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(lit? JJaiiu, JU'rurd DUNN, N. C. Published By RECORD PUBLISHING COMPANY At 311 East Canary Street NATIONAL ADVERTISING REPRESENTATIVE THOMAS F. CLARK CO., INC. 2U5-217 E. 42nd St., New York 17, N. Y. Branch Offices In Every Major City SUBSCRIPTION RATES ~~ BT CARRIER. 20 cents per week; $8.50 per >ear In advance; $5 for six months; $3 for three months IN TOWNS NOT SERVED BY CARRIER AND ON RURAL ROUTES INSIDE NOr.TH CAROLINA: $6.00 per year; $3.50 for six months; $2 for threo months OUT-OF-STATE: $8.50 per year in advance; $5 for six months. $3 for three months Entered as second-class matter In the Post Office in Dunn, N. C., under the laws of Congress, Act of March 3, 1879 Every afternoon, Monday through Friday More Cattle Coming The American Meat Institute reports that consumers will have the largest supply of beef in our history in 1953, if producers continue to build up their cattle herds as they have during the first six months of this year. The nation’s cattle population is expected to increase by 4,000,000 or 5,000,000 head and to reach a total of as much as 93,000,000 by the time the curtain comes down on 1952. During the first half of this year there was an eight per cent cut in cow slaughter, as a direct result of the herd building program, yet producers were able to market about five per cent more cattle than during the comparable period last year by offering a larger volume of steers and heifers. This is good news to a nation of hearty meat-eaters. Our meat consumption has been tending upward and we eat much more of it, on a per capita basis, than any other nation with a minor exception or two, such as Australia. Even so, experts in nutrition believe that our consumption should be greater still. Science has proven that beef and the other meats contribute very greatly to our mental and physical health. They create strength and stamina. They are of major benefit in aiding recovery from a long list of diseases—including some for which meatless diets were once prescribed, until medical discoveries proved the fal lacy of that. " From the viewpoint of farmer and rancher, meat is one of the most vaulable of all crops. It’s good to know that we’ll have it in abundance. CUERO, TEX'AS, RECORD: ’American farmers are better customers for petroleum products than any other group in the United States, including the armed forces, an oil industry information group revealed recently. The fact seems surprising but it helps to illustrate the interdepend ence of all economic and occupational groups in the United States.” Hoosier's Beauty Seen As The Queen By HARMAN W. NICHOLS ATLANTIC CITY. N. J. HP Mai Dodson, the 79 3-16-in-high press agent for the Miss America contest - the beast among the beauties-is aboard again to give us his “winter book” on the win ners. Let me say without delay that across the many years Dodson weight 235 lbs. hat size 7 1-2 has an average of 85 per cent of picking the first 10 in this annual parade of feminine beauty-even though he professes never to have seen a show himself. From here on for a couple of paragraphs, we give you the to bacco chawin’ Mai, and devil take the hindmost and blame him and not this humble, inexperienced one if he’s wrong. PREDICTS MISS INDIANA Mai stuck his 17 3-8 inch neck out with a prediction that Miss Indiana, Ann Marie Gamier of Indianapolis, will walk off the ramp Saturday with the fame and glory that goes with the Miss A. title. The others he breaks down, with out any commitment as to the order. Ten girls will wind up in the finals. The big boy likes Gwen dolyn Harmon. Miss Alabama: Frederick OTMMAN McLEAN. Va.—l wouldn't exact ly say that winter's here, but sum mer’s almost over: this time with political implications. Ike's getting free publicity all over. In our town, which is in Provi dence Township. Fairfax County. Va.. we have a first-class weekly newspaper called The Providence Journal and edited by a friend of mine. Dick Smith. Editor Smith covers our part of the county like the dew. which has been extra heavy lately. Well, sir, one of his correspon dents, a Democrat, no doubt, is in with a piece about the locusts saw ing their buzzing symphonies night ly in the tree tons. He says that this year these insects plav one tune. It goes like this: Eisenhower E'sen hower, Eisenhower, hour after hour and night after night. They do. too. I