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Vol. VII.—No. 11
JOHN ANDERSON MY JO .Tolm Anderson my jo, John When we were first acquent. Your locks were like the raven. Your bonnie brow was brent; But now your brow is held. John, Your locks are like the snow: But blessings on your frosty pow, John Anderson my jo. John Anderson my jo, John. We clamb the hill thegither; And monie a canty day. John, We’ve had wi’ ahe anither: Now we maun otter down. John, But hand in hand we’ll go. And sleep thegither at the foot, John Anderson my jo. —Robert Bums MARRIAGE. The Evidences of the Failure of Marriage Feeble, Few and Far Between. Wifely Worth Wins. Oh type supernal of that love That waits for man in realms above! There's naught to match thy love in life Sweet heart, fair bride and truest wife. M. A. B. I do not believe in the universality of the failure of marriage. To do so 1 would have to believe in the total de pravity of the human race. I believe that there are more good men living to day than ever before. I believe that there are more ready to become patriots and martyrs than in any prior age. Marriage that brings together the good and the true and results in newer gen erations of the same kind, is not a failure. Sunol. The question of the failure of mar riage must have originated in the brain of a Satyr or the person who never had the privilege of the family circle, with loving father and mother, kind brothers and loving sisters around him. In his memory can linger no sacred remem brances of a dear old home. Through out this broad land are happy homes with bright-eyed children and loving wives, that proclaim the fact that mar riage is not a failure. Bather is it a divine institution given by (lod to man and sacred as the hope of salvation and heaven. - Ossiax. There seems to be two important points to consider on this question. Two thirds of what are now termed mar riages are little better than disreputa ble farces looking forward to the easy dissolution of the divorce court. The misery and moral depravity sown broad cast by such contracts pollute the whole social atmosphere. If such are mar riages then is the state a failure. On the other hand there are marriages where real love, loyalty and unity exist. Such instances may be compared to the heavenly paradise we dream about. But the chances in the lotery to draw a dismal blank are too numerous to en courage an outsider in taking such a step which would appear to lead to misery and wreck. P. A. F. Is marriage a failure ? There is some thing about that question that sounds silly to me. I always want to throw an old boot at it, and yet, alas, in many in stances it proves to be a very sad fail ure. Thus we are incited to seek the cause, or rather causes, and they are legion. Being a single man my knowl edge is gleaned from observation rather than experience. Xevertheless I have seen enough to deem reciprocated love essential to a successful wedded life. It is the grand equipoise to all the little differences arising out of new condi tions, blending two lives together as one. It would seem the key to a suc cessful matrimonial alliance. All those who embark upon the voyage without it, trim their lamps without oil. Marriage is a failure. The divorce courts verify this assertion. Some have not the courage to brave scandal. If rich, the couple continue to tolerate one another. If poor, the husband gives the wife a beating once in a while, or the wife makes the fireside a hell with her biting tongue. A greater proof of (El)c finnan JUirror. S. W. , * '*' • * V STILLWATER, MINNESOTA, OCTOBER 19, 1893. the failure of marriage to insure happi ness for mankind, is man himself. Ex amine this race of bipeds—vain, selfish “insects grovelling in the dust of etern ity.’’ The chord of life should be cut and man obliterated from the world he pollutes with his vile deeds. Exter minate this race of sin-hardened hypo crites by making marriage or cohabita tion a capital crime. Restore the world to chaos and let evolution work out a race worthy of living and capable of en joying life as intellectual beings should. C, C. Is marriage a failure? Assuredly not. Those who seek divorces are fail ures as men and women. But as they are only about two per cent, of the whole marrying people they prove noth ing against marriage. Look at those who have lived together for a life-time. The passion of youth is gone but they are more dependent on each other day by day. There is no holier sight than a 1 married couple reaching old age. They. 1 are one. But when a man takes to wife a woman simply to work for him, how will he fare? The woman of mind ex pects to be an equal and not a neglected slave. ()n the other hand, what sort of a helpmate will a selfish bundle of fe male vanity make? Blame the selfish ness of men and women. Blame the easy divorce law. But do not damn marriage with your sophistries. The assertion that marriage is a fail ure would come with very bad grace from one who