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The San Francisco Sunday Call CONCERNING THE CORSET A CORSET nowadays should stand for comfort and beauty, and If your own particular possession be defeating these ends, then I wish to claim a little of your time today in talking over a few salient facts concerning this very important article. In the first place, there should be absolute cleanliness In the corset. Nothing is quite so suggestive of a lack of care as the corset stained with perspiration. This, in the sum mer time especially, can be obviated by the expedient so well known to all of us. the addition of a dress shield. The front Is the portion that teems to be most frequently ruined.' co you will sew In a shield on one Bide of the inner surface. This can be attached on the other side when the corsets are adjusted, by pinning with a tiny pin that comes Just for this purpose. Very often the fault of an Ill fitting corset lies In the first step of the adjustment. Many women care lessly throw the form around the body without a glance at the line of the back. Of course, the crooked line at the back will produce the wrong appearance at the front and sides. So a careful inspection In a glass of the important back line will often solve the whole difficulty of • ' ADVICE ON SOCIAL CUSTOMS smew sGctetuz/fy **ii*/e4 As< Js**n<&- BE DIGNIFIED We HAVE heard of the sweet dignity of women, andi if we are mortal we have been charmed by that element in a person's deportment; we also must be aware of the fact that dignity In wom en is on the wane. It Is to be deplored that it has gone far below par In the estimation of many, though its value Is still to be appreciated by an elect few. Xow I am not preaching against a charming natural spontaneity, and no one appreciates the joy of fresh and hearty living more than I do. But I like women too much to. gee them low ering the standards of behavior, there by affecting the status of our sex. And nothing is quite so effective in the de structive work as a lack of dignity. .' ; Some one h«.R said that dignity rarely goes hand-in-hand with haste. As coon as your actions are unduly quickened, there is a lack of Judg ment and equipoise which are asso ciated with dignity.- Cultivate a hab it of allowing plenty of time to say and do things. In your conversation, acquire a natural dignity . of Intona tion and choice of words. This does not mean to be a pedant and to flaunt long, involved sentences at a k tired listener. It does 'mean that a statement can* be made in well-chosen, pure. English. As soon as slang- or Vlioms are allowed, there ia a loss' of dignity. - \u25a0'•'.-• - Your correspondence, too,, should re ceive careful consideration. Never al low one word to . flow from 5 your pen that might rebound to your discredit. CONCERNING HEALTH AND BEAUTY an unattractive figure. A corset is often too high on the top line. If 'any Interference with the breathifrg or arm movements be felt, look carefully at this portion. We are living in an age when a good figure need" not be secured at the expense of comfort." There is no remedy for this defect, other than a change of the model. It is not unusual for one hip to be more developed than the other. Your frank tailor has probably informed you of this deficiency, but the exist ence of the defect need not be appar ent. Attach a -pad to the inside of the corset, the size and thickness of the wadding to be determined by the needs of the individual. When sewn on the corset, there need be no doubt about the well-balanced hip lines in the appearance. There Is shown a well-fitted corset, by the points of which I wish that you would Judge your own. Sufn The written word- often stands out as a witness against the writer's goou breeding. Perhaps in your actions there is greater opportunity to throw dignity to the winds than in -your words. -1 have seen women hurling- wrath, in the shape of undignified words; at con ductors, newsboys, children and grown people, and there has generally been nothing gained except the laugh and disrespect of the onlookers. A lack of dignity may* 1 be funny z.