The San Francisco Sunday Gall
SMILING FOR
BEAUTY
HENT smiling," says a well
\J\f known "beauty expert,"
f V "open wide the eyes,
slightly elevate the brows
...and avoid puckering up the eyes and
distorting the muscles around tho
mouth. Do not spread the mouth.
Slightly contract the muscles of th«
Jlps. but do not contract the cheek
muscles. 'Practice makes perfect.' "
-.• l.fear that Is carrying matters to an
extreme that few of us would care to
emulate; all the spontaneity, the real
beauty of a smile would be lost by
cuch elaborate precautions. But it is
true that a smiling face often makes
all the difference between plainness and
.p^ettinese, and that learning how to
smile is an art. .
First, your teeth must be attended to,
and g-ot In good condition for the smile
beautiful. Have them carefully exam
ined and put la order and cleaned by
m. good dentist; after tkat the- brushing
\u25a0 -with paste or powder after each meal.
and the free use of peroxide, should
keep them sound and white. You axe
now ready for acQuirliur the artistlo
•mile. «.
• The emile massage Is the earliest
step. Put in your mouth a thin pencil, •
holding it between your cheeks. Then
massage the cheeks upward toward
your eyes. Many mouths turn down
. naturally, and these must b© trained "
•with double vigor. "Work from the cor
ners of the mouth, flrst toward the
«yes, then toward the ears; and then,
•with the. pencil held between the teeth,
massage the lips themselves.
"Your real l!p exercises require the
pencil to be held In the same way a
. «tick of candy or a soda straw would
be. Pucker your lips around it, re
move the pencil and keep your lips
. puckered- as long as you can. This
will strengthen them and Incline them to
turn upward.
A final exerc'.se is to pucker the lips
as if you were going to whistle, then
•lowly open the mouth until the lips
form a great O, which must be as nearly
oval in shape as possible. Then slowly
•close the lips again. Continue this al
ternate opening and closing ten times
ior' each exercise period.
Xothing adds to the Jjeauty of the
- «mile like the dimple. It is possible to ec-
Qvire this by a surgical operation, but I
ehould not advise such strenuous efforts
tor eo small a gain. There is only a
hair s breadth between a dimple and a
scar, and unless you are very careful
you will have a disfigurement instead of
' an added attraction.
Englishwomen wrap a blunt Instru
ment in cotton and press In the cheek
, -with it. A temporary dimple forms,
which .in time, if applied always at the
same -place, becomes permanent. Then
eorr.e women have the art of sucking in
one or both cheeks so &s to form tem
porary dimpJes. However, unless, like
Hardy's .Arabella, you are gifted in this
• way. you-' would better not make yourself
ridiculous by attempting- it.
. Finally, the frown between the eye
"orows must be smoothed away. Mas
gage nightly with cold cream, or with
vaseline If you wish the hair to grow.
ANSWERS TO BEAUTY
QUERIES
OWING to the great amount of mall
received and the limited" space
givea this department, it is ab*
soluteiy impossible to answer letters in
the Sunday issue following their receipt.
The letters must be answered in turn,
and this ofttimes requires three or four
weeks. •-.":"
All correspondents who desire an im
mediate answer must inclose a self
addressed stamped envelope for a reply.
This rule must also be complied with in
regard to personal letters.
Skin is Red
Dear Sirs. Symea -I" 1 ' !*•
Some time ago I had Bkin ulcers at the
corner of niv eye, and it has left the ekia
very red. Tfhe little veins under the skin
seem broken, and there is a scar where an
ulcer wai cut out. Is there anything I
«-ru!d use that would fade the reJness?
Th^ rear Is net so bad, but the redness
makes me so conspicuous. AN ADMIRER-
I advise you to have the physician
*vho treated the ulcers give you a pre
scription to make the skin less red.
Hair Grows Darker
Cear Mr*. Svmes.
1. My hair used to b« light, but It 1»
•teadlly growing darker. Can you suggest
\u25a0cmething to make it lighter without injury
to the hair? If not. how can I keep it th»
came color?
2. What will make it grow longer and
thicker? My front hair» is much shorter
than my back hair. What fio you think
causes this? \u0084 „
3. 1 My complexion Is rather red. especially
my nose, and I »m Inclined to have small
pimples oa my face. Is ther» any help
\u25a0 for this? . , ,
4. What will keep my face from locking
chiay?
5 I have a few short hairs on my face.
\u25a0 I do cot think they are noticeable, but I ,
wou'.d Uk« to have them removed. Does
lemon face lotion, peroxide of hydrogen or
cold cream cause these? v\.i».
