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New Findings On Alcoholism At UNC learned that sax el the wives who attendee the group then?* meet ings. end three of tho» who did bcr attend wanted ta continue dnntJng themselves 1%? ph>ctuaui<i* and other* who worked with these groups were impressed with the inability of seme at these women to give tip MM. even though the bus band bad etapimi drinking At the present time the group leaders neper that they know of no wife who has dearly develop eri MheUm but they have aeen a number at instances in which the wife cmwwt do without seme drinking to atty brig period of time Marriage te an akwholk Is no accident in many cases The group of wive* attending the meetings at the UNf School of Medicine seenfcd to fee! Wronger and less dependent by eontra** with their weak and dependent husbands When the husband with sob riety revealed a- degree of strength and yet with msigh? was learning to accep* hi* de pendent needs and to be ies* afraid of them the wife was un lie? pressure TV wives generally fallowed ane of three courses She eouiri work to sabotage the husband's sobriety or she touki accept her own dependent needs or she could find some substitute grab fk-ations « ts You're Interested In HISTORY You'll find lots iff good history books in our Bargain Corner mostly at less than 12 49 In fftf Old Book Corner well, the piace Is full of the dust of History ” From the 38c shelf nght on up to the Americana and the special history shelf, there's not a spot where you're not like ly to find a book that is import ant to you Read like 8 king on a poor man's budget Come treasure-hunting today! 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Throw Registered Pharmacists BUjjß 8lo» Ltsnox iPPPP PHARMACY 967-7014 | tat Um Shopping Center Ample Free Parking i Continued from Pagfc 1-0 Several wive* of the most suc cessful patients, began to do more and more for peopk- and organrza >.on instead of the now sober husband When the alcoholic became able to express his dependent need*' much more easily and with le?s* guilt and anxiety this was don? in a more steady way unlike th* periodic dependence fxp» eased by his drinking behavior The psy ehiatrist* psychofogists ami oth ers who worked tand are still working* on this project belie*,e that the wives "needed to be needed .and Hw husband's ex pression of his dependent nee?t aided hi* wife Mr* Black, who was meotione? earlier in this series, having lost her job of looking after a drink ing husband beoatne quite de pressed and had to be admitted to a hospital She then worried that he would drink in her absence and she wa right Home once again, she re turned to group therapy and m* did Mr Black but he went on drinking for a few week* Mean while Mis Black thought her husband wa* afraid to quit drink ing again lest she have anoth*- breakdown One day she suddenly decided to leave him and stay with relatives in another city "I fixed that.’’ Mr Black told his group "gave her a bad check" Confidentialtty prevent* Riving t? detailed history of this caw however it should be noted tha* he slopped drinking again site had another period of depression with hospitalization he started drinking again and this time sh* finally left him Neither have returned to the psychotherapy groups Mr Bla* k is still drinking and Mrs Black is remaining away from him *Sh<- ha found a job that involves cu ing for other people and wrote I fee! useful and needed, which has been very helpful to me In contrast, other wives who could express their own deper dent needs, and who accepted the fart that they 'the wives* could not do without alcohol hove made a issuer adjustment in several instances. The personnel of the Dpartment of Psychiatry wonder if Mr Black could have stayed with her husband if she accepted the fn*i that she too had dependent need Mrs Biack also was involves! in sabotage attempts at her hus band’* sobriety, like Mrs White, wiw spiked her husband’s bed tea For example, Mrs. Black recalled, "Last year when I had my family to visit me, he got drunk. This year. 1 must have them came a gam even though he may get drunk again ff f don't, bell wonder WHY I don't." The difficulties in treating al coholic patients have beer, known for many years However, k is only recently becoming elfar that the wife's cooperation with a treatment program for her hus hand cannot be taken for granted Resignations from the group were never discussed in advance fry the patients except when they were realistic interruptions of therapy because of real gains made Disruptive resignations occur red without warning at time?