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EL PASO HERALD
Tuesday, August 1, 1911.
f)orothy JJix
The Third Woman Tells How She Vainly Triea to Make Her Marriage Happy
fcfcM
T marriage, said the tmra.
woman, "was a failure be
muse I believed that I held
& divine commission to make over a
man to put my little paper pattern
down on his habits and character, and
cut them over according to my taste.
"Of course, I couldn't do It. No
woman can do It. But a great many
women can do just -what I -did de
stroy all the happiness of married life,
and. eventually kill love itself, by their
ceaseless efforts to make their husbands
do their way Instead of letting the poor
creatures follow their own inclinations.
And the funny part about this business
is that we women do It, not only with
a. clear conscience, but with a sense of
righteousness. "We are never so sure
that we are doing our full duty by our
husbands as when we are interfering
with all their pleasures, and little
ways, and making them do something
F-lnp
that they don't want to 'do. We can
this beinga good wife, but men call It
nagging.,
"I married a handsome and attract
ive young man, who was pre-eminently
what is known as a 'good fellow. He
had a most charming personality. He
was genial, amiable, kindly, sympa
thetic, everything that was lovable.
But he w&s also easy going, careless,
Improvident, a little too fond of drink
and pleasure and, good times, and not
fond enough of work.
GlerloHs in Youth.
"He was one of the sort of men who
are glorious in youth, and pitiful in old
age. The world smiles upon them when
they are in their twenties, and laughs
at them when they are in their sixties.
All of tneir promises have been blight
ed in the bud. None have flowered into
achievement. Everybody has liked them i
but nobody has trusted them with a big
job.
"Unfortunately for both of us I was
" the complete opposite of my husband In
temperament. I was rigid and narrow
In my views. I was fearful of the fu
ture, and, above all, I was full of un
tiring 'energy. I was thrifty and -economical,
and obsessed by a certain pas
sion for getting on in the world. I
wanted to be rich, to bo important, to
have my husband take a commanding
position. In the world of men, and to
have accomplished that I would gladly
liare worked my fingers to the bone,
and lived upon bread and water.
"1 think no man can ever even
faintly realize what it means to an am
bitious and energetic woman when the
sickening truth comes home to her
that she Is married to a man who is
lazy and shiftless, and whose only as
piration is to escape all effort, and just
to be animally content with a full
stomach and a warm place in which
to stay. It is a revelation that sears
the woman's very soul and fills her,
even if she is a good woman, with a
bitterer comtempt for him than if she
had discovered that he were a bandit
or a cracksman.
"I know that that was my case, x
looked at my husband, stroqg and
healthy and capable of any amount of
"work, but who lolled about the house
as supine as a jellyfish, making no at
tempt to climb the ladder of success,
just satisfied to make a little and
spend it all, and trust to luck that we
would never come to want, and I felt
that I would die of vicarious shame for "
him.
Tried to Rouse Him.
"Then I began my foolish and futile
efforts to make him over. I tried to in
spire ambition in bim. I tried to rouse
him to effort. I tried to make him
economize, to be prudent and far-seeing.
"I tried to brealc up all his old com
panionships, to make him come home
at regular hours, to make him quit
drinking, and playing cards, and wast
ing his time and money in foolish
pleasures.
"The result was that so far as he was
concerned I simply alienated him from
me. Instead of a wife I became to him
simply a feared and abhorred school
mistress, a mentor that never permitted
him to rest in peace, and to whom he
was forever making lying excuses xo
cover up his shortcomings.
"I know now how he must have
dreaded to come 3iome to meet my ac
cusing eye, how the shadow of uy dis
approval must have always hung over
him. now, at last, he musta have been
glad to die to get t rid of my eternal
nagging about those things which, he
did and which he left undone.
"As for myself, all that I got out of
the situation was unending failure and
disappointment. I kept myself always
worked up into a ferment of protest. I
was trying to do the impossible, reach
ing out for the unattainable, and it
kept my nerves always on the ragged
edge.
