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EL PASO HERALD
Tuesday, August 1, 1911. f)orothy JJix The Third Woman Tells How She Vainly Triea to Make Her Marriage Happy fcfcM T marriage, said the tmra. woman, "was a failure be muse I believed that I held & divine commission to make over a man to put my little paper pattern down on his habits and character, and cut them over according to my taste. "Of course, I couldn't do It. No woman can do It. But a great many women can do just -what I -did de stroy all the happiness of married life, and. eventually kill love itself, by their ceaseless efforts to make their husbands do their way Instead of letting the poor creatures follow their own inclinations. And the funny part about this business is that we women do It, not only with a. clear conscience, but with a sense of righteousness. "We are never so sure that we are doing our full duty by our husbands as when we are interfering with all their pleasures, and little ways, and making them do something F-lnp that they don't want to 'do. We can this beinga good wife, but men call It nagging., "I married a handsome and attract ive young man, who was pre-eminently what is known as a 'good fellow. He had a most charming personality. He was genial, amiable, kindly, sympa thetic, everything that was lovable. But he w&s also easy going, careless, Improvident, a little too fond of drink and pleasure and, good times, and not fond enough of work. GlerloHs in Youth. "He was one of the sort of men who are glorious in youth, and pitiful in old age. The world smiles upon them when they are in their twenties, and laughs at them when they are in their sixties. All of tneir promises have been blight ed in the bud. None have flowered into achievement. Everybody has liked them i but nobody has trusted them with a big job. "Unfortunately for both of us I was " the complete opposite of my husband In temperament. I was rigid and narrow In my views. I was fearful of the fu ture, and, above all, I was full of un tiring 'energy. I was thrifty and -economical, and obsessed by a certain pas sion for getting on in the world. I wanted to be rich, to bo important, to have my husband take a commanding position. In the world of men, and to have accomplished that I would gladly liare worked my fingers to the bone, and lived upon bread and water. "1 think no man can ever even faintly realize what it means to an am bitious and energetic woman when the sickening truth comes home to her that she Is married to a man who is lazy and shiftless, and whose only as piration is to escape all effort, and just to be animally content with a full stomach and a warm place in which to stay. It is a revelation that sears the woman's very soul and fills her, even if she is a good woman, with a bitterer comtempt for him than if she had discovered that he were a bandit or a cracksman. "I know that that was my case, x looked at my husband, stroqg and healthy and capable of any amount of "work, but who lolled about the house as supine as a jellyfish, making no at tempt to climb the ladder of success, just satisfied to make a little and spend it all, and trust to luck that we would never come to want, and I felt that I would die of vicarious shame for " him. Tried to Rouse Him. "Then I began my foolish and futile efforts to make him over. I tried to in spire ambition in bim. I tried to rouse him to effort. I tried to make him economize, to be prudent and far-seeing. "I tried to brealc up all his old com panionships, to make him come home at regular hours, to make him quit drinking, and playing cards, and wast ing his time and money in foolish pleasures. "The result was that so far as he was concerned I simply alienated him from me. Instead of a wife I became to him simply a feared and abhorred school mistress, a mentor that never permitted him to rest in peace, and to whom he was forever making lying excuses xo cover up his shortcomings. "I know now how he must have dreaded to come 3iome to meet my ac cusing eye, how the shadow of uy dis approval must have always hung over him. now, at last, he musta have been glad to die to get t rid of my eternal nagging about those things which, he did and which he left undone. "As for myself, all that I got out of the situation was unending failure and disappointment. I kept myself always worked up into a ferment of protest. I was trying to do the impossible, reach ing out for the unattainable, and it kept my nerves always on the ragged edge. "And it was all to no purpose.. Turn ing an invertebrate creature into as animal with a backbone is a matter of aeons of time. It isn't a miracle that a little fool bride can accomplish In 15 minutes.' "With all of my efforts 1 could not change the character of my husband any more than I could change the color of his hair. Mature had set tled all of that before I was ever born, but what I could do was to make both of us perfectly wretched, and I was eminently successful in that If! "If I had to live my married life over again I should simply accept the sweet, and let the bitter .go. I should take my husband as I found him, and not try to alter him. I should enjoy to the fullest tils geniality, his bright and cheery, and optimistic