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10 The Scribners have made a convenient collection In one volume of the verse of the late H. C. Bunner. We lake from It en example of his command of a certain touch In which he was quite unapproach ed among our verse writers: 3’he Chaperon.— I lake my chaperon to the play— She thinks she’s taking me— And the gilded youth who owns the box, A proud young man is he. But how. would his young heart be hurt If he could only know That not for his sweet sake I go, Nor yet to see the trifling shobv; But to see my chaperon flirt. Her eyes beneath her snowy hair They sparkle young as mine; There's scarce a wrinkle In her hand So delicate and tine. And when my chaperon Is seen, They come from everywhere— The dear old boys with silver hair. With old-time grace and old-time air. To greet their old-time queen. They bow as my young Midas here Will never learn to bow (The dancing masters do not teach That gracious reverence now); With voices quavering Just a bit, They play their old parts through, They talk of folk who used to woo. Of hearts that broke in 'fifty-two— Now none the worse for It. And as those aged crickets chirp I watch my chaperon’s face, And see the dear old features take Anew and tender grace— And in her happy eyes I see Her youth awakening bright. With all Its hope, desire, delight— Ah, me! I wish that I were quite As young—as young as she! There are no perfect servants, says a writer in the New York Evening Post, nor are extraordinary good ones so created by their Maker! I am talking of common, every-day, moderately endowed women, about whom you can know little more than an assurance that in their last place they did not break the ten commandments. They are to be educated and made skillful just as much as lawyers and doctors have to gain by personal effort and good teach ing the professions they practice. Among these ordinary women are as large a per centage of intelligent, affectionate, im provable minds and hearts as among their ’’betters,” and, if you have used ♦discern ment and care in choosing the best within jour reach, It is entirely possible and fea sible to make of them, not faultless, but good, lovable (mark the word) members of your household, and accomplished in their several offices. I cannot hope that young eyes and hearts will see as the old see, nor at the end of the century' will look at things through the same lenses which were suited to our less complex lives in earlier years; yet let me say my say, fragments of olo gies, smatterings of science, votes on char itable boards, a smart game of golf and a cheer In the club Held—all have their re wards. Well-ordered, economical, sound ut-the-core housekeeping, of which the kitchen is the corner-stone, brings also fruit and palm as guerdon. The semi-pub lic, self-centered life has its charm—a pretty, a clever, or even a strong woman gains her thrills of applause, but the home-maker is lifting her small circle of bodies and souls into an atmosphere In which it is good to dwell, and building a kingdom over which It is good to reign. The Duchess of Marlborough's recent lestlvltles at Blenheim castle cost 8160,000. These hints, says the Philadelphia Ledg er, are offered to those who are preparing to do their Christmas shopping. Presents should never be bought in a hurry or without due thought for the tastes and wants of their respective reci pients. - Unless It is absolutely unavoidable, you should never select your presents either by artificial illumination on or one of those dark, damp, depressing days, wffen it Is Impossible to see distinctly and think co herently. Do your shopping, when practi cable, in the shining morning hours, when the light is good, and before the shops be come uncomfortably thronged with cus tomers, making it Impossible to move about without doing some damage to the goods displayed on all sides. When purchasing Christmas cards, do not forget to read carefully the words thereon in the shop, and not wait till you arrive home. Oftentimes the prettiest card Is. rendered useless to send to the person for whom it was Intended by reason of having some inappropriate sentiment on the back. You should remove your gloves when selecting cards; it not only facili tates the handling but preserves the fresh ness of the cards for future buyers. Take the precaution before posting your cards of making certain that they are fully •stamped! Now a word as to the dispatch of your gifts. It adds greatly to their attract iveness if you envelop them in fair, white paper, daintily tied with narrow colored ribbon, through which a Chrisimas card of harmonious blending Is stuck with ar tistic carelessness. Of course, In tlie case of things to go through the post, they must have an outer wrapper of stout brown paper, secured with strong string. Everyone likes finding in one’s present a cheery little note, written on the Christ massy paper sold in small boxes for the purpose. In sending presents