\ times, but it never gains a sincere admira tion or respect. In the general attitude . toward men, I must exhort women, young and otherwise, to be extremely careful. I would far rather, be marked as . "too dignified" than to ' err on* the other side. I much prefer my self-respect to a familiarity which bredds .con* tempt. . It is better to possess dignity than a popularity gained at a disregard for this quality. : I do not wish to sermonize, my dear friends. I merely wish to bring to the' minds of my readers the fact that -in an' unexplained manner we are seeing less of a serious dignity in women than in . former ' daya.- ; Wc^. are: losing one ofthe traits that, in spite of the pop ularity of "the Jolly good fellow," will ever be worthy of sincere satisfaction:- Are ,you forgetting it? 'Or , do you stand with those who Insist upon up holding the high ideals : of behavior ? Solutions to Social Problems Not Able to Decide : DEAR Mrs! Adams.' -v/^- •;-f;' ; - I eeek your advice In regard to'an '••; affair that has been . running ;' along - lv-i nearly two years. I am 24 and. in love , wUh a woman, six years my. senior, t- She tart-s for me. but Insists that 'she does not' want to spoil my. life by consenting to mar- - riage. I am equally positive. that we. would • be perfectly, happy together,' despite the , difference -In- our ages. After much warm " dißcusiion. * I agreed to ' let you - decide - the : '•matter. .Will you- please weigh it care- \u25a0 fully.' as your decision wlll.be Pn»l?i • - \u25a0 \u25a0. . ...v- •,;-,, \u25a0 •\u0084-'. \u25a0' ' ANXJOUS. : \u25a0 How ; can [ you ';'- expect .»'• person- vho , MRS. HENRY SYMES dently low in the bust for. the. ordi nary-sized women, it"" insures comfort and easy movements of the muscles of the arms and cheat. .The hip line is the well-balanced, natural one of a good figure, and let me explain that there is no constric tion at the waist line. ., A . straight ad- , Justment at the front is the result of a careful placing; the bones are not so long that every sane motion is interfered with, and the pointed lower edge is ttiere because . a freedom'of the thigh muscles is necessary for easy and graceful' walking. The length of these corsets gives the graceful long _ lines from the waist down; this fulfils \u25a0 the requirements of the dress of today, < In closing, let me suggest that be fore, the purchase and adjustment of a pair of corsets be made, give the figure inside its due study. Find out your requirements and deficiencies, and then with the intelligent mastery of facts, meet the occasion, and the re sults will speak for themselves.. knows nothing about your lives to de cide this all -important j Question ? * You have given me but .one reason why there should be any objection to the marriage, whereas there may be a hundred reasons upon which to base your decision. After more serious thought you will be sure to take the right step. Love knows no age. the saying goes, and I have-known happy marriages when there has been a difference in. ages.. But. again, there may be a great change in your ideals as you grow older, and unhappiness might result." I cannot decide for you: Not Sister s-in-Law • Dear Mrs. Adams. :r • A. says my brother's wife's sisters are our slsters-ln-law. n --says they are- not. Which is ripht? CANTALOPE. B is correct. \u25a0 . '\u25a0- • \u25a0- Never Offers to Carry Parcels Dear Mrs.' Adams. : ' " : .. ' O- \u25a0 - • Should- a young man * carry a woman's parcels whfcn fhe is - taking her homo? ;\u25a0 1 I nave been going, with a young man for a year.- and always meet .him Saturday even ing when I 'have finished shopping,.' but' he 'has never asked to carry my parcels.' , \u25a0 \u25a0. •.."> \u25a0;'...\u25a0:;-, \'::.:y -\u25a0'•-\u25a0- -'':.- inquirer. >; B A young mam should offer , to - carry a woman's parcels -when he -is. escorting her home. - It v would t not , be fain. - how ever,;to make a habit of burdening him with .packages- every;, time he", is .with you.. - w- , ~ : \u25a0 -; .,/;- • - , T . \u25a0• - \u0084- .;,, --\u25a0\u25a0 ; ... ... v-_ \u0084- . ...... : ''After a Reception^. Deir Mre.'Adims; \u25a0 _' .", . • - " \u25a0:.\u25a0'.. '. ,' : I was I Intited -.to a ' reception some , time ««o r: ' kindly tell . toe whose place ,it i» to pay tht p&rty call, and how won it must be paid? \u25a0-> • -?.; \u25a0 ,;-\u25a0..\u25a0--\u25a0 .- • BROWN EYES. : If . the .; reception was a small and In formal one: no* "party call" is'necessary. Aft«r.; a .large- reception > one-* may- call .within" two or. three weeks , after the en tertainment. " .; ••\u25a0_ \u0084-•-..\u25a0\u25a0 : ' : J Etiquette Books ' • ' ; Dfar Mrs.'. Adams. - : - '*\u25a0:: i \u25a0'\u25a0*.