"And it was all to no purpose.. Turn
ing an invertebrate creature into as
animal with a backbone is a matter of
aeons of time. It isn't a miracle that
a little fool bride can accomplish In
15 minutes.' "With all of my efforts 1
could not change the character of my
husband any more than I could change
the color of his hair. Mature had set
tled all of that before I was ever born,
but what I could do was to make both
of us perfectly wretched, and I was
eminently successful in that
If! "If I had to live my married life over
again I should simply accept the sweet,
and let the bitter .go. I should take my
husband as I found him, and not try
to alter him. I should enjoy to the
fullest tils geniality, his bright and
cheery, and optimistic outlook on life.
I should warm myself at the fire of his
affection and enfold myself in his ten
derness. "In that way I should, at least, get
something out of life, while as it was
I got nothing, for I fell between the
stools. I could not change mm, out m
trying to change bim I killed our love,
and lost what happiness we might havo
had.
"To the last day of hie life my hus-
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, band still strewed his soiled clothes all
over the house, and would lie down and
take a nap in his best coat. He would
let an agent talk him Into subscribing
to a 47-volume edition of the' lives of
the presidents in morocco when we
were behind with the grocery bill. He
would keep a poor job that paid him
badly but left him time to play golf.
He would take too much to drink oc
casionally, and come home with a fooK
ish story about meeting a man from
Oshkosh.
'If I had to meet these conditions
again I should pick up the collars with
out fretting myself into a fury over
his carelessness. I should press his
trousers and clean his coat without
working myself up into a passion at
his extravagance In mussing up his
best clothes, and when I realized that
he wouldn't make the money I needed
J " vv""au".V
i -1- ouuuiu otaib
out and make money my
self.
"But I should waste no time, nor ef
fort trying to change my husband. I
should simply be a good sport, and
take him as he was and make the best
of him."
Tm sorry for any woman who gets
one of those Peter Pan men who never
grow up," said the first woman.
"Such men have no business in mar
rying," said the third woman. "Matri
mony is a full-sized grown man's job."
(All communications . must bear the
signature of the writer, but the name
will not be published where suoh a re
quest is made).
THE CLOUDCROFT, SHOOTIXG.
Cloudcroft, N. &L, July SI.
Editor El Paso Herald:
On page six of your issue bf July
26, there appears an account of the
shooting that took place at the quar
ters of the negro servants of the lodge
last Monday night which, while cor
rect in its main features, does an in
justice to the majority of the citizens
of North Cloudcroft, which I feel it my
duty to remedy. I refer to the para
graph in which you state "it is a sourct
of keen resentment that
North Cloudcroft should con
tinue to harbor rowdies and hoodlums,
who vent their spite ana love of dev
iltry in such an atrocious manner."
This statement has aroused consid
erable feeling among the business men
and the better class cltizens of North
Cloudcroft, and. in my opinion with
very good reason, since they were
among the first to deplore the out
rage and to make an effort to discov
er the criminal. This is especially true
of the business men (air. Bailey, post
master; Mr. Tatum, of the Cloudcrorv
Commercial company, and several oth
ers) who have been unceasine: in their
efforts to assist the officers in locating
the guilty parties. These men, having
thousands of dollars Invested in Cloud-
croic, realized the seriousness of th
situation, which menaces the very life
t of Cloudcroft as a summer resort and
me aay arter tne snooting, several of
them took great pains to assure them
that this outbreak did not reflect the
true sentiments of the people of North
Cloudcroft. They offered their full co
operation in discovering the criminals,
and they-stated t!at the relations ex
isting this season between the busi
ness men and permanent residents, of
Cloudcroft on the one hand, and the
summer colonists and hotel people on
the other, had never before been so
pleasant. This statement has. been
borne out by some of the cottagers
who have been coming here for years.
In thls connection, I desire to ex
press 'my sincere appreciation of the
good work done by the officers, who
were called to the scene, especially Mr.