- and when permanent, the persons in charge of the groups rarely suc ceeded in gptting follow-up in formation? However, in one such case, the minister of Mr Blue wrote that? the p3tiem had wanted ?to keep coming but his w ife ‘ wouldn’t let him," By now, Mr Blue was drinking again .Mrs Bine had attended !he« group meetings for wives but hardly ever took any par in the diseussions and paid little after, tion to wliat was being said by th*- oti«*r wive*. In regard to the wive** of alco tbe staff of Qk Depart ment of Psychiatry came up with material that supported earlier studies in this field For instance, there were many of the wives who had an unhappy * relaiion*4iip with their parents others who felt that their younger brothers and sisters were receiv ing all of the affection -of the par ents and still other wive? who felt a strong sense of rivalry be tween themselves and their bro ther*- and sisters for the attention and affection of their parents. From (he evidence brought forth in this study. Dr. Ewing arid his associates are of the opinion that a* least sometimes the wives are trying to reassure them solve? by protesting their need for a solier husband. Often the husband's drinking seemed to obscure the wife's feeling of inadequacy When drinking the husband would V self-centered and demanding The wife would then fee! had and un loved and then set out to prove that it is the husband who is the inadequate one in the marriage Or more simply, the husband's sobriety is a threat to his wife’s mental well being and peace of mind. The above conclusion Is sup ported by 1 (he wives' sabotag ing attempts? 2 other resistances on the part of the wives 3. re action hy the wives, such as de pression and 4 the wives who took up drinking themselves. If the husband's sobriety was a threat to flu- wife, the physi cians and others who worked w ith thp groups, both husbanps and wives, thought something must lie offered the wife in exchange Because of this, the acceptance of the wife hy the group is of first importance In the group she could form a relationship with Others wheh would not frighten her Alcoholics Anonymous has the equivalent in Alanon groups for wives. At the School of Medicine it is thought that group therapy is of value in helping the woman to re-evaluate her own worth amt her own role As the husband Stays sober, the wife needs to lx* encouraged to allow him to de velop Os ter she watches over him like a mother with a small child and she must give this up Gradually, with therapy the husband lieeomes more support ive If he is really improving, in* is able to be more giving to his wife and she in her turn feels more loved To bear out this, it was observed that the sabotage attempts on the pari of the wife were in the early months of the treatment, with a peak occurrence at about six months After that, decreasing evidence of resistance on the part of the wives was noticed The final conclusion of the study was that much more could be ac complished with alcoholic patients whose wives were involved in the group therapy program than those whose wives were not Dr. Ewing and his associates strongly advocate working with both husbands and wives on the problems of alcoholism wherever possible It is thought that this offers the best help for the alco holic patient, his marriage and his family. CHRISTIAN SCIENCE SERVICES Christian Science services will lie held at 11 a m Sunday at 835 Pitts boro Road The healing power of scientific prayer will be brought out in the lesson-sermon entitled “Matter." Sunday school meets at 9:30 a m A nursery for the care of infants and small children is provided during the church hour. VOTERS WILL MEET The Chapel H ; ll League of Wo men Voters will hold its annual business meeting at 8 p m Wed nesday. March 28. in Peabody Hall’s assembly room. PAINTING A PAPBWNG W IM|« «i. Dial fttMts THE CHAPEL HILL WEEKLY If :r ->■ jg I s'dsr € i’ ■ J I ugL WINNERS —Mi Judy Miller (left) of Hillsboro wears the suit with which she won first prize in the county-w;*ie fashi??! >ewinir cot.'i-? -jyuisored here re cent i> by tne fha;..-. Hill f>»mrn?tru > Club’s American Home Department.. Her prize wa- $5 in cash from the Vogue Pa*tern Servict and a merchandise certificate go* id l>r patten.