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_- The San Francisco Sunday : Call
WHEN A WOMAN FAINTS
-j—^j AIXTIXG is the sudden loss of
|H consciousness due to an enfeebled
«*- action of the heart. A low rate
ot respiration and extreme pallor
accompany this condition. The clear
head of the outsider Is all that is nec
essary to restore the person to con
sciousness, and my little talk today is
to bring before your minds some of tho
necessary and effectual steps in tha
treatment of one who has fainted.
The causes of fainting are many. A
general rundown and weak condition
Is sometimes brought to the knowledge
v ty fainting spells. There is. of course,
r fainting that results from intense pain,
from lack of fresh air, from an insuffi
cient amount of nourishing food, or
from a chock to the mind.
In any- one of these cases women are
on the fainting list more than men.
But the necessary facts once acquired
by you will be helpful in any emergency
of this kind.
I have seen ignorant persons doing
the very thing to a fainting woman
that militates against the recovering of
consciousness. A person who has
fainted must not be kept in an up
right position.
Plac« the body in a flat position, and
If possible, have the head a little lower
than the feet. The heart will be aided
In Its work of pumping the blood to the
bra'.n and head. "When this Is done,
and the flushed, natural condition of
the skin is evidence of the restored cir
culation, the return of consciousness
6oon follows.
As soon as this very important step
Is taken, loosen all tight clothing at the
neck and waist. Corset strings should
be cut. if there be difficulty encoun
tered; collars and belts should be de
tached. The object is to secure an easy
condition of respiration. Fresh air must
be taken Into the lungs in great quan
tities. The removal of tight clothing
assists in this action. That la one rea
son why a fainting person must not be
eurrounded by a ring or hedge of the
curious and thoughtless onlookers.
A brisk rubbing of the hands will
"bring the blood from the heart to the
surface of the body. Remember that
your aim Is to stimulate the heart,
which has decreased Its speed.
Every one knows the efficacy of the
cold-water dash, that shocks the ex
terior muscles, thereby bringing the
~*f b'.ood and its v.-armth back to the head.
This can be given to the forehead or
the hands.
Smc-iling- salts stimulate circulation.
Their refreshing odor is the last of this
<;uick treatment that usually is effective.
Of course, I must insist upon the ad
vice of a phyrician if fainting spells
border en the chronic, or if a long dura-
ADVICE ON SOCIAL CUSTOMS
THE GOOD IJSTENES.
NEXT In importance to the ability
to talk well Is that of listening.
So many of my readers write to
me in self-deprecation, because
tthe powers of conversation seem to be
denied to them that it is well to offer
a suggestion for the silent.
There Is an art in being able to lis
ten well. It is much more easily ac
quired than that of conversing, and
will be a valuable asset on many oc
casions.
If you have ever been In a group of
men and women, you will recall that
to a few the conversational -ball has
been tossed, and the others are outsid
ers, so to speak.
There are sometimes very quod rea
sons for this. Occasionally a selfish
talker will not let any one else speak;
but more frequently there is a recogni
tion on the part of the silent ones of
their inability to hold their own.
SOLUTIONS TO SOCIAL PROBLEMS
Correspondence Queries ,
DEAR Mrs. Adams.
Would you p'.eas* tell me If It Is
proper to write to & boy I have never
Be<-n.' I have been exchanging cards wlta
him. I received a letter and his picture. I
don't fir.d much time to answer his letters.
What should I do when two young boys
call on m«? Should i go out and get .an
other girl irlend of miae to help entertain
?TSw write to a. boy friend of mine until
fic>-e time ego, when I made a mistake in
piac:tic the siamp. and he didn't answer my
inttcr I am pcic« to his town on a *hort
--*. $ B | ou^ happen to meet him.
caouid I speak or no« R SCHQOL Gml^
If you have never been formally Intro
duced to the boy, you are doing wrong to
It^a^-v or- "yen a postal correspondence.