Denny, sheriff of Otero county, and Q.
Sadtlier, special agent of the El Paso
and Southwestern system. Tuesday
morning, Immediately after receiving
word about the outrage, Mr. Denny
started from Alamogordo for Cloud
croft on horseback, preferring not to
lose any time in waiting for the after
noon train, and he arrived here shortly
after noon. Ever since then, early and
late the two officers have been hard at
work on "the case, and If the criminals
are brought to justice, as now seems
most likely, itw ill be entirely due to
their hard work, aided by such in
formation and assistance as the busi
ness nien of North Claudcroft and the
members of the Cloudcroft Directory
(Messrs. Roe, Long, Breckheimer. Ta
tum and Dr. Stevenson) so willingly fur-
nished them. I feel particularlv in-J
flo,fl ai tt,,, , :
wi.wv ..w -.... "Uuj id una Lime tmo.
work he has- put in on this case.
The fact that the sheriff of the
county is so determined to discover
and punish the guilty men Is certain
to have' a deterring effect on anyone
who might feel tempted to- commit a
similar effence. I cannot speak too
highly of the work of these officers.
As a matter of justice, I would
thank you to publish this letter, as, I
would not care to have these people,
who have acted so splendidly through
out, believe that we, on the Cloudcroft
reservation, held them responsible in
the w"ay sugested in the paragraph of
your article that I have referred to.
Thanking you in advance for your
consideration of this matter, I am,
yours very truly,
Jas. Lawler,
Manager "The Lodge."
No reflection has been made or in
tended against the law abiding and re
spectable people of North Cloudcroft,
who are very greatly in the majority.
A strongly expressed public sentiment
among them would rid the locality of
the few undesirable characters respon
sible for violations of the iile5 of
Cloudcroft and the laws of New Mex
ico. Editor.
CARTER WILL GET
ARGENTINE MINISTRY
Washington, D. C. Aug. 1 John
TUdgely Carter. United States minister
to Roumanla and Bulgaria, will be ap
pointed minister to Argentina, succeed
ing Charles H. Sherrill. The Argentine
Republic was asked several days ago
if Mr. Carter "would be acceptable and
the report Jast night stating that the
government had made an affirmative
announcement apparently assures his
appointment.
ThS appointment of Mr. Carter to Ar
gentine lends color to the report that
Mr. Sherrill will figure prominently in
the diplomatic reassignments Involved
in filling ambassador. Hill's post at
Berlin. It is rumored that Mr. Sherrill
will be made ambassador to Tokio, re
lieving Thomas J. O'Brien.
LETTERS
' "To the jx&.
HERALD
Dr.Parkhurst
He That Ruleth His Own Spirit Is
THE most difficult kind of mastery
is self mastery. We have good
authority for it that he that
ruleth his own spirit Is greater than
he that taketh a city.
A man can reduce a walled town and
still be taken captive by his own
despotic Impulses or irritable disposi
tion. To be touchy is a sign of de
feat. The boy who can be rolled by
his chum without getting mad about
it and striking back is a more master
ful fellow than the one who squares
accounts by administering a thrash
ing. Even a dog shows himself to be a
mastiff by Ignpring the harrying giv
en him by the Ignominious cur that
barks at his heels. It is a bad give
away to be worried by the affronts
put upon one's dignity.
The best proof of dignity is to be
willing to let it take care of Itself.
To protect It is to confess our distrust
of it.
To draw the sword In its defence
is to acknowledge that it is vulnerable.
People do not sit up nights watching
for burglars if they are quite sure
that there are no -weak spots In their
domicile through which interlopers
can intrude. j
Whatever partisan opinions men may
entertain in regard to president Taft,
there is about him confessedly a cer
tain quiet composure and masterly self
control that is another name for unim
peachable dignity.
Taft Has Shown Self Control.