- Hid material at Kelk s store here. At right is Mi.- Hiih*- Turner of Hi nboro, wearing the dress with which <he wot; - inn 'prize, a -liver bracelet given j,. Kemp’.- ji'vveirs *re of Chape. Hill. Miss Miller will (-. in it lii-t *- in th*- rli.-v net *■* >n** ‘-' a* /s'diilon. ‘Core Curriculum’ For The Children By M. K. GARDNER J am uuotinK an article I have just read in *he "National Apple ■ Nr Vi * 1 the official voice of th«* National Af»;>:<• Institute I thought it rather clever and am passim it alon," for your ettjoyment l.et 1 call it ’< ore Curr iculum ” "A < ore curriculum is one in which the children bring apples to si Pool eat them and plant the core in the school grounds They watch them sprout and grow into leave*- arid blossoms and then fruit Thi* is Science They paste pie' is ol bark and twigs and lease* ori paper arid they paint picture* ol the apples in a di r This i Art "The children sit around under the tree in- inr In the Shade of the Old Apulc Tree’ This i Music The - lory of Johnny Apple seed i fold them This is Library Study The*, climb the tree ami pa k the apples This is f’hysn ul Education They count the apples, ‘taking away' the wormy ones. This is Arithmetic In their own words they tell what a tree is and what they felt when they saw the core* turn into trees They also write letters to the National Apple Growers' A.wxiation. This is I.an -1 guage Arts The gifted children | do enrichment research by read ing Kilmei s Trees' or try find' ing out about Isaac Newton, the Apple of Discord, the Garden of Eden, William Tell and other apple y events. "They learn such words as ar txir, I, arbre Apfel. Baum, man /.ana This is Foreign Languages "The boy- build Ixtxes to store the apples This is Industrial Arts Ami the girls bake them and sauce them and pie them This is Homemaking Then everyone eats them and learns ulxnit their nu tritional value This is Health Ed ucation. "These activities have been performed without a text-book or a work-book "When all the apples are gone, they lake the cores once again and plant them in the school grounds and watch them grow and flower and fruit. Pretty soon, you cannot see the school for the trees This is called The End of Education.” NAHA WIIJ.ETTF. IIOOK I)r and Mrs. Wade Hook of Hick ory. announce the birth of a dau gliter, Sara Willettc Hook, on March 5, at Memorial Hospital here Mrs Hook is the former Melverda Ham age Padget daughter of Mrs W N. Padget of Saluda and the late Mr Padget. The baby's paternal grandparents are Mrs. Mary Ann Hook of West Columbia and the the late S. W Hook. The Hooks also have two daughters, Melanie Padget, t, and Gretchen Ann, 4. Dr. Hook was formerly pastor of Holy Dimly Lutheran Church here. PRESBYTERIAN SERVICES Presbyterian services are held* at 9 a m. and 11 a.m. Sunday. ( LENTEN SERVICES Mid week Lenten services air b<- heir! at 7 30 p m each W<'?i nes>:,iy at the Holy Trinity Luth eran < huri'h For 1 Well-llalannvl •O' Lithliccif'hl H an!robe STEVBNI-BHEPHERD yj * Svloct Imm I hose \ 4 I—l t Ihisic Classics .. . h Fashion fl IB' f i \ * t |rgJ wm I I s - hf 1 Now you cun have H||w| Jp^Bk Headquarters ! - k ■■ l cron/Cotton) A ;t new fabric gives you JHH H . [ ior tilt* the practical capabili- I | ties of wash n’ wear. PPwB I DISCRIMINATING 1 MM * blm l Choose a dacron/wool p ; tropical from an ex- / | J® [M A m *t* cellent selection of 9 /& colors in solids and «/■ /M subtle glenn plaids. HI Iyl/T.l N 155.00 Slacks: J, Dacron/Cotton, wash ‘n’ wear puplins in five popular shades. l Tropical worsted wtxil and Dacron in Short-Slaved, Batiste Ox- Navy. Burnt Olive. Clergy, Cambridge, Whrt' e , UgMOlile Powder . li,il 151 " ,U1 sl6 95 Blue ’ anrf Maize. , 1 A myriad o fwalk shorts in chtno, poplin, . ... M . • Batik Madras, etc. 1 Madas jKf^/VX I (|(> j | BD. in deep traditional fl * ttk# J 1 Button-Down, Pull-Overs of «■ y | Vip- f Imported Calcutta Madras r (Gray, Blue, Olive) lightweight, blend of dacron and in dusty patterns. I IK i\ #ls-00 2. Seersucker, bopsacking coats wear fabrics that need g no |X| 129.95 Jgfj 3 New selection of Imported ,r 5 ||li STEVENS-SHEPHERD Crippled Children Camp Is Planned Albm Pikutis of Chanel Hill, di rector of the North Carolina S? ciety for Crippled Children and Adults, ha:- announced that the so ciety $ Camp Sycamore for crip pled children will open on July 3 for two three-week sessions The program of the camp, he said, is designed to give crippied children a chance to enjoy activities they might nut normally take part ir. The Rev Tom C Womble Jr pastor of the Bethesda Baptist Church of Clayton, will direct the camp for the third year More than 1U() crippled and handicapped chil dren from throughout the state w... attend. The camp. Ixeenn as an ex periment in 195* will have a very diversified program The major ac tivity will lx* swimming although there will lie other athletics, games crafts and an interesting weaving program The society is attemptin'.