outlook on life. I should warm myself at the fire of his affection and enfold myself in his ten derness. "In that way I should, at least, get something out of life, while as it was I got nothing, for I fell between the stools. I could not change mm, out m trying to change bim I killed our love, and lost what happiness we might havo had. "To the last day of hie life my hus- Health Restores color to Gray or Faded hair Removes Dan dniff and invigorates the Scalp Promotes 'a luxuriant, healthy hair growth Stops its falling out. Is not a dye. 51.00 and 50c at Drag. Stores or direct upon receipt of price aad dealer? name. Sead 10c for sample bottle. Philo Kay Specialties Co.. Nerrark.N.J..U.SA. Refuse all substitute" FOB SAKE AND RECOMMENDED BY KNOBLAUCH DRUG CO. ON IF YOU HAD TO LIVE IT OVER AGAIN , band still strewed his soiled clothes all over the house, and would lie down and take a nap in his best coat. He would let an agent talk him Into subscribing to a 47-volume edition of the' lives of the presidents in morocco when we were behind with the grocery bill. He would keep a poor job that paid him badly but left him time to play golf. He would take too much to drink oc casionally, and come home with a fooK ish story about meeting a man from Oshkosh. 'If I had to meet these conditions again I should pick up the collars with out fretting myself into a fury over his carelessness. I should press his trousers and clean his coat without working myself up into a passion at his extravagance In mussing up his best clothes, and when I realized that he wouldn't make the money I needed J " vv""au".V i -1- ouuuiu otaib out and make money my self. "But I should waste no time, nor ef fort trying to change my husband. I should simply be a good sport, and take him as he was and make the best of him." Tm sorry for any woman who gets one of those Peter Pan men who never grow up," said the first woman. "Such men have no business in mar rying," said the third woman. "Matri mony is a full-sized grown man's job." (All communications . must bear the signature of the writer, but the name will not be published where suoh a re quest is made). THE CLOUDCROFT, SHOOTIXG. Cloudcroft, N. &L, July SI. Editor El Paso Herald: On page six of your issue bf July 26, there appears an account of the shooting that took place at the quar ters of the negro servants of the lodge last Monday night which, while cor rect in its main features, does an in justice to the majority of the citizens of North Cloudcroft, which I feel it my duty to remedy. I refer to the para graph in which you state "it is a sourct of keen resentment that North Cloudcroft should con tinue to harbor rowdies and hoodlums, who vent their spite ana love of dev iltry in such an atrocious manner." This statement has aroused consid erable feeling among the business men and the better class cltizens of North Cloudcroft, and. in my opinion with very good reason, since they were among the first to deplore the out rage and to make an effort to discov er the criminal. This is especially true of the business men (air. Bailey, post master; Mr. Tatum, of the Cloudcrorv Commercial company, and several oth ers) who have been unceasine: in their efforts to assist the officers in locating the guilty parties. These men, having thousands of dollars Invested in Cloud- croic, realized the seriousness of th situation, which menaces the very life t of Cloudcroft as a summer resort and me aay arter tne snooting, several of them took great pains to assure them that this outbreak did not reflect the true sentiments of the people of North Cloudcroft. They offered their full co operation in discovering the criminals, and they-stated t!at the relations ex isting this season between the busi ness men and permanent residents, of Cloudcroft on the one hand, and the summer colonists and hotel people on the other, had never before been so pleasant. This statement has. been borne out by some of the cottagers who have been coming here for years. In thls connection, I desire to ex press 'my sincere appreciation of the good work done by the officers, who were called to the scene, especially Mr. Denny, sheriff of Otero county, and Q. Sadtlier, special agent of the El Paso and Southwestern system. Tuesday morning, Immediately after receiving word about the outrage, Mr. Denny started from Alamogordo for Cloud croft on horseback, preferring not to lose any time in waiting for the after noon train, and he arrived here shortly after noon. Ever since then, early and late the two officers have been hard at work on "the case, and If the criminals are brought to justice, as now seems most likely, itw ill be entirely due to their hard work, aided by such in formation and assistance as the busi ness nien of North Claudcroft and the members of the Cloudcroft Directory (Messrs. Roe, Long, Breckheimer. Ta tum and Dr. Stevenson) so willingly fur- nished them. I feel particularlv in-J flo,fl ai tt,,, , : wi.wv ..w -.... "Uuj id una Lime tmo. work he has- put in on this case. The fact that the sheriff of the county is so determined to discover and punish the guilty men Is certain to have' a deterring effect on anyone who might feel tempted to- commit a similar effence. I cannot