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Concerning Relatives
and Such
In a, recent Baltimore paper the
editor of the Woman's Pago discussed
With a groat deal of charm and much
common sense the oft mooted ques?
tion Of one's relative*. The entire
article was apropos of Lord Achoson's
remark that he did noi marry his
'I ;.-ife's family, meaning the Carters, of
Maryland and Virginia. The very next
day the following reply to the article
appeared In the columns of the same
Dear Loonoro Calvert.?Your ar?
ticle In the News recently about a
man marrying his wife's family is
all wrong. a man does not marry
his wife's family; neither does a girl
marry her husband's people.
The man or woman who thinks so
everlasting much of his or her rela?
tions should not think of marrying.
That Is one of the reasons why there
is so much trouble between married
people. I never did Jjelleve in rela?
tives being on too friendly terms,
because they can't agree (aa a rule;;
it Isn't human nature.
V.'hen I mnrry I expect to have my
husband understand beforehand that
r.oither my relatives nor Iiis will be
allowed to bother us.
In .-,ur family, If we visit our rela?
tives once a year we think we are
doing very weil. T mean near rela?
tives?mother and father, sisters and
brother*?at that. Of course, we BOO
them oftenor, but as for visits to
their bouse, they are fow and far
between, and the result Ih peace.
People In general, and married ones
in particular, should have plenty of
friends whom they visit and huve
visit them frequently, hut relatives
(near or far), they want to keep at
a distance. E. M. M.
Bnltimoie, March 5.
Oh. what a creature she must be,
with a soul no wider than her own
narrow even and her heart as hard as
flint! Dear 13. M. M., did you never
[day happy hours with your scorned
sisters and brothers that your heart
never longs to laugh ngaln over the
day thru It wasn't your turn to ride
the blcyole, and the littlest brother
took the cake you hail your eye on?
There seem no thoughts in her mind
beyond the belief |n herself and h?r
Infinite capacity to malte and live hr.r
own life. "No relatives allowed to
bother us." What will you do, you
who have none Into '."our own life and
pulled down the blinds, In the days
when sorrow shall darken your hard
eye* and the selfish soul be wracked
wlt/h ago?
This person, for lack of a bettor
name, save she Is not one to think so
evi rlastlng mrrh of her own people.
They must be well rid at nur. There
will be no mother's soft eyes to look
tin from her little son's erodle with
the soft breathed prayer that he may
grow like her child. She lives her
I'fe for her friends, one should say for
herself. Nobody of !i( r own blood t"
stand at the door and ward off the
curious crowd of so-called friends, to
?it a rid between her and criticism, when
a shadow has past before the bright
sun of her happiness.
It is a very old saying that "blood,
is thicker than water.' and yet older,
that "no man lives to himself and no
man dies to himself" What car. Ehe
know /.f the meaning of tho word,
friend; who visits her own family once
a year and considers her duty well
over and the result peace. I cannot
describe the surge of pity In my heart
for the day:- that are obliged to como
into that woman's life v. hen eho will
go to her long home unmoyrncd and
uncomforted by the hands of kin. The
i^r.at God does not allow ui to shift
u'.ii responsibilities, and ten thousand
fold will her hardn^sB return to her.
bitterer than all the pain she has so
carelessly inflicted. Indeed one mtcht
t-ay wilfully committed. One wonders
In Juet what manner *he will Judgo
r.f the depth of the affection of
the man sho has married unless f'.ie
measures it by his "little boy days."
tine's family is a part of tbe whole.
You do not suddenly enter into a new
life becnuse you are married; your
capacity for happiness, love and pain
remains the same.
Oh, hard, unloving and unlovely wo?
man, where Is your heart, who has em?
bittered your soul, what is?lt you ha-va
said? Nu relative to hither you; then
surely none, to love and rare for you.
] wonder If she has known of the
awful black night ot loneliness that Is
just beyond her sight and the gaunt
dark rocks of an unloved soul living
Its shut-In life.
B. M. M. fays "its all wrong." this
marrying a man's family or he yours.
I wonder who she is; r wonder what
her station is in life, and what caw
possibly be the matter with the sun?
shine in bet family that it should have
left a nature so dwarfed and mis?
shapen. Il.aven pity her darkened
and tellish life!
Too Many (Jowits a MlMnke.
Tho late Monsieur Worth once said:
"The best dressed woman in Pali? buys
only three new gowns a > oar."
This is something the woman of mod?
erate income should commit ti> milit?
ary. It I? not the quantity of new
frocks we gel that slump us as well !
dressed or bsdij dressed, but the qual?
ity and make of those gowns.