I.* I do not think it advisable for one
to use anything to make the hair light,
for as a rule one's hair grows darker as
cne grows older.
2. To make your hair grow lonsrer and
thicker make use of the followlnc
recipe:
Quinine Hair Tonic
fculohate of Quinine 1 dram
nosewater •• * ounces
iJlluted sulphuric acid 1» minims
"^rtified spirits Jounces
"3lx then further add: Glycerin,
«^<.«i- escnee rcyale or essence musk. 5 or
C minims Agitate until solution is com
plete. Apply to the roots every day.
Did you ever wear bangs? If so. this
** the reason why ycur front hair is not
»o long as the back. Or its growth may
jj« stunted because you uee curlers or
the curling iron. .>
3. First of all. it is necessary to find
out the cause of the redness. It may be
due to indigestion, the wearing of tieht
clothing or poor circulation of the blood.
Or it may be 4hat your. skin is so thin
that nothing can be done to prevent It
from hfivinsr a red appearance. To re
m&ve the pimples bathe the face with
bot water.
4. To make your rfrin less ehlny moo
vcur face" with a lotion made of boraclc
kcid and rosewater. Your druggist will
Cive the proper proportions.
5. If the hairs en your face are not
very noticeable. It would be foolish for
you to spend your money to have them
removed. The electric needle is the only
thir.sr which will ts-ke them away oer
rr.ar.putly, and this treatment is rather
eypennve. Lemon or peroxide will not
"•produce hairs, but there may be some
CONCERNING HEALTH AND BEAUTY
and you will soon accomplish the de
sired result. Be careful always to rub
in the direction in which the hairs run.
As a last Instruction, be careful in .
the way you smile. The broad grin is
not pretty; neither is the simper nor the
Icily cold and haughty * smile. "Show
about half of the five -front teeth of the
upper jaw," runs a succinct English
command which our smilers for beauty
would do well to follow.
thing in the -cream which \u25a0• you have
been using which promoted the growth
of the hairs. , — .
Liver Spots
Dear Mrs. Symes*.
I have deep liver spots on my neck and.
face. When using lemon for them should
It be left on overnight or used frequently
throughout the day? Do you think that
by constant application they will disappear
in three or four months? Would peroxide
help to. remove them?
I found olive oil very beneficial for liver
trouble, but cannot retain it when I tak« It
with orange juice. Could you advise some
harmless wine to take with It? - \u25a0 '\u25a0'
Can the bust be restored to its original
firmness? MARRIED.
You cannot get rid of the liver soots
until the cause of them has been re
moved. You should have a physician
prescribe for you. Local aDDlication of
lemon or peroxide will fade them, but it
will not remove them.
I cannot mention the name of; any
wine, but your. druggist will be able to
suggest one for you. s .'
Deep breathing and massaee with
cocoa butter will make the bust firm
X>«ar Mrs. "Symes. . '
My hair is very long, but rather thin. I
used to have thick hair, but It has been
falling out rapidly. What do you advise
me to^se?.-I^vM«slrs^^«s^s*Sf : !|b3!£pMjj4»fiFf.-.i'.
v The «kin en my arms and : neck is very
brown. Suggest something to make it
white. GRACE.
Your hair will Improve if you will give
It- dally attention. I Once a day. apply
the tonic for which I am giving; the
recipe, cubbing it well into the scalp.
Then brush the hair so that. the lotion
will be evenly distributed throughout.
0: Tonic for Falling Hair'
Phenol ;:. ..:........... Jidram
Tincture nux v0mica. ............. o^4 grains
Tincture cinchona 1 ounce
Tincture of cantharides. .......... Vt dram \u25a0-
Cologne 4; ounces
Sweet almond 0i1.. ...... ...w... 2 ounces
To whiten your skin rub lemon Judco
on it daily. \u25a0
To Reduce the Legs
Dear Mrs. Symes. - .- ' \u25a0
What can I do to decrease the size of.my;
legs, which are very fleshy? It is not con
venient fcr roe to use the pomade \u25a0 which
has been given In your columns.
- V. M. UNCOMFORTABLE. .
Rapid walking will remove the • super
fluous flesh and make the muscles of. the,
legs very firm. If, possible take a nve
mile walk every, day: Do not sit-down .
more . than is necessary.
Flabby Skin
Dear Mrs. Symes. '
Will you kindly r publish 'a • recipe for
tightening the skin? BROWN ETES.