speak too highly of the work of these officers. As a matter of justice, I would thank you to publish this letter, as, I would not care to have these people, who have acted so splendidly through out, believe that we, on the Cloudcroft reservation, held them responsible in the w"ay sugested in the paragraph of your article that I have referred to. Thanking you in advance for your consideration of this matter, I am, yours very truly, Jas. Lawler, Manager "The Lodge." No reflection has been made or in tended against the law abiding and re spectable people of North Cloudcroft, who are very greatly in the majority. A strongly expressed public sentiment among them would rid the locality of the few undesirable characters respon sible for violations of the iile5 of Cloudcroft and the laws of New Mex ico. Editor. CARTER WILL GET ARGENTINE MINISTRY Washington, D. C. Aug. 1 John TUdgely Carter. United States minister to Roumanla and Bulgaria, will be ap pointed minister to Argentina, succeed ing Charles H. Sherrill. The Argentine Republic was asked several days ago if Mr. Carter "would be acceptable and the report Jast night stating that the government had made an affirmative announcement apparently assures his appointment. ThS appointment of Mr. Carter to Ar gentine lends color to the report that Mr. Sherrill will figure prominently in the diplomatic reassignments Involved in filling ambassador. Hill's post at Berlin. It is rumored that Mr. Sherrill will be made ambassador to Tokio, re lieving Thomas J. O'Brien. LETTERS ' "To the jx&. HERALD Dr.Parkhurst He That Ruleth His Own Spirit Is THE most difficult kind of mastery is self mastery. We have good authority for it that he that ruleth his own spirit Is greater than he that taketh a city. A man can reduce a walled town and still be taken captive by his own despotic Impulses or irritable disposi tion. To be touchy is a sign of de feat. The boy who can be rolled by his chum without getting mad about it and striking back is a more master ful fellow than the one who squares accounts by administering a thrash ing. Even a dog shows himself to be a mastiff by Ignpring the harrying giv en him by the Ignominious cur that barks at his heels. It is a bad give away to be worried by the affronts put upon one's dignity. The best proof of dignity is to be willing to let it take care of Itself. To protect It is to confess our distrust of it. To draw the sword In its defence is to acknowledge that it is vulnerable. People do not sit up nights watching for burglars if they are quite sure that there are no -weak spots In their domicile through which interlopers can intrude. j Whatever partisan opinions men may entertain in regard to president Taft, there is about him confessedly a cer tain quiet composure and masterly self control that is another name for unim peachable dignity. Taft Has Shown Self Control. How many sharp epithets and hot vltuperatives he may have in his vo cabulary no one can tell, but he never seems moved to use them. He has feelings, and presumably has passions, and knows when he is struck, but the irascible spot in his disposition, If he has one, is kept under cover, and scarcely gives any outward lurid hints of Itself. Such equable self assertiveness is one of manhood's finest symptoms and is a sure commander of public re spect. It should be reckoned one of the prime qualifications for public office that the candidate be so" self centred and so sovereign over his own im pulses as to secure him against ebulli-. tions of temper and outputs of a ran cid disposition. Touchiness in a public official, es pecially If he have large interests committed to his care, works perver sity of judgment, narrowness of policy and unsteadiness of administration. And the more dignified the position officially occupied, the more painful and pitiful become the childish, queru lous and acrimonious acts of Its In cumbent. For such a one to strike back and to seek inward relief by the discharge of accumulated venom into the person of an offending party is al-nast excu- sable in the case of a child, but in the case of a grownup and exalted public functionary it is as silly us it is deplorable. The Art of Keeping Younr. A MAN'Sage is not a matter of years, but of wear and tear. One person at 50 is older than another at 70. There is such a thing as the art of keeping young. A man Is after all n THn1 rf mnohlnp. nnd how lone ma- I chines of the more ordinary style will last depends a good deal on the way In which they re run. The same is true of the human ma chine. "We ought not, therefore, to lay too much stress on the number of years that happen to have elapsed since we commenced living. The aver age constitution will bear just about so much strain, and when that limit has been reached the thing slows down and stops. "We are like an eight day clock; we can tick and strike only so many times without winding. Unlike avtimeplece, however, we are not susceptible of re winding unless, what we call resurrec tion is something aften that order. People can keep the machinery of life in motion longer if their exper ience and activity have not in them too much of montony. A pedestrian can walk more miles on a road that is up hill and down hill than he can on one that Is level. It is said that a horse will not wear out as soon if he is allowed to travel on a variety of roads, as lie will if like a tramcar horse he has to continue going back ward and forward over, the same route every day. There are no workers more to be pitied (and there are millions of them) than those whose one day's experience is the exact repetition of every other day. It is killing. There is no sweeter service that any one can render than to introduce - . 