The woman who must make her
moway go far can t.iakc no greater
mistake than to get many clothe.-. ;<hc
looks fnr smarter if she puts her al?
lowance Into one ctoo'l jjown. rather
than Into three or four mediocre ones.
How often a woman will say: "I
cannot afford in get my clothes from
a good jrsssmakcr." Nothing will
convince her that she is not being eco?
nomical, though she may be Spending !
as much on her cheap dressmaker, who j
turns out several trucks, as if site t
bought one renlly well mad:- .>nft.
Besides the cut and style thai come!
with the gown from a smart place, it
is usually eo advanced that it Is noil
passe or in need i>f remodollntt by thai
end of the s?asotl. This hold- go.all
particularly In tailored clothes.
It is important, though, that the wo- I
man of one or two new frocks be dis
eriinlnatlng. She cannot afford mis?
takes In judgment; neither can she nf
) ford gowns so ultra as lo b. easily
i marked. One may perhaps dnr> a
freakish costume In cheap materials,
from a cheap dressmaker, bill the hand- j
. some gown should bo chosen for its]
lasting qualities.
Especially should ihe fat woman fol-'|
low this dictum of Worth. The quicker?
site learns that her One hope Is in a,
we.!l-lnade frock, from one who under-j
stands lines anil other color effects, the
fewer pangs will she stiffjr from puss-,
ing a mirror." If you are fat or lumpy
and hard m fit, better get one good
gown a'scason and tvoar it every when?.
Your Improved appearance will more
than m it It 5 up for the inonontony,
Clirivtculug tilfts.
STl xxim; MunRi.S ix vavtixe's CHIXKSn POXGKK a.m> <avto\ ciiepe.
T/Ail ?Je |a Mod,-.
More Blue Frocks---Spring
Novelties in Bags and Beltsi
Sinai i dressmakers' are now muster
Inn all their forces for the adornment
and diversification of the taffeta frock,
particularly of the dark blue taffeta
frock. There jji c. of course. great
possibilities of variety Iii, the myriad
hued shot taffetas provided for femin?
ine appareling; but many women,
either from necessity or choice, will
content themselves with admiring I
these as they appear when worn by
other . .\ fabric so cool, so light ami i
so dust shedding ri2 taffeta will nntur-j
nil) he ipost generally attractive in!
the one eo'nr?djrk blue -which is i
now recognlr.ed as being the Binartesti
the most practical and at lite satneI
time the must universally becoming |
one which the dyers have so far been!
able to produce.
.\n examination of only a few 01 the
to w blue Uffeln ;,owns reveals ti sur?
prising amount of variety in detail.]
Thin Is apparent >>? tho finishing of
the top of tin- corsage, ami ? is of]
espeola.1 interest there because this'
part of a gown hits so much to do with
making It becoming or unbecoming.
Three different Models, taken unite at
random from a inrge collection, show
one high heck and two entirely .dif?
ferent styles of round neck.
The bisrh neck is forhied by a shal?
low sok, and boned slock of white!
tulle, over which is a pleated collar of
black tulle. The latter Is .vi le enough
to cover the yoke and extend an Inc'.t
or two over the taffeta corsage, and is
attached to a narrow band of Mark
lulle, which stands out sharply against
the white of the BMock.
Of the round necks, one has a wide
.collar effect at the back produced by
hn arrangement of two or three bias
taffeta, frills, and finished at the top
by a narrow frill of InceMn front ark
(two lace covered rcvors, opening near"
ly to the waist over a vest of plain
cream colored tulle. Although tbe
vest wears a certain air of simplicity,
tili? Is not altogether genuine, for,
small as it Is, considerable Ingenuity
and skill has gone into Its construc?
Down through the centre. Simu?
lating an opening, Is a row of .scallops
worked with heavy mercerized cotton,
and In each scallop is a small white
pearl button. The buttons have four
holes and are sewed on with hluclt
thread In stich a way as to make four
I little black lines radiating from each
of tin- four holes to the- outer edge.
Tile top of the vest is bound witli
white salin white sntln and In the
centre is a smart little black satin
j bow.
i The second round neck, which Is
j on one of ilie simpler gowns, has a
! round yoke of horizontally tucked
, tulle, a continuation of the under
I blouse, which may be seen through a
I cprsage made partly of blue chliton.
