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THE MIRROR HEARTILY EXTENDS A GREETING OF WELCOME TO THE WASHINGTON COUNTY GETTER FARMING ASSOCIATION AND A LITTLE GIRL LED HIM TO RIGHT THE LOVE FOB CHILDREN WAS STRONG ER THAN DEMON RUM IN THIS MAN This Man, in His Struggle to Gain Redemp tion, Placed His Faith in the Purity of Two Little Girls and Fought Down the Badness of Life. By T. W. L A few years ago, 1 met a acquaint ance of former days just as he came out of church, accompanied lay his wife and their two children. His appearance now presented such a contrast to what I had pictured it would be in advanced life that it was not until I had gone several blocks that I could recall who lie was. A few days after my chance meet ing with Dick B —. I was at the club for lunch, when one of the members, a prominent attorney, made the remark that Mr. B —. had decided to make his future home in our neighborhood, and that he had purchased the Old Valley ranch. Once the subject was opened, 1 was surprised to find that so many of those in the club had known Dick in the old days at one place or another, and the same question puzzled us all: “How had the trans formation occuredV” The Dick, we had all known was little more than an outcast; while the reincarnation that had now come amougst us was apparently not only married and well-to-do, but a very steady worker and respected man. Thus while we were gossiping like a bunch of old women, the young Parson came in and caught us, as you might say, unawares. After the usual greeting had been exchanged, the Parson remarked that he had over-heard the topic of our conversation and said he believed he could furnish us with the true story of Dick’s reformation and what was the cause of it as well. “All of you who knew Dick in the old days, will remember the ap parent failure lie was making of his life, despite the many advantages he had with which to have succeed- ed to almost any height if he had been so minded. Of course the main cause of his failure was his inexhaustible appetite for liquor! It was later, you will remember, when he began to get into frequent entanglements with bad associates; so that, no doubt, it was driuk that caused this latter weakness of his and, as I said before, that made his name a by-word throughout the City. Well things went from bad to worse, from all I could gather from what he said; for remember I am giving you this tale just as he repeated it to me when he called to see me on his arrival here. In do ing so, lam not betraying his confi dence in anyway, for it is his wish you should know the manuer in which he won his uphill tight. So if you fellows just keep quiet, I shall relieve your very evident curiosity.” “Parson,” he began, “1 w 7 onder if you know how r true was your text the other night, I mean the one that goes something like “And a little child shall lead them.” ’ Now lam Dot sure if I have the words just right or not, but the meaning is there! And as I said it is one of the greatest texts in the 800k —at least it has been for me: “Of course you remember the kind of man I used to be back in W —. A disgrace to myself and to everyone w 7 ho associated with me. Drink w T as my sole religion then, and when I wasn’t 'loaded’, as they say; it was only because I had no money or was working some shady scheme to raise some more money for this purpose. “You know, Parson, I w 7 as smart and could almost turn to any line of w T ork and make a success. But as soon as I would get a good start and be in a way to get on my feet, the old craviug for drink w r ould again assail me, and in less than no time I w'ould be down and out once again: “I did a good many things in those days that w 7 ould have put a poor or unknown stranger behind the bars for a good lengthy term; but I being my father’s son was never molested. They simply used to call on the Pater to settle ray score. ' “Well, it went on in this manner for sometime, until finally things got so bad that T found it was im- OCR MOITO:—“H I. Never Too Loie (o Mend." possible to either work myself, or to be able to work anyone else in W —. So I pulled out and went to the Northwest. “When leaving the old home town, I had no particular place in view as my future abode. When I found that ray mileage would just carry me to C —, I decided this ,/ould suit me as well as anywhere else. Now, during my trip there I got to thinking of how I had been a failure in the past and decided once again that it was time I made a new T effort to lead an honest and s sober existence. On arrival at my destina tion, I sought a private boarding house where I could have home pre vileges and where there w T ere child ren; for although I had sunk pretty low, still I had a passionate fond ness for children and was always able to win their confidence and friendship. “After a few hours search, I found w T bat I decided would be au ideal place with a widow 7 woman, Mrs. W —, who had a small family, tw 7 o of whom were little girls of eight and ten jears respectively. As the terms were w ithin the reach of my modest purse, I immediately pro ceeded to have my effects sent up aud then set out again, this time in search of employment. 