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The San Francisco Sunday Call;
California Women Who Think
Does Happiness Fly Out of the Window When Mother in Law Comes In at the Door---To Stay?
Does Happiness Fly Out of the Win
dow When Mother in Law Comes
In at the Door ---To Stay?
Is it true that the average wife can not live in; peace and quietude
; with her husband's mother, nor his uncles nor his cousins nor his aunts?
That the minute the family invasion begins trouble comes to roost under
the roof? This is a matter of vital interest to the majority of marrfed
; women, as there/are comparatively few couples free from family obliga
; tions and at liberty to live their own lives alone and for themselves. //
. * I have in mind a woman whose husband's family throughout the half
; score years of her married life have one after the other drained her
', financially, physically and mentally. She is a woman of unlimited gener
; osity, high souled and sympathetic to a degree, but her troubles have made
; of her a physical and almost a mental wreck. Is this an unusual case or
; one of several hundreds? What do you think?
On the other hand; I know of two women, one the mother, the other
i the wife, who have lived together year in and year out with" no more than
! the usual amount of ripples upon the /surface 7of the domestic waters.
; They are devoted to each other and more like mother and daughter
; than the accepted type of squabbling mother and daughter in law. Is this
; the exception, or does the other rule stand? ."
You California women who think are wanted to contribute your views
lon this question. Those of you 'who are married ought to be qualified -
! either by experience or observation to enter the discussion, while those
; who are not married are asked to give their opinions just the same. Tell
; what you are looking forward to. Do you want to share your home with
; any outsider? For, no matter how close the relationship, any I one must
' prove an alien factor. Are you willing to be one of a family of three or
! four, or do you prefer to shine alone on your own little hearthstone?
Sit down and write your answers to the symposium question right
; now. Strike while the iron's hot don't delay. If it appeals to you humor
; ously, put your letter in that vein.- Make your contribution as interesting
' as possible and original. For the two best communications received two
! prizes of silverware will be awarded each week, and you might as well
I win out as the next person. Why don't you try your luck? ' \ /
;»;? There is no space limit to your letters. The main thing is originality
■ and cleverness. Address The Symposium Editor, The Call, San Francisco.
| AWARDED A SILVER TOMATO SERVER"
She Occupies Peculiar Niche
In The Temple of Fame
By Mrs. Edward I. Wade, 3773 Twentieth Street, San Francisco
As a butt of biting ridicule the in
spiration of numberless brutal jokes,
the hackneyed subject of every third
rate perveyor of humor and. "penny a
liner," the mother in law occupies a pe
culiar niche in the temple of fame.
Few there are with the temerity to,
- sing her praises in face of the gener
ally accepted opinion that she, whether
saint or sinner, is an undesirable fac
tor in the domestic equation—a nuisance
that should be abated.
I myself think and feel that the moth
er In law "bugaboo" is largely a fig
ment of feverish fancy, of unreasoning
, prejudice, the natural result of long
years of Jest and ridicule, often unde
. served, that have been heaped updn her
"-devoted head. From the very outset
the young wife, whether conscious of it
or not, "is placed* in a position of an
tagonism to her husband's mother. She
has imbibed from a hundred different
sources that belief that the mother in
law Is a domestic ogre, ■■* a necessary
evil, a veritable destroying angel of
marital peace and happiness, and,
therefore, when she, the mother inslaw,
* enters her son's home circle she finds
■^herself surrounded from the first by
an atmosphere of.morbid suspicion, if
not open hostility. In other words, her
case is prejudged—she Is convicted
-without a trial and allowed to run at
large, as it were, on probation. Her
slightest act is misconstrued, her kind
liest suggestions .are looked upon as
„ an arrogant assumption of superior
wisdom or an impertinent intermed-
AWARDED A SILVER COLD MEAT FORK |
We Need Better Understanding
Mrs. M. G. Fritz, 142 Sixth Street, Ashland, Ore.
o * The question, which has a greater
call on a woman, her husband or her
children, is easily answered, in view
of the following considerations: The
lore of husband and wife is ohysiolog
!cal in character and has its root in
physical attraction, but the feeling of
the mother for the helpless mite who
* has been a part of her body for nine
weary and often painful months, who
has been brought into the world at
such risk and suffering as none who
c have not experienced it can realize,
- who has drawn Its first nourishment
from her veins, has surely a divine
origin and is superior to any other
feeling— every natural instinct 'is •
perverted and the whole scheme^of the
universe is wrong.