\u25a0[\u25a0*'• - :'• '\u25a0;-\u25a0..' : 1.- Please tell me whether 6r not you know of- any book, paper or magazine: that -con--' 1 . tains hints on etiquette and 1 good. formHn . general.:.. .--.•:•..--" r. \u25a0: :.\, k- -^\u0084~ir>----, -.;.-\u25a0 '-> : '\u25a0\u2666.Which is Uhe' more ; acceptable to • the grarjuatlrtp .girl." flowers -or : ant appropriats l . little clft? -,r^ ;., .-,, -.-,. : 1. There are -many!; books. 5 magazines and papers - containing etiquette hints, but I am not at liberty to mention any : one. -; However, by ; ; making 'inquiry at j any first-class bookstore you wlll.be able to get a book on etiquette which will help you. *' ,2. It; depends upon the nature of the Blrl. The "River 'must ..make' her de cision by- her knowledge of the* girl's ; likes and dislikes. . \u25a0-- Rude Behavior Dear Mr». Adams. \u25a0 -V , Is a man who persists In hugging and kt'Mng • younc- Udy already engaged to be • married, when calling on her sister, a gentleman? -Would : : Too. dfem him it man worthy, of the oomntrmvn-,' \u25a0 . «hip.of -respectable people! \u25a0 , . ,:.T. B. W. No; : he cannot lie called a gentleman, becauee he has not conducted himself In a respectable and' well-behaved man ner,' and is not worthy =of the society of well-bred \u25a0 persons...'?"' *. ' • , . Not Out of Place -. Dear Mrs. Adams. '\u25a0- t -'\u25a0\u25a0 ' \u25a0 1. Please Inform' me :If 'it is out'of ( . place i. for «aY: girlv, of; -17 years- to go' with " a ' -boy of the samo age? •»-'"--, : \u25a0-\u25a0\u25a0:\u25a0\u25a0. -\u25a0. , ; 2. l A • young; man. aged - 21. who is attend-' -> >lng<college,»sends- aglrl a letter, asking : her' to reply, .; and r the girl's father doesn't '-\u25a0 Vwant , her : to- - correspond • with \u25a0 the ' young -man awhile he Is at-~ college. Should : the 'father or the girl answer hi«. letter? ; . •---, J. If a girl of v 18 has' a liking for a young" -~ man. of 1 24. who has called' on her but once, ~:and-lß.now*golng'to.a small town.- would "It be -Improper for. her to telephone him and ' congratulate him on his new position? •4. When; writing to a~ friend, how: should '. ; a' girl i begin -v her i letters. . Dear - Friend, or r ' : Dearest -JPriend.< and -.how should *he sign >b»r name? ;*• , ." , ' UNSIGNED. : ,l.«*Vhile a boy_and girl or.suchaii age should not monopolize each other's time, ' it-wouldnot be out of place forithemto , be good \u25a0 friends: and ; occasionally ; go out ; together.*"-^v>' i V.v; t^' „'%:/-..':\u25a0\u25a0:\u25a0 "\u25a0'\u25a0:;'. >\u25a0;\u25a0< - UiZ. The, fflrl -may write .the ? young man, a; letter, telling - him < what her - father . wishes- hereto 5 d0.-, - c -'\u0084 v* .. -\u25a0 ;. ' •3.1t would hardly: bebecoming for the /girl- to take j such. a ipersonal Interest i in , a< man J with tWhonv she « is, not very: well ' acquainted. ':K: X \u25a0 '-; : -\u0084- J -: ; :- . ..': '\u25a0\u25a0'< \u25a0.:-'. • .4. ; The form- of, salutation used in aMet- : ! ter ; depends r upon t the ; relation^between \u25a0\u25a0 thewwrlter,*; and . the 'recipient., r Both *of • . the ;« f orms . you % mention ? are 6 quite » in- " >.The ; same rule -holds * good :• in ' the. closing of the letter as in the open ing.V.The forms with "sincerely". are.;al ways good/ Introducing Frien d or Re la iive \u25a0Dear Mrs.- Adams. . * ' . 1. .What Is the proper -way to Intro- duce a friend or relative? -.- ! .'.' - 2. In. congratulating a bride or brlde groom-to-be, what must one say?;- . . £ , \u25a0 J.- What is an appropriate, iglft; for a groom/to present to his bride-to-be? ... . -; \u25a0\u25a0*."\u25a0. On' being invited to dine, how long ! before, dinner should one arrange to ar-. . rive? -When leaving, ' must i one bid only the hostess or, all 'the guests jrood-bve? 1. When, < making introductions one, shouldVremember ; that a man is always presented .to -a woman, a* 1 younger per- •< son |to an - older \u25a0 one and an •', unmarried woman\to; a «- matron.;. When . introduc- : ing friends a' good. form, to, use Is. "Miss Brown. let me- present* Mr.* Jones."- n If Introducing- a: relative one should- say, . "Miss Black., may I present mycousin. •', Mr.- White?" - - . . " . 2. To the bride-to-be one .'may say.. VLet me offer..; hearty good -wishes ; for ; your, future., happiness." To the groom to-be one -may , say , "Accept my - slncer- 1 est- congratulations."-. : > : . 3. 