1 was lucky; for the second concern I called on, quite willingly, consented to give me a trial as a city salesman for their line w'ith w-hich I was un familiar. Still, I was quite con fident I could make a big suceess in handling it; and 1 fully believe that it was my own self-confidence that secured me the position. “There was one thing I found out before I had been boarding at Mrs. W’8 — a week both she and tde children had an intense horror of liquor in all forms. From w 7 hat I could gather it w as drink that caused Mr. W’s — death. So being aware of this, I took particular pains to kill or cover up the fumes, either on my breath or in my actions; for there had sprung up a strong friendship between the little girls and myself. In fact one might say it almost amounted to affection. “Well, things went along very nicely for about tw 7 o months, and then I got one of the largest orders the firm had ever received. It seemed that nothing wrnuld do but to celebrate my good fortune by tell ing every bartender in the city; and of course.l always insi-sted on treating those w'ho w r ere willing to listen to my ideas of salesmanship. “Thus it happened that on my arrival home that night, I w 7 aa very far from sober and my true pre dicament w 7 as easily discernible to all, as sleep was what I desired most, I very quickly made my way to bed and forgetfulness; but the next day, I could easily see that I had lost prestige with the whole family and particularly with the two kiddies, who made uo demands on my time for stories, puzzles or anything else as they formerly had. This aloft ness on their part hurt me more than anythiug else; and the desire on my part to make amends and thus re gain their trust and companionship w r as sufficient to keep me away from taking a drink for some days after, although the craving for it was al most unbearable. “it w r as the Sunday after ray latest failure before the children paid any further attention to me. Then they asked me if I didn’t want to accom pany them to church. Now 7 , al though I w 7 as never much of a church going sort, still I believe I w ould of agreed to almost anything just at that time to win back my little com rades. So my acceptance of their invitation was both warm and sin cere. “The minister’s text that morning was the same one preached’the other day. And in some manner it went right to my heart I remember, he said, among other things that so long as a man could w 7 in the con fidence and friendship of a little child it showed that there w r as a great deal of true manhood about him, for that children could, pick out those whom it was safe to trust much quicker and with more oc curacy than any adult. “Well, after hearing that sermon, I went out feeling that possibly after all I had the making of a man in me. And from then on I follow ed such a course in my every day life as would make me a little more suitable as a companion for my little friends. At first, of course, my greatest temptation was liquor, in its various forms, and many were the times that my craving for a drink got the better of me; but I early * •iTU'U'Uri on Paste Three) OUR MOTTO:— Stillwater, Minnesota, Thursday, January 28, 1915. JUST AN EVERYDAY SORT OF PERSON THE BETTER THINGS IN LIFE ARE GEN ERALLY GIFTS OF EVERYDAY PERSONS This Article Proves That the Celebrities of the World Were at One Time but Every day People Whose Characters Revolu tionized the World. By Reins Marquis in Reformatory Press A friend said to me the other day: “There is nothing interesting about me- I’m just an everyday sort of person.” I looked at this little friend of mine —frank, sweet, pa tient, brave—and I thought her far more interesting than the well known, sophiscated and somewhat spoiled w 7 oman of whom we had been speaking. I thought her, too, capable of quite as remarkable a career, given the opportunity or necessity. For we have to remember that it is from the ranks of “Everyday” folks that the geniuses and heroes THE BETTER SOCIAL ORDER JURE TO COME By Rev. Samuel G. Smith, 1). I).. St. Pant is m3 7 faith: During the coming .year, as > during every year since time began,hu- manity 7 will be sweeping on the stream of God’s purposes toward the gates of the King dom of God. Every catastrophe throughout all the ages has been an unsightly bud, sometimes covered with thorns, 3 T et out of which has come at last the new bloom of wisdom and goodness. The Cit.y of Jerusalem was broken, and its temple destroyed, but the whole world received as its reward the fortieth chapter of Isaiah. The barbarian proved that the Church was incapable of preserving the city' of nome, but on account of it, St. Augustine gave us his precious monu ment, "The City 7 of God.” The Crusaders dev astated Europe and Asia. What they 7 found was not the empty 7 tomb in Jerusalem, but the basis for constitutional government. The ravages of war, that now fill our minds with horror, will give birth to wider democra cies, larger justice among men and a better so cial order. Whv do I believe this i Because the wrath of tnan shall praise him, the remainder of wrath shall he restrain. I will not sing with Brow n ing, “All’s right with the world ” because God’s in his heaven, but rather would I say, God is unfolding himself in all the sins and sorrows of human life. His problem is a vast one, but he himself is so much larger than all problems, hu man or divine. The final failure of God is un thinkable. are recruited. At one time or an other we are all everyday folks, and the celebrities of the world are merely everyday persons who have been discovered. Each of us is full of unrealized possibilities —possibilities noble and beautiful. And I want to plead, here and now 7 , that w 7 e shall recog nize these possibilities within us. If each of us felt this there would probably be a marvelous blossoming of lovely characters and destinies. For it is the instinct of every one of us who live up to the ideals of us which someone else cherishes, and if w 7 e started out with ideals of our selves we would inevitably attempt to live up to them, too. Women, more than raeD, I think need to be urged to self-confidence, self honor as it were. Out of their very business experiences, men seem to gain a certain beiief in themselves, a