himself is the offspring of legal marriage. Xo one wants to ad mit that he is the result of a failure. Whatever our opinions may be in re gard to the culpability of women, it would be cowardly to express them here for the reason that this is a newspaper and women would have no opportunity to reply to our remarks. It is a good rule never to condemn a system until we can suggest a better one. Repro duction is the second law of nature. The sexual instinct defies all law and all reason. The sexes will unite and be happy together as long as they are mut ually attractive and satisfying to each other. There is no condition of life that can guarantee perfect and perma nent happiness. After all there is prob ably as much happiness among married people as among the single. At best marriage is a lottery, but it certainly does offer one a chance of perfect bliss. Cremona. Is marriage a failure? It was a wom an launched the question upon the sea of inquiry where tossed hither and thither by periodical after periodical, like Banquo’s ghost, it confronts us again with renewed vitality, from the columns of Tiie Mirror. There is something peculiarly fitting in its thoughtful consideration by us who, to the perfect portion of humanity seem sunken in the lowest depths of social degradation. To whom of all men has been revealed more clearly the heart depths of womankind? Ilave we not seen the faithful devotion of mother, wives and sweethearts as they sought the husband, lover or son, at jail, court, or prison ? Waiting months and years through hardship, distress, and social ban, to meet the loved one at the prison gate; there, with eye brightening, cheek glowing, heart swelling in joy and pride, with kiss on lip and hand in hand, to commence anew the journey of life. For such marriage is not a failure. L. O. P. History gives us the idea that Solo mon was a very wise man and from his “proverbial philosophy” I extract these true thoughts: “Rejoice with the wife of thy youth.” And: “She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” This from a man of his large experience of matrimonial ties ought to be considered fairly credible authori ty on the advantage of marriage and of taking that step early in life. Setting aside Christ’s claim as a son of God there is no disputing the fact that he ' v . “ IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO MEND.” Mac, was a man of the most exceeding wis dom and sobriety of moral life. There is only one instance recorded of his taking part in any festivity, that of a marriage* What conclusion can we draw? That marriage was a com mendable institution. It would seem to me that with an honest purpose to carry .out the contract entered into, and loving forbearance •of temporary fits and spells, marriage is not a failure. But there are marriages which are makeshifts and such are always worth less. * ,T. B. Marriage is a fixed institution and is an important factor in the world’s pro gress. Man is only half a man until he takes unto himself his “better half.” Trace the records of those whose lives have not been influenced by woman’s society and we will find that ninety nine out, of a hundred possess not that which constitutes true manhood. Most men haA'e risen from obscurity to fame because of the influence of their loving companions. Man often meets with difficulties and failures that would cause him to faint if it were not for the sweet and encouraging words that fall from his wife’s lips. If one is care ful enough to use prudence in selecting a companion he will nearly always find that marriage is not a failure; but if it was the result of mere fancy and at tractions, it will surely terminate in wretchedness. Ido not” believe in mar riage without love; singleness is a bless edness compared to marriage without affection. The millions of happy homes scattered over the world, all tell in characters brilliant and grand, that marriage is not a failure. " R. E. T. Sidney Smith in describing marriage says: “It is either a heaven or a*hell, there is no purgatory about it. ,? lam inclined to take an optimistic view on this subject. I believe that the number of people that have had a foretaste of heaven greatly out-number those who have found marriage to be a failure and thereby had a taste of hell. When I think of the hundreds and thousands of homes that we never hear of I am satisfied they are happy homes. For one thing is certain, that is, when peo ple consider themselves unhappy or ill used, we are pretty sure to hear from them. In the majority of cases where people have found marriage a failure, they have but themselves to blame! They do not or will not understand the solemnity or the responsibility of mar riage. They enter into marriage with out a thought of the moral or the con genial qualifications of each other. And the result is, as we often find it, a failure. What the people seem to need in this respect is good sound moral in struction; as long as this is lacking we will