have been listen ing carefully and that’s all I’ve been getting out of these loudspeak ers in my own maples —Republican propaganda. You might lend an ear to your own locusts in your own tree's. The mere attention you give ’em. the more distinctly do they say. Eisenhower. Eisenhower. Eisen hower, until you’d think they were on the payroll of the Republican National Committee. Tins phenomenon I have, ot course, taken up with an expert at the Bureau of Entomogolv. I had intended to name him here, hut he points out that lie is in civil ser vice and this is a ticklish, political subject. He'd rather be left out of it. Fan enough. What I wanted to know wa s whether all locusts sing the Ei senhower song or whether they al so are some Democratic insects. Bonnie Diane Nicksic: Miss Arkan sas: Marilyn Delores Reddick, Miss Canada: Joyce Marlene Yeske. Miss Conr.ectic 't: Neva Jane Lang ley, Miss Georgia: Barbara Jene Graves, Miss Massachusetts: Joan Elizabeth Kavne, Miss New York City: Patricia Mary Hunt. Miss Greater Philadelphia: and Mary Kemp Griffin. Miss South Carolina. There you have it. Today, the girls dressed their fanciest and were wheeled down the Boardwalk in the annual pageant parade, witnessed by 100.000 jammed together like sar dines. Tomorrow the judging begins. Each girl must compete for talent, and appear before the critical judges almost in the buff in bathing suits and evening gowns. The crop this year is the prettiest I have seen, and I've seen a few. The winner gets a 55.000 scholar ship. There will be four other winners, plus scholarships for "Miss Congeniality” and “Miss Talent." The rest of the poor kids who came here expenses paid-j’tst for the ride-will go back home with SIOO dollars, which, after all. isn’t bad for a week’s work these days. which sing the praises of Adlai Stevenson. My man, who is an expert on the warbling of bugs, but who never before had considered their politics, said it was impossible for them to give Stevenson a break. This is because they make music with their legs. They saw same togther, kind of. he explained, and hence produce a kind of buzz-saw sound. Come to think of it. he continued (still on a high-non-political plane* Eisen hower is a buzzing kind of name in a somewhat shrill sort of wav. On really dry nights the locusts do their stuff in a high pitch and that’s when their Eisenhower song is clearest. On wet nights, if they sing at all. they go at it in a basso profundo. Then, according to my expert, their song comes out, walla walla. or perhaps, zing-zoom-zoom. All according as to how damp are the bows of their violins. M.v specialist said he w as troub led bv the locusts’ song. too. He said there was nothing anybody could do about it. except chop down his t-ees. This, he pointed out. is drastic action, even for a Demo crat. and still is not guaranteed. A locust without a tree, he con tinued. is likely to light on a tall snrig of grass and there advertise Ike as enthusiastically as if he had an oak for a podium. There is only one hone for Demo crats: rain. This is not likely as a steady thing until November, or af ter the electidn. By then it will be too late. My man wasn't even talk ine about the balloting. He meant the locusts in Novem ber will have folded up their fid dles for the season, not to sing These Days SHOPPING A FAKE I have always had a profound respect for small town and coun try banker who serves a local American community and is rarely pressured into the uneconomic stupidities that are so character istic of most New York bankers. The latter live in terror of govern ment reprisals and usually cover' up. with sanctimonious press-agent ed statements, their errors of com mission which are a product of government pressure. The coun try banker, as long as he holds the respect and confidence of his neighbors, fears nothing from Washington. One of the most recent efforts of Mr. Truman’s Administration was to frighten sections of the American people into declaring themselves legal paupers and ac cepting government bounties be cause there has been a drought. The first outstanding reporter of a drought was Joseph in the Bible; he adopted New DeaL procedures and Egypt went broke. A banker would understand why. Mr. T. E. Williams, of the Lime stone County Bank in Athens. Al abama. is not only a country ban ker but he must know lots of his tory. He published a half-page ad vertisement in