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The San Francisco Sunday Call
Perpetual Youth is Yours YOU can never grow old so long as you have a mind of your own. It is youth-provoking to possess a mind. To realize this mental condition, keep arguing:, and to encourage the habit of argu ment, read pages such as these before you, pages full of human interest. Don't be a back number; be up to date, and'get'in iouch with every thing about yoti. When you find yourself beginning to drop out,^you are growing old; you are in need of medicine, of mental stimulus.., You have reached a landmark over which you will have to climb if you would go on your way rejoicing. You have arrived at a point where you will have to discover what malscs the bump in the road. The different sketches, written by women and for women, will help you^ to find out just where your interest lapses. Diagnose your own disease" and treat it immediately. If you have lost the power to respond to the interests of other women, bring yourself round with a pull, because there's something vitally vriong with you. "-*\u25a0 -"iV -,' If you are a woman of women, you will be stirred to action by the domestic side of life or spurred on to further effort on the personal appearance side. Our pages make a general appeal, and if you are of the distinctly thoughtful type, there's mental food to stimulate. Family dis cussions, including wife, husband and children, will interest you if you are in normal health, and talcs of lover and loved one will keep you young in spirit, even if age is coming on apace. The medicines are on the shelf before you. Find outjwhich one you need. IN MEMORIAM r I held it truth, with him who sings To one dear harp in divers tones.- That men nay rise on stepping-etones Of their dead celvss to higher things, ' THE BUSINESS WOMAN AS A WIFE AND MOTHER OURS is a country which bows down to ability, a country where brain rules, and the power to do things is of more consequence than ancestry or fortune. The more highly educated, the more skilfully trained, are the women as well as the men, the more esteemed they are, the happier they are and the more effective service they render the world. Aside from the money-making possi bilities of a trnde or profession, the girl so trained makes a better wife and mother. It requires no arguments to prove that the wife who has the broaA er outlook which comes of a business life can more surely understand, coun sel and sympathize with her husband in his career. She will more easily and economically administer her household in accordance with business principles. She will adjust her duties to a eystem, have fewer difficulties with her serv ants and a greater self-control. With out a doubt such a woman is more companionable, more helpful and more satisfactory' as a wife than the cling ing vine. The woman who has mastered one thing well enough to support herself by it will have added to her require ments as a wife, and she will have a poise, a feeling of confidence and a point of view that will be of inestimable assistance in the management and training of her children. She will strike a saner balance In determining the rel ative Importance of things, and having come in personal contact with commer cial life eh* will be better fitted to pre pare her children to rr.eet its difficul ties, enjoy its pleasure*", profit by Its lessons and avoid its pitfalls. She will instill such principles of conduct and of business as will render their path to irood citizenship, successful enterprise, high and happy living sure and safe. We must never forget that in the mother's hand lies the future of the home and the nation. All that Bbc is, for good or evil, goes to her children as a heritage. There is a raying. "Old heads for counsel." which only means that age stands for experience, and of expe rience wisdom is born. So that \u25a0woman is the best mother, the safest adviser, who is best informed and — iist capable. There seems to be a mistaken no tion among a' certain class that to eCucate a fcirl or make her sclr-sup portlng will bias her against matri mony. This statement, though often FOR THE WOMAN WHO THINKS AND FEELS But who shall » forecast the years And find in loss a gain to match? Or rtach a hand thro* time to catch The far-off interest of. tears? . Let Love clasp Grief lest both be drown'd. Let darkness keep her raven gloss; Ah, sweeter to he drunk with loss, To dance with death, to beat the ground,. Than that the victor Hours should scorn The long result of love, and" boast, "Behold the man that loved and lost. But all he was is overworn.'