If 'you are so busy, why bother about
writinz at all? \u25a0J&BSB* VO •
If the boys have called without your
expecting them, it would hardly be
proper to. leave them while^you run out
to search for a trirl friend. Solve the
problem by asking a member of your
family.to help entertain.
Why shouldn't you speak to the boy?
He may have some very good reasons
for not answering your letter.
V When Engaged
Jlfyourig "lady o S f 21 Is engaged to a tnzn of
S2-/wvT While he is away on business
tthidi* 1* taken 1». and upon his return is
•uiiblet© t!t «i> to meet him. Is It very
improper for him to r© to her bedroom to
CONCERNING HEALTH AND BEAUTY
tloa of the unconscious condition Is
prevalent. The Investigation of such
cases is necessary, for the causes are
probably serious and deserving of medi
cal attention.
Because a woman faints do not lose
your good sense and ability to act quick
ly and sensibly.-: Follow these directions
and your aid to the Injured will be ex
tremely helpful.
But there is always a welcome place
for a good listener. If you are in this
class, there are a few things to keep in
mind. First, you must force yourself
to pay strict attention to the talkers.
Pin your thoughts to the conversation;
do not let your wits go wandering into
the why and wherefore of the talker's
dress or business.
Be ready to answer any query that
might be made, for of course a good
talker will try to . engage his listeners
in an exchange of ideas. Then be ready
to rescue the topic from an inglorious
death due to the interrupting person.
"You were saying that you preferred,"
etc.. is often a very little thing to
bring out a story that might never be
heard. Every woman can do that much.
A casual, relevant remark is within
any one's power, and 'the good listener
with this- ability, is 'just, as necessary to
a social gathering as a good talker:
Good listeners rarely have ; things to
regret— and that is -much in the favor
of silence. Then, too, by listening at
tentively there will ' be gained \u25a0 a certain
knowledge and valuable information
that may in time result in an easy,
•elf -possessed ability ' to ' talk well. . In
deed, there are more good listeners
needed in the 'social gatherings of our.
little world.
This is a plea for the useful' art of
keeping the j lips Jj closed ' while r others
speak. For- the silent ones there should
never be despair. f> ' .. •
see her when her mother is there and;
they expect to be married In a month?
It is; not- at all improper if/ they are
engaged to be married and - the young
woman's- mother is present. .
When. Parting
Dear Mrs. Adams./ i \u25a0 -
Who should - speak of . parting . first when
a gentleman escorts a.* 1 girl \u25a0 home \u25a0 from a
dance or party? \u25a0 -
If I am anxlouta to hear from a gentle
\u25a0 man correspondent- I should not' send t a:
eecond " -card \u25a0 or ' letter \u25a0 before ; I - get i his. :
should I? \u25a0 . ;'•\u25a0»- .-•• R. B. C. .
The young man should' speak , of
parting," but should he 'linger longer
than is -absolutely- necessary: you
might grive a gentle hint. ••-„
It would be better to wait untllyou
hear from him.. ; . .. . . -
Undesirable Friends
Dear Mrs." Adams.' '\u25a0"''\u25a0*'•-•"'* \u25a0•."\u25a0\u25a0•
Wo have two girl friends , who \u25a0 are - two
facod. and our ; parents object •to our - as
eoclating with them. .How should we treat .
them?.., "-.-» - -, -:\u25a0.• '- - r \u25a0-' \u25a0•.• \u25a0 \u25a0'*'
I am not on speaking terms with a 'boy
and do not Ilk* him. How should I treat
him If . I should^! meet. him. at. any parties?
Is it protxr to ko coostlnir at, night' with
l>ov : friends.; without^ a- chaperon?-'. ROSE..
Treat * the - girls i. civilly, but- do - not
go out of, your way to be pleasant to
them. -Deceitful friends are; not- de
sirable, and one cannot be ; reprimand
ed for shunning, them. v. * ;,.•- ; . *
As I have said'before.-^it'ig better:to
remain on speaking terms with- one's
MRS. HENRY SYMES
acquaintances, for It saves- much em
barrassment.