Your skin is probably loose arid flabby
because you are in | need |of "a tonic • Be->
fore each meal take a:tablespoonful of
olive oil. If this does not buiidyouiup
within a reasonable length of time,
consult your; physician.
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Pimples and Blackheads* "
Dear Mrs. Symes. " - "\u25a0' ' :' " "
I am a j-oun^ girl," and my face Is full of \u25a0•
pimples and blackheads. What can I do to
get rid of them?;. - ; KITTT.-
Pimples are caused .' by ... disordered
blood or clogged pores.; It is quite neces-'
sary to !learn; the -cause? before- trying
a cure. .If youriblood is out of order,
you should: have your- physician pre
scribe a. remedy, if the pores'; of your.
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MRS.HENRY SYMES
skin are clogged with dirt. -your face
should be clcanscrt with h good soap,
a face brush and ?warm water. This last
advice will apply to the blackheads. One
should riot neglect: to cleanse the skin
every night before retiring.
. .' . \u25a0 i\.£f"ose?ic \
Dear Mrs. Symes. , • . \u0084, - \u25a0
- Will you please . name the hair -or scalp >
trpjibles for. which you recommend kerosene
\u25a0 and the manner.of using it?^ ls' lt the coal
oil commonly used? " ' Mrs. L.
Kerosene,, which; is this' same thing as
coal oil, is very .good , for vermin, -In
creasing the growth of hair and'remov
ing dandruff.- It also' keeps . the hair
. dark. A i medicine \u25a0 dropper is the most '
•.satisfactory thing .to use to ;• apply , the
oil. It is then- possible <f or one. to avoid
gettingtoo much oil on the head:- Of
course, when ' the oil is used Ito [ remove
vermin, the hair should ,be thoroughly
saturated with It. \ , • .. ,-
Freckles, \u25a0 Vatidruff; Etc. A
Dear Mrs.' Symes. \u25a0 - > - \u0084 . / ' - - i.:j j
!• £l5 as c publish a remedy for freckles. :
1 2.; What will darken: the eyebrows and
eyelashes? •.-..- . , -
3: I should like' to have a recipe "to re
move the dandruff from my head.
\u25a0_ 4. Is it very -injurious to use rouge if H
Is washed off thoroughly at night? '
6. /What will make the hands soft and
white? , • . A MISSOURIAN.
LOne of the simplest yet an effecUve
cure for freckles as; lemon juice, A Apply
It to the skin once a f day. . .- : . \u0084 ;
2.\Th«, eyebrow pencil. is the ; most sat-^
isfactory thing ' for darkening the brows
and lashes.- ,° r •
\ 3. To get rid of .the dandruff rub cas
tor, oil into the scalp every two or three
; days. \u25a0'*.'\u25a0-: .-;.._" "v . .:\u25a0\u25a0"\u25a0;/ .•-'\u25a0•,-.,•-\u25a0\u25a0. .\u25a0\u25a0: \
.4. The constant use : of any. rouge , will',
make the skin coarse; and: rough. .
. 6. To make the : hands soft and whit©
apply lemon Juice. v
One Hip Larger ffianithe Other
Dear . Mrs. . Symes. . '- ' - "- ' '
I would -like your, advice.;' One- -of my ;
hips Is larger than the other. I used to have
the habit of resting the weight 'of the body -
on • the : right | leg. and , I ; think : that Is why :"\u25a0
it Is larger. I do, not do this any - more,
; and : I should \u25a0• like *to ' know \lf 5; you ; could \u25a0
suggest "some exercise for me. > - \u25a0 •. ;
•—' \u25a0 "':,..: :/\". .'^ MADELINH.I^:
,1 think that -massage treatments would
be the best'in your case. "Let a reliable
masseuse take ; y6u. in "and- 1 as-'-'
•ure you you ,will*not regret the money
expended ; when ' you : see : the results. \u25a0 \u25a0 ''-'_
After; Pimples 'Disappear : v
-Dear Mrs.". Symesr. *•<:'' .-,.•\u25a0 -\u25a0 - ,
. s 1." Will .you \u25a0" please tell me - what 'win •\u25a0 ; •
remove red t spots after ' pimples ' go -' away ? rft :
Also,": whatsis, eood for, dark brown blotches ; ' I
on the face? :'Are they caused, by the liver?:. '•\u25a0\u25a0
2. I am five : feet six "inches tall and ,,
\u25a0weigh 166 pounds. What can I do to. get"
a little smaller, around the hips? .
S. * I am 17 . years old ; and ray . hair Is
• turning gray. What causes that? .
. ,-/\u25a0/\u25a0•: ; >; LETA.,.
