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BROKEN PROMISES Hasty Pledges and Broken Promises Cause of Much Misery in the World Carter H. Harrison , in Good Citizen A promise once given is a promise which should be kept or good reasons be given for not keeping it. This law, is so powerful in its force that those who respect themselves and their own word are never hasty in pledging them selves. They think three or four times, or more, before the word is given which they feel they must keep after they passed it. Hasty promises, hasty agree ing to what a moment’s thought would show could not be done, make a great deal of misery in this world. A rather youthful acquaintance of mine borrowed twenty-five cents from a comrade with the promise that he would pay it back the next afternoon. The appointed time for payment came, but the loan was not returned, the result was this: The one who had given the money did not suffer particularly because so small an amount was not repaid, it was not the money question which troubled him. He suffered because his comrade did not keep his word, or being unable to keep it, did not come frankly and offer an explanation. Two boy friends whose love for each other might have continued through all life drifted apart. One had lost some of his confidence in human nature; he was not as trusting as he had been be fore, and the other in his own heart knew that he had not lived up to the truth. Although what he had taken and pledged himself for was a very small amount as money goes, the sting of his action was not the borrowed money, but his own loss of self-respect. He had pledged and not mad pi cnnd None of us has the right to do that which destroys faith in ourselves and the faith which others have in us. Lit tle faith in this world would be de stroyed if we did not hastily promise and then not keep the pledge. After many years of experience in private and public life I have not varied an impres sion which I formed in my boyhood. Go slow in promises, don’t give them unless you mean to keep them, make the truth your closest friend. I can imagine where, if one broke only a single promise in a lifetime, no serious harm might be done. If we would stop after we realized we had not kept our word and never do the wrong again, atonement would be ample. But the great pity of starting to break an obligation is that we repeat the offense over again and again and finally the “chickens come home to roost.” One lie begins to travel, one broken promise starts on its way, then another and another, and after a time they start back again for their place of origin. They finally strike most severely, injure the most, not the innocent ones they first affected, but the one who first be trayed his word with another. The breaker of promises reaps inevitable harvest of punishment. In the nine years that I have governed over two million people of a great city and the twenty years that I have been in public I feel nothing has impressed me more forcibly the amount of misery and ruin that young and old for themselves through giving hasty prom ises or not keeping a pledge at all. I will not give a promise in any matter unless I have thoroughly thought over what I have to pledge myself to what responsibilities I assume, what it will cost me and others to keep my word. When I have considered all phases of the possible consequences of my pledge, then either give my word or refuse it. This is the only safe way to protect one’s own honor. A false impress exists in many minds that quick and free promising of any thing is a form of generosity. It is not; it is a form of bitter selfishness. A quick promiser, one who does not stop to think of the long train of hard cir cumstances that may follow a broken promise fails to see that not alone is he > OUR MOTTO:—“It Is Never Too Late to Mend." /hf / . injuring himself but he is striking peo ple who are wholly innocent in the mat ter but yet who will have to suffer ■be cause of heedlessness. The blow may fall upon a father or mother, it may strike a sister, or close friends. It may affect the school and the church and all daily life. When we consider the enor mous power of a kept or broken prom ise as thus presented, I think we will hesitate to bind ourselves to what in our own heart we know we cannot keep. Another thought as to promises is this* when kept they increase the faith of others in what is called loyalty, honor, self-respect, trust of each other. The world is always better by a promise kept. There is nothing within reason we could not do for a friend whose word we always find to be as good as gold. But the giver of promises to be broken, weaken or destroys our belief in others. A doubt of the worth of good living is created. If one can lie why not another? Suspicion takes the place of faith and love and all life is made darker. Promise when it is right to promise, when thought has been given to the nature of the obligation, and keep the promise. Refuse to promise when the way cannot be seen clear to keep it. “To be able to summon courage enough to acknowledge one’s own wrong doing is to be possessed of qualities that raise humanity to the plane of the angels. The man who has this courage in the highest degree ‘cannot in the world be singly counterpoised.’ ” ART OF SELF-MASTERY He Who Has Learned and Practices Self- Control is Master, Not Slave It is a bitter medicine, but the one thing most needed in the human soul is discipline. It is well to have force, genius, vigor, enthusiasm, power; but you may have them and be a criminal, a maniac, or a cad; you become great onl.y when you add self-control. You may attain to the true aristocracy of the world. These are overcomers. These are they who have passed through the cleaning fire. These are they that rule their own stormy passions, their own mighty ambitions and boundless long ing with a will of tempered steel. And these are the beloved. You know them in every walk of life; you have met them—soldiers of light, the old guard of the best things of humanity. How then can I learn the art of self-mastery you ask? Here are a few suggestions: First, it comes only by practice. You must learn it as you would learn to play a violin. It is a matter of patience and persistence. And