•No;- it is necessary to have some old
er person .who can bo held responsible
for the crowd. »
Twenty-One and Fifteen
Dear Mrs. Adams. ,
I am a young man of 21 and' am in love
with a young girl of 15. -whom I frequently
kiss. These kisses are vary sincere, be
cause I. love her very much.. Her .father
and mother have seen me* kiss her often
and do not object. Do you think it proper?
Would you advise me to propose to her at
this tender axe? I -feel that I cannot wait
much longer. ; . • .
There is only one objection I can • see to
. her. and that Is heT family is very ignorant
nnd poor, and mine is very aristocratic. I
don't think they wov&d become friends. _
.FRANTIC SUITOR.
Because the girl's parents do not ob
ject to your kissing her does not signify
that you should indulge in such famili
arity. ..You should be manly enough to
refrain. -knowing It is Improper for you
to kiss a girl unless engaged to her. :
-\u25a0Do not propose to her. She is too
young to think seriously about such a
subject. . .' ' - ,: .
When- a man finds any objection to> a
girl, it is a sign he is not deeply in love
with her. . I advise you, to keep away
from the girl, for she is too young; to
accept attentions from any man.
'\u25a0\u25a0 Anxious' to Know
Dear Mrs. Adams. . v
I am a young lady of 17 and care a lot i- -
for a you rut gentleman of 18. He shows, a
great dear of respect for me. -I am: not \u25a0
positive whether he loves .-me or not and .
thought you could . tell \u25a0 me • how to-, find
out.- -\u25a0 • . -\u25a0\u25a0-;; »>" '\u25a0.--\u25a0 . ' \u25a0:.' "\u25a0 -*--.
~ My girl friend, also would like to know If \u25a0
you think she is in the right or not when
she 'does \u25a0 not speak to a young man who'
made an : engagement' with her and didn't:-:
fulfllit. Ar CONSTANT READBH.
Propriety -prevents' a young* woman
from finding- out whether or. not a man
cares " for her. r She • must wait .patiently
until he Is'ready to tell her of nis love.
You are. both too young, however, to be
anything more than good friends. ' . .
I, always think "it is foolish for a, girl '
to stop speaking to \her ; friends, for it
places her in so many embarrassing po- '
sltions. .Your -girl, friend should, how
ever, demand ah explanation from the
young man who -failed to keep his ap- .
pointment. rHe may have had some very
good and reasonable excuse to offer.
To Let Him Know
Dear Mrs. Adams. : ; ',-'';'; \u25a0 '
, A few days ago, after walking home with
me,'- a young man kissed me. before I could
prevent it. Will 1 you kindly tell Erne how 1
can show him- my displeasure?;.. •\u25a0 -^
pn Also." Is it proper" for a number of , young '-
girls to , form * a club . and v rent rooms un- :' • '
'--known -.to:, their parents? -' xBBLLE W.
Any man who would take such a lib
erty heeds to - be ' spoken " to plainly \u25a0If
you \u25a0 want him to ; know > ho w \u25a0 displeased :
you were; with his actions. C '...,. ; • •. ' -
There \ would' be ..*\u25a0 a" more ";; comfortable .
feeling if the : parents ':. were aware .• of
tho- club's - » existence > and r, were '• made
acquainted , with ; its members. I ; never <
advise any, actions . that are kept secret
from, one's parents.
At ,<j Dance - ''^I^V^
"Dear, Mrs. -Adams. ~ :.V: : -/- , \u25a0'' *';\u25a0\u25a0'-.'.
Recently;i went to aidance with'atyoung :
.man whom I admired -very: much, and '-who"
In i turn - professed t to . like me:. During t, the i"
. course of the \ evening \u25a0\u25a0 he'Jlanced ' with an- \u25a0 : :
' other girl. '•--, In doing so he q it the dance with ? '
-me;- he had :thaf. particular;- one^ with '
me: listed: on my \ program. :>i' He also showed .
this other girl marked attenl .ons.v Now, this
* made me so anarrj- that In-fused to allow
;. him ' to take me- home and f vent ' come with '\u25a0'' .