'Hills yoke is finished wilJi a narrow,
j Hi.i tulle plenltng, on the upper edge
of which Is another novel button
j arrangement. Tiny white pearl but
I tons are sewn on at Intervals with
I pink thread, and these nie connected
I by a couple of rows of hand stitches
j done in Ihe same color. There la an
I other pretty touch of color In the
little cluster of satin flowers, in
i mauve, rose, pink and canary, which
j hides the closing of the yoke. The
lop of the corsage below the yoke Is
' outlined by a second narrow pleating.
Ilhls time of blue chiffon.
! The extensive use of white in dress
j fabrics of cotton and wool for spring
.Iiis brought white accessories Into
high favor, in bags and belts., particu?
larly. The block nnd white effect is
also very fashionablo again for spring,
l ?
Glass Candlesticks
Two clever sets of prizes have fnst
beep made with the Incxpi nslvo glass
candlestick of colonial shape as the
basis. ?
For the ilrsi set the small candle?
stick, aboil! four inches high with
square base, is used, into the top of
this Is fitted a fascinating square p'n- ,
cushion, which rests in the holder by |
means of h cork set in the cardlioard
bottom of the cushion.
These cushions are made from a!
four-inch square of heavy pasteboard,
padded thickly with wool and covered
with vivid satin or (lowered .-Ilk. On
top of this is put open-meshed gold ;
lac.?or sohl thread can be worked In
a loose hoheycohrb atlich across the
.The edg. ef the cushion Is finished
With, gilt fringe, or gold lace, bead
fringe or a scant ruffle or Hat luce.
As (i heading tiny ribbon Mowers in
rieh cblorlhgS are used i|!ilte close t?~i
maller conti? eted by green chenille or
ribbon foliage. i
The oilier set of prlXOS gives to tile
winner nl each table one of the lull
Colonial candlesticks', provided with
candle anil ;i dainty hire shade. The;
shades lire made oh a small round
frame covbred ilrsl with a thin silk,
blue, white, pink or cream colored, For.
the top Imltntl?n eluny Is used, two
inch Insertion and the same width lace!
being overcast together. At the top
la put a scan! frill of narrow cltiny.
The luce cover Is put on without
much fulness and is caught here and
there In the centre of the frame with
liny iiunStics of the tlghi ribbon flow?
ers in fascinating colorlhra. Each
buitch Is set In the centre of a gath?
ered rosette of lace about flu Inch In
Aroiind the candlestick is a how and
ends of ribbon to match the lining of
tbe shade. Caught la the knot art
; bits of lace and a larger bunch of
flowers than those used on the shade
The cft'eel of, candle pincushions or
candles with shades when brought Into
the drawing room on a big tray will
repay any hostess for her trouble. !n
? making these cumllcstlckii.
Wearing of the Green.
A Blarney Stone Party
St. Patrick's Day. of cour3e, -will al?
ways mean "the wearing of the Kreon."
and In eny preparation fur entertain?
ing this color will naturally bo chosen.
Oreat care, however, must be exercised
OS to the shade. which should ho j
ne'thcr n blue green nor a yellow
green, but the brilliant, almost Irldo- ,
scent, hue of n true emerald green, in I
spite of the tact that the Bmeruld
isle Itself is sombre In prevailing tone,
almost, tor many, tu the point of der
Si, li t table coverings, gas or electi u
light shades, tidies on" pillows ami
chairs or any suitable decoration be
made ol the brightest green crepe
paper procurable, cut in tint shape of
large shamrock ieaves, practically the
-anie in outline as those* of our white
clover. Lengths of the same effective
material may be used successfully as
wall panels in spaces between dipur.-.
jand .windows, so heightening the bril?
liant aspect oi the, room, about which,
here ami there, should bo grouped
green potted plants, and uvorywhero
posslbl ?. in sconces, cnudclhhrn and
individual candlesticks, the greenest ;
j of green candles, thrice happy being
the hostess who, for this purpo.se. is
the fortunate owner of the oolli l|
snake variety, rinn.ltes. from the
scourge of which St. Patrick freed thai
Ihoglands of Ireland, are suitably used
in many ways, together with Erin's]
: ling ami. cut from gilt paper.
The. harp that once through Tan S
The soul of music shed.
Among the' III at pleasures offered
list ?her., in- a ''clover" or "shamrock"
.bunt, which will, unite effectually1
and informally "start things goln."
for with a party, as well as with much i
besides, it 's true that "well begun is
half Hone.'' For this item of tlte
ovoning'o entertainment "very little
preparation is required other than the I
culling out. from Sheets "f green tl?-'
pile ?aiicr. folded many time.- In order
l*? duplicate the pattorn, enough three
leaved anil four-leaved clovers 10 ad?
mit of each guest iludlng several of
oach variety from among those scat?
tered here and there, in Inconspicuous
I laces upon the Iloor, under the edges
of rugs, beneath chairs and tables,
fastened between curtain ? ?lds or
slopped between books and magazlno?.