To a thinking, observing person this
question admits of no debate. Nature,
It is said, never errs, and from its rec
ords Innumerable "instances come of the
supreme devotion of the female to Its \
young. - The cave mother fought and -
suffered for her little one. Rudyard
Kipling tells of the hungry and venge
ful tiger that would face a bull buffalo
In fight, but would turn aside from the;
- cow with her calf by her, side. *
' For many years I was a teacher :in
"""""the public schort;s of California and
may truly say that most of the hard
ships of my life during that period
i came from this same all powerful and,
often unreasoning devotion ;of the fe
male to her offspring. Her attitude*
seemed a paraphrase of the patriot's—
not "my country," but ?. "my children,
right or -wrong," and too frequently
Would Use Common Sense
Cora A. Clifford, R. D. 1, Box 415, Oak
land
* Which shall it be? Which shall It be?'
I looked at John, John looked at me. ': f
Looking at the question under dis
cussion in a philosophical -.manner,vit
seems to" me that it would simplify mat
ters very much if we would .-take a
broad view, and, by accepting the
teachings of Christ, come to believe
that, as we are ; all children of one
* divine father, i the duty which we ] owe
to ; each Individual child is \ equal. The
tie that binds us, as f groups fof .in
dividual children, or families, is ;. love.
Wa, as fathers and mothers, are only
elder children, intrusted for a time
with a little flock to : guide; to feed
and to clothe, until they In turn can
c repay their debt to nature in like man
ner."]ii^^^^^B«'---':-..'• ,-"■
In ease the children refused to: see
that only unhapplness for all lurked
along the divided road, It,would:be well
before the j crossroads .were actually ar
rived at to- follow the -advice given by
the prophet of, old, and, "becoming wise
as a serpent yet harmless as a dove,"
strengthen, by ways known only fto
love, the straining threads of the warp
of life. . ' ,
' a ."The rose tinted veil of affection thus
%hrown over f the -mental vision would,
no doubt, hide'^he' dangerous 'dividing
of the ' path, and the children, as fam
ilies," travel, on in contentment and har
* mony to the end. •
Bat should the parting .'of-.-the .ways
dling in affairs that do not concern
her, until the cloud that at first may
not have been larger than; a man's hand
covers the whole domestic horizon;
the crash comes, and the mother in law
awakens to the sad fact that she Is an
unwelcome guest under the roof of
her own son. . All this -is because of
preconceived; prejudice, of childlike
subservience to a foolish' popular no
tion and a .deplorable lack of moral
courage, stamina and initiative. . - " I
My husband's mother is a -woman of
broad culture, tolerant spirit and great
adaptability. Her gentle presence has
always been welcome at the firesides
of her several daughters in .law, be
cause she is tactful enough to study
and sympathetically appreciate . their
varying temperaments, to try to light
en their burdens, share in their Joys
and sorrows." and by tender . ministra
tions win their love and confidence.
This type of mother in-law is * far
more prevalent than one would infer
from current opinion, simply because a
warped popular sense of ,humor has
singled her out as a target upon which
to vent itself. . - "-'&
My advice, therefore, to the daugh
ter In law, or/to the prospective one,
is to weed out this silly prejudice/wel
come her husband's mother to her heart
and hearth, remembering that the same
blood courses through her veins as his,
and she will find in her, nine times out
of ten, a sympathetic friend—one who
will be a solace In'the time of trouble
or an added radiance when skies are
bright.
the perverted mother affection , refused
to permit even salutary discipline.