'another young man whom I like a great
deal. Did Ido right? . . v ;,D.. O.« ;
•. If the man; had hia. name^ down for ; a
dance with"' you and failed .to- claim it
he was guilty of a' very : rude 'and dis
courteous act:' -I do -not wonder --that
you became | angry,* and- if ;.you explain
ed, to him yourreason for. "not* allowing
him to take you home you did right in;
•accepting another, man's company home.
Prospective Bride's Wardrobe j!
Deaf Mrs. Adams. ' ?\u25a0. - ."-" \u25a0 "' '^lisi
- Being. - a ., devoted \u25a0 reader of • the paper,
"would you please inform me as Ho what a
bride-to-be or J engaged girl's -wardrobe con- \u25a0"
"slsts of— how ? many lof „ each different i ar- .
UolP?^---- --.-*.\u25a0' .. ; .*\u25a0-?•:-\u25a0 A. B. C."":_
Your question is a very general • one, *
for the prospective .bride's wardrobe ; and
linen^depends'-entirelyj-upon her .station,
in life.'; As'l do not know how .often
you expect to entertain or be entertained; ;
I cannot say; definitely. how';many, things,
you : will '\u25a0 need. •"« One-half [ dozen -• of •; each ;
piece of --• undergarment :is - •_- generally
understood >to i be . a ; convenient number.
A dress for; every;; time jof.dayi is. a~
necessity.:- That is, "^ a morning , tailored ;
suit, •an afternoon gow/i v and ,\u25a0 an even
ing gown. A' hat to be worn- with" each
one is needed..;. ,'. ..-'_. \u25a0\u25a0\u25a0"\u25a0 , : ,',.*-};
\u25a0/At 'an Entertainment \u25a0'..'
' Dear Mrs.'Adams. * "* r . . ' \u25a0': -' \u25a0 ',- ,-
When- a j gentleman is ;Wlth two ladles -at >v
. an entertainment,; should j h«»*ever» Bit*be-^"
tween.them? • PERPLEXED. . :
-" No ;•-, the! ladies should. sit; side by side,
the sitting !;besldei the lady
who, last entered the seat. :
Two\A dmirers '/ \u25a0'-;';
• Dear Mrs.'> Adams. ;"• .-..""".-.;-_ - >
I «am an -attractive young- lady; of -\%
\u25a0 years of age; v. I have two gentlemen friends '
' -who* seem -;to- think -ar great deal Jof • me. :
bo much/ In • f act,? that > one _gets angry : if I
• ; bo- out fwith -the lather, and -I --don't; know .
what to -de '-to please -them both. I -try -to •-'
*• treat ; them both equally, because I : like . one',
;as weir as. the other. /s-.^-i-'-v: ..,. . j\u25a0 . •
. I am. thinking of having a ; surprise > party !
\ forj a ' girl * friend ) and ! don't • want * to " slight .-.
•either of s the men. • I, thought I would .take '
the girl- ou* to give the' crowd a chance to
get to her house, but \u25a0 the men declare they
won't . «ro unless I go with them, and I
can't go with both. : BLUE ETES. .
You should. explain to the young men
that you are. at liberty to go out with
whomever you choose. It is absurd for
them to think that only one should be
attentive to you. \u25a0' . ' . \u25a0 \u25a0
Do aa | you • intend, take the girl out
and let *the ; men solve the' problem for
themselves. \ I think 'they both -will at
tend the party in spite of their threats.
, -- A 'Suggestive: Remark
Dear: Mrs. Adams.' \u25a0 •
-. When a dentist In his office makes a sug
A NSW ERS TO BEAUTY QUERIES
>>y "WING _to the great amount of
I.I '. I mail received and /;^the . limited •
\jf space "given , this i department, -it .