'-. 1. Bathing the^ red: 6pots with ; : .-a
lotion made of «witch hazel arid. boric
• acid will help them to disappear.- .The
brown spots on the skin usually de
note liver trouble. ; It would; be well
for you to'seek the advlceof a re
liable physician regarding them.
2. Rapid walking will reduce the
hips, and so will the exercises for
which I am 'giving directions, if you
"Will practice them faithfully..
,jV To Reduce tie Hips
First, Alse the outstretched arms above "-.
the head, .the body -retaining its erect po
sition, then bend slowly forward from the
waist, so that the fingers coma as near .
touching the floor as \u25a0\u25a0 possible, without
\u25a0training In any way. This Is done without
bending the knees. In recovering position,
let the arms relax and sink down as the
body straightens* up. Second, with hands 1
placed lightly on the hips, the fingers polnt
'lng forward, let the. body drop - forward
easily, so that it Is bent at -the waist. \
This must be done gently, < as by Jerkin*
more harm than good Is done. From this
bent position roll the body around to - the
right, counting four for It ! to reach Ine
position of being bent over; to the slde 4 then
to' the ,back. being* careful '. to do It very
easily -,'at ! first, till .' the > muscles- hay*
gained strength, \u25a0 for an exaggeration ' of • the
movement* may cause : real pain. Then on'
sto the left and'back'tqithe front. -Practice -
" again, .. only start - toward' the left. Tim;'
waist acts as \u25a0a : pivot on .which .the trunk
'"\u25a0wings, "and the "head Is easily relaxed. '
•Third.- In -this exercise. the. hands have the
name position, but ;• now the 1 body is bent
forward from the waist" then back \ then • to
the- right and left. .Each movement, should .
occupy; four'counts, Take these' exercises
gently.., but 1 ; let -tbe\movements*Vbe. flrnv
andstronr.: Avoid th* slightest- strain" of
the , muscles. -> No corsets . should be < worn '
while -practicing •them.',. , \u25a0-. ;,/« •s- . y- , \u25a0
.'"//; 3. -Have. ' you ; ever . suffered -•>' with
headaches? . If so. this may be the.
cause for your hair'.turhing gray. Or
- any .severe i sickness*' may- be -i at > the
bottomjof the:trouble.-l.advlse;you to
massage your scalp thoroughly every
day and rub, coal oil into it so 'thaY
. you may .^ prevent : it from • turning
•-' -.--.• ... (Talks in- Her i Sleep' -.
'.Dear Mrs; Symes. •.'. -V "\u25a0-\u25a0;..'- -v. : .': - ; ,•
Bilht^'W? 51 «o talking. in my sleep every,
. night.. Is i there anything you- can'^mr^qt
that will. stop It? .lam 16 years > OW.0 W.- * S - <
\u25a0'"' \u25a0 \u25a0'"•.\u25a0\u25a0 \u25a0• \u25a0'•<\u25a0"''\u25a0\u25a0 ; " .—\u25a0*"'-;\u25a0 \u25a0;i.,.v - ', ;N.,D
You are probably, nervous ; 'aiid * cxci ted
bef ora, you retire. \I- advise you' tore
tire: early and slowly drink a=• glass of
warm-milk before getting; into ;bed.
. , : , Recipe for Tea , ;
- Dear Mrs. Symes. • " •'\u0084 s - , : .' , '..-:..\u25a0 - .
1 , w ' n y° u kindly give' me your tea'formuia'
\u25a0 for. dyeing: hair? •Is this a fast dye?- How'
."should It. be applied and how often? '• '\u25a0 \u25a0 •\u25a0• f
;4; 4 . \u25a0 CONSTANT READER. . . *
The tea lotion will" not dye ' thV hair
but it will darken it. If. you car© to use
it, , steep :'one ounce" oT* sage tin one nint
of t>oiling water. > Allow it to cool then
r ßtrato it •and'apply the liquid to theihaU"*
witha^brush. - • •;;. ! • : .