the Limestone Dem ocrat telling his people to stop being scared by a drought or by the po liticians. This is his advertisement: “Mr. Farmer! “Will it make you money to sell your cattle and hogs before they are finished under present con ditions? “We would like for you to con sider the following factors before making your decision. “1. It will take you 5 to 8 years 1 to grow back into the cattle bus iness to your present level. If you sell your cattle on the present market they will bring much less than the ywould have .brought eight : weeks ago. "2. With the recent rains, the feed situation can be greatly im- 1 proved by planting a large acreage of winter grazing crops. “We suggest a very good winter : grazing combination of oats, or oats and vetch, in ail row crops for extra grazing. Clover and rye 1 grass or small grain should be planted on prepared seed bed. ex- ; cept when interplanted with estab- j lished sericea. Permanent pastures ' should commence to afford reason- : ably good grazing within three weeks after you get normal rain fall. “At the present we would sug gest you cut and feed green cyn that will not produce at least 15 bushels per acre. If you do not want to cut this corn, we think it would pay you to buy hay or con centrate rather than sell your cat tle now. If you do not have ample capital to finance purchasing feed we suggest you see us. “We also suggest you discuss yor feed problem with your County Agricultural Agent, Soil Conserva tion Service, and the Agricultural Agent of this Bank. That is telling them not to listen to adversity politics but to be Americans and to use common sense. Presidents Roosevelt and Truman used every condition of nature or political event to frighten the American people. The? have called conditions emergencies which were normal to any economy. They have scared the people that way. They have redistributed the wealth of the nation and made our free people increasingly dependent upon Government bv using wind and weather as evidences of calamity, where common sense would have served the people. A friend of mine, driving through Virginia, writes: “Going through Wytheville, I heard a radio broadcast that had considerable to give me pause. The speaker announced that the ban kers and farmers of the county had just met and voted not to ask for or accept any federal ’aid.’ as it is called, in handling their drought losses. Said the radio wise man in objection. ‘They ought to think it over .again. After all. Wythe County pays taxes. Here's our chance to get some of that back. Let’s not be isolationists. ’ ” This reminds me of a neiehbnr who when he died left a sizeable fortune in monev as well as land, timber and cattle. I used to see him working on the road in WPA days and wondered how a man of his substance, ancestry, political affiliation and standing in the com munity could work on the roads at 50 cents an hour. I once asked him and his reply was: “When they’re handing it out, I'm around to take it." Apparently. h» never could fig ure that what thev were handing out. he paid. Or did he? Perhaps he had a gimmick for not paying taxes. another peep for Eisenhower until the late summer of 1953. By then this may or may not be aonropri ate. My entomologist said h e doubted whether the tree-toD chor us would take it into consideration. Then, for the first time, he laugh ed. Said locusts are exceedingly in teresting critters and when he gets to talking about ’em, he finds it hard to stop. TBE DAILY RECORD, DUNN, N. O. MISTER BREGER Uopr. 19)2, K*ng Fc*ture* Syndicate, Inc . World rifhtt rejerxed ‘‘l think you should wear your shoulders tonight, dear.. .. . . T qi* MSHWGTOH ® MERRY- GO- round By OtIWMtAtSOn By UR. LEONARD A. SCHEELE Surgeon General WASHINGTON As a nation, we Americans are enjoying the best health in our history. Statistics are cold things—but they are revealing. Our death rate last year was nine and a half persons for every thousand of our population. In 1900 only 50 years ago—it was a little over 17 in every, thousand. Twenty odd years ago—in 1925 —it was 11.7. Perhaps even more revealing are the figures on life expectancy. Chil dren born today have a life ex pectancy of 68 years. In 1900 life expectancy was only 49. We have, in other words, experienced a gain of nearly 20 years! How lias this come about? The principal overriding reason is the literally tremendous advance that has been made