, any woman can be sure of giving a dinner which will win approbation for herself in the social world. Philadelphia Times. Trainiag a Husband. My dear ladies, to whom I appeal, do not lose heart with tho loss of your hus band's attendance at meals. Next Sun day, when he is sure to be at home, ex pecting the usual dullness, have the place bright and do as I have told you. You may be sure that bis wanderings are none too happy without you; that at the club the last good by s at midnight have been said with something approaching a strick en conscience, and as his cab jingles up to your door and he pays the cabman he would give him five times his fare and shake bands rather than face your re proachful greeting, though you say noth ing. Never be reproachful, even with your eyes, when he comes home, because he staid out so late. Rather look pleased to see him back, and next time he will be earlier. Remember he can't always be tied to your apron strings, and that he probably had friends even before he fell In love with you. I know a man who got married. When he came back from his honeymoon, be went out with half a dozen men to a muslo hall and to the club afterward. Some one chaffed him about staying out so late, a newly married man, and his re ply was: "Old man, take my advice and make it a good late night to begin with. I mean to have a late night once a month deliberately, and then there'll be no com plaints." And he does wisely and they are very happy together, he and his wife. Miss Mantalini in Westminster Budget. List to the Wall of the Male. There is room for you still, my dear. The reaction has already begun. You and such as you will always be wanted. You don't wear rough coats with huge buttons and waistcoats and billycock hats. You don't smoke and call men by nicknames. Perhaps you have not graduated In honors, nor made a speech, nor read Zola, but you are just charming and sensible and quite clever and thoughtful, too. and you will be a good mother and a loving not an ab jectwife, and as you develop you will be not quicker wltted than you are now, but wiser, and your husband will not only adore you, but he will seek and take your counsel upon all sorts of subjects. Ia your pretty drawing room, where t!T9jr2j always flowen; 1 joot houp), wnere the voices of the children make muslo and are not snubbed or silenced, and where tears are not scolded, but soon wiped away; where pain and sickness awaken a thousand tender attentions and sorrow draws out hearts and softens them even more than joy, there is a sound of cheerful talk friends gather where they are welcome there is music, there is reci tation and perhaps acting, and I should not wonder if tho children sang hymns on Sunday, but thcro is one sound which is never heard in your house, my dear. It is tho wall of tho malo. Gentleman's Magazine. What of These Questions, Mothers? Are your children in school ? Do you know what they are studying and how far along they are? Have you visited their school? Do you know how much light they have in the schoolroom or anything about its ventilation, or bow many chil dren are in the same room with them? Perhaps they do not get on well, and their complaints against tho teacher aro loud and long. Have you investigated the mat ter, or do you think the blame is all on one side? A visit to the school might re veal what sort of person tho teacher is and why there is friction between her and your children. If the children have work to do at home, do you know if and how they do it? Do you give your schoolboys and girls nourishing, carefully prepared food, or do you lot them have anything that is at hand? Do you see that they are early in bed, and that they have plenty of sleep? Are you watchful that some tlmo every day is given to out door play, and have you searched and dis covered the little ambition every boy and girl cherishes, and, if it is a reasonable one, are you pleasing them and gaining their confidence by fostering and encour aging It? What of these questions, moth ers, somo or all of them? Her Point of View in New York Times. Women as Dramatists. In the last century all literary young ladies tried their 'prentice hands at a trag edy. One of these ambitious aspirants brought her production to Dr. Johnson and begged him to look over it. Ho gruffly told her that she could find out the mistakes as well as ho could. "But, sir," ehosald, "I have no time. I have so many irons In the fire." "Then, madam," growled tho doctor, "the best thing I can advlso you to do is to put your tragedy in along with your irons." Before. Johnson's