* '—Tennyson. , advanced, is. nevertheless, too weak to stand attack. "^Nobody yet has found any argument, reason or plea strong _ enough to prevent women from marrying. Every day women are casting aside friends, family, for tune, native land, high social posi tion and even careers for the sake of men, and not always worthy mj;n. There is no limit to their sacrifices in this respect. But if it should occasionally seem to the self-supporting girl that she prefers to remain single, her perfect right to do so cannot for a moment be questioned, nor can it be said that her decision would operate Injurious ly to herself or humanity. All the unmarried women I have known have done a large and by, no means .unim portant share of the world's work, and usually made a better job of it than many of their married acquaint ances. " \;'^'rS The truth is, and it is a distinct gain from every point of view, that the independent" young woman is not compelled to accept the first man who proposes to her, for the sake of three meals a day. She can support herself while waiting contentedly until she meets a man who is something more to her than a mere breadwinner^ Many unhappy unions, with all their distressing and demoralizing conse quences, would be avoided were it not a question of marriage or starva tion. —Sarah Curtis Mott. Repetition DO YOU.ever wonder why poets talk so much about flowers? -.Did you ever hear of a poet who did -riot talk about them? Don't you' think a poem .which, for the sake of being original, should leave them out would be like those verses where the letter a ore. or some other, is omitted? No; they will bloom over and over again in poems as in the summer fields, to the end of time, always old and always new. Why should we be- more shy. of repeating ourselves, than .the spring bo tired of blossoms or the night of stars? Look at nature. She never wearies of saying over her floral pater-noster. vln the crevices of cyclopean walls — In^the dust where men lie, dust also— on * the mounds that bury huge cities, . the ' Bira Nemroud and the Babel-heap— still "that same sweet prayer and benediction. The Amen! of nature is always .a flower. —Holmei. i. THE ERSTWHILE LOVER MR. JAMES MONTGOMERY mount ed the high brownstone steps with a conscious air that he was decidedly looking his best. His tailor had exerted himself, and "Monty," as she had often called him, was hand some at his worst. So a most irre sistible combination was ushered Into the cozy reception ' hall by the neat little maid." He glanced quickly over the field of attack, for let it be^ strictly understood that James Montgomery had called *to make Her sorry. He fully Intended to monopolize the limelight, to the everlasting detriment and ruin of the husband.. Well, the room was not so bad. By Jove! A piece of the real Georgian "A PIECE OF GEORGIAN SILVER" silver—must have, been a gift from a rich relative. Never expected to wipe the feet upon a rug like that in the hall, either. But still, you never can tell these days whether the house has been furnished by the happy couple or by the invited guests. He wondered whether he was very much missed at the wedding. He meant that his absence should be felt, and he had hoped that she wouid ask for him; but his faithful retainers and hench men failed to give him any'satisfactory report on the awful hiatus due to his absence. .** ' A soft, sweeping rustle of silk sound ed on the stairway. James, gave one quick brush over his glossy black' hair, drew down the corners of. his mouth and . looked up." She entered with, outstretched hands and gave him a hearty shake. "Monty!" she exclaimed. "Why, I % There is No Unbelief THERE is no unbelief, . Whoever plants a leaf beneath the tod; \ And' volts to* see it push away the clod. He trusts in God. . Whoever says, when' clouds are In the \u25a0 '• "sky, . . \u25a0 - \u25a0 •' - ' "Be patient, heart, light breaketh by and by," . Trusts. In -the Most High. . Whoever sees,' 'neath winter's field of ""-.,.\u25a0 snow', . .-*.- \u25a0\u25a0 \u25a0 \u25a0 : ." -. \u25a0 ; \u25a0 The silent har\est of the future grow, \u25a0_ God's power must know. Whoever lies down on hla couch to sleep, Content- to lock each 1 sense in slumber ' vdKPp**- - -\u25a0 .v .:...-\u25a0 \u25a0. . '-;- ;-. \u25a0 \u25a0> \u25a0\u25a0 . *£,-; Knows God will; keep. • . . Whoever says "tomorrow,", "the" un ' known," - - . "The i future," trusts unto that ; Power ..' : . ; - alone , ' ." - 1" ' ..... ' .. ;': ; * H« dares disown. The heart* that looks* on when the eye lids close . -; . And '. dares to live when life has . only ..woes. God's comfort knows. • \ %£ There ls.no unbelief : : And,; day by day 7 arid knight,, uncon sciously - " .'\u25a0-." . Tho hea*rt lives by that faith the lips "deny. - , ': • -;/•\u25a0- - God v knows the . why. " —L. T. Case. Eive^Now DONJT- epend 1 ; all -your 4 tlme ( ' getting \ ready -to ' live, y bu t , ''live ;> now !". \u0084 \Th«re . will \u25a0 never ' be' a r time when you \ will . be any '-.ready.' _The mere , fact • that . you ;: are ; aiming . In • the right direction sproves? it."