Thick Lips
.'\u25a0 Dear Mrs.'. : Symea.'-":' \u25a0:'•'. '- "\u25a0> \u25a0'-. '•';'*« ' \u25a0:\u25a0 \u25a0- ' ' r. I
••Will you*, kindly* let me ; know, haw \u25a0to "re
duce thicks lips?.. My. upper lip Ms .very thick
and I should, like to make It thlnner.f Friend* \u25a0
I told \u25a0me- to * use tannin - powder.*, but- 1 , am \u25a0 '
' afraid \u25a0' to do so .. because ,I - do "-not '• know
-. how. •.-..-:.\u25a0-,.".• >i.-. ---v., :
v . * Tannin is the " best [ thing to "use ' to re-^ *
": duce the, Ups.;' To : eight ounces ; of water '
add r ; one teaspoonf ul <: of. tannin. "Apply :
the. lotion to .-the .lips once a-day.- \u25a0 •. : \u25a0
"•.' > "'Not • Tall Enough \u25a0
'.; Dear Mrs. Symest :- : - ' ''_ %'- , -' "1/ 7"'
\u25a0;.' ,1.,1 am'l6 years old, -and' onlyts'feet "'
•.'tall. -What' can -; I •-'. do ' to v - Increase \u25a0\u25a0" my
\u25a0#hetjrht?-'s-.r>" t -"-V' 1 v ; ?'-V. -"\u25a0:\u25a0 \ \u25a0\u25a0\u25a0-: : .-.Vr- ;&£
- 2. What ' will keep 1 my; face and * hands *
; »mooth?, i .--.'.-•-. % \u25a0 -: : , !. il-- i ii-<: v^v/;
. 3. ; What ; ft , food ; for.; large porep ? ,:,l?&o .
';? not 'car* ; to^ use - s , j on - my; face. v?rV
4. Can" you recommentT something \u25a0 that
will decrease the. size of \u25a0 tho bust?
: A, HEADER.
1. If you will .practice, stretching ex
ercises two or three, times a day your
height -will increase. 'An excellent exer*
cise for this purpose Is the following:
\u25a0Rise on the toes and stretch the tips of
the fingers <as far toward the ceiling as
they will go; then sweep the hands to
ward the front, touching the tips of the
fingers or palms of the hands to the
floor. Keep both knees straight all the
while. ; : • ';.\u25a0•
;. C. Glycerin is excellent for making
the skin smooth. \u25a0 However, If you find
It makes your skin dry, do not use it
any mere, but apply, olive oil.
3. Following is the recipe for a lotion,
for enlarged pores. ' It should be used
. after the face has been cleansed with
«oao and water.
\u25a0 ' Lotion for \ Enlarged Pores f N
Boric acli ................... 1 dram .
'Distilled witch hazel ......... 4 ounces
'Apply with a piece of old linen or a bit
oft absorbent cotton. , ; ;
4. The only thing I recommend ;for de
creasing -the' bust • is dieting, and even
one must not: do thls:withqut first con
sulting her physician, for it may be.tha;
\u25a0 her. system will not te able to standtho
': decrease in tho. amount of food taken
into her body.; .
v' . The Walnut Stain .' . [\u25a0\u25a0
'Dear Mrs. Symes. '\u25a0-\u25a0-" \u0084
"Win you please publish In , your columns . •
a recipe for walnut stain for the hair? \u25a0 .
\u25a0• . A SUBSCRIBER.
, 'Here'is thereclpe-wihicli .'you desire:
% y \u25a0.\u25a0/: Walnut Staia for Hair
' . % Four ounces of -walnut skins.' beaten to a*
; pulp,~ to which :1s added.p ure alcohol, 14
-ounces. \u25a0-"-.. " \u25a0\u25a0 -\u25a0• '. -. '<?; \u25a0\u25a0' - ....
: Let stand eight days and strain. Then ap- 1
'iply \u25a0 to.the hair _wlth asmall brush. -
i- //TolGain freight
.Dear Mrs.' Symes. '- ./: -^ '• • .
l.ci am- 19 years of age and am five feet
-T six inches tall. - I only, weigh 122 pounds.
"~My measurements are:. 1 "SVaist, 23-.lnches; s.
bust. 34 -Inches; hipe. 39 Inches. Don't. you.,
;•„ think I. ought to weigh more? How can
••'I'galn ..flesh ?\u25a0''•\u25a0: v"-'- . '-\u25a0 •. \u25a0»"\u25a0\u25a0 \u25a0\u25a0•-:-"-->":- \u25a0--. -. _
»"I*2. -Please tell, me If cocoa -butter : will de- --
ivtlop my. bust. -I have tried It lor a month, ..
but. «c .no improvement. £^£j£g . ;
• 1. You should, "weigh" ; ihany '.; more
pounds; and I advise you to take a ta
blespoohful""of olive oil before each meal.'
If you' are not enjoying good health.'you
\u25a0 should consult a physician, for. you can-, .