1, it i, x i. - ,... "llu ou'" "VC3 tt "tll " "J- neiy, The Raising 'fVl Y"Vn"-y"0 YlVl "V Allfa nil it.ni. 1 .iC j,uw,.wetUj,u buv,y0 i men. lt ieit OL ttie om Daiuesnip looking from the bow. The work an the Maine is progressing slowly. Attention is directed mostly toward cleaning the mud from the berth deck, which is now two feet deep. The turret is now cleaned out and the gun mountings were found intact, although the riflinsr is eaten J away, as the breechblocks were removed ON SELF-MASTERY A LEADING TRAIT OF MR. TAFT. Greater Than He That Taketh a City so that the heated bearings will have a chance to cool and the strained nerves an opportunity to relax. It is like a bit of rebirth. Even professionel life Is made less consuming if it will vary itself by the adoption of sorae side Interest that shifts the pressure from the accus tomed spot. j Lives the Same From Day to Day. How much more is this the case with those whose life is the dull and constant repetition of small and un interesting employment today simply the return of yesterday, and tomorrow certain to be today over again. To vary such slavish lives by the introduction of some congenial change, and to season them by suggestions that are of a different flavor from that of their accustomed toll, is one of the most Christian services that can be rendered by those whose life Is less monotonous and wearisome. C. H. Parkhurst. , Copyright, 1911, National News Asso ciation. GLOBE NEWSPAPER ' MAN IS ASSAULTED George Clements of El Paso Had Pought Tough Saloons. Globe, iAriz., Aug. 1. George H. Clements, editor of the Daily Globe, was assaulted last night by Wise An derson, brother of former city mar shal Robert 51. Anderson, now in the territorial penitentiary at Florence, for the murder of George 31, Shanley, in the wine room of the Wellington bar in this city In March. Clements at that time was editor 0$ the Silver Belt and vigorously protest ed against drunken peace officers, de manding their removal from office and the closing of tough saloons, having wine room attachments. Clements recently returned to Globe as editor of the Dally Globe, and in a recent issue his paper called atten tion to a trouble in the Richelieu res taurant In .which drinks were served from the White House bar, when a waiter was brutally beaten. Clenients then urged suppression of the rough saloon. Clements has also strenuously opposed the attitude of acting gov ernor Toung In paroling and pardon ing a number of murderers from the penitentiary, and that, too, has aroused much unfavorable comment among the rougher element of the city. Anderson returned to Globe Friday, and on Saturday warned B. .T. Barron, manager of the Dally Globe, "that un less Clements left town something would drop. Barron repeated the warn ing to Clements, but the latter refused to consider the matter seriously, though he did sena William Sparks, i yesterday afternoon, to Anderson for an explanation. To Sparks Anderson I said he meant nothing except to let j Clements know that he did not like him and had no intention of doing any thing. About half an hour later, just! as Clements was leaving his office, Anderson stepped up to him and struck him. Coming so soon after the message of peace, brought by Sparks, Clements was caught off his guard, .but mixed more with the desire to prevent An derson, who is reputed to be a gun man, from shooting him than to fight a man his size, weight and activity. Bystanders separated them and Ander son later was; arrested, when war rants were sworn out by deputy sheriff Frank Haynes. He was released on his own recognizance for hearing Tues day. The assault, coming from the source it did, aroused much feeling through out the city. Reputable saloon men met last night and passed a resolution of sympathy for Clements and assured! him that they are with him in the fight against flagrant disorders. LABOR UNIONS MAY HOLD BIG- SERVICE Labor unions will probably hold q service at Cleveland Square on Sunday, Sept. 3. Henry 'M. Walker, of the Cen tral labor body, met with the Ministe rial union Monday morning and dis cussed plans. The ministers agreed to close their churches on that evening so that their congregations might at tend the open air service. This service will be presided over by the members of the labor unions and the ministers will speak. C. Farmer left for Marfa on Tues day for a business trip. of the Battleship Maine .i. a! -i t j. . i - - after the explosion. i We Offer Diverse Routes BOSTON 93.65 WASHINGTON .. 74.55 BALTIMORE .... 