* .iXi/;-- ; thought that you were hunting the latest edition of femininity in Zanzibar or' the Fiji islands. Have you recov-' ered from the affair sufficiently . to sip tea? Well, ring the little bell, there, Monty, and I will test your capacity ; for the beastly stuff." t . s Thereupon, Mr. Montgomery gave the signal for the afternoon beverage to be 'brought. "Well?" he asked, throwing a world of meaning into the monosyllable. "Very well, thank you," she anSwered with' a twinkle in her eyes. i "Yes," drawing down her. lips and looking al most pained in the eyebrow region, "I really have managed to forget that you loved me." Then ehe gazed thought fully at the fire. He shifted in his' seat. Things were growing-— well, dramatic, to say th« least. He had never guessed that it was that serious. He had a vision of a clinging, weeping figure and,a daring situation. Why -bother- about seeing plays? He was living one everyday! So he nerved himself for the climax. J "I .dropped In to see if you are hap py,"' he explained. "You see, I felt that your husband did not know you so well as 1 do. and I wished to give a few suggestions as to what you like, you know." •'.'.- . \u25a0\u25a0 He did not see the surprised, amused twist of her eyebrow, nor did he scent the" enjoyment In her manner when she replied. "O, I am afraia *ybu can do "\u25a0nothing now— nothing." "; ' Mr.'; James Montgomery/ sat . --up- and straightened his tie. He -had no right to reach for her hand, but 'something told him that a heroic offer %to comfort the "poor, broken-hearted thing ; was about duei She adroiily removed it in time. .". ;. '\u25a0\u25a0/".-.,' Monty was disappointed, but gazed longingly at the. pretty little , shoe that peeped out from the folds of her dress. Verily, this would , furnish j a ripping story- at the club. j Well, you cannot disregard love and then expect it: to give no after pangs in the .'presence of the, One. He tried to recall the description of her husband/ but -failed. He refrained from mentioning him, but he knew that he must be .everything that was cata loged* as impossible. With the increas ing satisfaction with himself there came a pity for her. Well, he would be just a trifle cruel; and show her what- she had missed. So he rose and walked to the table, where he placed a white arid well-manicured hand upon a book there. . He then glided to the mantel and leaned against it in; his, southern, litha grace. His brown eyes rested upon the little creature In the chair. \u25a0 "I am sorry for. you," he sajdp there' was a clever Infusion of tears . in his eyes, and the tremolo stop was well worked in his voice. "Why did you not* send for me?" \ . jjjcuraqous llfodpiefft ONE \u25a0of our, poets compares the close '% of fa ' gorgeous \ day . v to '-'the smile V- of a gracious", woman." .\ :: ' Graclousness \well .; becomes the older ' woman*; but is, little -hop© -of 'Its; clinging fin" sufficient -quantity" to? cheer the; failing years if ; it be not encouraged " In youth. -t. Our ; young -people. are "mot ' taught ' graciousness : today.-.' and '-\u25a0 middle : life is so strenuous as ; to : stifle what has budded - earlier iOfatsiown volition.v ; ; •.The gift goes \u25a0outiupon. its well-mean ing pleasant way. as an; unconscious test . of .-the* graclousneaa '.of a womankind. Men , are ; neither i blessed - with : an 1 ; over- [ abundance of 2 gifts f nor , ; burdened t with \u25a0: scruples as >to * their i acceptance. They look- at ?the? pleasant "surprise,- they likej ; lt r (or \u25a0-- don't). - and accept -it .smilingly \ enoughVvand /that's « the-, last -of; it; buf women • ; protest t their n unwillingness :: to ; being I thought ' t'a" recipient." ft^They j are, .;; as a rule, averse, to T accepting; presents and none tooigracious in their methods^ of thanking. •\u25a0- „ ; , il :* \u25a0: • \u25a0 .This* is. one^of \u0084the^places-, where^ tactful i woman -forgets -her "tact,' and" the r absence fi of '\u25a0', it \u25a0% palls \ upon & her "MONTY! SHE EXCLAIMED" "WHat can be done now?" she asked, with a' despairing .uplifting 'of her hands. "I am married, and you must ' try to forget it. Mpnty." g A warm avowal was knocking* at his lips, but Monty felt in duty bound to himself to hold the pose a little longer, for he had caught a glimpse of Himself in the long mirror, and he was Im pressed. Just then a man entered the room. Ha was the handsome opposite* of James Montgomery, with the advantage a little on his side. A little larger was the Intruder, a trifle stronger and a little less, aware of his own importance in the great cosmos. ' "Oh, George," the woman hysterically called out, as she flew to the strong one's arms. "Saye — " Therewas a quick change of position at the mantel. What a brute he had been! He might' have known that-she couldn't stand the renewal of "an old affair! Really, he had not guessed at the slate of things! . She was standing at her .husband's side and sobbing on his shoulder. But He was rather , enjoying himself, for a smile ; was illuminating his features. Then < from the coat, tear-stained, an other face was turned In James' direc tion." "Save— Monty from— himself!" she gurgled. : • . As James Montgomery Iff t the house as, hastily as was compatible .with a dignitied and impressive exit, he had a vision of two happy, clingiflg figures in the glow of the fire. \u25a0' / \u25a0 friends. Her aloofness Is not a pleas ant habit, and Mt approaches very" near to ~ meanness.".