<not expect to gain flesh while there is. a
•breakdown' in the system:;- -- • ->v '
\u25a0 » 2.. C0c0a butter^ will develop the bust,
'but-1 fear you 'have been a littlefimpa
itient. Continue to massage with it, and
; alpng with this' treatment- practice deep
\ir : Ni* s ° n ti ie Hair ;
'"\u25a0^wai^you. please. publish" in your columns -
. the most - efficient method of removing «lta •
from the; hair? . Mrs. J..K..K. .
> f A- very j good : remedy, for removing
lilts' Is gasoline. , ; The ; hair should be<
: thoroughly "saturated with it, but the
work :should"^be!done' away 'ffrom any ,
;flre. or,^ artificial light;,/ • - - \u25a0
Freckles '-and Falling^ Hair \u25a0
Dear Mrs.', Synies-V; "i W^ T ... - '
you: please tell me what will re
'\u25a0'i move ' freckles ifrom the - face ; and
will stop my -hair from 'falling out ?.• "-|V •..
'\u25a0';\u25a0\u25a0 My little niece has : cayght « lice / and I \u25a0
! have not -been' able to .remove; the. niUV
\u25a0 from : her,- head.- Will you ad^^.^Jg - ;
»If the freckles are not of .long: stand- i:
\u25a0 ing,'. 1 the ". daily, application of .lemons
'Juice' will iremove them./ ,•\u25a0-/';*-;• ' I
v -By i rubbing ; castor i oil \u25a0 into ' the .; scalp »
•^ once; atdayi you ;will Ibe I able ito prevent
r,your'-!r ,your'-! hair/: from i falling.': You cannot j
: ; expect • good \u25a0 results unless regular at- v
tentlontis given^^x-'- V ;; ' :: : / 1
f". For? your niece's head," see answer, to .
:Mra; 'J. ; k;/ K. V >X>Vrir/>«>) (^"jj^h -' ;
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ADVICE ON SOCIAL
CUSTOMS
1 - <yflU/ < V<4eJ&i/<SA/an^
...... - . \u25a0 . \u0084. , 'i\ ... ;
ADDEESSINQ SEBVANTS -* .
NO COURTESY" is good or "sincere
If there be made class'dlstlnc
' tions. By that I mean that a
'gentleman is not truly well
bred who Is courteous to his dinner
partner and gruff to the waiter. No
woman can be -well bred who Is well
informed about forks and courses, but
who la unkind to her,maid. Employ
ers who meet business partners with
hearty handshake* and who throw
the erroneous copy . back at their
clerks are lacking in. good < manners.
The subject is a large one, and v that 13
why I wish to talk today on the atti
tude that should exist toward people
whom you employ.
-If your cook, washerwoman, gardener
.or laundress ask for" your orders, ad
dress, her in a'pleasant voice and'a kind
manner. Gfve your. 'orders /clearly. .so
' that * no misunderstanding \u25a0 will result.
The domineering tone is most, decidedly
out of placein' houses -where good man
ners are, evident.' You are paying these
\u25a0people for services rendered, and the full
' value is i received. • or . you - would be
foolish to employ them longer. *
"When addressing a servant, there lies
; more in the manner than .in the exact
\u25a0words. You need'-not'ask a waiter or a
maid "please" to* pass ! a :dish at the
table ; or to "be so good' as ,'to .bring a
SOLUTIONS TO SOCIAL. PROBLEMS
.- Wedding' Anniversary;, 'j
D' EAR Mrs. Adam?. **''\u25a0.' '.; * .
Will you kindly tell me \u25a0 If ,' the
: fifteenth -• wedding anniversary ", is •
i^oo^^^^S^£
\u25a0 Fifteen y'eafs of ' x married life' bringff
\u25a0 s the • crystal wedding.- • 'I .do - not • think
that the sixteenth anniversary is- cele
brated In any f particular, way. ; _\ . . -
v. . , v; . J Sowing -Club : : \u25a0;.
Deair< Mrs. -Adams. . '.
Will -you kindly publish a suitable n*m«
.'for a sewing club, and - suggest the; klhd
.. or pins we should 'have? Therevwlll b«.
six cirls In the club, and our dutes will
\u25a0 "eetlle for the urns: \u25a0"We "-d& not care'to *rlv* •
more than -T5 cents"aplece for .them. W*
are all" about ||^^^^gg |
. You might find *. suitable : I names
among the following: \ "The Sextet,
"Busy Fingers" or you >mlght call; the 1
.club the S..S.,: meaning sewing society.
For pins; I advise you to get a cata
log from a firm manufacturing such
•pins, so that you CwiH- have fa large field,
from which to choose. -I^' \u0084:
-Dear Mrs. -Adams. \u25a0- -•i. ' -" -\u25a0 .