'A^ piece of jewelry, is the. most. ap-. propriate ; gif t: ' . " : .4:. A: dinner: guest, is to arrive- at* the hoste6s'»bom > at the hour named in'her invitation.- When leaving, the guest ' po- ' litely thanks the hostess for the hospl- ;\u25a0 tality enjoyed.: If; there' are few friends \u25a0; at the dinner;',the person leaving may, bid them, all good evening; but if there are many guests present.-she should bid; a formal farewell to those friends near-; est her. 7y' c::-; : \ :;•' ... <- - Mother Insists . ; \ Dear : Mri. Adkmi ~;' -\u25a0-\u25a0-. '\u0084- \u25a0*V :^C,'-"J '*\u25a0•- I am:a«lrl'of «15," and my.mother in- >. \u25a0ist». that \u25a0I \u25a0 shall' rolwlthl a mar of i 26. § I do not care lor him. - Bhe compelled ,m« .. : tonaccept .a gold watch him as-a ; Christmas present- .What: would you. ad-. j y^,'™* lo -.toJWHg I '^ . Caf ANxfbUS. '^= ? While -your niotherimay .prove > to; be^ your best j f riend. ; I cannot help 1 suggest- s ing, in • this •; case that i you r accept ;_the - young man's '-attentions, but'-treat him with; indifference. " v: He.f.wJll ,-soon^under-/: stand 3 thats his S company ;is not ; desired, and will: not force his_ attentions on' : you. -4 Answers to Beauty Queries OWING to the great amount of . mail received and the limited , space given this department, it is absolutely "impossible to answer letters in the Sunday issue following their receipt^ The letter* must be answered in turn, and this pfttimes' requires three or four weeks. All correspondents .who desire an 'immediate answer. must inclose a self addressed stamped envelope for a re ply. -This rule must. also be complied with In regard to personal letters. r Dandruff Cure , Dear Mra. Symes. . * I am troubled very much with dandruff Mid have tried castor oil as well as other I things, but without results. Could you P« 3 ; . «ibly give me -a permanent remedy tot H" ..what Is the difference between a cold cream and a . cleansinc: cream? Please give tne . the recipe for one of *aeh. - PERPt-TJXKD. • The lotion for which I am giving the recipe has proved helpful in very ob stinate cases of dandruff, so I feel sure It will be ; beneficial in your case.: Tincture of nux vonolca 1 ounce Splrifs -of rosemary..... 2 ounces : Alcohol;.. T.:.. 2 ounces - Apply several I times a week to the roots , of. the talr.- : A : cold '-cream is- used to heal and soften the ; skin, while a cleansing cream is used to get rid of the dust and dirt .which -has collected in the pores of the skin. .I ? am granting your re quest-by giving a recipe for each: - Kentucky Cold Cream. Rosewater .„.......' 4 ounces Almond oil 4 ounces Spermaceti 1 ounce v White wax......... 1 ottac« .'_.'. .'.^Cleansing Cream. White wax....' Jounces •Spermaceti' 2 ounce* Sweet almond- oil. 12 ounces Distilled Vater. .:;.;.... .' 2 ounces . ' Ol ycerine »/•-•* • 2 ounces \u25a0-: Sal^yllo - acid 90 grains' *<.-<•"-. '\u25a0 \u25a0 >. \u25a0.» ! ; "*»V"' • „_' Salt Rheum \u25a0iDear Mrs.-; Symes. -. \u25a0 -' .Will you kindly tell -me of a cure for salt \u25a0 rheum ' in the hands. Also, is whiskey goodfor falling hair?/- AJtEADER. ' T A physician's advice should be con .sulted: and,- followed* if you- wish to be - cured- of lh« disease in your hands. ; has proved helpful In many cases of ;fainng hair.^ .-> -:\u25a0•:, V', I'A : ..; -\u25a0..-,.; \u25a0\u25a0 . Blackheads, Pimples 'and Hair : Dear Mrs.' Symes.' '. \u25a0'. n What j can . Irdo \u25a0to rid myself of black : heads and -pimples? v, , -. - . - \u25a0\u25a0 Kindly let me>know; how I can keep th» • hair; from .becomicg.olly? A READER. • To remove"" blackheads try the folloWi ng: ; V..V^:;V \f~.\ \u25a0 '_' . - - . .-. >';:" -Green: Soap .Treatment for ' 'Blackheads. . v • Tincture r of -preen -50>p... .'.......»\u25a0, t ounces .'.--Distilled witch, haze 1.".........;;... ,1 ounces i .Let this mixture stay on only a few mo - ments ; • then \u25a0 wash off with •\u25a0 hot > water : If the green soap irritates the skin, as It \u25a0;• sometimes- will.-' ua«. it- every other day. .Apply . a cold \ cream. .. — . - . •: . . \u0084 Green-s oap may., be .purchased at any. •»;, drug -store.- --It tls •" not •• & regular - "cake .- soap."' butjlt. Ist- about the consistency of 7 ; custard. -j '<\u25a0 \u25a0-.. :\u25a0\u25a0\u25a0- - ~ .-:..- \u25a0.--. \u25a0 \u25a0-. \u25a0\u25a0 - Open each ' seed \u25a0 acne • with the point •of a '• : . -fine cambric \u25a0 needle. -;The , hardened, mass t -must. be: pressed op: picked out. ' The enyjty ;.»ac- of ythe r g!and-'should thtn be .