'■•The question of estrangement be
tween^ father and children, and to
which* of the. two the mother should
Incline, can be answered;the same way,
as, if such estrangement comes without
the agency of the mother, such a father
is .unworthy of the love of /.wife or
child, as it is an unnatural condition
of affairs and can only be produced by
unworthiness on his part. Too often,
however, such an effect is clearly trace
able-to the Influence of the mother on
;the "/plastic /mind of -the child.-f Too
"many women seem to.be jealous of the
"father's love ' for - and influence on the
child, and while she may not be exactly
conscious^ of it, too often is she to
blame that the father is "regarded in
his own home rather as some sort of
a ."bogle man." to be bared without
being respected. . .•'"■..' . . /
In view of this strongest feeling of
woman nature, it is a constant wonder
to me that ; the modern. woman mani
fests such an Irresponsibility; as re
gards motherhood. Nof other duty in
life is, apparently,/ approached with so
little understanding; of or,: preparation
for; so; often contemned or avoided if
possible; and fwe are seeing the effect
of such' negligence/ which / can not/be
excused on the, score of .-• ignorance, in
conditions which are : urgently calling,
not for more knowledge, but for more
intelligent ' understanding of, what/ we
already know; and / the beginning of
such understanding should '- be: a clearer
perception of the place a father should
have in his children's lives. ', '
find the two still unreconciled I should
mo doubt follow the mother/instinct in
" herent in all women, and cast in my,
lot with the because that one
would, most; need mother care"/-' Should
both be threatened with death and only
one instant to choose, I - should * save
the one nearest at hand, and 'leave
the other to God, whose care and love
*for the soul returned to him is In
every -way ' greater than mine could
ever possibly be.
Woman's First Duty; Is to Her
Husband /
Mrs. W. W. Johnson, San Lois Obispo
; When we marry our husbands
pledge ourselves to love . and be help
mates as long as we are,sparedt to each
other, arid if >we are other than h*elp£;
mates we/are "i not true wives. I have
two/; fine children andf; love them as
much / as / any / one f could /love"" a , child,
but I feel that they < are';.' second and
husband is first every time. If :"I; had
to choose /between ' husband /and; chil
dren, \ which I hppe •I * shall never have
to do, I .would • choose my husband, and
to any true man the ; love his wife is
: his '• f. sustaining' power and ... help and
guidance. f; My; husband was ; first in my
love, and /when /children -t came it/ only,
made four ihome / happier/: and % brought
my husband and me closer together.; Our
children will some/day; leave/us, but,
please ' God. 'my f husband/ and . his /love
, will be spared me on my la.st long jour
ney home.
Love and Duty Belong Primarily
To the Husband
While reading the views written; on
the subject of a "wife's first/duty,"^ I
thought I would like to voice my senti
ments because they vary:- somewhat
from most of the /views already writ-;;
ten. '",.; .-.:/.;:'".-;,";;/':/"*:;;-- •;-,'.•''./■','•
I am a woman nearlng 50 and have
seen a good many phases of human life."
In the beginning God created man "/and
he; also /created woman ■ for; his ; help-' '■■•
meet and companion. "When they :or
sake father : and - mother :to marry," the .
compact fis to cleave unto each other
until. death/ do: us ; partnot > children. ..
*'f'Tls true having to part with' either
husband or child or to take/choice, of %
losing one or the other .'would; be fa;
hard proposition to ; meet, f: and the
answer would no doubt depend largely
upon the kind of child or husband, also
upon the wife and mother, to meet ' It. ■■;
But many a man . has in reality been
called' upon to. choose* between wife or
child; and f has always i answered,V'Save
myfwife." /Two/ such incidentsVhave|
come within ;my -. own experience; '-.' an
other case where-a wife lay low .with.
: typhoid r her husband prayed % her f life
might be spared, saying /he would ;
rather lose every child he had than his
wife. ;f./. .. .-'- -\
So many, incidents have proven to me
that a husband always' thinks , first of
Will Answer the Greatest Need'
Mrs. Clara Moore, 2068 Golden Gate
Avenue, San Francisco
"Is a woman's first duty to her chil
dren or to her husband?" /
"What wife can't answer this?" -./
It were better to ask what wife can
answer it. - .
f; Surely the symposium .editor can not
be either a wife for mother, nor a
woman, or he could not consider this
an easy question.