"\u25a0 vA voune man. . at a,- dance- not long a«ro. ,
'. called me aside and told me. that my under-.
\u25a0 skirt was - showing.' Of I . thaaj^a
him. but felt -embarrassed about It. Was
- . it right for him .to tell me. and. ..was H
proper for me to" thank him? v
I -go with a youne man. 'but *v*ry on*
tells me he Ms' no, good and - : don t see
why In with him. People say he will
-\u25a0: ruin my character. „ Now, he treats me de
cently, and would you; for the sake
other peoole. give him up ?: I think.* lot 1
- of him. •- ; ..-/ '\u25a0. V "\ C. ,B. K. ..
I .think* It -was all right for the"
youn^ man to "tell you, and It was, only
courteous for you to thank him.
What- charges have . your friends
against the youngman to w horn, they
prefer? If v they can • give you proof
that he is a worthless character, then
I say idve him up. . Otherwise, trust
him so long as he treats you with respect
.and kindness.;. ..'•;' " \u25a0.": \u25a0-\ :
TablerEtlqttette \u25a0 : '
Dear Mrs." 1 Adama.' . '~
il.- At -a. dinner /at .which there Is no
, waiter,, should a man draw out the chair
•for the. woman?. Should he abo place th*
.'chair. in position 'after; «h* is «eated?
-\u25a0 2. Whom" should -the "host- first serve at '
. dinner? ; •\u25a0 ' •\u25a0\u25a0\u25a0\u25a0\u25a0\u25a0 •• s - - \u25a0- •" ' .-v
- 3. I -: am -lef thanded and find- It- most In-
" convenient \u25a0to •" carve • game . over the plates •
* If placed directly- before me., to there any
other proper • method- of ' eervlne when th*
• carvlngils done on: the table?
4. Should gravy b* placed on the meat or"
/the, potato? '. '.. :\u25a0 v, /UNSIGNED.;.
1; Yes : a man should see that Tals com- »
panion is comfortably seated before ha
. sits down "himself."'- '' * -,---,-
2. The host / should first - serve . tho
- -vjoman • sitting 'to his right; which •is
•usually ; the 6eat for the'gueat 3 of honor.'
If. however, an' elderly: woman is prea
i cn t,; she, is; served .first... . , • .- »
3. -Why " not "have ; the most Important
part of tho carving done In the kitchen,
few- strokes of ; the. knife
will " be . necessary, :to cut th« meat ' or
fowl when It is'brought to the table? • I
4. Gravy is usually used as a dressing \u25a0
f or, xK>tatoes. , ; .- , .
To the Young^Housekeeper \u25a0
:'-. ' : To' Desperate^-T. think that tho' plan'
* you 'suggest. Is the- only solution >of -the
•. proiblemxthat -confronts ; you.. t^[f,-.- your,
I • ifather * will not 5 co-operate iwith. . you \u25a0in
managing -your > brothers ; . the home,
; .1 feel that .they, should b© disciplined by,.
. persons jWho have made this work a life
'\u25a0 '. study.' Can ? you £ not :i . confer,; with, the \u25a0
minister or. priest 'of' your church?; Fre-*
* quently t. much • : help \is - given ' f rom 1 - this '
; source." Jl* am: sincerely - sorry for - you -,
and , your/ trouble ' and. wish I. could <Jo.
' something' to'lighten^the^burden of your : .
\u25a0 life.': / Sometimes It : is : very; hard to : un-;
derstaind } Just\why-'some ;thmga are. Yoa .
glass from the sideboard." That would
be tiresome and unnecessary. However,
for little acts that^result from the serv
ant's forethought and consideration for
your wants or comfort, & polite "Thank
you," or, "No, thank you," should b«
used. . .
. Women servants are generally ad
dressed by their flrst names, as Mary
or Anne. It is the accepted form to
speak to men servants not as Henry or
John. His surname. Hawkins, Johnson,
is used. Personally. I do not like this,
but social rules are evolutions of years
of custom, and it la so.
Never lose your temper wnea repri
manding servants ' for mistakes. -That
you can help; perhaps the one in you*
employ, cannot help some of the many
troubles that occur from time to tlm*
In a household. Always give an errlnx
one an . opportunity to explain. A per
«iptory dismissal is more frequently re
etted than gloried in. by both sides.