in medicine and scientific research in the first half of the 20th century. At no time in mar’s long struggle against disease have comparable gains been recorded. Because of our better under standing of medical problems, we have greatly improved the health care of our children end youth. Dis eases such as diphtheria, typhoid fever, whooping cough, and diar rhea that used to kill tens of thou sands of babies and young children every year have fallen under the attack of medical science and pub lic-health practice. Expectant mothers get much bet ter care during pregnancy and during the birth of their babies than did their mothers and grand mothers. Nearly nine in every ten American babies are born in hos pitals. where they have a better chance to survive those crucial first few days of life. All the modern equipment and special care is at hand to helo many a premature baby pull through who couldn’t have made it in earlier vears. “WONDER DRUGS” Clean water, safe milk, improved sanitation, immunization, and bet ter knowledge of infant feeding have been in the forefront in re ducing death rates and increasing life expectancy. The average Amer ican today knows much about the “wonder drugs," penicillin, sulfa, cortisone—all miracle of modern research and medical treatment, but he takes for granted the equal ly miraculous preventive work of liis state and local health depart ments. The public-health physicians, dentists, nurses, engineers, sani tarians. and other members of the health team in our states and com munities are the heroes—often un sung—who pla\ such a big part in* making our homes, communities, and our very lives safer and more healthy. They make it possible for us to drink more milk per capita than any other people in the world CUTIES “ —But that’s what we were doing—settling it OUT of -■ • -- court’.” —because they keep it safe. They guard our water supplies and make it possible for us to eat in restaurants, on trains and planes and other public places without giving a thought for their safety. They stand guard against a host cf communicable diseases that once afflicted hundreds of thousands, but today rarely occur. Every community’s small invest ment in public-health work pays enormous dividends. Even the “chills” of malaria—whigh as re cently as 1940 cost our southern states $500,000,000 in sickness, lost time, and low production—have dis appeared under the organized pub lic-health attack on mosquitoes. Because we have conquered so many communicable diseases, we now have more people living to the ages when they are more likely to suffer from such chronic diseases as cancer, arthritis, heart ailment and we need a great deal more re search to give us answers to these grave problems. Our great American philanthropic foundations, endowed by indivi duals or families, and our volun-' tary health agencies, supported by generous public subscription, have leveled large-scale research at tacks on many of the chief killers and cripplers of today. The Ameri can Cancer Society, for example, is spending over $3,000,000 a year on research, the National Foundation for Infantile Paralysis is spending comparable amounts to conquer dread poliomyelitis. CONQUEST OF DISEASE The citizens of our country, through Congress, are tetermined that their government, too. shall help soeed up the conquest of dis ease. In 1930. Congress created the National Institute of Health in the public health service, and in 1937, a National Cancer Institute. Since 1945. Congress has created five mo-e national institutes—in mental health, dental research, heart disease, arthritis and the metabolic diseases, and in the neur ological diseases and blindness. In these institutes, scientists in many fields are studying the major health problems of today. The public health service also has groups of research workers at Atlanta. Cin cinnati. in Montana, Alaska and other places. Through the grants-in-aid of our institutes, the public health ser vice gives financial assistance to thousands of research workers in universities and other institutions throughout the country. To cope with the shortage of re search scientists, large-scale re search-training programs are un der way in all of the nation’s major teaching and research institutions. Many young scientists receive fel lowships from the public health service, the Atomic Energy Com- Walter Wincheil York WMCHM Parallel Dep’t: King