*" '-i . \u25a0\u25a0"-. f W-. - Y;: \u25a0. .lit . is the . settled belief of some 'who are naturally" contentious, that ; those who find!it .impossible? to, accept. are. themselves \u25a0 the parsimonious.* and be that asMtmay; the 1 prevalent idea of , : a returni does . not- imply a generous spirit..- ..-; - - •'.; \u25a0\u25a0-•. -v" ..?;•- • '..-\u25a0->- .\u25a0.•'... - ."Have I," ask yourself. \"ever given; \u25a0 anything jin the hoi>e of a return?" I trust not. whether, it be to friend, : or, foe.-tcfri stranger.: The equivalent idea ~.i rarely; enters',: into the .mind- of ; the .giver. -It .is -not -present In> the-. "larger ~mind,' : -but it fairly consumes that; certain type of; woman who -de-" clines the-gift. "on; principle." - j; .. She: It is -who. lives rigidly ; up,to. her : obligations (or \u25a0 down ' J to * them) and. , discourages r all . . generous friends, fearing.cto incur; further; obligations. : :This = not very pleasant woman ex- eludes all"'- impulse from . her own ac- \u25a0 1 tions; ' -hers ,\\%: a* - well-thought-out ; code. -She is ever just. ~ but her jus tice ."is:- seldom - softened; with: mercy. VWhat : might ' have 2 been £ her generos- " ' Jty;.-had .Bhe'allowecl»it:play In •youth.*" has ?\u25a0 hardened 'into self -satisfaction ' whehashe justly 'bestows s where -it Ms ; ..necessary, and .without , involving her self Mn continued It' is her, ;.* further - satisfaction >to ;"repa'y" atv once, and -this. also for reasons of obligation "or _ so-called justice. J \u25a0 - *: \u25a0\u25a0iThey 7 " cannot \u25a0; always -• help this. : these unfortunate women r whose \u25a0 pride : forbids ; them the warmth T of •. art \u25a0, interchange *\u25a0 of . civilities. -.'; Pride it is. "Unnecessary, un • healthy L-prlde belonging : to the narrow • woman. r j9^S3j tV&SttrlkS^B^i^^SkiXtfim^t V&Stt r lkS^B^i^^SkiXtfim^ ~.^That broader, happier. ; care-free type of .woman; like whom ' we. ajl yearn to ..be-^-she -• of ; the generous, t hearty,- make ups-just -takes KthtngsV as," they.; come. She knows i.they s meant ;. well,", and- she loves s them : for \u25a0 it. ;.«-. f >\u25a0'-».-/. 7. . . ' " \u25a0-,~- V / - : , Return ltT-Nofihithe'least.willshe re- * turn '.ft! *s- She : may \ give them \ something - some 'i time,' ?* when M and -:\ because r she wants to, but 'not ; to l : pay v them .back. But ! she i will do a" great, f great ' deal for v somebody else.' ' She , will ' pass tho favor along.* .';\u25a0", ••'•.'- . DO YOU HAVE TO ASK YOU HUSBAND? \u25a0 . .. «^ T IS astonishing how many wom en hesitate to decide on buying or upending un til they- have re ferred the ques tion to their hus bands. Nor are they wives of \u25a0 poor men, to whom the pur chase of one - thing means the sacrifice of an other. It may be a necessity, be cause • the hus band requires it. It may be a cour tesy, or merely a habit established in honeymoon days and since persisted in. Whatever the reason, it needs con sideration. \ • The woman who does this from ne cessity Is to be pitied, ' because it shows how much a slave she ha^ be come. She acknowledges at once her inferiority to herhusband. She Is not capable of filling competently the posi tion in the home which she was elected to occupy. Any woman who can be Intrusted with the important functions of wife, and mother can surely"b« permitted to handle a part, at least, of the family funds. bid you ever observe a' woman look ing 1 at something she wanted very much, notice the" expression of pleas ure fade into one of doubt and final resignation as she remarked. "I'll wait and see"? In her, heart there was a fear that the husband wou'.d disap prove, and It was easier to forego her desire than to take chances on a do mestic disagreement. For the man with this meanness of nature can make things very unpleasant. The other day. I was present In a home wherca woman was explaining a very fine course in history to several young ladles. It was very beautiful and very helpful, and her listeners were much, interested. As one of the young. women was about to take it a young man came into the room. With meaning look, he shook his head'em phatically. She hesitated and finally reluctantly abandoned the purchase. The facts which give light to this oc currence are these: The girl Is a school teacher, her knowledge of his tory Is very limited, she desired to .supplement her unfinished education as much as > possible. The man is to be "her husband, unless a merclfut Providence prevents. The whole point is here: What klftd of a husband will a man make who ..before marriage as sumes so much authority over h's future bride as to dictate how she shall WITH THE EYES OF A HOSTESS HAVE heard that in your paper. If an y where. .ft n outsider— one of the dear public— can get a hear ing. Is this true, and may 1 speak out my mind so that those who run may