A prize should be awarded to the
linder of the largest number in all and
a second small gift should reward the
happy Under of the most lucky (our
loaved variety. E'rlzoH, however InSlg
nlficnilt, add "really to the pleasurable'
excitement of any contest?among I
grown people as well as childron. ,
Another pleasant way of passing the;
tlmo Is to nave an "'Irish potato race.*'
A dozen or two potatoes are placed in
a pile at one end of Hie room und a
basket at the other, from which each
contestant in turn is to start, teaspoon
in hand, upon n time limit, carrying
front the pile tback to the basket ,
n? many potatoes as each can safely
balance and deposit in the allotted
number of minutes, a tiny airship,
train of cars or anything suggesting!
rapid transit will appropriately re?
ward the most skilful and swift-footed.!
Next, using the same potatoes, sup-1
plj each guest with a knife, half li
dozen toothpicks and a small tin tray, |
and set a time limit In which each I
Stlltl! carve his or her potato Into some j
original design, serious or droll. ,?s|
each may choose. The two or three,
most successful may bo selected by
a committee of three, who, each In |
turn, will award the prizes to the
competing sculptors of "Wild Animals j
I Have Known" or not known, as .the I
case may be. 1
About this time should come the|
serving .if refreshments, green tinted,
as far as may he. w'lh plates and
liapklna bearing decorations of green,
ristaehi.. Ice cream, cakes with green
Icing, green bonbons, etc., must -lot
bo forgotten, while even-the drinking
water may be beautifully and harm-j
lessly colored with green mint Jujubes I
dissolved an hour previous to serving
'n the. bottom of each glass.
New Wash Materials I
'-?-1\ ;
Everywhere in the stores ono aoen
the ?m?rtest of wash fabrlos. aoino
so glorified In appearance that thoy '
seem almost to have lost their ldon->
tlty. Wash goods once moant lawns,
batistes, organdlos. calicoes and light-*
weight weaves generally, but the Omen IK
and fashions havo changod all this,
nnd tho heaviest of piques and crashes
are now grouped with cotton chiffon* ??
and voiles.
There are ncavy linens with their V
more or less fancy weaves and (lie* .5
or embroidered borders, dainty volles :
with a border nt ono side, .or both,
and with or without an additional
centre panel design, filmy chiffons,
plain or pencll-strlpod nnd powdered .',
all over with exquisite buds and blos->
BomBO; French marquisettes In black ?
and white yarns, with ribbon cffoc.t ;.
borders; Imported piques In madras)
stripes, some With the rlbg or cord* :
running lengthwise, some crosswise, a
ngnrle or ratine, or Turkish toweling
varieties, new for dresses and trim- .
mlngs In white nnd bright leather
color, tho soft rose, blue, wistaria, yel?
low, tan, cerise and old blue tints oC
all these fabrics.
Bordered wash materials of all tex?
tures and weights are exquisite Irt
design and beauty, as well as prac?
tical. Many are bordered hi blnclc
nnd colors on white, some oro cm-t
bossed with velvet In discs and dots,
ofhera are bloek-prlnted In .fnsclnnt-:
Ing designs and colors, and many havn
drawnwork borders in imitation 06
filet, the latter being more especially;
shown In conrso linen crashos ami
ratine weaves. While tho background
la usually white, some exquisite shades -
of pink, blue, reseda, tan, heliotrope,
geranium and other rods are seen.
Ecru will he a favorite color of sum?
mer. Many beautiful gowns of omj
broldered batiste are in this tint. j
A Dainty Ehater t'ilft. '
The Uttings for n boudoir wrltinq
table or desk are vnstly more frivolous)
than the dlgnitlcd belongings of tho
library downstairs. My lady Is not:
supposed to invite anything rnore se-< '
I rlotis than lYlendly notes, dinner In-"
j vitations and love letters at her owr?i
j <le8k upstairs, and silver fittings with!
