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Will be published every Saturday
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"Much vet remaps lnsuno."
There is a mystic thread of life,
.So doarly wreathed vi iih mine alone,
That destiny's relentless knife
At once must sever both, or none.
There is a form on which theso eyes
Have often gazed with fund delight;
Ey day that form their joy supplies,
And dreams restore it through tho night.
"There is a voice whoso tones inspire
iSuch thrills of rapture through my breast,
1 would not hear a serupb choir,
Unless that voice could join the rest.
There is a face whoso blushes tell
Atl'ection's talo upon the check;
45ut, pallid at one fond farewell,
Proclaims more love than word can speak.
There is a lip which mine Iiath pressed,
And uono hath ever pressed before;
It vowed to mako me sweetly blest,
And mine mine only prcs3ed it moro
There is a bosom all my own
Hath pillowed oft this aching head;
A mouth which smiles on me alone,
An eye whose tears with mine are shed.
There aro two hearts, whose movements thrill
In unison so closely sweet,
That pulso to pulse, responsive still,
They both must heave, or cease to beat.
There aro two souls, whose equal flow . ' ', )
In gentle Ktreams so calmly run,
That when they part they part! ah, no!
They cannot part their souls are one', E
I By iV. Carey.
' "Why should our joys transform to pain?
t Why gcntlo Hymen's silken chain
I A bond of iron prove?
5 ' 'Tisstrango, my friends, the charm that binds
' Millions of hands, should leave their minds
At such a loose from love." Watts.
The maxims and rules for the regu
; latiou of the conduct of married peo-
pic, occasionally published in newspa
v, per and magazines, are liable to very
i strong objection?. They frequently,
indeed almost always, imply a highly
improper degree of subordination or
f subservience on
I and a rorrrdativn snnnrioritv or author.
j ity on the part of the husband, which
are incompatible with that cordiality,
' harmony, and fcood feeling, that ought
. j
I to subsist in such, a near ana inuissolu
uie annexion. - 1 hose maxims prc
l duW a tendency on the one hand, to
I exercise, and, on the other, to resist,
authority the parent of. collision and
I wavfrre the banc of happiness. ;
These observations apply not merely
dispositions, but, yet an almost equal de
gree, to those , who aro on the whole
well-intentioned; but who, acting un
der erroneous views of rinhts and du
ties, fall into error from misconception
I have no : reference to husbands, of
whmn. by the war.l have known some
I I hope the race is nearly extinct
I who treated . their wives ; almost as if
they were "upper-servants, and rarely
I nddrpsscf,them but in a tone approach
I iog to that of command; nor on the
! As some of tho rendore of this little
vork mny be unacquainted with the de
grading rulos for wives laid down in news
papers and magazines, and which regard
them ns mere housekeepers, I think it
fannot be improper to present lo the rea
der a specimen of tho code published in
the Doston Pilot of the first of June. Ad
mirable rules for a bound servant or a
slave! i
"Occupy yourself only w ith household j
affairs. Wait till your husband confides
to you those of .greater importance; and
do not give your advice till ha asks for it!
"When your husband m ok of temper I!
lehave obligingly to him!! If ho be abu-
iwe ! ! never retort : ! and never prevail over
him to humble him!! ,
"Seem alwnys to obtain information
from him especially before company,
though you may pats for a simpleton.
"Appear always faltered by the little he
does for yu, irftica vcilt excite him to per
form msrf."
other hand, have I any reference to
wives who attempt to domineer over
and control their husbands; such wives
are to be met with occasionally.
Horace, the prince of poetical philo
sopher?, lays down an excellent rule
applicable to all the social relations,
and to none more appropriately than
to the matrimonial state. "Let my
friend," he says, "elevate a balance.
and throw my, sins and imprefections
into one scale, and my good qualities,
if 1 have any, into the other; and should
the latter preponderate, let him take
me to his bosom; and I shall deal with
him on precisely the same terms." How
wise a maxim! one of the most impor
tant secrets of social happiness. But
how frequently and how perniciously is
it disregarded! How often do we see
a singlo failing, and perhaps a very ven
ial one, indeed a mere difference of
opinion, produce serious and often las
ting discord between the nearest rela
tives and friends!
Let husbands and and wives bear
constantly in mind that, being Smper-
icct tncmscivcs, they ought not to ex
pect absolute perfection from their
partners, but to overlook all their mi
nor inperfections, and never allow one
or two failings, or follies, or even vices,
to throw into the shade a host of good
qualities; an error of the head or heart,
wnicn, unlortunalcly, occasionally oc
'Ye wives and yo husbands, who much wish to
see . .. ,
Your conjugal scenes from ail skirmishos froe,
in this doth the secret of harmony lie,
No'or begin a duot 'on a half nolo too high.