abroad, care must be taken to observe all the postal rules and regulations for the “far countree” to which they are going. You will find them all set forth in the olflciul Bostolfice Guide. And post them In plenty of lime. It is better to ho before than behind the day. fnr dear exiles would indeed think them we.ves deserted If the 25th of December passed without their having received any thing from home. If you cannot think what to send them—tho custom ottan rroves a stumbling-block lo our desires In this respect—wby not post off an as sortment of the Christmas numlters of the Illustrated papers? These will be sure of receiving a warm welcome, and can be nL.?, “ Ucr,nost " of the earth In (Mr delivery”' ‘ U ' XlC ' y “ 10 a ">‘ ,lllch No matter if you cannot afford rich and rare gifts. The humblest trifles give un limited pleasure if given with a great deal of love. Let us give as many Christmas gifts to our friends and relations as we can afford. liut do not let us be tempted to spend money on them which we ought to devote to other objects. We must be just before we are generous. That useful old word "spinster” says an exchange, has fallen upon decadent days, few countenancing Its use save in the marriage service, or on legal documents. People prefer instead to talk of women "bachelors,” which, as old Euclid would say, is an absurdity. This dislike to a perfectly legitimate word shows a singu lar weakness on the part of women who are proclaiming their strength. Art un married woman Is a spinster whether she calls herself "bachelor” or something else. This protest has been suggested to me by an article in Scribner’s Magazine, written by Mary Gay Humphreys, and called “Women Bachelors in New York.” Save the exception of the flrst two words in the title, 1 have no quarrel with what is real ly an interesting paper. How very true are the following remarks: “Women used to save; now they earn. Formerly when they had to face hard times they re trenched in servants, did their own work, cut down the table, the fires, made their own clothes. The literature of the last generation is largely a history of small economies. Women might go hungry, but their heads were high, their fingers were as blue as their blood.” Now, if losses come, women set about earning money themselves rather than relinquish any of life's luxuries. The New York woman, it seems, has a wider knowledge of the world than her southern or western sisters. Consequently, when she has to earn her living she casts about for something original instead of confining herself to the old feminine ways. Philip Gilbert Hamerton heartily disap proved marriage made in the French man ner. "And yet one morning,” he says, in his autobiography, "when I was writing on my desk (a tall oak desk that I used to stand up to) the idea suddenly came, as if somebody had uttered these words in my ear: "Why should you remain lonely all your days Eugenie Gindriez would be an affectionate and faithful wife to you. She is not rich, but you would work and fight your way.’ "I pushed aside the sheet of manuscript and took a sheet of note paper instead. I then wrote, in French, a letter to a lady in Paris who knew the Gindriez family and asked her if Mademoiselle Eugenie was engaged to be married. The answer came that she was well and that there had been no engagement. Soon afterward I was in Paris. “I called on M. Gindriez, but his daughter was not at home. I asked permission to call in the evening, and she was out again. This was repeated two or three times, and my wife told me afterwards that these ab sences were not accidental. At last we met, and there was nothing in her manner but a certain gravity, as if serious resolu tions were impending. Her sister showed no such reserve, but greeted ine gayly and frankly. After a few days I was accept ed on the condition of an annaal visit to France. “From a worldly point of view this en gagement was what is called in French une folle, on my part, and hardly less so on the part of the young lady. We had. however, a kind of Inward assurance that in spite of the difference of nationality and other differences, we were, in truth, nearer to each other than most people who contract matrimonial engagements. The electric affinities act in spite of all ap pearances and of many realties. We have often talked over that time since, and have confessed that we really knew hardly any thing of each other, that our union was but an instinctive choice. However, in 1858, I had neither doubt nor anxiety, and in 1889 I have neither anxiety nor doubt." Despite her opportunities, says the New Y’ork Tribune, which the world is told have greatly Increased of late, the un protected female is, in nine cases out of ten, a very helpless being. For instance, here is a ease which is very perplexing to all parties. A widow with her daugh ter, a pretty girl of 22 or thereabouts, liv ing recently in Dresden, received news that the source of her income was in danger, and that It