-balnea V. with . a little \u25a0 lol'.et - vinegar and ? water, or ,-."with"a v*ry-weak solution of .'carbolic acid \u25a0 : r and:water.. Sterilise th« needle before using ' .if by- dipping Into bollinc water, as the usa of any Instrument^. unless tha skin as well as the needlo Is thoroughly cleansed, la al ways dangerous. Bathe the pimples In hot water and apply the cream for which you will here find the recipe: Cream for Pimples. Fallcylic acid.. 10 grain* Calomel 1 dram Lard 1 ounce The following recipe makes a splendid lotion to be used on hair which is too oily: Powdered bicarbonate o£ soda *i ourtc<» Borate of soda, powdered. '4 ounce Eau de cologne 1 fluid ounce Alcohol 2 fluid ounces Distilled water 16 fluid ounces Mix and agitate until solution U com plete. Coarse, Dry Hair D»ar Mrs. Symes. My hair Is' thick, but It Is very coarse and dry. My skin is coarse and colorless. Please tell me remedies for these evils. TOVNG MAM. If the> hair is naturally coarse, you can do nothing to make it fine, but to relieve the dry condition, occasionally «PPly vaseline to the scalp. To improve the condition of your skin apply the massage cream for which I give the recipe: Massage Cream. Lanolin 2^4 our.c»s Spermaceti S drams White vase'lne 2-** o-jneas Cncoanut oil 2 " ounces Srveet almond oil 2 ounces Tincture of benzoin U dram Melt the first five Ingredients tOK«th»r; beat until th»- mass concretes, adding the benzoin, drop by drop, during this process. Extract of violet or any perfume may be added, if agreeable. The massage will cause the blood to flow more freely and will therefore g!ve your face more color. Some calisthenics in the open air will also be good for you. Red Nose Dear Mrs. Symes. My nose gets rather red. and at times looks greasy. Please give me a recip« for a red nose, and the cause. • JACK. The following is the recipe for a. splendid lotion to be used on a red nose: Powdered calamine 1 dram Zinc oxide 30 grains Glycerine dram — Cherry laurel water : 4 ounces This lotion should be well shaken before It Is mopped on the nose. It may be used both morning and evening. A red nose is caused -either by indi gestion, or poor circulation of the blood. Careful dieting, massage of the nose and the use of the above-mentioned lo tion will soon cure a red and greasy nose. Castile Soap Dear Mrs. Symes. Does castiie soap contain glycerine? Do you consider it good for the face? S. Some castiie soaps contain glycerine, while others do not. Castile soap is one of the very best kinds one can use on the face. Dandruff Has Disappeared Dear Mrs. Symes.. I have always had very pretty and abun dant hair, but for the last year It has fallen nut dreadfully. I read in your col umns, that castor oil would remove dan druff. ' I began to use it. first massaging the scalp lishtly with the oil. then rub bing in a little Jamaica rum, and not only has the dandruff disappeared, but my- hair has stopped falling out entirely. Now. will yon tell me lr the combination win make hair grow in again, and ir there Is anything in it which will turn th* hair &ray? r. 5 I am very glad the dandruff has dis appeared from your scalp and that your hair has stopped falling out. If you will continue maasaging the scalp with the oil and rum, new hair will grow Irv Ther* is nothing in either of the 3« to turn the hair gray. Red Cheeks and Lips Dear Mrs. Symcs. • • - WUJ you kindly Inform me how to >;rlng y bs.ck the rosy colcr to the cheeks which * were at one tlrno red out have now become fad^d? . , . They say that persons who have red lips have heart trouble. Is this tru»*? PRETTY. Plenty of sleep and exercise to increase the- circulation of the blood are two necessary j requisites for obtaining red cheeks. Red lips do not indicate heart trouble; on the contrary, they are evidence of the very best of health. Crefltn for Face Dear Mrs. Symes. '- Will you please give me the reclna far % cold cream whloh will keep tho blackheads out of my face? Docs paint and powder cause them? .What will keep the teeth whtte and clean? VIOLET. You cannot rely on the cream alon* to prevent blackheads from appearing. Yon i must cleanse the face thoroughly with soap and water. Paint and powder will cause blackheads if they are not washed out from the pores at the end of every day. The recipe for a cleansing . cream Is given on this Dago to "Per-