Farouk (and his Marriman) and King David (and his Bathsheha) coveted the wife of a loyal subject—which led to the loss of their thrones Camille Ayuino (of McCall's publications) weds in two months. lie is Albert Carlos Hoheb (kin of Dr. Wm. Car los Williams, the Pulitzer Prize Poet) John Donnelly (the out door ad mint) and Texas lovely Cathy Cain rendezwoo at Trader Tom's. He just bought a new yacht (only 15 staterooms) in case of a sudden honeymoon .. The Jack F’ryes (Nevada Smith) expect thjir little Fr.ve-baby in late Nov. or ear ly Dec. “South Pacific’s Juanita Hall and Jet mag's Major Robinson are no minor matter.. Insiders say the Mayor’s choice to succeed Po lice Commish Monaghan (when he’s upped to the bench) is Third Deputy Aaron Frank Item: “To bacco Tycoon R. J. Reynolds Ses tles $2,000,000 on 2nd Wife”.. No unpleasant aftertaste? Ambassador O'Dwver's blast at CP correspondent Robert Prescott as a “lying b d” was repeated verbatim by a local newscaster. This is the first time such profanity was ever used on a regular broadcast From the World-Telcgram-Sun: “The O’Dwyer living in Mexico City story was a Chicago Tribune First and confirmed by the United Press July Ilth" It was a Winch ell First in the New York Daily Mirror on June 27th!! The Spe cial Rackets Grand Jurv in N. Y. will return income tax indictments against loading waterfronters in the Fall.. Conn. Gov. Lodge's actress wife Francesca will persuade Ita lians abroad to write their kin in the IT. S. to vote for Ike. This is the IT. S. Mail barrage (from Amor ican-Italos to kin abroad to vote against Italy’s Reds) in reverse. Very clever We hear the saucers are Ameri can guided missiles “All thev need is your name and address to dron one in your pocket” Bing Crosbv and Bob Hope have at least 20 million $ each Rav O'Connell (of the Union News Co.) is han nie’- since discovering Joseoh P. Kennedy’s dghtr. Je.an Ex-lieht heavvweight champ Gus Lesnevich’s estranged wife is being wooed bv Lex Thompson Paulette Goddard comes back- from Europe once a year (says a London paper) to draw a salary from Paramount for not working for anybody else in Holly wood Kreddv MacAvoy. the in ternational playboy who drowned in hpavv seas, might have been slain bv French Intelligence agents who suspected him of running guns to French rebs in Africa Query: “Why hasn’t Russia attacked? Answer: Oak Ridge. Tennessee. We are rearming very fast, but Japan is rearming even faster —with our help Headline: “Flying Saucers over D. C.” .Aw. Bess, leave the crockery for Mamie, The Washington Ticker: Ilarri- reward will he Acheson’s job IX Gen. Nnrstnd our next Air Force boss? Sudden gasp: If you pa=d $3.00(1 in taxes (last year.) it w*'l run the gov’t annroximatelv ONF. second Washington deh Louis- Hover and Roger Neuhoff (of the Defense Dcn’t) merge in Oct. The Dems will use the GOP tax proh against a ton Repub nom inee. Offering headlines linking him with fixer “Dutchman” Gruen wald .The next big scandal will star the Treasury Den’ts Alcoholic Tax unit The campaign in a line: It wiU he the Dem. n'atform vs. the GOP candidate The British nound is exnected to fall again soon. The Australian pound is quivering .. .The gov’s knows those flying question marks make 90 degrees turns at an estimated soeed of over ?,.noo miles per hour. If there are living beings in them —thev could not be human because a 90-degree turn explodes the blood vessels. .. mission, and the National Science Foundation. Many more personnel —and much more money—are needed to develop our great fund of unexploited research ideas. To guide the research programs of the public health service and recommend worth-while projects for research grants, the Congress ve-y wisely created advisory coun cils composed of distinguished men and women outside of government. Scientists, physicians, and citizens prominent in public life serve on these councils. Thev are chosen from all parts of the country. As Surgeon General of the Pub lic Health Service. I can award a research grant only on the recom mendation of these councils. This teamwork between citizens and government officials is one of America’s great strengths. NEW RESEARCH CENTER For the last four vears. ail of us in the public health service have been looking forward to the com pletion of the new 500-bed Clinical Research Center on the grounds of the National Institutes of Health. Here, next spring, in