have scandals, family skeletons and divorces. Yon. It is easy to give an opinion but not so easy to carry out its views. In my sight, marriage is an abomination, ex cept both parties to it are of mature years and of proven virtue. If there was a universal law to exterminate those who were ever proven guilty of crime, then would the marriage state soon become celestial. AVhere unbridled licence is given to young people to come together under the law and propa gate their species, then and forever will the spawn of the devil be thrown on the world. Over seventy per cent, of the marriages of the world are contracted before the principals attain the age of twenty-five. Can it be consistently ar gued that at that age there is a sober capacity to make wise provision for the future of the family soon to arrive ? When distress, loss of health, of fortune and the innumerable ills that are sure to come, do arrive, if there be a wicked, criminal strain in either of the parents, what misery for all will ensue. We all know that a weak strain will manifest itself under stress. The game-cock, dog, race-horse and man will show the cur in his nature under pressure. Exter minate the criminals, one and all, then will marriage be no failure. Rufus. TcdmoJ* 1 ' 00 P er year, in advance, i tKMti. | <six M on t;i ls 50 Cents. Judging from my own experience of over twent-five years of married life, and also from whatever standpoint view the subject, either moral, social, or re ligious, I unhesitatingly say; marriage is not a failure. It is a sacred institu tion, and relation; one which God has established himself, for the well-being and happiness of his creatures. There are some few instances where it has seemed to be a failure because the man and woman “were unequally yoked to gether." But when we look over this broad and beautiful land, and behold the tens of thousands of happy families, where domestic love, purity and happi ness reign and when we consider—by the light of the historic past—what ruin and desolation has been wrought among the nations where this institution of marriage has been disregarded, or its sacredness broken, we may well trem ble for the safety of that people who still disregard its sacredness. The home, however magnificent in all its appoint ments, is not a true home without a wife and mother. Destroy the mar riage relation, and you take away the very foundation of the Nation's life and prosperity. A. B. M. Marriage and Religion. It is curious to see how quickly the marriage relation is tampered with as soon as any religious body gets new light—light in addition to or independ ent of the Christian religion. The Mor mons get new light and forthwith get new wives. The Shakers get new light and divorce themselves from sexual relations. Spiritualists get new light and adopt a free and easy touch and go policy. Always, with new light, the in stitution of Christian marriage shows by its perturbation how central and vi tal it is to our social system. The as sumption of the Shakeris that he leads a purer life than the world around him for the reason that none •»are given in marriage. He must acknowledge, how ever, that the society of woman in the relation of wife would be sweet to him —that it would be delightful to be sur rounded with children of his own. Is he to get something for his self-denial ? Is he to win the favor of heaven and a high seat therein for his hardships V Is he to lay up treasures for his sacrifices ? Away with such nonsense. The lives of Shakers and Mormons are a gross insult to all children, mothers and fath ers on the globe. Even Christ himself ministered to the pleasures of a mar riage feast which he attended with his married mother. Many times he calls himself the Bridegroom. Men and women were made to live together in marriage, and experience has proved that it is not those that live out of wed lock that live the most pure lives. Hu man nature is human nature, and the strongest human passion can not be- de nied its legitimate object without a constant protest that destroys personal peace, and perpetually wars upon the purity of the mind. Is it the Shakers or Mormons that are doing the human izing work in our land? No! Such do not go out where men and women work for others, but they stay at home in ease. The work they shun is done by the men and women who marry and are given in marriage to one another. There is more humanity and heroism in the humble little household of the pioneer Christian minister and his devoted wife, children and little tioek, than in all the Mormon, Shaker, Spiritualist, or Free love institutions the United States ever dreamed of. Brigham. “What lovely bachelor apartments Browser has!—but they say he has strange doings there.'’ “Yes; I fancy his room is better than his company.”— Puck. “ What’s Congress doing ?” asked the horse editor. “Oh, killing time!” said the political editor. “ It won’t take long, with such speech es,” said the horse editor, wearily.— Puck.