certain pride of ca pacity and attainment, that the av erage “home” woman, at least, misses. The woman who daily sweeps and mends and dusts and cooks, for instance, is not apt to har bor very exalted ideas of her po tentialities, and nowhere is humility so likely to be found as among those vital and courageous toilers —the wives and mothers of the race. I w ish that every woman that I know, especially every quietly laboring and enduring home woman, would say to herself each morning: “It is a wonderful thing to be myself! It is a wonderful thing to have the gift of life. l ean be —I can do so much that is w 7 orth while. And I will!” The attitude of self-appreciation, the intention of self-realization in the best sense, is quite a different thing vaniiv. Tt ? s * fine and wholesome pride that helps one to grow, that makes one stronger and braver and sweeter through all one’s years. Pride of tjje right sort is ; a conquering quality; it can do al | most anything. The derelicts of i the world are the men aud women j whose pride has failed them. For las long as pride lasts, we face life j squarely, with our heads up aud life | has to give something back to peo- I pie like that! i It is the kind of pride which we pre all the better for having, to '•rain our bodies to be as vigorous and perfect as possible, and to wear as suitable and charming garments as we can. Ido not believe anyone ever thinks of the ancient Greeks as ‘vain,” yet their care aud reverence for their bodies far exceeded that of the woman whose dressing table dis plays a bewildering assortment of creams and powders, of curling tongs and rouge pots. With the Greeks, physical health aud beauty, and with them, health with beauty was an ideal. The muscles and the mind are uol far apart. The quick, stroug and active body is very apt to be the house of a quick, stroug ami active mind. Gymnasiums and college courses have not been open to all of us, but a brisk walk each day, in sunshine and rain alike and half an hour with au inspiring- book are within the reach of most of us. I wish I could persuade all my read ers to make the book and walk daily habits of their lives. There are books that stimulate the mind as a walk in clear, wind-swept spaces does the body. I have a shelf of such books myself. Emerson, of course, is there, and there, too, in a battered scrap-book, are bits of verse and prose clipped from cur rent mag-azines. You see it is not a snobbish shelf that harbors only the renowned! Some of the things which have helped me most are signed by obscure names, the names of “everyday sort of persons!” The body and the mind together constitute the individuality, the very essence of self. I am always Sony to discover that a woman is slavishly imitating some other wo man whom she admires. The imi tator does not gain the original’s charm, she only hides her own characteristic grace beneath the disguise. There’s nothing like a little soli tude to help one to be one’s self. I have often heard women say: “O, I can’t bear to be alone!” I have always listened to the remark with regret. There is such a thing as a morbid tendency to solitude, I ad mit, but no one who is resolutely cultivating a healty body is likely to have a morbid mind. But for the normal, well-poised man or wo man, solitude at some time every day is a good habit. I’m sorry that everyone cannot have a room that is really a sanctuary. Such a spot one’s own does much for self-de velopment. DO WE KNOW OUR TRUE FRIENDS? LOYALTY OF TRUE FRIENDSHIP IS NOT POSSESSED BY ONE AND ALL When We Believe Tnat We Understand a Person and When the Crucial Test Happens it is Then Only That We Know Our True Friends. By Bean Esprila Some time ago Mirror reader’s were favored with a very able dis sertation upon friendship,from the pen of the editor. His conclusions were heartily concurred in by a large number of his readers, as I have had occasion to learn since. It is not with the iuteution to add to or detract from what was then written that I have selected the same subject for this article; but ra ther for the purpose of enlarging upon a view of the matter of friend ships which is very apt to assume an undue prominence under condi tions such as we are placed in here. When men are thrown together in any unusual environment it is but natural that quick friendships and enmities should be formed. Uuder such conditions, when the normal habits and procedures of the individual are arbitrarily altered or completely cbauged, it is not unus ual for him to select his friends not so much on a basis of congeniality, such as would govern his actions in ordinary circumstances, as on grounds of common interest at the time, and with little or no thought for changed conditions or for the future. In this way persons of radi cally divergent tastes and habits of life and thought are drawn into friendships as unstable as they are unnatural. It has been said, and truly, that if a person is your true friend, no ac tion on your part can break the bond. It has also beeu said, and equally true, that what you may have beeu or done in the past will not change the course of true friend ship. This would seem to cover the ground completely, but it does not. It is yet needful to have a concise definition of true friendship Let me attempt such a definition. Friendship is a bond of mutual sympathy formed between persons who are thoroughly informed of oue auother s true nature and disposi tion, who know oue another's faults as well as virtues with an absolute knowledge. There is not, and can not be, any other basts for a true friendship. This may seem to be an unreason able statement. I know it has been contended by many able persons that no mau can know his fellow man absolutely. I