"Ye ladies, though ycx'd your mild spirits may
Yet kindly beware of a keen repartee;
For peace's soft bosom those arrows must hit,
hich doubly are pointed with anger and wit.
"Ye husbands, of argument chiefly beware,
That bano of good humor, which frightens tho
Where reason's soft tones soon
in passion are
While happiness trembles, and flios from the
"O both, have a care of all ha.ty replies,
On hearing whose discord, the bachelor cries,
Whilo Biuigly he smiles on himself and his cat.
The sharp notes of marriage are worse than the
Out. .
"In unison sweet let your voices agree,
Whilo both arc maintain'd in the natural key)
Thus love shall beut time with a conjugal kiss.
Ana your skirmish bo only the skirmish of
. I. Always regard your wife as your
equal; treat her with kindness, respect,
and attention; and never address her
with the appearance Clair of authori
'y, as if she weie, as some miseuided
husbands appear to regard their wives,.
a mere nouscKeeper.
II. Never interfere iu her domestic
concern?, hiring servants, &c, except
snc consult you.
III. Always keep her properly sup
plied with money for furnishing your
taoiein styie proportioned to your
means, ana tor tnc purchase ot dress.
and whatever other articles she may
require, suitable to ner station iu life.
IV. Cheerfully and promptly comply
with all her reasonable requests; and,
as tar as practicable, anticipate them.
Whatever you accord to her wishes,
let it be done promptly and cheerfully.
so as to enhance the merit of the mat
ter by the manner.
V. Never be so unjust as to loose
your temper towards her, in conse
quence of indifferent cocikerv, or irreg
ularity in the hours of meals, or any
other mismanagement of her domestics;
knowing the difficulty of making ma
ny of them do their duty.
VI. If she have prudence and trood
sense, consult her on all operations in
volving the risk of serious injury in case
of failure. Many a man has been res
cued from ruin by the wise counsels of
his wife; and many a foolish husband
has most seriously injured himself and
family by the rejection of the advice
of his wife, stupidly fearing, if he follow
ed it, he would be regarded as hen
pecked. A husband can never consult
a counccl'or more deeply interested in
his welfare than his wile.
VII. If distressed or embarrassed i
your circumstances, communicate your
situation to her with candor, that she
may bear your difficulties in mind, ij
her expenditures. Wives, sometimes,
belie ving their husbands' ctrcumtancej
better than they really are, disburs'
money which cannot be well aflbrdee.
and which, if they knew the real sito
tion ol their husbands atlalrs, they
would shrink from expending.
VIII. Never on any account chide
or rebuke your wife in company, should
she make any mistake in history geo
graphy, grammar, or indeed on any
other subject. There are, I am per
suaded, many wives of such keen feel
ings and high spirits, (and such wives
deserve to be treated with the utmost
delicacy,) that they would rather re
ceive a severe and bitter scolding in
private than a comparatively mild re
buke in company, calculated to display
their ignorance or folly, or to impair
them in their own opinion orin that of
"To sum up all you now have heard,
.Young mon and old, pcruso the bard:
A female trusted to your care,
Ilia rule is pithy, short and clean
Be to her faults a little blind;
Be to her virtues very kind;
Lot all her ways bo unconfin'd,
And place your padlock on her mind."
I. Always receive your husband with
smiles leaving nothing undone to ren
der home agreeable endeavoring to
win, and gratefully reciprocating, his
kindness and attention.
11. Study to eratifv his incl nations
in regard to food and cookery ; in the
. . f . i f .i .
iiiiuiugcmeni 01 me lamiiy; in your
J it "
uress, manners, ana deportment.
HI. Never attempt to rule, or ap
pear to rule, your husband. Such con
duct degrades husbands and wives al
ways partake largely in the degrada-
nun ui meir nusuanas.
IV. In every thing reasonable com
ply with his wishes with cheerfulness
and even, as far as possible, anticipate
tncm. ,, .
V. Avoid all ... altercations or ara;u
ments leading so ill humor, and more
especially before company. Tew thincs
are more disgusting than the alterca
tions ot the married, wh -n in the com
pany of f tends or strangers. There is
one kind of conuuet which is almost as
revolting as this but not of frequent
occurrence that is, a display of fond
ness before campany. There is a time
and place lor all things.
VI. Never attempt lo interfere in
his business unless he ask your advice
and counsel; and never attempt tocoa
trol him in the management of it.
