The San Francisco call. [volume], October 16, 1904, Image 12

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THE CARE OF WHITE HAIR (Mrs.
Van Hi)— When the hair is good and
ths hair turns white at an age com
parativtly young, nothing can be done
. POINTS ON WEDDINGS (Bride).—
Invitations are usually sent out two
weeka before the date of the wedding
ceremony. The invitations should be
engraved, never printed, and this ex
pense as well aa the expense of mailing
them is borne by the parents of the
bride. Certainly, It was the proper
thing to ask your Intended husband for
a list of the names of friends whom
he would wish to attend the wedding.
If the list is too leng or if there are
objections to any of the people h*
names, tell him so frankly: men ar«
apt to be somewhat thoughtless in such
matters and by exercising a little tact
now you will avoid misunderstandings
and unpleasantness later. All wedding
gifts should be acknowleged as soon as
pc-sslble after their receipt by a per
sonal note of thanks from the bride;
this Is imperative. The same rule ap
plies when gifts are received from
friends or relatives of your husbancl
to-be whom you have not yet met. Th*
bridegroom pays for the carriage to
and from the church and train; h© also
pays the minister's fee and for the
flowers for the bride and bridesmaids.
The correct outfit for a bridegroom for
a 12 o'clock wedding is a black frock
coat, fancy or white waistcoat, dark
gray hair-striped trousers, white gloves
and white tie. The gown for the bride
is always made with high neck and
long sleeves. As the decorations are to
be in white and gold, I would suggest
that the bridesmaids' gowns be of th»
same dainty color scheme. White chif
fon or silk mull over soft finished pals
yellow taffeta would be charming, with
hats of shirred tulle trimmed with
whits ostrich plumes or yellow and
white blossoms.
hair is liable to become coarse and
stubborn if cut too much.
Occasionally you hear Home one sol
emnly declare, with a wise was of the
head and a knowing smile, that first
impressions are all important, in fact,
everything:. No one would deny for a
minute that they are lasting, but the
length of their duration depends largely
upon circuinstances. The wise old
philosopher hit the nail squarely on
thf- head v.htn she told her son that
"'t makts a bic difference whether you
g OWING the knee of Madame Con
ventionality may be a bit trying:
at times, but it most certainly is
a paying investment in the long
run. For, while one is loth to
acknowledge it, effects are what every
last one of us live for, and just as long
as we are able to impress favorably we
arc pleased with ourselves, and the
world in general is pleased with us.
MRS. J.,M. (Corsets).— Even If you
do live in the country, make it your
business to have your corsets tried
SARAH (Almond Meal). — There are
a variety of ways of making almond
meal, but as this is easily made at
home and pure, I will give you but
this receipt: Almond powder, 1 pound;
cuttlefish bone " (powdered), 5
ounces; curd soap (air-dried, pow
dered), 2Vs ounces: white Castile
soap (air-dried, powdered), 2&
ounces; orris root (in fine powder),
1^4 ounces. Mix and pass through a
firje sieve.
OYSTER AND CHESTNUT .STUFF
INGS (Houskeeper).— To fill a fowl of
ordinary v size will require three tea
cupsful of prepared stuffing. A most
delicious oyster stuffing is made by
taking two scant teacupsful of stale
bread crumbs, one-half pint of oysters
drained and cut in half; season with
salt, pepper, celery salt, one table
spoonful of butter, one-half teaspoonful
STAINS UNDER FINGER NAILS
(Mrs. H. M. B.). — Sharpen a small
stick (a match will do), roll a tiny
bit of absorbent cotton over the end,
dip in diluted lemon juice and gently
force the acid under the nail as you
force the flesh backward with the ball
of the thumb.* If you cannot reach
the stain in this way dip a small nail
brush in the lemon juice and brush
directly across the ends of the finger
tips, bo that the bristles of the brush
will pass between the ends of the fin
gers and the nails. This will clean
away the stains perfectly.
A. B. C. (Bathing). — The mere fact
that you take a cold sponge every
morning should not hinder you from
taking a hot bath at . least three
times a week. No, it most decidedly
will not hurt you. Use plain Castile
soap and a good flesh brush and scrub
yourself well and you will see that
you will not only feel better for it, but
will look better in the bargain. ¦ .;
SINGEING OR CLIPPING HAIR
(Margaret).— For years there has been
miich difference of opinion as to wheth
er singeing or clipping the hair is the
better method for removing the faded
and split ends. If singeing is resorted
to it should be done by an experienced
hairdresser, for, in the hands of an un
skilled person, more harm than good
will result. Clipping, however, can be
done by any careful person with good
eyesight. The hair should be brushed
smoothly and divided Into strands.