admit that such knowledge ig not easy to attain. And yet experience—your own ex perience —will prove to you that without it there can be no true friendship. Think back to some person whom you believed to be your friend, someone with whom yon were on close terms of intimacy, with whom you shared what you had to share, and who you believed would share with you in like man ner. You thought you knew him, you believed iu him, you liked him for the good qualities iu him which you had found, and it was not hard for you to see the explaiuation and the excuse for such faults as he may have had. Yet when your troubles came he did not come to your help, lie left you to face it alone. He showed you one quality iu himself which you had not suspected, and you had to admit that he was not your true friend. Now if you had known he was unloyal you would never have con sidered him your friend. It was that in his nature which you did not know which broke dowm the bonds of your trust and showed you that he had never been your friend. He could not have been your friend, because he had that one quality of which you did not know. You may meet him agaiu, and like him for his good companionship. You may even, now’ that you know his lack of loyalty, rebuild your old friend ship for him, if you can find it in your heart to excuse that fault in him. But to do this you will have to keep in mind your knowledge of his unloyalty, and remember that his friendship is not of a character to help you in your times of need. If you can re-build this shattered friendship, it must be re-bnilt on 'tx&j'- Vol. XXVIII: No. 26 this fuller knowledge, you cannot build on any lesser basis. It is because you like a person’s good qualities well enough to be able to excuse his faults for their sake that you are his friend. And if you do not know of what faults he is capable you cannot know that you do like him well enough to ex cuse them. That is what I had in mind when saying that friendship must be based on absolute knowl edge. It is the lack of opportunity to acquire such knowledge which makes the friendships formed in prison so often unstable, so frequent ly dangerous. It is not a pleasant thing to say, yet it is but stating facts that one may trust too readily iu another- person with whom one is associated in mutually difficult and unpleasant circumstances. In your mind the simple fact of your like positions may seem to form a bond between you, while he may look at the situation from an entirely differ ent point of view; and the lack of opportunity for you to know each other well euough to grasp the dis similarity of your two points of view way lead to the formation of a friendship which cannot, from its very nature survive; and w r hich is often ended in a manner detrimen tal to both, yet through no conscious fault of either. This is not saying that all friend ships formed in prison are based on misconceptions, nor predicting that ali such friendships will prove harm ful, for such are not the facts. The trouble lies, not iu the fact that men of different temperament are apt to become too intimate iu circumstanc es such as we are in here, but in the fact that such intimacy as they may attain is too shallow, too much on the surface, to permit of their un derstanding and knowing one an other well enough to make those concessions and allowances for the acts of others which work for har mony and mutual good feeling in any social group. Many permanent friendships are formed iu prison, friendships of last ing value; but they do not number above the usual proportion of acci dentals with which one has to reck on in all social relationship, and are generally formed under unusually lavorable circumstances, such as co operation at some mutually congen ial task. It is gratifying to note that among those who have such favorable op portunities, very few fail to take advantage of them to the fullest possible extent. And it is equally gratifying to note that when such opportunities are lacking, where the basis for true and lasting friend ships is impossible of achievement, there is yet a preponderance of good fellowship among the men confined within prison walls. TRUE SPIRIT OF SACRIFICE The spirit of sacrifice is the reve lation of a larger life; and because it is so it is also a revelatiou of vic torious power. The life is one, and through its action soul can reach soul. \Ye have all been able from time to time, in the most expressive phrase, to enter into the griefs, the wrongs, the failures, of others, anil as we have done so, we have found within our reach a power of sym pathy, If we may dare to use the phrase, there is a virtue which goes out from him who truly feels for another to the object of his love, not without effort, not without loss. We must feel that which we allevi ate. There is a sense in w hich we must pay for all we give. The instinctive pleasure which is felt in natural gifts, in wealth and strength, and beauty and rank and intellect, is a call aud a promise, a call to a grateful use, and a promise of effective influence. But all these thiugs are not in themselves bless ings in which we can rest, but op portunities of blessings. There must be consecrated in service be fore they can be a true joy of their possessors; and everywhere there is the same condition of hallowing. Conflict goes before the victory; dis cipline before the prize; anxious questionings before sure love; tra vail pangs before the new birth Bishop Westcott. The man who grumbles because the electric lights are dim always hates to be reminded that Abraham Lincoln acquired his knowledge by the light of a smoky torch. A rubber band is a musical or ganization furtively gawking at the beer-emporiumß on their march.