surely, if you are willing to exercise your muscles, you ought to be willing to exercise to de velop your character, your power to en joy yourself and your ability to be a source of happiness to others. Don’t make a resolution. Just begin doing it. Whenever you have a conviction, when ever your reason points a certain thing to do, do it at once. Then when you see what you ought to do, do it cheer fully. Don’t pity yourself. Don’t ad vertise your virtue. Don’t wrestle, fight, or pray. The essential element of a strong personality is quiet power. Those who fight are weak. Do what you have to do, dismiss the matter and go ahead. The first of all insurance policies, to insure one’s self the maximum of happi ness and efficiency, is to learn to make one’s self do what he knows he ought to do, yet what he hates to do, and to learn this smoothly, without a struggle of torture. Without that life is sure to be bitter. The contented people are those who have themselves in hand. The gratification of desire is an endless task. It is like attempting to fill the bottomless pit with water from a tin cup. But the control of desire is a sure road to a full and joyous life. The man who has disciplined himself can be hap py whether rich or poor. By Dr. Frank Crane Stillwater, Minnesota, Thursday, March 7, 1918 ART OF ACHIEVING Those Who Succeed Best Are Those Who Apply Themselves Earnestly Industrial School Journal It has been said a man with push can get there, but it takes a man with char acter to stay there. This should be true, whether it is or not. lam of the opinion, however, that it is absolutely true. There is no royal road to many of the best things in life. The ability to get on well in life, or, how to succeed, is a question all thinking persons have asked themselves again and again. Much of the advice given along a good many lines to-day reminds one of an old maid or an old bachelor telling how to raise children. lam of the opinion that, ad vice to-day goes fartherest when given by one who has succeeded in getting something accomplished worth while himself. The measure of one’s success in life must of necessity depend upon fixed principles in governing life’s ac tivities. The real measure of success depends not upon salary, but usefulness; yet many think they have achieved suc cess when their pay envelope has ma terially changed. It is not so strange after all that the measure of a man’s success is looked upon as being increased financial strength in the commercial world. There are higher values, how ever, than those of money, yet the world’s standard of success is the power and influence of a man’s purchasing power and rating in financial circles. The philosophy of the old colored man is hardly workable to-day. He said, “The most of life was made up of praying fer rain, and then wishing it would clare up.” For most of us‘life is a very different problem from this. Tt: la ? vQnts contributing toward success or failure „. Four things are indispensable to the person who gets on well in life. First of all, he must be possessed of an am bitious spirit. No one ever rises higher than his ambition. Ambition may be said to be the mainspring of success. An engine may be ever so well con structed, but unless it has a propelling power within it, it cannot draw even its own weight, much less the loaded train depending upon it to haul it to its des tination. Just so with a person. He may have ever so good an opportunity, and the demand ever so urgent, but unless his ambition is sufficient to carry him along toward the realization of his de sire it is too ephemeral and fleeting ever to become a reality. Very closely related to ambition stands application. Application steps in to execute the well-drawn plans and to realize upon the life purposes, and endeavors to erect a building that men can see with their eyes, and touch with their hands; one that will shelter them from the heat and cold, and furnish comfort to their friends. Here is where many a fellow loses out in the race for life. Men like to talk about the better things; the bigger jobs, the better pay, greater comforts, the better outlook, the brighter future —the utopia. This is oftentimes a poor apology for a fel low to offer. If he would be honest enough to say, I had the chance and didn’t make good, people would pity him. The difference between success and failure is not one of talent but chief ly one of application. Those who suc ceed be9t are those whp apply themselves to their task most diligently as a rule. Application means to stay on the job and make the most out of it, to make possibilities become actualities. Another characteristic closely allied to getting along in life is courage. It is the office of courage to stop the ears of contestants to the songs of the sirens, and ply the oars diligently and see to it that the barque is kept off the rocks of discouragement until hope drops anchor in the harbor called success. The voy age is often rough and the breakers hard to overcome. Many times it may seem that one’s strength is almost ex hausted. Courage says to keep on; it isn’t far to your goal. This year will see you through. You have as good chance as a fellow needs; be strong and very courageous and let thy heart cheer thee. Hold steady to-day. Another element necessary is that of contentment. It is sometimes quite a task to be contented and make one’s way honestly and struggle against the bitter hardships of experience when other young men have it so easy, as is often the case. Remember this, young friends, those who cultivate a spirit of self-re liance will be much more likely to stand the test when the pressure is on than those who have never known anything but ease and luxury. It is very much more important that a young man con tent himself to make progress slowly, even though it is less enjoyable, than that he should progress by some route less honorable and not nearly so likely to be permanent in the end. I would, therefore, young men, that you content yourselves to rise slowly but surely. Let your bank account in crease honestly rather than dishonestly. I have read in the world’s greatest book these words: “Godliness with con tentment is a great gain.” He who practices these things need not fail in life. “The average