Bethesda. Md., near Washington. D. C. we will add clinical research—the study of pa tients- to our laboratory work. While we speak of achievements at home and the challenge of the future, we should remember that in many parts of the world the sit uation is vastly different. More than half the people of the earth THURSDAY AFTERNOON, SEPTEMBER 4, 1952 The Worry Clinic By DR. GEORGE W. GRANT HAVE YOU EVER SEEN AN ARTICLE LIKE THIS ONE j TODAY IN ANY OTHER ME- , DIUM THAN YOUR NEWS- ] PAPER? MAYBE TEN YEARS HENCE THE MAGAZINES , WILL BE INTIMATING THE , PROGRES S I V E N E S S OF YOUR EDITOR. YOUR NEWSPAPER IS THE LEAD ING DISSEMINA TOR OF , SCIENTIFIC FACTS FOR , HAPPIER LIVING. CASE E-357: Nora 8.. aged 58. is a Wisconsin grandmother. After my address at Manitowoc recently, she asked me for one of the sex bulletins often mentioned herein. “Dr Crane, I have some very dear friends who are abnut 32 years of age,” she said. “They have been married for 10 years, but have no children. “Both the husband and wife are very desirous of having a family. She has gone to her physician, who has told her that nothing is or ganically wrong. “One of my neighbors told me of your bulletin entitled “Facts A bout Pregnancy.’ “She has become pregnant from following the advice contained therein, though she had been sterile for 18 years of marriage. “So I wonder if I could get a copy of that bulletin for this young couple I have in mind? * “I don’t want them to know I sent it. so I'll just give you their address.” SECRET HELPERS On hundreds of occasions I have noticed this same type of request. One individual will ask me to send a bulletin to some friend or rela tive. though the sender doesn't want to be revealed. Sometimes a wife will ask me to mail a bulletin to her husband or yice versa. Parents or grandpa rents will do the same regarding their children or grandchildren in college or in the army. Since conception is a wonderful process but has not been well un derstood until recent years, I shall devote today's discussion to it. FACTS ABOUT PREGNANCY ; ■ SV By America's Foremost Persona! Affairs Counselor MARRIAGE PLANS MEET STOR MY WEATHER WHEN MAN’S FA THER DIES, LEAVING HIS MO THER DESTITUTE. DEAR MARY HAWORTH: I have been a widow for five years and have twin daughters nine-years old; also a beautiful home and a fiance who wishes us to be married in the near future. Everything seemed ideal until his mother be came a destitute widow two months ago, and wants to live with Alec and me, although she has five daughters and one other son. We’ve met only once, when Alec and I motored to a distant town, to visit his sick father. I was hor ribly shocked at the filth and lazi ness of the family, living in a dirty three-room shanty. Nothing had been done to make the place tidy though they knew we were com ing; and the whole family seemed in need of soap and water. Alec is a fastidiously clean person, and it is difficult to imagine him part of such an uncouth group. Now the problem is how to make Alec understand that I simply can't burden myself with his moth-: er. I feel sorry for her, but I’ve struggled so hard these five years to get a nice home for my young sters: and I feel sure that she would subtract from our happiness, if we brought her here. She is a constant complainer, even though not actually ill; and I just can’t have my young daughters associat ed with her nagging and filthy habits and profane talk, Alec says my attitude is heart less, and quarrels about it. I try to reason with him, to no avail. He insists that if we marry, his mother must live with us. Why can’t other plans be made? Why can’t she stay with her daughters? Evidently they don’t want to be bothered, and the son at home ap pears to be a degenerate character. I've always demanded order and refinement in my household; and it is a pleasant place in which to live. But if Mrs. X were here, how would it be? Am I selfish, as Alec says, in wanting to keep her out? C. V. suffer from disease annually. Large areas of the earth are educationally, agriculturally and industrially un derdeveloped because their popula tions are ridden with disease. Man has the knowledge and he has the world health organization and the Point 4 and other techni calassistance programs the frame work for moving toward a world in which the released energies of man kind literally can transform the face of the globe. We work toward