f Then he.'<?) proceeds to ask some
more easy (?) questions: ■";;'-■ ./;
"But what /would f you do if you
should come to ;the crossroads; to the
parting* of the ways? -•/*/•; Should
the two be threatened with death and
you compelled to make instant choice
Reno a Divorce Ulcer Upon the Community—California Next
Charles Cristadoro
THE courts of the countryoutside
of ; Nevada, of f course— at *- last
asserting the dignity of the law and
stamping out the matrimonial ulcer
that was threatening to lead up to the
destruction in . time of the holy tie lof
matrimony, throughout the land. ;_./
Dally cases ' are being made public
where not only the decrees of the Reno
divorce court have been'set ruthlessly
aside, but where - arrests -j for / bigamy
have followed 'and; alienation suits have
been ;sustained.: .<//./ /;-''-.'-'/;.;/"'; • *'/,*:
T"* An individual may file a complaint
in;the; Reno court on \ grounds no j more
serious ; perhaps/- than that-i the defend
ant ?in the suit ' sneezed tat the dinner
table : and, shocked» the; guests; the ! only
legal rights secured by the/plaintiff to
appear/ in C that /court}' being "caff "legal
residence" for six months within the
state of Nevada.'' Receiving his or her
decree, the man or woman may within
;. 24 \ hours } marry' his /or * her impatiently,
waiting; affinity. This is nothing more
or less than a travesty upon justice
and an / object f lesson """of the f grossest
immorality to.the whole nation.;. Verily,
a sin and a shame. *f -
„ But the death knell of the Reno "time
lock" divorce has been sounded. Anull
ment, arrest ?f and an alienation suit**
subsequently in another state, will \ put
Reno out erf the divorce game forever
and a lay. The affinities must either
make up their minds to ' live forever
in" Nevada, or fly to Europe or remain
out of the divorce game if I they dare
not air their grievances/ in fa 2decent
court. ':.':".; /:-./•:/ ;■'/ f-/'--/«: "'■'• ";' ;'. -
With ; the : respectable courts j open in
every, state ; in/the: union, ready -< to hear
any just- cause for legal separation
upon^ proper grounds, the very fact of
a man or woman abandoning ■ his or
her own; state and courts and'-fleeing
to, Reno for matrimonial relief, implies
irregularity of the worst kind on the
part of tthe? applicant or collusion be
Mrs.' E. Bart, 994 Alleen :, Street, Oakland
his vfate. We mothers don't always
appreciate this fact and are more will
ing to sacrifice for our children than
husbands. 'f -,"•;- ' v
Of course our children need our love .
: and care .while helpless/and dependent,
but .how very short a time is that com
pared * to/ a • lifetime—lo, 15 years at :
mostwhen they begin to drift away
from ' us, and «at 20 are quite \lndepend
ent of lus sacrificing mothers. I think
: the greatest love a mother can show
her children . is' to f train them /to bo
independent,'.-* self-reliant, not needing
any* sacrifice of mother or father.
f; If: you will look around you "will see
how most of the 'animal kingdom train
: their young to be independent, and we
might take faf splendid Z lesson : from
them. The doves push their blrdllngs
out of the nest early in order,, to teach
them to fly; if , they fail, bring them
back, only to push them off again till
they f are entirely independent. The
same with the eagle and with all kinds
and species of animal life the training
is "to be ', independent "of; the " parents. ; ;
ff Now why should a human mother go
to/ the extreme of I thinking she must
j sacrifice friends, substance—
all for, her children?,;. I havef seen such
' foolish - mothers, God/ pity them; and
the/children,; too, for whenV- they grew
to manhood and womanhood they had
between . them (• ; ; • • where would
your Instinctive duty be?" » .
f I assume; that the ; editor has In/mind
the average J: normal /woman, with an
average f/ husband/; and f children ; and
average home X surroundings. /Now/ to
the/; average woman f her;~ child': is the
apple "of"' her eye * her s husband ;Is X her
other half,; her complement (complete
ment) if you please. How shall one
choose between the apple of her eye
and her, other half? . ;/-f ',-i
, God forbid that: any woman should
be called /upon to make such a choice"
But should she ?be she -/would: instinc
tively go where; her judgment .told her
she "was most ; needed, even; though her
heart; would break; and that is where
she r should; go, that would be her
"first ? duty," for woman is /ever/giving,
giving of herself for others;/ that seems
to be/ her mission and" no doubt will
continue to be till the: end of time.
; tween '--- s the plaintiff and defendant.
:But; now comes : our own state, .Call-1
fornia! Where does she stand • on' the
matrimonial question?. // //./,/ *
-..'■•.■ Sambo, lately from * Ethiopia! courts
:; Dinah, marries : her, Jat once hangs J v up
- the £ shovel, and the - hoe,/dresses?,very
"loud" ' aridi in fact' becomes :a/real "no
; account nigger." He enters into part
nership with Dinah, she working/; over
f the washtub and from her earnings
a keeping them both. And fas long as
: Sambo: plays /the game and Dinah foots
f th«"/bills / Sambo is on velvet. Sambo
i comes ' inf for; an/easy * living as long as
Dinah Is willing to /work for both.