r ©ad? I hope most sin cerely that the person who wrote "Alone In .a Guestroom" 'or your. columns last Sunday will not run s6fa?t he cannot see to read. Yd like to tell him a thing or two about the way a' hostess feels. • Now, I am a plain, blunt woman, with my share of common sense.. I have kept house for thirty years and have rentertained a great many visitors —"guests," he ' calls them. Now "guests" are but tramps. In my estimation, when they march into your spare room and plant their dress-suit cases right down on your best white bedspread. There are others; all of my guests have not been -tramps, because about half of them have remembered that; the last place their grip stood was on a' street corner, and 'the place just before the last was: the ? car. floor. I- m not bitter and < prejudiced 7 not all of the people who^have visited me ha\e treated my bedspreads with contempt, but some of them have -tried other ex periments. One lady* friend ripped a black dress and used the spare room bed, as a' sewing table. '•• ,~ . Beds seem .to suffer most. A youns girl we knew put" a new eiderdown quilt under .the sheet to sleep on. -We think our beds are soft enough far anybody. \u25a0 We : clean our shoes in the out-kltch expend money she hefselX has earned; who interferes with her educational ambitions and has her already so In timidated and so far under control as to cause her to relinquish what would mean ao much to her and to her chil dren? What can she promise her self? I prophesy that that man will be niggardly with his Income and dom ineering in household affairs. He will * keep her- in constant subjection to his •^selfleh nature . and there wi'.l be no sweetr.es» In her life. He will be her lord and master, not a congenial com rade, giving as well as taking. A pros pect which should give her pause. As a matter of courtesy. It b a pretty Idea to mention the anticipated purchase of something of equal Inter est to both. In such case there is no> restraint or fear of consequences should a consultation not be previously held. \u25a0When a woman becomes a partner in the new home, it Is presupposed that she Is capable of realizing the relation ship. She should not accept the posi tion en other than equal. terms. Her dignity should not be Insulted by con tinual criticisms of her management and constant espionage of her expenditure*. If she can be trusted with such precious merchandise as her husband's honor and her children's soul 3. can one not take chances on the 1e33 vital matter of the family purse? Occasionally I meet a woman who has made it a rule to share with her hus band all her thought 3 and achemes for the mutual welfare of the home. Sh© likes to have hU opinion whenever con slderahle expenditure of decided changes are in contemplation. She does not make up her mind quickly, but looks at the question from all sides, and this leads to her husband as being one side of the compass. This couple are com rades in the true sense. They consult with the sole desire of arriving at tho be3t possible decision. Consequently they discuss rationally and conclude wisely.. No friction arises meanwhile and no one's dignity Is offended. en. but at least nine-tenths of our guests don't- they do theirs In the spare room. Sometimes they have used an end of a towel for a shoe rag. Anybody can' get anything In my house that they ask for: but part of ths difficulty with the usual visitor seems to be that he's afraid of disturbing somebody. I wish they'd disturb the room even more at times. We had a young girl to speed a week with us In summer time, and she took her afternoon nap on top of the pillow shams. Instead of disturbing them. If I ever rtfurnlsh my best spare bed room, I'm going v> have the .little couch upholstered in leather so that wet um brellas won't hurt it. and I'm thinking of having metal window sills put on. The washstand china la going to be tn> best white enamelware I can buy, lr I have to handpaint it to make it pre sentable. I've only had one visitor who seamed sorry when she broke t&a soap dish, and she came to me with tears in her eyes and said she ' didn't like to visit the rich (though we weren't that, by any means), that she always broke their china soap dishes and she'd rather "visit the poor and needy." She was a nice girl and genuinely sorry. I'm • going to have a bare floor, be cause I'm tfred of inic on the carpet, and If I can, I'll get an inkstand with lead weights in the bottom. All white curtains at spare room windows ought -to be nailed tight into their places so that the neatest woman you ever knew; who Is a cur tain expert. \ron"t tie them into knots to let in more. air. ; . . .v - And then I'm going to put a brass fender • round the radiator .so that every visitor who comes can't add one more blister to the back of tha rocking chair. • • . ". ; Xow. -young man. you who "have ex perienced' that lonescmne feeling in a guestroom, do you begin to \u25a0• under stand why almost everything' l» cleared out before your arrival?