that goal through the efforts of world health, in my view one of the great challenges of this second half of a notable century. Some primitive tribes apparently v never did understand that sexual relations were the precursor of pregnancy. In most animals below man, the conception takes place at the time of the oestrual or “heat” period, which roughly corresponds to hu man menstruation. But in man and the apes, the most lilfely day for fertilization to occur seems NOT to be at the menstrual periods, but about mid way between them. ’* In this scientific column I have previously mentioned Dr. J. H. El der’s experiments with ■ chimpan zees. They conceived about 15 days before the onset of the next men strual flow, despite a menstrual cycle of 35 to 45 days. With monkeys and human fe males, the day of ovulation is now deemed to be probably the 14th or 15th before the next menstrual on-,, set. Both human and monkey cy-W cles average about 28 days. The ovum (egg) is thought to lose its capacity to be fertilized af ter 36 to 48 hours, while many in vestigatiors think 24 hours is the outside limit. WHY WOMEN ARE STERILE Similarly, the spermatozoa are thought to be potent for only 24 to 36 hours, with some scientists arguing that 12 hours is the maxi mum period during which they can fertilize an ovum. ■ Dr. Elder, for example, found no evidence of motile sperms after 3 hours when he performed routine vaginal smears, and rarely did he see an? sign of motility after 60 minutes. The vaginal secretions in women are often much more acid than normally, which may account for many cases of sterility. An alkaline douche before mari tal relations can often offset this hazard to conception. Sometimes a woman's tubes are closed. Sometimes, too. the male sperm is incapable of fertilizing the ovum, or may be absent alto gether. - For further “Facts About Preg -1 nancy," send for the bulletin of this title, enclosing a dime and stamped return envelope. UNJUST DEMAND ON WIFE-TO-BE DEAR C. V.: How blind to reali ty can you get? Os course you aren’t selfish as compared to Alec and his mother, who consider you a golden goose, ripe for plucking. Their ready inclination to move in on you, like a two-headed “Old Man of the Sea,” labels them gross ly presumptuous and exploitative, as regards your personal resources. In view of the fact that Mrs. X has five daughters, reared in her accustomed mode of living, there's no righteous reason why you should bring her into your home—where she would be a calamitous misfit. Indeed it is inexcusably nervy of Alec to talk as if it were your boun den duty to take her on, if you marry him. If he feels solely re sponsible for her upkeep in widow hood. that's his problem: and he should stand by her, if his con science says he must. But as his fiancee, not his wife, ters prompts you to rule against freely, for yourself, whether you choose to become involved in the unforseen difficulty. If your sense of obligation to your young daugh you are clearly entitled to decide Mrs. X as a household fixture, that is a responsible viewpoint, too, an attitude that deserves respect. Clearly, your first duty is to safe guard the children’s welfare, if a choice must be made between Alec’s anxious demands and their impli cit needs. CARDS ON TABLE AFFORD WARNING The really discouraging aspect of Alec's behavior is his refusal to see any justice in your defensive position. Thus he reveals that he would be a self-centered tyrant in marriage; and he is probably more impressed with your substance than he is in love with your qualities. Already he seems brashly confident of his boss-power over you, since he baldly tells you what you “must" do as his wife. This attitude on his part connotes that you are slavish ly infatuated—foolishly and unfor tunately, in my opinion, largely due to loneliness, and hunger for male adult companionship. „ I don’t think Alec is good help meet material, at least not you. In fact, your references to his un washed background, as versus your genteel habits, suggests that a sor rier mesalliance could hardly be imagined. Count it a blessing that conflicts are emerging before you’re tied down, to give you a warning to stay in the clear. My advice is to break the engagement and disasso ciate yourself from Alec's handicaps. Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail or per sonal interview. Write her in care of The Daily Record.