Command respect from people wh»
work for you. By. showing a kindness,
I a regard for the feelings of other human
beings .and a recognition of the 'rights
of others you will never want for good,
efficient service. ~
Last of all. do sot indulge In tho
familiar discussions of friends or neigh
bors that bring contempt. Do not listen
- to Idle gossip, nor should you encourage
this. Nip all attempts to circulate
scandal In the bud. You are not hiring
a. woman or. man for this, I hope.
Remember that a gentlewoman knows
no line of caste, color or condition. If
there be the slightest swerving from the
. path that In the abstract is acknowl
edged as -that of good, polite action,
then indeed has your training lacked a
certain thoroughness. "I can detect a
jrentleman' by his manner tbward on*
who* works for him." said a woman th.«
other day.
. And so can all of us.
are young ana ' liaro yovr whol» Ufa
practloally before, you.' Do not gtvm up
hope so soon. Be courageous and I ara
sure that things will brighten. There In
an old saying, you know. "It's always
darkest before dawn." That means that .
when things seem unbearable and at
their worst, perhaps the dawa will com*
tomorrow. .
\ Has Nat. Called 'Again ' :
Dear Mrs. I Adama. - 7
" • 1. A young man called on cm and prom*
• ised to call again, but has never don* ao.
When ho waa leaving ha Insisted on ktas«
ing me, and I refused. Do you think, this 1 a
the reason why he. never called agata?
I think a - great deal of this youar man
• ' and. would like to know what to do so
that ha would call again. I atlli s?«ai
\u25a0 ,to him., . \u25a0 .1. , "
2. Do brides alway» . carry flowers? It
to, what kind? Is it cecessary for * bride
,t»-wear a wllT—~ i"~— . - \u25a0
3. If the couple ar» married ra th* after
- noon, what kind, of entertainment would
b».nlc« tor -the evening? . IN LOVE.
I.' Let us hope that his reason for not
calling, again is that he is ashamed ot
his behavior the last time. You should
not be so anxious .to have him call
again, and should make no attempt to
have him do so. - . , • ,
2. Some brides carry a prayer book in
stead of flowers. When they do carry
the latter they arc -usually her favorit*
flowers. It is not necessary for a bride
to wear a veil. . J
3. If an informal reception Is held fos
the br'de and bridegroom In the evening,
dancing may be indulged la.
The Greeting JVts Cold ",
Dear Mrs.' Adam*. \u25a0
I I. ' I greeted a young ' man. ' pleasazrUT an<t
' he coldly nodded In retuxs. Would you a<J
- visa ma to ignore him I th* next -tizn* 69
continue greeting him as before?
i 2. Should a girl uk.a young maa to call
on her after meeting him but once or twice.
or Is he supposed to ask for the pleajur* ox
calling?
3. Would It b* wrong for a girl to writ*
to & young man wbo la at school to tall "Mm
•he - felt sorry - because she . greeted htra
coldly after havtc- & dlssut* with him?
X. T..Z.
11, Try It.o-ace again. It maybe that
the young man was deep in thought, and
was unaware that his manner of £re»t«
ing you jwas cold.
2. Allow the young mas t» ask per*
mission to call. \u25a0
3. If the dispute was a very aerlona
one.'and you really owe the young maa
an apology, ft will do no harm to write.
Otherwise do not start a correspondence
; : Should' She Payt £
Dear Mrs. Adams.
L la it proper for a a«Jf-su;portlar worn**
to pay carfare, and all expenses Incurred lr>
' sight-seeing 1 when entertalnlog an old glr i
friend aa a house guest?
1 'When sending "At Home* card* ttttar
tnarriaga and .wishing to include husband
' and wife or more in < the family. - how
\u25a0hould they be addressed? 3. B. \u25a0
• 1. -It is the duty of the hostess to pajj
all expenses when entertaining a gusst.
As a nila/however,' th« guest usually of
fers to bear some of tho expenses.
•2. "When the heads of the house and
their unmarried sons and daughters are
bidden, one invitation I 3 sent, addressed
like this: "Mr. and Mrs. White." one ad
dresed to "The Misses White" and a
third addressed to "The- Messrs. White.**
JAII three Invitations, each in its proper
envelope.- are inclosed In a single en
velope., which Is addressed in full to th«
: matron of the family, as "Mrs. Jona
X.' White." The "At Home" card Is In
closed with the mvltatlon.
In a Restaurant
\u25a0\u25a0\u25a0 Does .an escort' or. th* waiter _ te*S »
woman to the table 'ln a restaurant and
\u25a0 hel» her to be seated? •»- *»-.
; The waiter \u25ba performs such duties.
The man," however, does not sit dowa
! until the woman has been seated