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ghee insley _*essenger.
Enteted at the Posto/Jice at Easley
H. C., as Second Ca8s Matter.
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busiieess l(Aterts to the Puiiblisier' of t-h4
Fo-ret me not,
Thouglh distnuit, he tIy lot.
Aini never m1-ore otur loving hinis 1m1:
sweet rie
Yet all thy cal)e benetI(' h
lllember still iy hiearut.'s ever t hinie
To ch(eeri our souls
Whlen t rouible's I hmo1(lr r.>ld
Am(d SOrr-ow's raill-clotitk I Itoop, t rtt(
love is g'ivenl;
To save froim dnt h
Our oft.en-way'ring fail h
The onl1y per-fect gift Onl t his .,ide Iea
The Pa-tst was sweet,
The Futute leads our feet
Tlhroigh uiktiown paths of my
.distat se e
O friend, firewell?
No words of inine can tell
Ilow treasured in Iy he.art Ih lon
hIath heen!
le Ruminliates Over Love, Courtship
and Marriage.
Married anld gone. It is tho
sae111V old story. Love and court -
ship. Then co 8es the en.?!gyement
riig an1 ait. blessed inteirval of1 1ond
Iopes uld happy (reamlfls n11(d then
thl4e dlay is fixed-the auspicious
daiy that is never to) be& largotten-~
a dlny that br Iinugs happin'1)ess or
tnisery andl beginls a new lif'e.
'Ten (comes the license, the per'
muit of' the law which says you may
mtarry, you mnay enter' inUto b)onds.
Tlhe State approves it and the law
allows it and it will only cost you
:u dollar and a quarter. Cheap,
ain't it, and yet it mayd be very
dlear1. Then comels the miniister,
and1( the happy pair stands(1 upJ he
fore himn anld make some solemn
vows and listen to a prayer anid
b)enediction, and( they are onme. In
a moment the trusting maid has
lost her namre and her free will
adis tied fast to a man. Well,
lie is tied fatst, too, so it is all
rig-ht all rmund r1Tonn but sonmc
how I always feel more concern
about the woman than the man,
She is a helpless sort of a creature
and takes the most risk, for she
risks her all.
We gave him a'cordial welcome
into the family, and we kissed hei
lovingly and bade them good-bye,
and the children threw a showei
of rice over them (and an old shoe
after them, and they were soon on
their way to the land of flowers,
r She was not our child, but was al
most, for Mrs. Arp was the only
- mother she ever knew and we lov
' her.
I sat in my piazza ruminating
over the scene and I wondered that
there were as many happy mar
raiges as there seem to be. Part
ners for life ought to be congenial
and harmnoiniouis in so many things.
When men malce a partnership in
Ibusiness they cui't get along well
if they are unlike in disposition o1
in moral ifwriciple, or in business
hab its. But they can't (lissolvt
an1d seperate a-tt plecasulre andi( tryN
alother man.
A man mnd his wife ought to he
alike in miost everything. It is
said that folks like their opposite,
%their counterparts, ald So they de
ii some respects. A iman with
iblue eyes goes mighty nih1 de
stracted over a- womialn with hazel
es. I (id, aml I'm distractel
Vet whenever I look into them.
liut inl lmeital <iualities and emo
tJiOa1l (ulalities a1nd tastesq ald
hlbits an1d prilciles anld coivic
tions al(I the lik. ther ought to
(laSs to','et her. Inldeedi it is better
fr theill to havye the samile )olities
and the s11me 1e'l4igion. And so I
hI I %ve observe(d that the hlap)iest
111ion1s as a genierial thing arie those
where the ihih ontracting )arties
have k(nw (1ech other for along
timie niid have alssimlilate( fr0om1
their' youth ill t hought and feeling.
Wn ai, man goes off' to some wa
terIing place :1nd waltzes a1 few
timnes withl a.hrmn1ir n
bills desperately il love and11l mar.
ries her' off han,(l it is a long
shoot aNd a narr.w chance fr
hlalpiness. Whym, we may live in~
thme sameI( towin w'ithi people andl not
kno1w l as muc'h abouit them as we
oug.?ht to. .1 never made am n mis
take abhouit my chloice of a late
f'or the <bhmce of life, buht I have
thlouight of' it a thousand t imies,
thmat if Mrms. A rp h ad k nown 1 loy
('Id'O iodfs h a nd got~ uip by dayb lreaIk
(vy\ nmrning' she never wouIld
to ge(t her'i anyhow and that w~ouild
haive been thme feather' to brIea1k thle
c'amel's bacl(k. Well, l'mi mortal
am free to say that if' I had known
s he slept uintil Ithe seconod 1ringing
of1 thme first bell for breakfast anid
was fond( of raw Vyslt'rs, it would
hav haed a (amunpening. ('frk'C O
my ardor for a few minutes, only
a few. But I have seen some
mighty clever people eat oysters
raw and sleep late in the morning.