How many sharp epithets and hot
vltuperatives he may have in his vo
cabulary no one can tell, but he never
seems moved to use them. He has
feelings, and presumably has passions,
and knows when he is struck, but the
irascible spot in his disposition, If he
has one, is kept under cover, and
scarcely gives any outward lurid hints
of Itself.
Such equable self assertiveness is
one of manhood's finest symptoms and
is a sure commander of public re
spect. It should be reckoned one of the
prime qualifications for public office
that the candidate be so" self centred
and so sovereign over his own im
pulses as to secure him against ebulli-.
tions of temper and outputs of a ran
cid disposition.
Touchiness in a public official, es
pecially If he have large interests
committed to his care, works perver
sity of judgment, narrowness of policy
and unsteadiness of administration.
And the more dignified the position
officially occupied, the more painful
and pitiful become the childish, queru
lous and acrimonious acts of Its In
cumbent. For such a one to strike back and
to seek inward relief by the discharge
of accumulated venom into the person
of an offending party is al-nast excu-
sable in the case of a child, but in
the case of a grownup and exalted
public functionary it is as silly us it is
deplorable.
The Art of Keeping Younr.
A
MAN'Sage is not a matter of
years, but of wear and tear.
One person at 50 is older than
another at 70.
There is such a thing as the art of
keeping young. A man Is after all
n THn1 rf mnohlnp. nnd how lone ma-
I chines of the more ordinary style will
last depends a good deal on the way
In which they re run.
The same is true of the human ma
chine. "We ought not, therefore, to
lay too much stress on the number
of years that happen to have elapsed
since we commenced living. The aver
age constitution will bear just about
so much strain, and when that limit
has been reached the thing slows
down and stops.
"We are like an eight day clock; we
can tick and strike only so many times
without winding. Unlike avtimeplece,
however, we are not susceptible of re
winding unless, what we call resurrec
tion is something aften that order.
People can keep the machinery of
life in motion longer if their exper
ience and activity have not in them
too much of montony. A pedestrian
can walk more miles on a road that
is up hill and down hill than he can
on one that Is level. It is said that
a horse will not wear out as soon if
he is allowed to travel on a variety of
roads, as lie will if like a tramcar
horse he has to continue going back
ward and forward over, the same route
every day.
There are no workers more to be
pitied (and there are millions of them)
than those whose one day's experience
is the exact repetition of every other
day. It is killing.
There is no sweeter service that
any one can render than to introduce
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"llu ou'" "VC3 tt "tll " "J- neiy,
The Raising
'fVl Y"Vn"-y"0 YlVl "V Allfa nil it.ni. 1
.iC j,uw,.wetUj,u buv,y0 i men. lt ieit OL ttie om Daiuesnip looking from the bow. The work an the Maine is
progressing slowly. Attention is directed mostly toward cleaning the mud from the berth deck, which is now two
feet deep. The turret is now cleaned out and the gun mountings were found intact, although the riflinsr is eaten
J away, as the breechblocks were removed
ON SELF-MASTERY A
LEADING TRAIT OF MR.
TAFT.
Greater Than He That Taketh a City
so that the heated bearings will have
a chance to cool and the strained
nerves an opportunity to relax. It is
like a bit of rebirth.
Even professionel life Is made less
consuming if it will vary itself by the
adoption of sorae side Interest that
shifts the pressure from the accus
tomed spot. j
Lives the Same From Day to Day.
How much more is this the case
with those whose life is the dull and
constant repetition of small and un
interesting employment today simply
the return of yesterday, and tomorrow
certain to be today over again.
To vary such slavish lives by the
introduction of some congenial change,
and to season them by suggestions that
are of a different flavor from that
of their accustomed toll, is one of the
most Christian services that can be
rendered by those whose life Is less
monotonous and wearisome.
C. H. Parkhurst. ,
Copyright, 1911, National News Asso
ciation. GLOBE NEWSPAPER '
MAN IS ASSAULTED
George Clements of El Paso
Had Pought Tough
Saloons.
Globe, iAriz., Aug. 1. George H.