was imperative that she should return to America to protect her Interests. As It seemed useless to in cur the expense of the costly Journey for both of them, the girl accepted the Invita tion of a friend to stay with her during her mother's absence, and the latter set sail for homo. On her arrival at her native town in South Carolina she found matters even worse than she feared. She was soon left absolutely penniless. A married sister, whose means were also very straitened, offered her a home, but that was nil she could do. and the poor woman had not only no money to send for her daughter, but no means of keeping her after her return. In the meanwhile, the girl is ieft in pawn, as it wore, and the hospitable friend, wlto Is also impecu nious. is wondering how much longer her Inconvenient guest will stay. So. at pres ent, there are three distressed women con sidering the situation for which, appar ently. there is no immediate solution. This state of affairs never would have occurred if this girl had been properly ed ucated for some bread-winning profes sion, as she undoubtedly would have been had she been a boy, and thereby fitted for an independent and, therefore, digni fied position. What, under the circumstances, is to be the future of this poor, stranded genteel waif? The difficulty nowadays spcius to be not that careers are not open to women, but that neither parents nor daughters seem to care to follow any than of education to fit girls for self support. With boys such education is a matter of course; it is not loft to lie a matter of necessity, but with girls the need must lie imperative before any effort is made, and then it is generally too late. The whole trouble lie* In the fact that It is not customary, and until It Is the rule and not the exception, girls them selves will be opposed ta 1L THE MORNING NEWS: SUNDAY, DECEMBER 13, 189a “I do not see why I should be different from other girls,” said a young maiden of 16, whoso mother tvas urging her to fit herself for some self-sustaining profes sion. "I would rather have a tea and come out like the rest of my friends,” and this voices tho general sentiment. Girls expect to marry and be taken care of, and their parents hope that they will, and neither feel that the question of self-support need be faced before it is imminent. ”A fellow," according to the New Or leans Picayune, said the foot ball hero with the chrysanthe mum hair to the girl in the zouave jacket, “has got to be awfully particular when ho goes to get married, unless he means to throw himself away. There are lots of girls who are nice enough to have fun with, but when a fel low means business he wants to look about him a bit, and think it over. It’s an im portant subject, and I’ve given it my con sideration and made up my mind as to what 1 shall expect and demand in the wo man I marry. In the flrst place, she must be pretty. That's of course. Catch me marrying any old frump of a woman. She must be the kind of a woman I would be proud to introduce to the fellows, you know, and a bit of a swell, too. I hate dowdy women, who never know what to say, or which fork to pick up first at tne table. "She must know how to dress well, too, and not be extravagant about it, either. The kind that know how to make a big allow on little money. It takes so much for a man to live on now, with clubs and athletics and—er—all that, that nobody but a millionaire can afford to make his wife much of an allowance, and a man doesn't want a wife who is always run ning up bills for fal-lals. “Of Course, she must be educated and accomplished, and have seen something of the world. None of your Maud Mul lers, and simple village maidens for me, thanks. But heaven preserve me from the woman who knows more than her hus band, and wants to air her opinions. And a witty woman. A woman who knows how to tell stories that people listen to. That’s the very worst sort. And there are plenty of them, too. Why, I’ve met wo men—taken ’em down to dinner—who told stories that kept the table in a roar, and nobody listened to a wood I said about Jim Scott, our quarter back. Capital story, it was. too. about Jim. I think a woman ought to take all her opinions from her husband, and think as he does. She ought to draw him out and defer to his judg ment. Men are better able to Judge, you know, of things than women. Their minds are er—trained—er in college, yu know. "Of course, she must be a good house keeper and know how to manage things, so that when I come home I won’t be worried about household matters. A man wants to be amused in his own home, and petted and made much of. I shall expect a good dinner, well served, and afterwards for her to be ready to go out to the play, or some function, or if I am tired, to talk to me, or read to me, or sing for me. But she must keep all the working of the household machinery out of sight. "1 should like her to be athletic enough to ride a wheel when I want to go, but not one of the bloomer women that