; But, except /In f California, / Dinah can
/quit any time/she" likes and turn Sambo
out :of / doors ", unless/; he becomes ■ a de
' cent, hardworking / negro and helps
support ' the ' family. Not/ so 'in Califor
nia. /-./' "; ; .'• ;f',;/.- ff// />/'■: ■/,_-;
f I quote the language "off Judge Mon
roe of the, superior;: court /of /Los An
geles, and if it doesn't make the above
,/referred f tof Sambo a real, ; respectable
member/of the community, in his re-;
fusal top/work/, and yet live; off the
fearnings;of Dinah, then ?I can't read ; the
English language. Judge Monroe says:'.
,-•'■ "The law of f California/a:/hardship
f; though It r may (/be/ is that the minute ;
r the; wife ' earns, money it becomes com- ■
munity property. Such money /is as
much her husband's as her own. Thus
he in law supports her with what she
l\ herself earns f and the v claim;;- of j; non
i support I fails." * **, "•' /'
--,-■'" Does that' not fit; Sambo and Dinah to
perfection? I think |itf does//-/ "".-■'■
The "time-lbck" residence/ law of; the
ft Reno divorce court fis /bad /enough/ but:
is not the California "community prop
erty" law Just as bad? /The question
arises the California law is/not? just
a/little/ more disgraceful than^the"
"Reno divorce'>" law? It looks that way.
..Where * does the "lazy husband" law,
f Just passed by our salons at i Sacramen
to, fit fln with this ruling of Judge
k Monroe's? The worthless, lazy husband
deserts his wife and children; she is
1 forced to go to work to keep a roof
over her head and the children from
a starvation, and If;she carries : home food
....•',-..,-.. .-..., - ■ .... - ■-. -....- „,
no more need of the, mother who - sac
rificed for' them. '■ She could not follow
any / longer, as the picture shows* the
"parting of ; the ways,"; for they drove
her backa natural ; thingfor her
ways at ;60 % were not their ways ]at 20
and 30. She had vowed to cleave unto
her .husband—not f her/, children—"-till
death. He would '. have, been her suit
able companion on the highway, but
she made: the wrong choice. : .;^f.'.-.',-'.
' /Too much sacrificing for children is
a feature of our American | life/and j the
gratitude shownor ; lack of it—by
the : neglect <of our old; people,:; fathers
and mothers. ;I s know a : mother who
has five sonsbig, strapping,: well, to
do ;V men ;/bf; today—whose f: widowed
mother is living on charity. Another
old soul/whose three /sons, big,: strong
men, allow her to go f out washing to
earn / the little to keep body and soul
together. ' ' -"' "'" ' v
There are many cases parallel, to
this f showing f a child's love f does not
cling to; its parents like the j love fof
husband; for wife. So. /women, "cling:to
your, husbands. Give;them \ the consid
eration, ; sacrifice /if ; necessary/ all the
Journey through; f give/the /child; the
love and care -; the few/ short/ years: it
needs It. but the \ husband will be more
to you as life advances:than any of
your children. /
Husband Closer Than Children
Mrs. M. Renlke, 136 Rose Avenue, , San
v;-',.;;-Francisco ''„ //-'';;/ -/;
I think woman's first duty belongs
-to her.l husband. A good, true woman j
will/ be/loyal/ to her husband /above j
everything else/v I think / a mother . j
should love and do all in her power to 1
guide and I fulfill ; her; duty r, to her chil- |
dren, but the first duty belongs to the i
husband. In' case the child :or husband 'j
: was; threatened //-with"/ death VI ft would i
pray to the supreme power"; above us to j
save both, \ but /I *< would /rather, lose a j
child *;f than / my./ husband. I'am :/ the j
mother of "nine children,/ and I; think I
while ; the love; and/attention, to be |
given the .children-; has its "Jplace, my I
: first duty belongs; to >my husband every
.time. A good husband*' and }■ a// true J
father will always allow; the? affection l
to be properly divided.
and rent money, Saturday/ night /the
husband,"}/ under Judge ' Monroe's 3 ruling
—and he : is only following the statute
turns smiling and /demandsSf his
share of the "community property."
The ablest jurists of the country. have
unanimously /agreed ." that the Reno
"time lock" divorce decree is not worth
the paper it is "written on—outside of
the state of j Nevada./ f //// f ///"V--*
These .same? Jurists would undoubt
edly unanimously 'decree, that J the Cali
fornia /"community?property"* law was
* neck/arid neck 3in J legal value—outside
: the state ■of California, of course—with
the Reno divorce decree/ '// No difference.