,^f .is absolutely . impossible "to.an-""
swer. letters 'in; the Sunday .issue fol
'lowing'their' receipt.- The- letters must
| be\ answered -in turn, and . this ofttimes
requires three, or four weeks. \u25a0- .
:. * All correspondents x wh6 desire an -im
mediate i answer must •; inclose .; a J self
.-; addressed • stamped for ; a re
ply. '"\ This'", rule '; must | also ; be complied j
with in- regard |to personal- letters. . .' '
- \u25a0 Vermin— Frostbite \ ;:
\ Dear Mrs. Symea; •' ;' -\u25a0"\u25a0\u25a0. '"\u25a0 \u25a0- ! - \.
v-vv -v Would • you -. kindly 1 tell \u25bame through the
f,paper :how to'rid' my hair of nits? I
am 13 years old, and got vermin at- school.
\u25a0Am rid of the vermin, but the- dead , nits
"seem to stick" to. j my hair. - Have tried -fine
/ combing i and brushing, but without success.
f What is"good,ror frostbitten feet? - -_- -\u25a0;\u25a0/
\u25a0; ' i ; ,<-. \u25a0-. . . :\u25a0> • - ..a- SCHOOLGIRL. "
your, head in alcohol' or kerb- ;
, sene wl?i cleanse,"your hair. • I>o;not:use
"It near the fire.'; " --.. i - - : "" '-\u25a0\u25a0\u25a0
I Bathe, your,- feet : with a- sponge dipped <
, in a solution of one-half ounce of hydro- .
' chloric "acid .and three and~:one-half .
{ounces' of ; soft :;water. -/Do not \ use 'the •
acia-alpne; it.milst-.be dilutedor it will •
the skin.' j :''. V ; ..;-' "
' \u25a0•'';: : - .;'-'.-_ r Falling Hair \\ \
Dear Mrs. Symes.'; ' \u25a0 '. ' '- -' "\u25a0-" ' ' \u25a0':
Vv My halr'has been.falllnr out and breaking.
off; 'and 'the: ends 'arc splitting. -I had dlph- \u25a0 ;
theria two years ago. andl thinkmy hair
I shourd have been cut. I Do you 'think curling; -
- "the i hair r makes :it fall-out?- .1 .curl-,mlne
- twice ; a week, but \u25a0I \u25a0 grease It iWith .vaseline .
•first.' My- hair is dark brown. ,-: . . .
- \u25a0 Mother 'would: like' to" have- a creaseless;v
cream --.that- -will - not Increase the
7- growth of hair.. .' , * :\.." :,MATTpE.; \u25a0\u25a0- -
"3, A Have your, mother massage your head ,\u25a0
"once. a*, day "'rubbing; in •' the tonic '.for/
-which I -am giving- the .recipe:;^ .. .*- .
-" - . ':HairTonic.V;; c ; '
; Resorcln '.": ;":'. ~T. .'.'.'. f. .*.'... v . • 3 drama .
- Tincture - canthar1de5...v.. ...\u25a0...;.;..• 1 ounce .-.
: 011*rec1ni:..T;.r;.::;.;.^...:.;..i.r.;. 4 drams
3 Oil r05emary '...:...'.."... .'.:. ...V.T... .10 drops . '.
9 Bay rum.-j add Buffldent to make :. j 8 ounces
'i!f,Curlinsr the^hair. with a-hot^lron^s ml : ,
! jurious. '» Putting^ the, hair ;up in" curlers
"wilPdo ino;harm:/;. '. .-; ;r : *,/
I think* your "mother will' find this
~:>~ :> t ecipe for cold , qream a*, very - good : one. '-. •>
\u25a0\u25a0\u25a0;\u25a0,: Kentucky ? Cold": Cream:; -
Rosewater '.;..\u25a0.. ...r.'..*.^... 1. ...... * ounces 1^
>Almond oil .....: 4 ounces 4
;? Spermaceti ;....;.••....•'.•••••"••••••• .1 ounce : \u25a0
wax.. ..................."....... 1 ounce ;
•' :,t: ,t :,' Blackheads .\- f,
' troubled \u25a0 with • blackheads \u25a0\u25a0\u25a0 breaking >
•v/out-all over»niy'face.'*'«l. have'followed the'
- ' advice * you have given ' others, i but =it - does ' .