Clements, editor of the Daily Globe,
was assaulted last night by Wise An
derson, brother of former city mar
shal Robert 51. Anderson, now in the
territorial penitentiary at Florence,
for the murder of George 31, Shanley,
in the wine room of the Wellington
bar in this city In March.
Clements at that time was editor 0$
the Silver Belt and vigorously protest
ed against drunken peace officers, de
manding their removal from office and
the closing of tough saloons, having
wine room attachments.
Clements recently returned to Globe
as editor of the Dally Globe, and in a
recent issue his paper called atten
tion to a trouble in the Richelieu res
taurant In .which drinks were served
from the White House bar, when a
waiter was brutally beaten. Clenients
then urged suppression of the rough
saloon. Clements has also strenuously
opposed the attitude of acting gov
ernor Toung In paroling and pardon
ing a number of murderers from the
penitentiary, and that, too, has aroused
much unfavorable comment among the
rougher element of the city.
Anderson returned to Globe Friday,
and on Saturday warned B. .T. Barron,
manager of the Dally Globe, "that un
less Clements left town something
would drop. Barron repeated the warn
ing to Clements, but the latter refused
to consider the matter seriously,
though he did sena William Sparks, i
yesterday afternoon, to Anderson for
an explanation. To Sparks Anderson I
said he meant nothing except to let j
Clements know that he did not like
him and had no intention of doing any
thing. About half an hour later, just!
as Clements was leaving his office,
Anderson stepped up to him and struck
him. Coming so soon after the message
of peace, brought by Sparks, Clements
was caught off his guard, .but mixed
more with the desire to prevent An
derson, who is reputed to be a gun
man, from shooting him than to fight
a man his size, weight and activity.
Bystanders separated them and Ander
son later was; arrested, when war
rants were sworn out by deputy sheriff
Frank Haynes. He was released on his
own recognizance for hearing Tues
day. The assault, coming from the source
it did, aroused much feeling through
out the city. Reputable saloon men
met last night and passed a resolution
of sympathy for Clements and assured!
him that they are with him in the
fight against flagrant disorders.
LABOR UNIONS MAY
HOLD BIG- SERVICE
Labor unions will probably hold q
service at Cleveland Square on Sunday,
Sept. 3. Henry 'M. Walker, of the Cen
tral labor body, met with the Ministe
rial union Monday morning and dis
cussed plans. The ministers agreed
to close their churches on that evening
so that their congregations might at
tend the open air service.
This service will be presided over by
the members of the labor unions and
the ministers will speak.
C. Farmer left for Marfa on Tues
day for a business trip.
of the Battleship Maine
.i. a! -i t j. . i - -
after the explosion.
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We
Offer
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Routes
BOSTON 93.65
WASHINGTON .. 74.55
BALTIMORE .... 74.55
DETROIT 66.65
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ROBERTS-BANNER BUILDING
RICHARD WARREN, G. A. H. D. McGREGOR, C. T. A.
Wr.eck of the Maine as It Appears
This photograph shows a general vie-w of the forward part of the Maine. The work, on the remains of the ill
fated battleship i3 progressing slowly. Attention Is directed, mostly toward cleaning the mud from the berth. &&c
which is now two feet deep. The remaining Water from the flushing pipes was allowed, to flow hack inside the- cof
terdam. The turret is now cleaned out and the gun mountings were found Intact, although the rifling is etea away4
as the breechblocks were removed after the explosion.
GO ON HUNTING TRIP.
Judge James R. Harper and a party
of friends, including John T. Sullivan,
lieutenant of the Central fire station;
J. "JV. Hadlock, city sewer commis
sioner; Harry Oldham, deputy city
clerk; C.-B. Pattersbn and John F.
Robinson, of Lubbock, Tex., left Tues
day for a fishing and camping trip in
Taos county, N. M. The party will be
gone about a month.