; One just as much ? against public policy
and morals as/the other. An/ immoral
pot calling an immoral kettle black. \
f:- Can California, the ;./prospectively^
richest and most progressive^ state in
the union, stand before the ;* country
with f- such f a ■*- law; upon - the J ' statute
books? -,;- „ ■ -•--. '-/ •:•-; , "•-,/-*
;/Asf Reno invites the affinity infected
people; of the country to her courts for
relief, // so does //"California « become a
Mecca/ for the husband who, like
Sambo, -Is willing .:■• to see; Dinah; bend
over f the tub and then/share; in her
; earnings, not through f complaisaricy*
arid; good will, but by, through and un
der the majesty of ;; the laws/of the
great and sovereign state of California,
Is fair dealing and chivalry so dead
In California that among all our- so
; lons there is not one who: has! about
him/the sense, of justice to impel him
'to«introduce :a bill .that ■ will :gremove
this matrimonial Iniquity/.; from our
statute books? ,
"f:/! Even a judge, when making his de
cision under this unjust law, blushes
and apologizes ?to the injured wife f for
| having to decide according to the law,
which he is sworn to uphold as -> it is
writ upon the statute books"l'jmgggfi'g'
, Who among our legislators will
bell this lazy husband cat at the next
session at 'Sacramento? , '-jfffWpWMl
As long as this statute, is in 1 force:
upon our law; books Nevada and Cali
fornia are neck and neck in the matri-
I monial disgrace race. Let us clean
house 'ere 1915 comes around.
Hawt^.'.- -" ■■---.-■--■-..- '■ -■-. ' :•-.": :■-..- , :-;
Mother in Law Young Wife's
Greatest Friend
Mrs. E. T. H., 8295 : Mission• Street, San Francisco
'I can refute the statement that young
married - people : to be happy must dwell
in a state of interrupted, blessedness!
I loved my mother In law. dearly f I may
say to the doubts of others, far better
than my own; mother. f
,"•'■' In this/way/ I /was what I have al
ways termed myself.a war baby. I was
10 years old when the guns fired on
Fort | Sumter In '61. :My father came
out of the war all ; broken ■; down and
my mother was In a like condition from
overwork, taking care» of f the family
and | supporting : them, f My life was a
very/hard:' one during those war days
and years. ■■'";■ ■■• '., -•'•', *.-/'"--r.
--f I remember in '64 I tried to attend
school at Johnson -.Town, la. ;f The
weather was something frightful. I
had to wrap my - feet in paper to keep
them from freezing; wore; only thin
calico/ and the cheapest /of cotton un
dearwear. I ; should f have f frozen to
death If some of the older pupils had,
not taken pity on me. One morning in
particular; It;was 30 degrees below; I
was ; trying to storm the elements ?and
get to school. I ,was"almost at the point
of /giving up ; when some of the : larger
boys overtook me. They were all run
ning ; for \ dear life with ears and: noses
frozen, and I was crying and stiff. "One
big fellow unbuttoned-his great coat
and "wrapped! me ;up in \ it./ I can never,
forget"that; act, ;for he saved my life. f.
In -j 1866 vmy parents •'. married me—l
say this because ' I was nothing but a
child j and had no say In I the j matter. I
was married fon the 20th '" of July and
If You Are Becoming
DEAF
or are troubled with
Ringing Noises in the Head
My Illustrated Fret Book Contains
JOYFUL NEWS
*•' I do not offer you makeshifts such as artific
ial ear drama or other apparatus; I do not ap
prove of saturating your system with habit-form
fng drugs. lam not content to merely give you a
brief period of relief from deafness but my aim is
TO CURE YOU PERMANENTLY
-■ If : am; a \ practising (aBBEf
physician of S3 years* lt»sltW|y"s«fW^-aMi
active, extensive, ' ex- M """HI -
perience. Iknowtheonly ■■ Hjl
satisfactory method of con- |H Sf*!!^ HnvHl
quering deafness and.bead IK WWI
noises is In potting at the seat JW!Fii*j3XM3!MIGEB\
of the trouble and curing It. liijß
I have published a book ; it M^^^^jgWfls^i^H
la written in easy, plain lan- ITfßß^x^ftmiQßßnl
range and Is illustrated. |igH^j^jg|^^MSSisll
It tella you facta you probably Iffr|M*|N^EjEHwLlHi
nsyver imagined and you may |yjW^gMaaMWgHM|
see just -why you probably Ife^lStafci^C^^i^l
never succeeded in getting a «'v^"sHMjMg""M""*ra
real, lasting cure before. It is ISa^Bß^aSy -,&J
the one treatlseyou have been IHBaS^^B il ,
seeking and it tells all about H^RnS^H
the one Method you Imsm&Mm Ml
should adopt and which is s""£»j&aiaBB»»fppB"E»I
comparatively inexpensive. lfiisff^ffflrff a *T w. ii» ■■
DEAFNESS IS DANGEROUS
There always was ms« danger ia betas; deaf with the
Invention of rapid speeding- automobiles, no deaf or partly deaf
person can feel sate. Accidents to those who could cot hear
well are Mo* recorded by thousands. Moreover, deafness?