V II. JMever confide to gossips any ol
the failings or imperfections of your
husband nor any of those little differ
ences which occasionally arise in the
married state. II you do, you may rest
assured that, however strong the uijonc
tions of 8cdrecy ou the one hand,
the pledge on the other, thev will in a
day or two become the common talk ofl
the neighborhood.
VJH. Avail yourself of every oppor
tunity to cultivate Vtur mind, so as,
should your husband be intelligent and
well-informed, you may join in rational
conversation with him and his friends.
XI. Think nothing beneath your at
tention that may produce even a mo
mentary breach of harmony, or the
slightest uneasy scnsation.jl
"Think naught a trifle, though it small appear.
Smalt sand tho mountain, moments make the
And trifles life. Your care to trifles give,
Else you may die ere you have learn 'd to live."
X. If your husband be in business,
always, in your expenditures, bear in
iniiiu me various vicissitudes to wnicn
II' A. great portion of the wretchedness
which has often embittered married life, I
am persuaded, has originated in the neg
lect of trifles. Connubial happiness ia n
thing of too fin a texture to b handled
roughly. It is a plant which will not even
bear the touch of unkinrlness; a delicate
flower which indifference will chill, nnd
suspicion blast. It must bo watered with
a shower o' tender affection, expanded
with a glow of attention, and guarded by
the impregnable barrier of unshaken con
fidence. Thus matured, it will bloom in
every season of life, and sweeton, even
the loneliness of dech
trade and commerce are subject; and
do not expose yourself to the painful
self-reproach, should he experience one
of them, of having unnecessarily expen
ded money of which you and your off
f pring may afterwards be in extreme
XI. While you carefully shun, in
providing for your family, the Scylla of
meanness and parsimony avoid equally
the Charybdis of extravagance, an er
ror too common in the United States;
as remarked by most of the travellers
who visit this country.
XII. If you be disposed to econo
mize, I beseech you not to extend your
economy to the wages you pay to seam
stresses or washerwomen, who are too
frequently ground to the earth by the
inadequacy of the wages they receive.
Economic, if you w ill, in shawls, bon
nets, and handkerchiefs: but never, bv
exacting labor from tho poor without
adequate compensation, incur the dire
anathemas pronounced in the St rip
turcs against the oppressor of the poor
"Yo fair married dimes, who soofton deplore
That a lover once blest is a lover no more,
Attend to my counsel nor frown to be taught
That prudence must cherish what beauty has
"The bloom of your check, and the glanco of
your eye,
Yonr roses and lillies may mako the men sigh:
iiut roses and lillies and sighs pass aw ay:
And passion will die as your beauties decay,
"Uso tho man whom you wed liko your fav'rito
Though there's music in both, they'ro both apt
to jar.
How tunoful and soft from a dolicuto toueh!
Not handled too roughly, nor play'd on too
'The sparrow and linnet will feed from vour
i i.
Grow tame by your kindness, and come at com
Exert w ith your husbands the same happy skill,
For hearts, like you birds, may be tamed at
your will.
"Bo gay and good humor'd, complying and kind,
Turn the chief of your care from your face to
your mind.
'Tis thus that a wife may her conquest improve,
And Hymen will rivit the fetters of love."
I. Should differences arise between
husband and wife, let tho sacred and
invariable rule be, not as it unfortu
nately too frequently is, .who shall dis
play the most spirit, and play the des
picable character of Mr. or Mrs. Sul
len, but who shall make the first ad
vances; which ougth to be met more
than halfway. This is a cardinal rule,
which, if religiously observed by both
parties, can hardly fail to secure per
ennial happiness. There is scarcely a
more prolific source of unhappincss in
the married - state than this so-called
spirit, the legitimate offspring of odious
pridi and destitution of feeling.
II. l'erhaps the whole art of happi
ness in the married state might be com
pressed into (wo maxims "IJcar and
forbear," and "Let (he husband treat
his wife, and the wife her husband,
with as mueh respect and attention as
he would a strange lady, and she a
strange gentleman'
111. I trust much caution is scarcely
necessary against flirtations, well cal
culated to excite uneasiness, doubts,
and suspicions in tho heart of the hus
band or wife of the party who indulges
in them, and fo give occasion to the
censorious to make sinister observa
tions. It is unfortunately too true,
that the suspicion of misconduct often
produces full as much scandal and cvi!
as the reality.
"Trifles light as air
Are, to tho jealous, confirmation strong
As proofs from holy writ."
IV. It is a cood rule of reason and
common sense, thai we should not only
be, but appear to be, scrupulously cor
rect in our conduct, And, be it obser
ved, that however pure and innocent
the purposes ot the parties may be at
the commencement, flirtation too often
leads to disastrous results. It imper
ceptibly, but almost certainly, breaks
down some of the guards that hedge
round innocence. 1 he parties in these
cases are not inaptly compared to the
mom nuttenng orounu alighted can
dle, unaware of the impending d inger.!