Summer Tourist Fares
ON SALE DAILY UNTIL
SEPTEMBER 30th
Low round trip rates to all principal eastern and
northern points-final return limit October 31st
NEW YORK $85.85 KANSAS CITY .... $40.65
ST. LOTOS
CHICAGO v..-. 55.65
CINCINNATI ... 64.05
HOT SPRINGS -,-. 39.35
GA.... 55.75 MX)RENCE, ALA'. 49.00
44.70 LOUISVILLE .... 59.90
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EXPRESS MERGER
OCCURS ON MONDAY
Wells IPargo Company Ab
sorbs the Paeifi Com
pany Interests.
In a gigantic deal involving about
$15,000,000, the entire Pacific Express
system was turned over to the "Wells
Fargo people at midnight Monday. The
company transfers in Texas Include
the T. & P., Cotton Belt, the I. & G. N.
and others, which were formerly oper
ated by the Pacific system, and there
fore all express- matter over the T. &
P. Into El Paso will be taken in by
.the "Wells Fargo men here at the union
station.
All express matter and an inventory
of the fixtures on hand at the Pacific
offices at 112 West San Antonio street
have been transferred by agent H. H.
Johnson to Edward R. Taft, of the
Wells Fargo at 312 Mills street.
The deal has been under considera
tion i-or several montns, ana an em
ployes were kept busy Monday night
straightening out the Pacific books. It
is generally understood that the Wells
Fargo system will employ the Pacific
men as they will doubtlessly need them
on the Gould lines, although all the
men are now temporarily out of a job.
FIREMAN SAVES FIVE
INSANE FROM DEATH
(Continued from Page 1.)
sound. The firemen, fighting both
flames and the maniacs, were In con
stant peril and frequently were seen
perched on window sills through which
the smake was pouring, trying to'drag
forth a struggling man.
Saved Five; One Fled Back.
Tom Fitzgerald of the electric truck
Is given credit for the rescue of five
men. The sixth broke from his grasp
at the window and fled back into the
flame, where he perished.
The fire is believed to have been
caused by a short circuit of an electric
wire m tne store room on the
floor.
top
JACKSOX, MISS., ASYLUM
IS DAMAGED BY FIRE.
Jackson, Miss., Aug. 1. Fire broke
out In the female ward at the Mississ
ippi insane hospital shortly before noon
today. In a short time It had spread
to the negro male ward.
No deaths have been reported so far,
but many Inmates have escaped and are'
roaming at large.
JtihrmLJi'
. n -zr
,-We
Give
Liberal
Stopovers
., 49.65
In the Cofferdam
JKESA GARDEN IS
BEING DEMOLISHED
(Continued from page to
ties, would make a bee line for the sav
loon where the offending stranger -was
supposed to be taking his liquor. A.
gun play was averted only when the
Irate citizen was introduced to "Gc.
Stoneman." Thereupon, lie Droatntl'v
bought the drinks.
After the giant had oeen en display
down town he met with a serious ac
cident. His right leg was fracturad
above the knee and it was discoversd
that the supposed prehistoric citizen
was cpmposed of reinforced concrete,
skillfully patterned. With much cer
emony he was taken to the Mesa gar
den, where he was on. exhlbitien. for a
long time. What is left of him is In
the yard of a house In the second wara
Passing- f the Gardea.
The Mesa garden -was laid out by
Fisher Satterthwaite about 1SS7. It
was originally Intended for a. beer gar
den, and two houses, a main pavilion,
and a smaller, building were erectea.
These are the ones that are now being
wrecked. After the McGIntles disowned
the garden as their official headquar
ters, It was rented by Prof. Iiongue
mare, who remodeled the larger house
and occupied it as his residence. Prof.
Joseph Smith, formerly organist of St
Clement's churoh, occupied the. place
for a time. Others occupied the heus
and lately It has been rented as a tene
ment. The property was bought by J.
J. Mundy, wffb held, It. for a number of
years and then sold It to Winchester
Cooley. and olhers. K. F. Surges is the
present owner of the historic old knoll
overlooking Oregon, street and tMa
downtown district.
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