Annoys Others by Forcing Them to Shout at You =»-V-v-".
-Prevents You from Enjoying Theatres, Concerts,
■■>'Males You feel a Bore When «» Company ■'■ ' r
'Minders Your Success in Business or Social?* s^_ f'
Stops You from Hearing Sweet Sounds of Satan f,
< fy Htuniit/ Allied with Nervousness and Dnr>owienr%. f !
v Say IMH»« explains woy »w »«r v^""I J"" »•«"»«>• |
(bat yon remain deaf and why yen are beoaml-ig a little harder of '
hearing erery year. Explains nervoaeness. Shows wherein the on- :
iaclylna causes of continued deafness or head noises are probably |
SHORTENING YOUR LIFE
book tells you how I have cured cases which, (
have I been t given } np ?as 1 hopeless," it explains ;
wherein yon mas gain wonderful benefit from j
the very outset, Itis a book for men and women i
of any age. % It fearlessly exposes the frauds that
prey upon those who are deaf. It shows yon how
Nature Is patiently finer for you to give her
achaneeto^lpyo^iT^Jboo^yon? ROOK flßO ijT
may say, is WORTH ITS WEIGHT «»„!?2',i
IN GOLD to yon, yet it will cost PERFECT
you nothing but the ! expense of a yrADIUn
postcard or stamp in writing for it. fl a A Kill U j
Don't pass this by and say "Ft is like PB p p
the restof them— disappointed l";Le» ■*! I
and discouraged,'' but get the book now and be
surprised— the prospect of a i"
SPEEDY. LIFELONG. HOME CURE
Throw aside yonr Vce over past fairaremJO
matter what bad luck you may bare bad even with skilled
specialists. My book shows you why they so'often fail arid
, gives you simple directions for testing whether your own
case hopeless or probably curable. There are many
' genuine pleasant surprise* In my book. You will feel •
I bettor for having read it. Let me send it to you, in plain
wrapper, absolutely free. Keep this adv't. Address ■
OR. CEO. E. COUTANT,
Station E, 668, . jfew York, >'._ Y. ■
was 15 years old on the 14th of Sep
tember. -:' From that : time I lived with
my mother in % law. She was a lovely
character. She read '{ to me daily and
taught me patience and forbearance,
also housework and how to sew. I re
member, too, her;'infinite patience in
teaching me how to buttonhole. - Every
one made her husband's Sunday shirts
in those days and I was making mine
before I was 15 years old. - *
A She ; not j only stood fby me in . those
early days of married life, but It was
one of her loved tasks to help me train
my children to be useful -■ men and
women and good citizens.,/ Every night
after their prayer at 1; my knee they
would" skip • Into ; gradma's arms for; her
blessing and prayer. <
.There were; times when mother and
I had riffles, but when either "explained
there was no ; canker left. Anyway, I
hold that shows af small and be
grudging spirit for a wife or girl to
take a woman's son, sometimes her all,
and not make some return. She is' de
clining in ' years. Give her a kiss now
and then, put a rosebud in f her hair,
making her forget she is growing old.
for It is all sad at best. '■', Love her for
the! life and love she" has given* you. '
A A wife should show,;all deference", to
her husband's mother; see to it that she
has her dignified J place at : the table -on
one side of t the son" and husband;" en
courage : him .to pay her attention and
court in her old age. He will only love
you the more for It and if you have the
right spirit; "it will bring a benediction
to your own life. . •
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