Hold a strand firmly In the hand, and
if the ends are very much faded or
split, cut off one-half to one Inch, ac
cording to needs; then pick up the
shorter hairs and clip each end just
enough to remove the split portion.
Continue thus until all the hair has
been gone over. If neglected for some
time the hair is apt to dwindle greatly
at the ends and be quite thin and worn
for three or four inches of its length.
If this is tKe case It is a decided im
provement to cut off this portion of the
hair and thus start a more uniform
"growth. The pernicious habit of using
a hot curling iron Is responsible for
much of the shabby hair one sees. If
the Iron must be used have it as cool
as is compatible with the desired re
sult. When the hair is once got in
good condition it is not a good plan to
keep up the clipping process, for the
GRACE (Waists)— Waists' are Just
what you make them, fancy or plain,
costly or inexpensive, arid one Is Just
as fit as the othen Some of them are
strictly tailored, others are fashioned
with a surplice collar, some elaborately
embroidered and again others shirred
or trimmed with laces and embroider
ies and all manners of frills and fur
belows.
myriad of woes and in a twinkling you
will have gained a friend who will be
ready to swear by you for ever more.
These days so much liberty Is givjsn
one that it is more or less difficult to
know Just where to draw the manner
line. For years it has been considered
a breach of etiquette to put an elbow
on the table, but to put both up and
calmly survey the territory was just
about the limit and showed a distress
ing lack of training and discipline.
Such is not the case nowadays, al
though, to be sure, It is not considered
the pink of perfection for formal oc
casions. But at teas and even at cafes
and restaurants it fails to rouse the
faintest interest and no one gives it
even a passing thought. Unless, per
haps, the attitude is very confidential,
and suggests an animated flirtation-
Just why people see the faults of
their neighbors bo plainly and remain
in blissful ignorance of their own is
a mystery that has never been fath
omed. Miss Knocker confides to a fa
vored few that her best friend is a
charming girl, only Bhe feels rather
sorry for her because she has some
peculiar mannerisms. ' For instance,
she slides down bo far in her chair and
assumes such a slouchy attitude. Ten
to one Miss Knocker is complacently
ANNA (Perfume). — If you use
sachet bags be careful to keep them
sweet and fresh smelling, as the odor
of stale perfume is anything but
pleasant. Use this powder, as it is
as lasting as any: Powdered orris, 1
pound; powdered bergamot pill, \i
ounce; powdered acacia, U ounce;
musk, 20 grains.-
The age of pinafores is obviously the
one where "do's" and "don't's" flourish
and even run riot, but somehow or
other long after this stage has been
successfully passed, new conditions bob
up serenely end one is forced to ad
mit that just about everything under
the shining sun, no matter how sim
ple, needs explicit and definite instruc
tions or else one is up in the air" to the
amusement of kind and sympathetic
friends and the everlasting chagrin of
one's self.
If you would be popular, Miladi, let
me tell you a few plain truths. Never
l*=t yourself be caught laughing at the
embarrassments of others. In the first
place it is beastly rude and you're
cutting a. sorry figure In the eyes of
«*very well, bred person that chances to
b<e about, and In the second place. It
Is worse than bad policy. There is
bound to be a ripple of amusement and
ct such a time a kindly understanding
cod will soothe and smooth away .a
eee the light hair fluffln* 'round her face
when you're cettin* beside her on a
moonlight night or in a mornin' from
across the breakfast table." She real
ised that circumstances alter cases,
and that what could be done with per
fect propriety one day could also be an
outrageous breach the next.
Answers to
Correspondents
te restore the original color except t*
dye It, and that I cannot recommend.
Most. If not all, compounds which It
Is claimed will restore color only by
stimulating the growth 'an merely
dyes In disguise. Take the best of care
of your health, bestowing regular care
upon the face to keep the skin smooth
and fair, and you need *not feel sensi
tive that your hair Is white, for every
observing person will recognize the dif
ference between hair white with ad
vancing yean and that which Is pre
maturely gray. A strikingly handsome
woman of my acquaintance has snowy
hair at thirty-five, with the clear skin,
rosy cheeks and the figure of twenty
five, preserved solely by hyglenlo liv
ing and massage. She does not dress
like an elderly woman because her hair
is snow white, but is a dream at the
matinee in a gown of soft dark crepe
and a hat of glowing red. The shrewd
young woman with gray hair has her
inning again by adopting the quaint
flowered silks and muslins so fashlop
able this season, made in 1830 modes.