I me no good/rCan you suggest anything that
?• will * helD ?J /" Does •\u25a0* coff ee-drinklng- cause .
\u25a0 i theiblackheada?/, .v'^t^ivA- ?-,BUD*O,-v
r - Probably, the a- following i recipe \will ;
prove } helpful : ; '• Take /equal f| P^rtf' j °.f "\u25a0
gesttve remark to a young, girl - patient,
what should »he do? I was so astonished
and -hurt- that I could say nothing. This
morning I received a letter from him ask
ing why I- did ' not keep my appointment.
Just * as ' though nothing had happened.
Should I write -and ask him to explain his
conduct or should I Ignore it? • ,
ORPHAN GIRI*.
You should have spoken' and .remind
ed \u25a0 him of : the fact that he was for
getting his position and offering an in
sult..'Let the ' matter drop." and do not
write for \u25a0 an. explanation. , I \ advise you
to seek another dentist.,
"On Which Side?
Dear Mr«. "Adams. : " . '_ -: ' '•
When a lady is walking with a gentle
man, on which side should -she be? The
almost universal custom \u25a0Is supposed to
have come to us that the man's right
arm should.be free to protect her and
that -the lady shoald walk nn the gentle
man's left side... SWEET SIXTEEN. S
A man should always walk on that
side of his woman companion on which
he can afford her the greatest protec
tion from dangers, or obstacles.' There
fore she- may be on his right" or left
Engaged • Man's Troubles
Dear Mrs. "Adams.- .
1 am in somewhat of a- predicament and
am going to ask your advice." I am a young
alcohol and ether and mop on the face.
Expose^ the skin ' to • the air "to avoid
burning.- and. then use cold cream : to
counteract the drying of the skin, col
fee'will not cause blackheads to appear.
\u25a0It is the clogging up of the pores which
. .
Iron for-.Nerves
: Dear ;Mrs.\- Symes. • - '. '-.'., . _ „
I am talcing tincture, of \u25a0 iron for my
' nerves. Could it ; harm . me In any way .'
Should I have* a physician's advice? - ;
. -My \u25a0 eyebrows \u25a0• are very light. W ould they
. be , prettier dark? . Could a beauty doctor
-color _them so that the dye would "y" y t E J a ? n
r No one should; take iron unless she is
advised* by her. physician tfl do" so. He
can tell your; system needs it
, or.' riot.'. .-V'v/ X. . ' '\u25a0 7
If light eyebrows correspond or blend
In with your ,halr and complexion, do
\u25a0 not . have them - dyed. : I do not ' think
there is any. dye that will not wash off.
; vf . Greasy \u25a0 . Co mplexio n
Dear Mrs. Symes. •'
• .-\u25a0• It have a. greasy complexion. Will you
please;.. advise something . for this? Also
\u25a0 give me a recipe to remove summer freckles?
How -can I • make -color, come back to my
cheeks? ; '..; . \u25a0 J/N. M.
J If ?-your 'Skin is V greasy you l should
abstain, from v eating " fried .foods and
give. 'vp "all confectionery until your
'complexion » lmproves ; and\ then . indulge
, moderately." .*' Mop the \u25a0 face ; occasionally
-witti the solution made according to the
following. .recipe: -•-;\u25a0; '
-\u0084 '':{'-"' Lotion for Oily Skin. .
Boracic aclJ.. '1 dram
v : D'.stllled- witch haze 1................ 2 ounces
Rosewater *..•.;.. ..'..:.::.:.. .~.<.7\.... 2 ounces
.To remove* the- freckles- wash the fac?