It finally burns its wings, and is thus
mutilated for life. "He that loveth
the danger shall perish therein."
"Lead us not info temptation,," is a
wise prayer; and whilo we pray not to
be "led into temptation," vc most as
suredly ought not to lead ourselves in
to it. I know these remarks will be
charged to the account of prudery, but,
at the risk of that chaige, I cannot
withhold them.
V. Avoid all reference to past differ
ences of opinion, or subjects of alter
cation that have at a former day excit
ed uneasiness. Kemember the old
story of the blackbirds and the thrush
es. "1 swear they were blackbirds."
"I5ut I vow they were thrushes," &c.t
Remember, also, the pithy scene in the
little farce stybd "Three Weeks after
Marriage.' J
tTho story here referred to, though
probably a draught on the imagination,
hears a strong analogy to occurrences that
occasionally take place in families, nnd, at
nil events, is strongly admonitory. The
The story is as follows, let it pass for what
it is worth: 'A sportsman brought home a
brace of birds, on;l handing them to his
wife, taid, "xMy dear, let theso blackbirds
be dressed for dinner." "Blackbirds!"
says she, "why. the man is mad ! you amaze
me! they are thrushes." "What," re
plies he, "have I been half my life fowling
nnrl am I un;b!c to distinguish between a
blaekbiid and a thrush?" -'If you hail been
fowling your wholo life, I am as good a
judge ofbirdsas you, anJ I vow they are
thrushes.1' lie sworo they were black
hire's; nnd, finally, he became so complete
ly enraged, that ho was ruffian enough to
use a cane to her. She. ran out of the
house to a neighbor's for the night. Next
miming she returned home, anJ halcyon
days succeeded till tho anniversary of the
explosion. On that day the lenried 'loving
ly on his shoulder?, smiled in his face, hiiJ
Mud Boothmgly, ".Now, my dear, it is just
a twelve-month since you used mo so era
elly about those miserable birds, and vou
knew in your heart they were thrushes."
lie swore again they were blackbirds; she
vowed again they were thrushes; and the
former seeno was renewed nnd terminated
as before. And according to tradition,
every anniversary was similarly celebra
t From "Three Weeks after Marriage
Mr t.tiarlos. Indeed, my Ladv Kacket,
you mako mo ready to expire with laugh
ing ha '. ha I
La Jv It. You may laugh : but I am right
Sir Chas. How can you say so?
Lady It. Ilow can yon say otherwise?
Sir Chas. Well: no mind me, my Lady
Racket, we enn now talk of this nntter
in good huni'ir; we can discuss it coolly.
I,ndy It. bo we ;ani and it's for that
reason I speak to you i are these tha ruf
fles I bought for you?
birChas. I hey aro, my dear.
Lady It. They nro very preftv: but.
indeed, you played tho card wrong.
Sir Chas. How can you talk so? (Some
what peevish.) (
Ladv It. Sets there, now!
Sir Chas. Listen to me, this was the af
Lady It. Psha! fiddlesticks! hoar me
Sir Chas. Pho! no d
n it, let ma
LndvJT. Very well, sir, fly out again!
air Chas. Look here, now hero 3 a
pack of cards, now you shall be convinced.
Ladv It. Vou mav talk till to-morrow! I
know that I am right. (Walks about.)
Sir Char. Why, then, by all that's per
verse, you are tho most headstrong .
Can't you look here, now? Here ore the
very cards.
Lady It. Go on ; you'll find it out at last.
Sir Chas. D n it, will you let a man
show you? Pbo! it's all nonsense! I'll talk
no more uncut it! (Puts up tho carls.)
Come, we'll go to bed. (Going.) Now,
only stay a moment. (Takes out the
cards.) Now, mind me : see here
Lady R. No, it dos not signify; your
head w ill be clearer in tho morning. ' I'll
go to bod.
. Sir Chas. Stay a moment, can't yef
Lady R.No, my head begins to ache.
Sir Chas. Why,thend n thecards!
there! there! (Throwing tho cards about.)
And there, and there. You may gi to bed
by yourself, and confusion seize me if I
live a moment longer with you. No,nev
er madam.
Lady It. Take yonr own way, sir.
Sir Chas. Now, then, I tell you once
more, you ore a vile woman. Will you
sit down qniotly, and let me convince you?