human body, besides the carbon, hydrogen, oxygen and nitro gen of which it is chiefly composed, con tains 3£ pounds lime, 1 pound 11 ounces phosphorus, 22.3 ounces potash, 2| ounces sodium, 13.5 ounces each of magnesium, sulphur and silica and about one sixth of an ounce of iron.” HOME AND HAPPINESS Rural Parents Should Make the Farm Home Attractive to the Children Riches do not, and cannot bring hap piness. One of our multi-millionaires lamented the fact that his palatial home was but a servant’s boarding house. This man, no doubt, felt almost as home less as the wanderer, who had no place to lay his head. Home in its broad sense, means more than a place to live. Home, even though it be but a bare shed in the wilderness, is where hearts beat in unison and willing hands are every ready to minister. The children should be taught strong home ties, by making the home cheerful, and above all else, a place for rest, reading, recre ation and amusement. The boy of our farm home is as much entitled to read after his day’s work, as is the city boy when he does his day’s work, in the shop or factory. On many farms, how ever, the boy is made to do so many odd jobs and chores after his day’s work in the field is done that he has no time for rest, reading or recreation. By the time the wood is chopped, the feeding and other chores attended to, it is bed time, and his last waking thought is that the same routine of working and sleep ing will be repeated on the morrow. Boys of the country should not be robbed of the pleasures that rightfully belong to youth. Only the other day a farmer was heard to remark, in speak ing of his son: “He is only sixteen years old, but he does a man’s work. I would hardly know what to do without him.” This man was speaking boast fully about his son, and yet by his very boastfulness he was advertising the fact that he thought more of the value of the work his son performed than he did of his son. A boy of sixteen should, of course, be required to do some work, but the work should be alternated with periods of rest and amusement. A boy of sixteen who is made to do a man’s work, will never make a well-developed man. The probabilities are that he will be stunted either mentally or physically. The only way to keep the boys aud girls on the farm is for the parents to make the farm home as attractive as possible. Make the home comfortable, roomy and up-to-date, and the children will have incentive to work, and find pleasure in the invigorating activities of a well-ordered, contented country home. Pittsburg Christian Advocate Vol. XXXI: No. 31 APES RESEMBLING MEN | The Most Interesting of Borneo’s Apes That £ * Inhabit Its Swamps and Jungles r j Selected | o*W¥rrr»mwvTwmvrTywYTYmr¥wwo The Sarawak region in Borneo, ruled over by the Brooke family, is a famous hunting ground of naturalists, says the New York Evening Post. One of the best books bn zoology and biology of the island that has yet appeared comes in Robert W. C. Shelford’s “A Naturalist in Borneo.” Shelford was for seven years, follow ing 1897, the curator of Rajah Brooke’s museum, and, as an active and indefatig able curio man, he had extraordinary opportunities of studying the wild life of the island. The most interesting of Borneo’s ani mals are the mammals and especially the simians, and here Mr. Shelford offers some information that is quite new upon the maias—as he insists what is ordinary called the gibbon, and the macaque. The first is not easily studied. “I want to know how many wives he keeps and how he treats them,” one Englishman asked; but until men can acquire arbo real habits such things will remain mysteries. The maias are quick travel ers in the tree-tops; they love swamp re gions, where men can move but slowly, and they are remarkably inconspicuous in the foliage; they are fruit eaters of dainty habits, and seldom stay long in one locality. Each night they make a small nest by bending down small branches, to form a platform in the fork of a bough, and with the feet and hands tightly clasping the limbs go to sleep. A young maias that Shelford kept as a pet always slept in an empty room furnished with an iron bedstead. “On the steel laths of this the ape would 6:30; he invariably sprawled <kf the u flat of his back, pulled over his head and chest a piece of sacking with which he was provided, and with hands and feet secured a good grip on the posts and frame of the bed. In a few minutes he would be asleep and his snoring was so loud that it could be heard nearly all over the house.” The maias make a good pet, being cleanly, affectionate and more intelligent than any other an imal except man. Mr. Shelford gives the impression that watching a young maias is like watching a baby not quite so young; the interplay of reasop and instinct is much the same. The gibbon has less intelligence but is distinguished by the musical morning cry with which the jungle fairly rings at dawn—a cry more powerful than the songs of birds to bring the sluggard out to enjoy the most salubrious part of the Bornean day. But the macaque has again, a good deal of sense. He alone of the three will, given a bowl of water, lift it with his hand and drink man fashion. He can be trained to pick cocoanuts, the modos operandi being very simple. A cord is fastened about the monkey’s waist and he is sent up a palm, where he begins laying hold of nuts. If the owner thinks a particular nut ripe he shouts, and down it comes; if it is unripe, he plucks the cord and the monkey goes on to another. Some times the cord is dispensed with entirely and the monkey submits to his master’s voice, something like ‘gee’ and ‘haw,’ probably representing ripe and unripe respectively. We are not told that any macaques have been developed which are able to use a trustworthy judgment of their own as to the ripeness of cocoa nuts; but the practice of eugenics upon a few generations of these monkeys should do as much. The name of Alaska is said to have been given to the whole of that territory by the Russian traders who first reached the island of Unlashka, on the authority of the natives, who declared that to the eastward there was a great land or ter ritory which was called Alayeska. From this the present name of Alaska is derived.— Exchange.