.In wat«r to whichthe Juice of a lemon
has been:added. nr - ' --. , .
--To have color in your cheeks you must
be enjoying') good ] health, i ; There : might
be some [Rlight' derangement of "the*sys
tem which is making your cheeks pale.
This must be cured first of all. Exercise
in fresh air,' plenty of 'sleep and whole
some \u25a0\u25a0 food will bring back the color.
/yWislies to Grow Taller
: Dear Mrs. : Symes. \u25a0 '." '' '\u25a0'. .-
" i- 1 l am 16 -years > old^ard. measure five . feet.
Dolyou^thlnkrl will- crow-any more, and
ican you t«JI me. of- any exercise which will
. Increase th'r~helsrht? - O.- .-'.
Please '\u25a0: tell "me ,\u25a0 the \u25a0 quickest and - most
\u25a0 effective, iway;- "to -'reduce ; the . weight. I
\u25a0 weigh 1 126 i pounds. you \u25a0 not . think ' this
v is-too*muchr'formy:h«lght?i.;, . v
\u25a0\u25a0" - My comDlexion its rather red, and at times .
" my,: face looks., (creasy... "What i can :I do.for
*'lt? :I 'also J have-a "few «freclc!e3 and soms
'bump«. on' my .-forehead. How can = I «et
rid ".or them?- \u0084--- . r>* \u25a0 \u25a0." "> ANXIOUS.
; ; : l ido not J think .you • are '\u25a0 through grow-*
ing. rbut If you -will take % stretching.ex
ercises,' they willhelp to quicken the in
•crease- in height.-'. Standings on ; tiptoes
and: extending. the* hands-up inithe-air.
? a3.far*as vthey: will" go. and then bring
ing ' them- down *to • the ": floor .< without ,
man of 30 years of age and my employ
ment takes me out of the city about one
half of each month. I am. and have been
\u25a0 for the last two years, engaged to a young
lady of 20. who obtscts very much to my
being away so much, and who insists that
I give ud the position, although it is quite
advantageous. She is quite -dissatisfied be
cause I cannot marry her for a year or sa.
Among my vounir lady friends U a girt
whom X like very much and who 1 have
every reason to believe thinks very well of
me." She la not yet 13. and Ja better suited
lor me as far as temperament, etc.. is con
, crrned. . I love tho girl to whom I am en
- gag?d. but am afraid I can never make her
. happy. What action should I taka as tar
' as the two sir's are concerned?
UNDECIDED.
Have a heart-to-heart talk with your
fiancee and try to show her that she
should be wiliing to make a little sacri
fice. Point out the unreasonableness of
giving-up your present position. A few
weeks of absence now only means that
you will soon be in a position to marry
her. whereas a change of position may
mean an Indefinite postponement of th*
wedding day. .-\u25a0*« ' 1
Requested to Recite
Z>ear Mrs. Adams.
« " If a young trirl 15 years old were re-
Qijested to recite In a society of boys by
one of its members, would It be proper for
her to do so?
Would It be absolutely necessary for a
rlrl of 15 rears old to have a chaperon
when attending* a party 'with a -boy
friend? . ELOISE.
Yes; but a chaperon should go with
; her to the entertainment.
Yes.
Leaving Cards
pear "Mrs. Adams.
How many carts shouM a married wom
an leave when calling Upon a marrlea
woman, a widow • and aa unmarried •
, When* one has made a formal call and It
has been returned, how soon should *
second call be made? >'^ \u0084 „.
If : the lady is at home when making ta»
second call, should cards be left; and
should the same number t» left as whaa
making the first call? MARION*.
A married woman when calling upon
a married woman leaves one of her own
cards and two of her husband's. A
married woman calling upon a widow
or an unmarried woman leaves one of
her own cards and one of her husband's.
Do not allow more than six weeks or
two months : to elapse before returning
the second call.
Yes. If ;. however.' the- calls are very
frequently made, she need not leave^ her
Letter s^JJnanswered
Dear Mrs. Adams.