(Sits.) "
Lady R. lam disposed 'tn walk about,
sir, &c. ,
the Crtt, and Fi-rr Ctntt for very su
sequent insertion. No advertisement
will be inserted even once, tut lot Ua
Two IAillak. - .., ... . v
Persons (ending advertisement ars
requested to mark on them tho nsnibor
of times they desire them to be inserted,
otherwise they will b continued until
forbid, and accordingly charp-od.
A liberal deduction will Lu mad to
persons who advertise by tho year.
ALHOt ..
other Dlamk
this Office. '
Justices' and
for sale at
" - --! . . "L-Jl-jLjJ -I'Lili,-?""
The preceding rules, if as closely
followed as human imperfection wiil
allow, can hardly fail to secure happi
ness. Even should , only one' out of
every ten readers profit by them, and
I should fondly hope that four" out of
five would, I shall be richly paid for
their concoction.
I cannot conclude this brief essay
better than by adding tho following
admirable advices of Juliitdc Roubigne
to her daughter, shortly previous to hct
death. . .
"Sweetness of temper, affection to a
husband, and attention to his interests,
constitute the duties of a wifo,ajd form
the basis of matrimonial felicity. Theso
are, indeed, the texts from which every
rule for attaining this felicity is drawn.
The charms of beauti, and the brilliancy
of wit, though they captivate in the mi
tress, uill not long dtlizhl in the trie.
rri. - , . .. .
nicy win snortcn even their own tran
sitory eign, if, as 1 have seen in many
wives, they shine more for the attrac
tion of every body else than of their
husbands- Let the pleasing of that
"one person be a thought never absent
from your conduct. ' Jf he love you as
you wish he should, he would bleed at
heart should he suppose it for a mo.
ment withdraw: if he do not, his pride
will supply the place of love, and his
resentment that of suffering. ,
"Never, consider a trifle what may tend
to please, him. The greater articles of du
ty he will set down as his due; but the. la
ter attentions he u ill mark as facors; and
trust me, for I hate experienced it, there i
no feeling more delightful to one"1! self,
than that of turning these little things to so
precious a use.
"Above all, let a wife beware of com
municating to others any want of duty
or tenderiu ss she may think she has
perceived 1:1 her husband.- I his un-
twists, at once, those delicate cord
which preserve the unity of the mar
rage engagement ufo sacrednvss ts broken
foi'txcrjf third nadirs are made, witnesses
..C i, . r ' r . ,. .
v w juitingSfOr umpires of lis aispuntt'
"Yo fair pjusess'd of every charm
To captivate the will, '
'lioso smiles can rage iUelf disarm,
Whose frowns almost can kill
Say, will yo daign the vorso to hear
Whsre flatt'ry bears no part
An honest verse, that Hows sincora
And candid from the heart?
"Great is your powcrjmoro firmly yst ' .,
Mankind it might engage,
If, as ye all can mako a net, '' . ;". j
Ye all could mako a cajjo. ' "
Each nymph a thousand hearts may takt
For who's to beauty blindt .
But to what end a pris'ner mike, , .
TTnla.a uai'a ( ri.nvtti n l.1r..i; . .
"Attend tho oounsel, often told,
Too often told in vain!
Learn that hist art, the art to hold ;' -
And lock the lover's chain.
Gamesters lo littlo purpose w-in.
Who loso again as fast; '
Though beauty may tha chaim begin,
'Tis sweetness makes it last.' .
Sale op tows lots. We have been
favored by the auctioneer Mr. J. M.
Chiles, with the amount of sales of lots
in this city, which took place on Wed
nesday and Thursday last, amounting
in the aggregate, to about $200,000.
This sale brought a great number of
strangers to the place, and the proper
ty went off at nigh prices. We are
pleased to learn that it is the intention
of many of the purchasers, to commence
immediately the improvement of these
lots, by the erection of building fhere
0:1. They arc very much needed, and
W3 should think it would be a profitable
investment of capital. Jackson Miip)
Sun. , v i
The New York Post of the 22d ult.
says: Wc hear from a source wo deem
respectable, that there is likely tO bo
further trouble on the frontier. . A gen
tleman writes, "things arc coming to a
head on the frontier: I think by tho
first proxime, wc shall have a rruewal
of the Canada war, and if I an not de
ceived, under an organization and with
a reciprocity on the part of t'e inhab
itants generally, very,, different from
what characterized last win tci'i and
spring! operations.' ,
Tho Richmond Whig has thrown Over
board l he U. S. Bank. It says it is too
heavy a bad. Tho B-wton Atlas says tha '
Whig "peaks its mind exactly. So poor
Diddle is to bo thrown into the C'tVzh wih
WebMr r o4 Clay.y.- . f.ttrloU

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