day, however, one woman had mado a very high reputation as a dramatist, though hor line was com edy, not tragedy. Susanna Centllvre wrote no fewer than 18 plays, three of which, "The Wonder," "Tho Busybody" and "A Bold Stroke For a Wifo," kept tho stage for a hundred years and are ovon now re membered as remarkable performances for a woman of that day. Congrove gave up writing plays in a fit of plquo because bis "Way of the World" was totally neglected, while Mrs. Centllvre's "Wonder" attract ed crowded houses. All the Year Round. A student of Horace wrote as a motto for his granddaughters "Simplex mundl tis" an untran (datable phrase which means, among other things, that the best dressed women wear no diamonds. A country house visit lasts four or five days, as tho caso may bo from Tuesday to Friday or to Saturday, only very inti mate friends being asked to remain over Sunday. No wife ever made a good housekeeper who was not allowed to have her say about tome matters. That man is a fool who persists In being the boss at home. Never commence ironing on a sheet thai was used to cover tho board the previous week, or your clothes will bo a bad color. Low Bodices. I should like to make the women of America understand that there is no day time occasion elaborate enough to permit a low bodice. Whether it be introducing a daughter into society, whether it be giving an afternoon dance, an elaborate tea Indeed no matter what the affair may be a low bodice Is always bad form. The fact that the queen of England forces her ladles to appear at court In low bodices Is a subject of mortification to many of them and great laughter to those arbiters of fashion, the French, who would never think of making such a mistake as dis playing even the round of tho throat be fore dark. For that reason the French bride's gown is high. Women of good taste- understand this and would as soon expect to-wear a low bodice or have an afternoon gown cut low as they would to see their men visitors appear in dress clothes. You may cite a number of women who do it, but no mat ter who those women may be they are making an absoluto mistake In dressing, and a mistake that Is ns crude as possible. Ladles' Home Journal. Susan Hayes Ward. That genial woman and brilliant author and editor, Miss Susan Hayes Ward, pre fers tho wane of tho day for her literary work. From 8 to 1 1 her muso Is apt to be kindest. "I never feel," she Is quoted as aylng, "as though things had really be gun until tho lights aro well going and dinner is over. Then Inspiration comes to me, if ever, and I can accomplish far more, work and of far bettor quality than I can' In the stupid, prosaic daylight." To Ilang In Your Kitchen. Hero aro some measures worth framing to hang in your kitchen: Four teaspoon fuls of liquid equal one tablospoonful; one pint of liquid equals one pound; two gills of liquid equal one cup or ono-half pint; two round tablespoon fuls of flour equal one ounce; four cups of bread flour equal one quart, or one pound; one cup of butter equals one-half pound; one pint of butter equals one pound; one tablespoonful of butter equals one ounce; butter size of an egg equals two ounces; ten eggs equal one pound; two cups of granulated sugarcqual one pound; 24 cups of powdered sugar equal one pound. Just Two Newsboys. On a street car platform was a little newsboy kicking his tocless shoes once in awhile to got warm and putting his hands quite through the pockets of his ragged jaokct In his efforts to keep them away from tho raw air. Ho looked Jolly and happy, though, and whistled us he Jumped about. Pretty soon another boy gqt on the car, a little bigger than tho newsboy, but Just about as ragged and poorly cloth ed. They knew each other evidently, for the newsboy cordially welcomed the sec ond arrival with a "Hello, Joe! How's luck today?" Luck was bad, Joo said, and ho was blue and discouraged. His friend tried bard to cheer him. "Now, don't you get down," he said. "You'll bo all right soon. I hate to sco you so blue. Now, look here. I've got somo money," and ho put his hand in one of his trousers pockets and drew out somo money Indeed, but very little. There wore a 10 and a 5 cent piece. "You take tho 10, Joe. I've got to use 6 to ride back, but I don't want tho 10 a bit," and ho mado Joo take it. The boys rode away up town with tho passenger who was listening to thoir talk, and all the way the little follow worked hard to cheer up Joe. So well did ho succeed that when ho left him Joo was laughing and happy. 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