I used to b« quite friendly with a youn*
man. but haven't seen him lor a year. He
Is now away at college and I wrote* him.
a letter, which he answered. I s«nt an
other letter, but he didn't answer the sec
ond. "Would It be proper for m» to writ*
and csk htm to send my letters bacJc. or
shall I write mad ask him the reason for
If a girl Is engaged and the gentleman
breaks the engagement. sayln< sha is U>
blame. Is It proper for her to return th»
diamond ring? "BI^ND."
You made a mistake when you took
the • initiative in starting a correspond
' ence with the young man. It would
be better to let the matter., stand as it
Is. -'There is no reason why you should
ask for the return of your letters. If
he is anxious to write, you will receive
a letter from him in due time.
\u25a0 If the engagement is broken, it would
be proper for the girl to return tb>»
diamond ring.
Seventeen and Twenty -Six
Dear Mrs. Adams.
Is it prooer for me. a gtrl of 17. to go
with a gentleman of 2«? I ha-'e known him
for nearly seven months, and he has
taken me out only \u25a0 twice. He Is very
friendly when he meets me. Is there any
reason why he should not come to s*» me?
E. 3.
There la no reason why you should
not claim him as a friend. * but do not
let- him take up too much of your time.
If your parents are willing to help en
tertain him. it -would be all right for
him to call occasionally.
bending the knees, la an excellent exer-
Exercise and diet will help to decrease
your weight, which is too much for
your height. Some of the things you
must eat sparingly are oatmeal, rice,
potatoes*", bread, candies, pastries, and
drink little or no milk.
For the greasy and red condition or
your face I advise you to use the lotion
made according to the following pre
scription:
Lotion for - Oily Skin.
Boracic add 1 dram
Distilled witch hazel 4ounce«
Apply with a piece of old linen or a bit
. of absorbent cotton.
For removing the freckles I think you
will find this recipe a good one to fol
low:
Obstinate Freckles.
Oxide of zinc................ Vi dram
Subiodlde of bismuth..: "idram
Dextrine ! 1% dram*
Glycerine j 1V» drams
Spread the paste tfpon the freckles at
night before going to bed. In the morning
remove what remains with a little powder
ed borax and sweet oil. •
The bumps on your forehead should bo
treated by your doctor or a skin special
ist.
A Slender Face . •
Dear Mrs. • Symes. 5
- I have . a long, slender face, aod " would
like very much If you could give m» some
advice as to getting It stout.
Kindly give me some remedy for' black
heads on the nose, and also how to use It.
BAB? DOLL,
You can make your face appear
plumper by massaging with cocoa but
ter ,or olive oIL. Care In dressing will
also help In improving the lines. A high
collar and a niching will detract from
the long lines, it would be better for
you to wear a bow tie rather than a
long one.
Bathe the nose with warm water, dry
carefully and rub in some 'good cold
cream, wipe with a soft cloth and ap
ply the following- lotion:
Boracic acid........ ..". 2 drams
Alcohol jouacM
Rosewater 4 ouocea
Offensive Breath
Dear Mrs. Synies.
lam troubled with offensive breath. What
would you advise for It? . AFFECTED.
First of -all. see. that your teeth ar*
all in good condition. Disease . of th*
mouth and • stomach, the abuse of .al
coholic spirits, rich dishes, highly spiced,
seriously, injure the breath. The'follow
, ing . recipe ;is • for an excellent mouta
wash:
. Phenol ..:........\u25a0.."........ 15 , grains
Boric acid......-;.'.-. • drams
Thymol (in crystals) 15 grains
Essence -of menth01........ 30 drops
Tincture of ani5e....... S% drams
Distilled; water ..;.....^..... 3 pints
- Rinse the 'mouth with the above.' which
should be diluted for use in the proportion
of one-half mouth wash t» same quantity ©X
clear water. --Use . after, each, meal and at -
' any time required.