are forever scorching about. They are hor rid, and disgusting, hut I should expect her to be interested in out door sports, and willing to take a hand now and then. Of course, she must be devoted to me, but not one of the kind that always expect you to be home by 10 o'clock, or to give an account of every hour. That would make me tired. Of course, a woman’s place is in her home, and I shouldn’t want her going about without me to places. But that's entirely different, "And what,” Inquired the girl in the zouave Jacket anxiously, “would you offer this paragon in return for ail these vir tues?” A lady happened to remark to an ath letic friend that it was very strange that most of the bad bicycling accidents seemed to happen to women—and could he ac count for it—were they more “foolhardy?” “Not at all,” he replied; “the real reason is, I think, that women cannot Judge dis tances. Now, from his earliest youth up a boy is trained through his games to ac curately measure yards and feet. You will see a woman rush in between two carts where a man could tell you to a cer tainty that It would be impossible to avoid an accident. It Is Just the wmnt of a trained eye that does the mischief.” There is altogether too little pride among certain women who are called up on to do a very natural thing—stand alone. It is a shame to these, says the New Y’ork Mail and Express, yet there are also women who go forth to fight with no reason for money-getting beyond inde pendence; that is, self-support Is not nec essary and important. A woman said to me recently; ”1 have been offered a position as a saleswoman in a store where there are only men. The hours are easy enough, the work light” the salary fair. I was on the point of accepting it when, having mentioned the offer to—well—to—a gentleman friend, whose opinion is everything to me—you know—he grew very angry and said he sooner or later expected me to take up whisky drumming if my tastes ran in such lines. Now I do care for his opinion and wouldn’t displease him for the world.” “Why don't you marry that man?" I asked. “If you mean to give up an offfir to your financial advantage upon his ad vice and have no means or other oppor tunity. it seems .to me that the most like ly thing to do is to marry him at once; if indeed, his bent of love be honorable, his purpose marriage, when you will be con tent to fulfill! his ideal of inane and pin cushiony womanhood at the. cost of your board!” Strange to say that young woman was Inflamed and furious, and I very much doubt if she will take my proffered ad vice, for which I should respect hw, knowing that she had awakened to a dis satisfaction of such a cad and a churl. A Woman Wonders: Why when a man takes lil* sister to the theater he always looks bored? CHRISTMAS BARGAINS Why women with short necks always buy the fluHiest collars? Why we never like our own photo graphs? Why, when we haven’t met a man for five years, he always tells us we look as young as ever? Why the man who can make a century run on his wheel, and not feel It, cannot walk the baby fifteen minutes without be ing ready to die with exhaustion? Why our husbands admire us most when we have on a cheap frock? Why it is so much easier to go to the opera on a bad night than It would be to go to church? Why we all always feel that the men we love are not capable of taking care of themselves? To emit a spark, says the New York Tri bune, there must be flint as well as steel, and even to light a match requires fric tion, so to insure conversational brilliancy it is necessary to have what is equivalent to these conditions. "At dinner last night I sat next to Mr. A , who every one says is such a clever conversationalist,” said a pretty but rath er silly society woman, in all innocence, “and he was as stupid as an owl, and as mum as an oyster. I expected to be so well entertained, and I never was at a duller dinner.” It would never have oc curred to her that she herself was the cause of the clever man's taciturnity. "I wonder what was the matter with me last night,” remarked a brilliant wo man, who had just declared her entertain ment of the evening before a total failure. “I felt absolutely tongue-tied. I liter ally could not think of a thing to say. Mr. X on one side and Mr. Z on the oth er droned on with their dreary platitudes about their chefs, and their establishment and their wines, until I thought I should go mad, and my husband said that their wives at his end of the table were no bet ter. 1 felt really mortifled at my stupid ity, but I actually had not an idea in my head; so I was as bad or even worse than the rest.” "I should Bay that the trouble was more with your guests than with yourself," said her friend. “I have always found that It is fatal to be flanked with two stupid people. One is simply submerged under the ooze of the commonplace, and there is no use struggling against It. If you have a dull man on one side, it is abso lutely necessary that his Influence on the