If her dressmaker is an artist she will
look like a powdered beauty from a
rare old painting. To preserve the
snowy whiteness of the, hair, be very
particular to use only the very best
hair pins, preferably those of shell
and keep the combs and brushes scru
pulously clean. Shampoo once a
month, mixing the following soap Jelly
with the first water, or rubbing it di
rectly Into the scalp: Cut a cake of pure
olive oil soap Into fine shavings and
dissolve in a double boiler with one
quart of hot water: cool; add one
rcunding teaspoon of bicarbonate of
soda and strain into a wide neck bot
tle; perfume with half teaspoonful of
concentrated extract of wood violets,
shake well and cork tightly. ' To use.
pour one tablespoonful into half a pint
of hot water and rub Into the scalp;
or pour into the first water. Rinse in
several waters and dry in the usual
way.
ot sweet cream to moisten tne crumDS
and one egg* well beaten: mix and fill
the fowl or chicken; garnish the bird
before carving with fried oysters and
parsley. For the chestnut stuffing peel,
blanch and boil one pint of chestnuts
until tender, using slightly salted
water; drain dry over the fire and then
mash fine; moisten with one table
spoonful of. thick sweet cream, season
with salt, white pepper and a dash of
nutmeg if liked. Then mix In two
tablespoonsful of melted butter and
one cupful of breadcrumbs. Serve with
brown sauce and garnish with boiled
chestnuts, or add the chestnuts to the
sauce. ,
So if you're in doubt at any time
one simple, almost childish
rule. Keep your eyes and your ears
wide open and your mouth discreetly
closed, and as sure as fate you'll
come out on top of the pile and land
high and dry.
on and if necessary fitted. You cer
tainly come to town to shop now
and then, and I advise you to wait un
til that time, for you will be better
satisfied and more comfortable. The
tape girdles are good for some figures,
but even these tiny affairs are fitted
and laced in a certain way over the
back and hies. It is a difficult matter
to give the price of a good corset, for
it all depends on the make and. the
boning. However, I know you can
get a good, serviceable one for»$3.50,
and it probably will answer your
purpose quite as well as a $10 one.
Of course, if you will persist In little
frills like polishing your nails on the
tea cloth you are very apt to be called
peculiar, and that word, by the way,
covers a multitude of Bins and a vari
ety of meanings. Just because you are
going elsewhere and want your nails
to retain their gloss does not excuse
you from converting your hostess'
drawing-room or dining-room into a
manicure shop. If. you feel that a wee
rub is absolutely essential to your hap
piness do it as quickly and as quietly
as you can and without attracting any
more attention than is positively nec
essary, for grooming one's self in public
is strictly forbidden in polite society.
While you want to be almple In your
manner there is such k thing as be
ing overtrained in this very simplicity.
Crossing the feet or knees is tolerated
these days, but she is a wise lassie who
does not assume this position too fre
quently. In the first place, like all hab
it, soon grows on one and develops
Elde Issues. The next thing the hands
are clasped over the knees and before
you realize it you are rocking away
and displaying an amazing amount of
ankle and fluff fluff that is anything
but the acme of modesty.
And after all it's so easy to avoid
Blunderville. Just 8top and think
twice and during that time pay strict
attention to your neighbors, for it's
always safe when in Rome to do as
the Romans do. If they are slow to act
gain time by some hook or crook, and
lo and behold, your problem will be
successfully solved and no one but
yourself need ever be the wiser.
sipping tea with her own feet extended
half way across the room, tripping
every one that passes by, but she
would be Indignation personified if.
any one dared call her crude or even
suggested that her feet were not being
properly trained in the way they should
go.
And that reminds me, don't take the
trouble to say disagreeable things
about your friends and earn the name
of ''knocker." Life really is too short,
and besides, your delightfully attentive
audience is skillfully drawing you out
and making you say twice as much
as you intended or reaily mean and
some fine day it will come back to you
tenfold. In short. In all probability
you will be taxed with maliciously
f preading a story and when it is retold
you'll have strenuous difficulty in rec
ognizing even the shreds of the 'orig
inal.
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