* to secure rowboats in order to give the children some boatin'* experience The cost for a three week session is about *9O but most of the chil dren will be on "eamperships" which are scholarships for camie-* - These "eamperships are provided by the society from Faster S*-u receipts and by local donations 7h* camp is if) William B l mst* *d State Paik off Highway TO betwn ?. j Durham and Raleigh it >- of three- camps at the park '!; ■ society is making plans foi a Negr o camp near Swansboro For any further information about any phase of. camp ope-j --tionV. including staff recruiting Mr f'ikuti- asks that he lx- writ ten at Rost Office Box 839, Chapel? Hill. KARL STFWART FATHMAN Th*- birth of Karl Stewart Roth man. the third son of Mr and Mrs Alfred Fathman of Houston, Texas, is being happily announced by the grandparents. Mr and Mr- Oorge Horner of Chapel Hill Both Mi and Mi Fathman or* grad uate-, of the University here. Their add re* is j 47 Princess Drive, ;South Houston. Tr*xa-- Mr Fath ; man is assistant vice-president of the Export fnaurance Company an*l vie* presidrui! of the Hanger In -ur;.sec Cirnpany Both firms are sub-idiaries of th* 1 Andei scn-Ulay ton 1 ornpany Use the Weekly Want Ads! Mrs. Ives To Give Talk In Hillsboro Mrs. Ernest L. !ve* of Southern Pines, past president of the North! Carolina Society for the Preserva tion of Antiquities and a key figure in restoration work throughout the state, will deliver an address on Historic Preservation" in Hills boro at £ p.m Friday. April l>. at the New Courthouse to inaugurate the newly organized Hillsborough Historical Society. Mrs Ives, sis ter of U. N. Ambassador A d I a i Stevenson, has been a driving force for the cause of North Carolina an tiquities ever since she and her husband, retired career diplomat Ernest L Ives, bought 115-acre Paint Hill Farm neai Southern Pines some 15 years ago after tours of duty in Alexandria. Al giers. Copenhagen, and Belfast Mrs. Ives, who in her native Illinois was active in such restora tion projects as the Lincoln Me morial at Springfield, served on the Tryon Palace Commission and ?s now a member of the North Carolina Charter Tercentenary Commission anil aiso of the Histor ic Bath Commission- She is lies ides a vice-president of her own Moore Country Historical Society and has taken the lead in the restoration of the Ais un-W illiarns House in the ' forse ,!ioe Mrs Ives last w**ek in Washing :?! D- C . n ark* a' .special and vigorous plea for th** preservation' of North Carolina’s historic houses and sites when she addressed the Washington Bath Committee in a meeting at the Lindens presided over by Sen. Sam .) Ervin, Jr., and attended by virtually every AIRBORNE ALLERGIES’ Dr Alexander Spot k of Duke t niversity wel speak on ‘ Airtxirne Alergies" at a CN< seminar in environmental health at 10 a m Saturday, March . 24, in room 128 **l the new School oi Public Health building. Pr<Af»*cfu* «poa r«qw«*t from !*»• maMtm al rfUlfifcrrior anti kfatmul DIVERSIFIED SERVICES, INO. U urri ii liarrrlt Phone MB-U 65 Route I, j r t*;*r>‘*l flirt. N V. Thursday, March 22, 1962 North Carolinian in the capital. ! Washington columnists reported. ■ Judging by the response that met < her urgent plea for the preserva tion of North Carolina's fast van ishing antiquities, the Washington ; Committee is taking restoration to heart. Interest is not only at Bath, but state-wide." Mr and Mrs. Ives will' be enter tainer* in Hillsboro by members of the Historical Society before t h e evening meeting, over which Dr. Charles II Blak president of t|p Satiety will preside. Church of Christ meeting at 205 Alumni Bldg. Sundays 10:00 and 11:00 a. m. 6:00 p. m. For information, call 942-3763 Presents A New Shipment of OEM INK KERMAN Multi-Colored BEER STEINS with Pewter I.ids front S2.BH •f-m- And Remember Your Gift Means More From A Famous Store.