conversation should be neutralized by a vivacious personage on the other. With two such heavy weights as Mr. X and Mr. Z ,or course your own originality was completely crushed. "TIUs magnetic current, or whatever it Is, whereby what is best or most enter taining Is evoked, is very mysterious. Every one knows how much easier It is to talk with some people than with others, and yet It Is not necessary that the former should be clever and produce this result. It is a subtle and Indescribable wave of sympathy which every one recognizes, al though it Is quite impossible lo define It, and it Is a well known fact that orators, actors and musicians are Immensely In fluenced in their performances by feeling —CHRISTMAS BARGAINS -2 5: PER : CENT. : DISCOUNT 7 FROM FACTORY COST. T HOUSANDS I,OOO’S OF Choice pieces in Bric-a-Brac, Cut Glass, Royal, Dresden, Wedge wood, Bronze, Limoges, Japanese, to select from. Our line of Cups and Saucers and Plates are all of the standard makes—Haviland’s, Royal and others. Comp and Brush Trays, Manicure Sets, Bon Bon Boxes, Pin Trays, immense line. Our Dinner Ware, only a few sets left, at half the original cost. Our Housefurnishing Department is crowded ev ery day. Prices are simply unheard of. Nothing bet ter or more substantial than a Christmas Gift of a Fine Range, say Othello, Perfect or Domestic Sun Shine. Either of which perfect operation and satis faction is guaranteed. There will be no poor turkevs if roasted in one of these Ranges, as they are venti lated as to be self basters. JOHN R. DILLON, Receiver. —CHRISTMAS BARGAINS— themselves in touch with their audiences.” "That is a very consolatory doctrine,” remarked the hostess whose dinner had been a failure. "Whenever I am particu larly stupid I shall in future consider that it is not my fault, but that of the people with whom I am seated.” A train, says the New York World, the pompadour coiffure is the rage in Paris. Some venturesome spirit started the fash ion, it was promptly taken up by the fore most Parisians, and to Americans the fact that the Countess Castellane immediately adopted it will be an excellent guarantee for its prompt success in New York, The revival of this 3tately coiffure shows be yond a doubt that the effort to revive fringes and frizzes has been a complete failure. Women who have been actively engaged In imitating the Gibson girl for the past few years cannot so abruptly relinquish the satisfaction of displaying their pretty white foreheads. And if they must give up the part which has become the property of the shop girl it does not follow that they need overshadow their eyes by the old time curly bang. The pompadour has been offered as a compromise and accepted. “Do yon remember," said a Colonial dame, to the Now York Tribune, recently, "the old-fashioned children's game, where in one child says, ‘I went up one pair of stairs,' and the other answers. 'Just like me.' 'I went up two pair of stairs,’ con tinued the first speaker. 'Just like me.’ re iterates No. 2, and so on—three pair of stairs, four pair of stairs, etc. Well, that is just the way it is with me and my friends nowadays. They all live In apart ments up one pair of stairs, up two pair of stairs, etc., and it's Just like me.’ “The majority of us are too poor to own houses, and I have noticed that decayed aristocracy generally prefers the old-fash ioned houses like those in Washington Square and other old-time places where there are no ‘lifts.’ " 'I wonder,' I said to myself the other evening, ‘why it is I feel so exhausted after a round of visits; it never used to tire me this way. I must be getting old and decrep it.' "Then I remembered, to my comfort, that it must be the stairs, nd_T began to reflect that it was really true that nearly all of my intimate friends live In apart ments. How strange it was to think of the changes wrought in the last couple of dec ades! llow completely the New York of my day had been submerged by the rising tide of anew clement. “And when I recollect,” she continued, a little bitterly, "what all these people were when 1 was young " "Good gracious! Aunt Mary's beginning again!" exclaimed her niece, by marriage, a lively, up-to-date fashionable woman of the day, in a half-audlhle aside. "How they go on about their antece dents, poor dear old frumps, and about those of the people one knows. It is the one great topic of conversation in her set. ! went with her the other afternoon to Mr*, do Peyster Mvingston Van Ouzen’s tea. It was as she said, literally up three pair of stair*. Very pretty after you got there—furnished with family colonial heir loom and birds and flowers. We had tea out of cups so thin that they seemed as if they would break if you looked at them, and the most delicous hot things to eat— all cooked after famous old southern rec ipes that had been in the family for ages, and which they would never dream of tell ing to a parvenue like me. Well, you should have heard them over their tea cups! “Of course, the