74.55 DETROIT 66.65 AUSTELL, MEMPHIS YOU ARE LOSING MONEY when you fail to take advantage of the excellent service offered by the Ei Paso & .Southwestern System The Golden State Limited is the finest train in transcontinental service and SAVES YOU IN TIME a Business Day by being 14 hours quicker to aii Eastern points For rates, reservations, routes, etc, phone 594 or call at City Ticket Office ROBERTS-BANNER BUILDING RICHARD WARREN, G. A. H. D. McGREGOR, C. T. A. Wr.eck of the Maine as It Appears This photograph shows a general vie-w of the forward part of the Maine. The work, on the remains of the ill fated battleship i3 progressing slowly. Attention Is directed, mostly toward cleaning the mud from the berth. &&c which is now two feet deep. The remaining Water from the flushing pipes was allowed, to flow hack inside the- cof terdam. The turret is now cleaned out and the gun mountings were found Intact, although the rifling is etea away4 as the breechblocks were removed after the explosion. GO ON HUNTING TRIP. Judge James R. Harper and a party of friends, including John T. Sullivan, lieutenant of the Central fire station; J. "JV. Hadlock, city sewer commis sioner; Harry Oldham, deputy city clerk; C.-B. Pattersbn and John F. Robinson, of Lubbock, Tex., left Tues day for a fishing and camping trip in Taos county, N. M. The party will be gone about a month. Summer Tourist Fares ON SALE DAILY UNTIL SEPTEMBER 30th Low round trip rates to all principal eastern and northern points-final return limit October 31st NEW YORK $85.85 KANSAS CITY .... $40.65 ST. LOTOS CHICAGO v..-. 55.65 CINCINNATI ... 64.05 HOT SPRINGS -,-. 39.35 GA.... 55.75 MX)RENCE, ALA'. 49.00 44.70 LOUISVILLE .... 59.90 , EXPRESS MERGER OCCURS ON MONDAY Wells IPargo Company Ab sorbs the Paeifi Com pany Interests. In a gigantic deal involving about $15,000,000, the entire Pacific Express system was turned over to the "Wells Fargo people at midnight Monday. The company transfers in Texas Include the T. & P., Cotton Belt, the I. & G. N. and others, which were formerly oper ated by the Pacific system, and there fore all express- matter over the T. & P. Into El Paso will be taken in by .the "Wells Fargo men here at the union station. All express matter and an inventory of the fixtures on hand at the Pacific offices at 112 West San Antonio street have been transferred by agent H. H. Johnson to Edward R. Taft, of the Wells Fargo at 312 Mills street. The deal has been under considera tion i-or several montns, ana an em ployes were kept busy Monday night straightening out the Pacific books. It is generally understood that the Wells Fargo system will employ the Pacific men as they will doubtlessly need them on the Gould lines, although all the men are now temporarily out of a job. FIREMAN SAVES FIVE INSANE FROM DEATH (Continued from Page 1.) sound. The firemen, fighting both flames and the maniacs, were In con stant peril and frequently were seen perched on window sills through which the smake was pouring, trying to'drag forth a struggling man. Saved Five; One Fled Back. Tom Fitzgerald of the electric truck Is given credit for the rescue of five men. The sixth broke from his grasp at the window and fled back into the flame, where he perished. The fire is believed to have been caused by a short circuit of an electric wire m tne store room on the floor. top JACKSOX, MISS., ASYLUM IS DAMAGED BY FIRE. Jackson, Miss., Aug. 1. Fire broke out In the female ward at the Mississ ippi insane hospital shortly before noon today. In a short time It had spread to the negro male ward. No deaths have been reported so far, but many Inmates have escaped and are' roaming at large. JtihrmLJi' . n -zr ,-We Give Liberal Stopovers ., 49.65 In the Cofferdam JKESA GARDEN IS BEING DEMOLISHED (Continued from page to ties, would make a bee line for the sav loon where the offending stranger -was supposed to be taking his liquor. A. gun play was averted only when the Irate citizen was introduced to "Gc. Stoneman." Thereupon, lie Droatntl'v bought the drinks. After the giant had oeen en display down town he met with a serious ac cident. His right leg was fracturad above the knee and it was discoversd that the supposed prehistoric citizen was cpmposed of reinforced concrete, skillfully patterned. With much cer emony he was taken to the Mesa gar den, where he was on. exhlbitien. for a long time. What is left of him is In the yard of a house In the second wara Passing- f the Gardea. The Mesa garden -was laid out by Fisher Satterthwaite about 1SS7. It was originally Intended for a. beer gar den, and two houses, a main pavilion, and a smaller, building were erectea. These are the ones that are now being wrecked. After the McGIntles disowned the garden as their official headquar ters, It was rented by Prof. Iiongue mare, who remodeled the larger house and occupied it as his residence. Prof. Joseph Smith, formerly organist of St Clement's churoh, occupied the. place for a time. Others occupied the heus and lately It has been rented as a tene ment. The property was bought by J. J. Mundy, wffb held, It. for a number of years and then sold It to Winchester Cooley. and olhers. K. F. Surges is the present owner of the historic old knoll overlooking Oregon, street and tMa downtown district. DO YOU FEEL TIRED and languid are you troubl ed with Indigestion, Consti pation or Biliousness? HOSTETTER'S STOMACH BITTERS is the HiediclHe yon need. Try It.