I cut-gldSs ink bottles ana vases for.*
j the flowers that always brighten *
i dainty woman's writing table aro the/
appropriate furnishings. To match
those pretty silver and cut-glass trifles
there Is a new desk blotter?white, oC
course, with corner mountings of fill-',
gree silver, nnd In one of these silver-'
corners is inserted a small silver-faced,
watch, which is always conveniently,
ready to be glanced at during the ha\f-tJ
hour snatched for correspondence. .:
Why Talk at Random! . *
Tho average woman has an absurd,
dislike of silenco. In Its depths aho
Imagines all sorts of evils, and sha
scarcely dares pause to draw breath
for fenr It will be thought she has
nothlnff to say. Consequently the
ripple of her conversation is incessant.
She rarely stops to consider what sh?<
is saying, but rushes madly on. scat-J
tering words recklessly until one won?
ders if conversation lias become a lost
i art and chattering is the order of.
the day.
Girls ought really to be taught notj>
so much how to titlk as how to re?
main silent without appearing awk?
ward or stupid. Intelligent silence is
impressive, and for the matter of that
more difficult thrin nervous chatter.
In tile restless groups of women ona
meota at teas one seldom finds a wo?
man who talks connectedly. Not lie
cause they at-; unintelligent, but be?
cause they have failed to learn tho.
value of repose.
Their restless animation is the re-l
suit of nerves. They dash Into a con?
versation as they would take a cold
plunge in the morning, and come outj
panting and hroathless.
Their vivacity of manner Is excess;
slve. and if one Is striving to get Uiok
best from the people one me?ts It 1st;
very annoying-, for it is difficult to llndf
satisfaction In disjointed phrases, nc*i
matter If they are cleverly ' turned.?,
What a relief it !s to meet i. woman,
who has non; of this artificial anima?
tion, whose nerves do not drive he*'1
through her social eon versa I Ion In as
cyclonlde manner.
The girl who can enter a room leis?
urely and begin a conversation as if
she had all the time in the world, who.
says things In a calm, wMl-polsod man-.;
ner. and who does not Mutter excitedly .
through involved byways, has the so
clal situation in her hand.
This type of girl neither strives for
eplgramattc oft'eets nor struggles tq
work off a topic that Is evidently on
her mind by hurling It frantically aft
you In u mad vohini: of words. Tu
meet a girl like this Is like, coming
upon the proverbial oasis in a desert.
The comfort and poise of her manner
soothes even the high-strung chatterer
and makes h ?>? unconsciously imitate
Women who are anxious to cultivate
the art of attraction will hear in mind
that little warning against breathless
Chattering and a too vivacious :nanner.
It Is not satisfying or compelling. It >
seldom draws people, fur ins girl whor^
chatters volubly, even if crsverfy, does
not often have the "come hither" lure*
She may. by tho vivacity of her man
ner, appear to he drawing a perfect!
lime, but she fails to draw out tlv^
best In h..-r listeners and to ,ir juse la
them anything more than -a passing)'^
interest, while the girl of silence and
polso often arouses ? strong djalrj (or
bettor itc<|ualiithnt'e.
An Invisible I'alcli.
Whel children's dresses have to bit
patoliel l>e sure to match the Wcavu
of thelsmaterlal, and If it be striped]
or pla' 1 goods, take great care thntj
the lid-- of tlie llguo exactly match.
Uef?rc applying the patch ho sura
that th.- material of the paten mutches
the dress m color. For example, dn .
not patch a faded garment with a plecft
u! new material. K the dress is fad?
ed, wet a lilt of new material and lay
it In the sun until It. too. Is fcdetl
the same amount as the dress itself;,
then It can ba put on underneath tho ;
tenr, the frayed edges cut -ftway ait.l/
tin- edges of tlie '.ear sewed down witlfc^
Invisible stitches. Dampen and iu-.-sm.
tlie patch .on the wrong sld< ,in<l :t.
will be. almost Impossible to see v.hero
the garment has been minded.
To apply an Invisible patch io v/ool-.,'
en material, place the patch uti'lcM
the holo; then, with -'.ranis of ivoiin
thread raveled out from tit- new in-.'
terlal or the piece you are patching
with, darn tho edges of the hole down
to the patch, taking cure to follow thu
wsavo of the material as you work.
Dampen and press under a cloth on
.the wrong side.
l?aie may be sueeossli.Ily ratuh&f^
by sewing a piece of net having ?))<
same mesh as thi lace underneath tbi<
place y..;; want to patch, and wUH
lint- needle and thread /that eorre-*'>
sponds to the thread in the patt :nu ????:
the lace' work over the net' the e.trn?9
design found In the lace. Thl? plar?'
Is very successful in nnndlng lao^s
j yokes and collars that have worn irij
small holes about the Joining point?
yet ate too good to discard.altogethoj?^

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