talk turned, as it invari ably does with Aunt Mary's friends, upon the changes in New York society. My, how they pulled every one's claims and respon sibility to pieces! And how they all en joyed the dissection!" “Actually sold thread and needles," Aunt Mary's voice was heard in the pause to say at the other end of the room, "to my mother over the counter!" “Do listen to her!” comrtfented her irrev erent niece. "That is just the way they will go on about the old and the new ad infinitum. Isn’t it tiresome?” Diamonds should be worn by the bril liant woman, but the quiet one should choose pearls. The beauty of a brunette is enhanced by rubies and topazes, and of a fair-skinned woman by emeralds. The gloves that enjoy the highest favor have only one button apiece in these days, and even this makes them almost too long for the sleeves that must fail to the knuckles. Evening gowns, with square-cut necks, are much worn this season. The square neck is more becoming to sloping shoul ders than the round neck, and laoe and chiffon ruffles can bo used to give the edges a soft and dainty finish. The contrasts of life, says the New York Tribune, are trying and the equalities of fortune make fortune seem much harder to bear. “I felt as if I could shake Mrs. Midas yesterday,” said a modern Martha, ever anxious about many things, whose strait ened circumstances are a continual source at worry and care to her. "I went to see her this afternoon, and as she was indis posed she asked me to come up to her boudoir. There she lay on the sola in the most elaborate teagown, with her little ivory tablets and a pencil in her hand. " ‘Do tell me.* she explained, ‘what to buy? Mr. Midas hits Just given me s!*> as a phllopena present, and 1 am trying to write down what •! want, and I really cannot think of l anything.* " ‘Are there no orphans at your doors?’ I quoted, laughingly. “ ‘Oh, of course, we always give a cer tain amount in charity,’ site answered, half offended. 'And I ant sure Mr. Midas is most liberal, but this he stipulated was for myself alone, and I haven't an idea what to do with it.' "As 1 left I could not help thinking of my ungratifled W'ants, which were legion, and of the many things which I had lo deny my children on account of our small income. All this seemed to me very try ing and unjust, and the difference in our positions rankled all that afternoon, un- | til I re-entered my shabby home and was | surrounded by my darlings. “Then my cares were all forgotten and my discontent vanished in thin air. With the nurse I found a former servant, who had been my cook, and who had left mo to take a place as kitchenmaid at one of the grandest houses in town; 'to improve herself,’ as she told me, I having advised her strongly to take the place and learn all she could. “ ‘I heard you were not suited, Mrs. C.’ she said, ‘and I came to see if you would take me back.’ " ‘Why, what was the matter at the X 's?* I asked. ‘Did you not like the place?' “ ‘Oh, ma'am,’ she exclaimed, ‘I could not stand it; it made me too unhappy to see such quantities of good food wasted every day. The food would have fed a dozen families and my brotheVout of work and nearly beside himself with trouble, and his wife and children nearly starving, it made me feel wicked. The difference seemed so cruel hard, and I would rather be with you, ma’am, in my own kitchen, where I know that whatever there is to spare is not chucked out Into the refuse barrel!' ” IDIOTS WITH MEMORIES. Persons Wills Mttle Brain Powe* Who Have Be*s Reronrknble l Remembering. Erqm Appleton’s Popular Science Monthly. Winslow records the case of a man who remembered the day of burial of every P ' son who had died in the parish tor tninr five years, and who could repeat with pe feet accuracy the names and ages of deceased and of the mourners at the f eral. He was a profound Idiot, and <o not reply intelligently to a single I l ucs , beyond this, nor be trusted even to f himself. h - Morel cities the instance of an Idiot was unable to count twelve yet could n _ all the saints of the calendar and the of their respective fetes. ~w (i In some of the books on these nr-rec Is mentioned an idiot with a won _ memory for English history, when plied with the sllghest cue he recoun measured tones whole passages of • Kalrel noted an Imbecile who com immediately the days of birth and > and the principal events In the life " celebrated personage mentioned to ,' a i Such instances of elaboration ot P - )(1 memories where all other faculties abeyance might be multiplied- , „f above mentioned were, no doubt , them, examples of extraordinary ' mont of the auditory tracts ana < . There arc other cases in which h memories are disproportionately 1 fnf od, as in idiots with unsual rm ' n ! ar places or faces. These patlenta, congenial defective*. —"Your daughter. Mr. Banker. I* , cold and coy toward men, It seem* ,n ™ "Quite so. Hhe Is a brave defender o million*,"—Fllegende Blatter. CHRISTMAS BARGAINS