Lit still a man and his wife can
harmonize and compromise a good
many of these things, and it is a
beautiful illustration of this to
see Mrs. Arp cooking codfish for
me and fixing it all up so nice
with' eggs and cream, and it is a
touchii ng evidence of my undying
devotion to her to see ime wander
ing aboutt the house lonely and for
lorn every inoring for an hour or
two,and forbiddi lng even the cat to
walk heavy while she sleeps. That
codfish business comes to me hon
estly from my father's side, and
my imother put up1) with it like a
good coisiderate wife, and we
children grew ill) with an idea that
it was good. I've heard of a
yoiung ( ple who got marrie(d
and went ofl to A uguista. on a tour,
and a feller stickIis fork into a
codlish ball anl took a bite. He
chocked it down like a hero. and!
wheni his beloved asked what was
the matter, replied: "Don't say
anyivthinlug about it, Mandy, but as
sure as you are born there is somie
th i n dead in the bread."
Well, we can make compromises
albout all suc(h things as habits!
and tastes, but there are somiie
things that won't compo)Illiiise
vorth a eeiit. If a girl has been
bro hli it 1p to huaving a good deal 1
of freedom an d thinks it rio harm
to g() wailtzingI a rounmld with every
gaUy Lothlario w-Vhio loves to dance,
an1(d after she gets a feller of her
owi. wants to keep at it mnd have
pollulted armslaounld hrwaiste.,
she had just as well sing farewell
to coijuloigal love anid loIImIestic
p)eaee for it is aga inst order Of na
tire for a lovi ti hto stand
it, annld heouh to be considered,
and that is age. A few yea rs make
no difference, but :in ohl mai had
better be en-reful abomit mainrrying
a Voung wife. He won't be happy
but about two weeks, atnid theni his
misery vill begini and it will nev
er end, it may be better for a
woman to he an old1 man's dairling
thn young mann' s slave, but she(
hadl better be neither. W hen a
yo Iung girl mlarries an old iman for
is mioniey she ha~s gone back 0on
hierself, for mioney~ d1on't bring haptl
with a. dead( weight is a cure-an
aggra vation. I was taIlking one
day to ani old manii a Frenchman,
w ho had mnade a herimiit of hinmselft
and1( was living all alone in thlie
w~oodls, and( he said: "M ine f riemil,
1Ii hav miake one gr'and meestakeC.
Mine first wife whom I marry yen
I vas young vas an agel from hear
en, God biless her, b.ut mine last
wife vas a devil from ____" and~ lie
p)ointedl d1ownwards. "1 VaIs old
and1( shec vas yvoug. T had moneyv
and she had none. I marry her
in haste and repent at my leisure.
I try to live wid her tree years,
but we were not compatible. It
was against de order of nature and
I find myself a fool and a prisoner,
and so I geeve her half my monies
and run away from her and hide
in this wilderness and here vill I
die, and ven I go oo) to St. Peter
and tell heem how dot voman dev
il me on earth de good man vill
open de garden gate and say come
in my brother for you hav had
trouble en-ough."
Country marriages are general
ly happier than those made in eit
ies among the families of the rich.
Children raised to work and to
wait on theimiselves make better
husibands and better wives than
those raised ill luxury. It is
mighty hard fot a man to please
his wife al(d keep her ill good hui
mor if she has been potte(l by her
parents and never knew a want
and hia( no useful work to do. She
soon takes the ennui or the com
niptions or the "do11't kiow what I
Want, an~ld must go back to ina.
A young lady who never did any
thing after she quit school hut
dress for (om)pany and make visits
and go to the theatre or the dance
will never make a g(ood wife. This
Wife hlsiless is a Very serious hu1s
in1ess. It is right h.ird work to
play wife. Ih1e i mother of six,
(ight or tell clhildreni has seeni
sights. She knows what care and
work is; fad on1e of these do-noth
ingo. Wm)enfll c'aI't stand it. If she
is not a u(sed up institution with
one c(hild, two will finish her anid
if it wasn't for condensed milk the
c hildreni would peri sh to death in
a month after they wtere born, an(
sorter like the cows in Florida. I
hea rd a FloridIa ann say the other
(hay that a Florida COW( di(n't iv
enough inilk to color the coffee for
1)reakfast and they hlad to raise
the en lves oI Lit bottle. Getting
11mal rrie(d ouight to he a considerate
business . Folks ouighten to get
married in a hurneitherl 01ught
thev, walit fou tor 01 ive yeairs ; six
imonthis is long (enough1 for' ani en
gagemennt, I1 donI't mean11 chlildlren.
I miea~n grTown folks who have set
tledl in life anmd know what they are
in all naUtur ie thiani to se a g.ood
look ing, healthy young mana wiho
isimiakingl an honest li ving~ stand(
upl at the altar with a pure, sweet,
good temp lered, affectiounte, inadus
trous gi and( thet pani'lts on1 b oth
sides aprvn the match. Then
t hie big pot ought to be put in1 the
li ttlte pot anid everyb~ody re(joice'.
Bia. .ARe.
-TFhere is l(ess cime1 in the 1 'ni
tedl States inl prIoportionl to tile pop
ulation than in any other c'oun~try
in the wor'ld.

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